Gaslighting: Rebuild Your Life After Emotional Abuse - How to Spot and Tackle a Narcissist, Evade the Gaslight Effect, and Recover From Mental Manipulation

by Chloe Cooke

Gaslighting can affect anyone in several subtle ways. It might be too late when you find yourself with low self-esteem, isolated and confused. With several abusive manipulation tactics, a Gaslighter can make you question your reality and accept theirs. As a victim, you start feeling uncertain of the smallest situations, doubting your own actions and personality. What you should know, is that there are ways to shut down gaslighting effect, either if you choose to evade or live with a narcissist.

When feeling mentally abused, it might take a while before you actually understand it is time to face the problem and seek for support. You may be struggling with a lack of confidence and probably question yourself over anything you say, think and do. What you need to know, is that the environment around you can be the cause of it, and you slowly fall victim of something completely unknown and unexpected, such as gaslighting. Even if you believe there’s no way out, consider whether or not you should really, logically be doubting yourself and with this book you can find several ways to get better, be in charge of yourself and break free!

Genres: Psychology, Self Help, Nonfiction, Audiobook

119 pages, Kindle Edition

Published January 3, 2020

Reviews

[Alisonbookreviewer · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very informative self-help book that anyone can read.
It tells both sides. Healing from emotional abuse and healing from being an abuser and recognizing that what you're doing is wrong.
This book gives good tips on boundaries and how to handle an emotional abuser.
Having said that, no one is entitled to mentally abuse anyone. Nobody!!!

[Christine sheldrup · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was a good read.

I was raised by a narcissist and currently have a partner who has narcissistic tendencies. The author is right about the problem coming from childhood trauma and abuse. Both my dad and current partner were abused in their childhood, in different ways but abuse none the less. After reading this book I now know that I'm not going crazy, and I am not weak for loving my narcissistic husband and a narcissistic father. I may not ever get closure or an apology for abuse but at least I know that I can forgive them and move forward. Where ever that takes me is up to god. Thank you for researching and writing this book. It helped me realize and have a better understanding.

[K L Upton · Rating 5 out of 5]

I am stronger than I know

Being married for almost 30 years and only now owning the realization that my husband is indeed a narcissist, bordering on sociopath, I am finding that I am grabbing at anything to read on the topic. This book has given me more insight into what lies ahead. I'm staying put for the time being in my relationship. I have highlighted many paragraphs/pages to come back to and re-read. I feel more empowered, for the moment, having purchased and read this book. Very relatable.

[Ash · Rating 5 out of 5]

I am currently undergoing therapy for narcissistic abuse recovery, and this book helped me reinforce what my therapist and I have been working on. This book is a mental health lifesaver. Anyone who may feel as though they are being manipulated into doubting their own reality-- READ THIS BOOK. Right now. I will be using this book as a reminder and guide for all the future inevitable gaslighting I will encounter.

[Judy · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was excellent in teaching me skills and areas of doubt I struggle with. It kind of pulls things into perspective. To validate my thoughts and admit that I am not crazy. Highly recommend this book. What an eye opener when you have been in a dark and emotionally abusive relationship. I love that it gives strategies and systematically lays out a path to recovery and healing. Thank you Chloe for writing this book!

[Sayde · Rating 4 out of 5]

Super insightful book with a plethora of knowledgeable advice delivered in a compassionate way. At times I would have enjoyed more expansion and explanations on some topics but I'm looking forward to reading the author's other books to find it. Thank you for writing it!

[beyzag · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is a book I wish I had years ago. But that's about it. It felt more introductory than what the ambitious title suggests, so I was pretty disappointed. Didn't learn much. But I guess it's a decent book if you haven't read about gaslighting, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, etc before.

[Heidi · Rating 3 out of 5]

Okay, nit picky thing. Them breaking in once the middle of the book asking for a review and explaining how was cringy but twice was too much. In the intro or the end would have been much more appropriate.

That said, okay resource. Got a few notes. I guess I'll give it 3 stars.

[Chad Brown · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very clear and straightforward; unquestionably easy to read and to understand.

I was motivated to read because of interest in psychological subjects as well as personal history. I found some of the information to be helpful for myself.

[Susan · Rating 4 out of 5]

I spent most of the book agreeing with everything the author said. Except for the parts stating that his abuse wasn't my fault. It was/is probably too soon to try and digest this. I would recommend reading this after you've had therapy for a while, and discuss it with your therapist..

[Rose · Rating 4 out of 5]

Thorough explanation of just what gaslighting is: in a work environment, in an adult relationship and growing up in a dysfunctional family. Suggests ways to protect oneself and get out of the toxic relationship and how to begin healing.

[Jim · Rating 5 out of 5]

Recommended. Highly.

[Mark Wilson · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very insightful. Easy to recall patterns to watch out for and a breath of hope for recovery.

[Monica Haak · Rating 4 out of 5]

To the point dayum!

[Nancy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Highly recommend this title to identify and combat narcissists and gaslighters in personal and professional situations.

[Velichka · Rating 4 out of 5]

Quite American, but still some useful insights on the behaviour of gas lighting and emotional abuse.