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Good Mourning: Moving Through Everyday Losses with Wisdom from the Other Side

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Theresa Caputo, TLC’s Long Island Medium and the three-time New York Times bestselling author, teaches us how to ritualize and recover from the daily losses in our lives.

Life on earth comes with losses that often go unrecognized, unacknowledged, and un-mourned. This invisible pain causes deeper emotional damage— devastation that Theresa Caputo has witnessed in many of her clients. Though they are suffering, they rarely understand where the anguish is coming from—or how to deal with it.  Theresa’s clients often confuse their emotional distress with depression or anxiety. But it’s more than that. It’s grief, deep and profound, and it consumes the soul. The only relief, according to Theresa’s special gift she calls Spirit, is to pay more attention to how we experience, ritualize, and recover from the hurt in our lives. Once we name these feelings of grief, recognize the losses for what they are, and create mourning rituals around them, we can move through the pain and begin to heal. It isn’t just a good idea to mourn these types of upsets; it’s essential, so that we can then enjoy a fresh beginning.

224 pages, Hardcover

First published October 1, 2020

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Theresa Caputo

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Theresa Caputo was born and raised on Long Island and lives there with her husband and two children. She is the star of Long Island Medium, which airs on TLC. After suffering anxiety for most of her life, Theresa met with a spiritual adviser who helped her realize her ability to communicate with Spirit. Theresa has been a practicing medium for more than ten years and is a certified medium with the Forever Family Foundation. Her first two books, There's More to Life Than This and You Can't Make This Stuff Up, became instant New York Times bestsellers. She has appeared on Good Morning America, The View, The Dr. Oz Show, and Ellen and has helped countless people heal and find the closure to embrace life without their loved ones. For more, please visit TheresaCaputo.com.

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Profile Image for Nathan Albright.
4,488 reviews160 followers
March 15, 2021
This book, which I got by picking up a blind bag of five nonfiction books from my local library, offers the reader with an interesting if not necessarily good question. What worth is the advice of a medium and her eponymous spirit guide referred to throughout this book as Spirit? The answer is not very much. The author certainly thinks that she is providing insight, or at least conveying insight from spiritual sources, but the advice that is provided is not particularly worthwhile. But it is not worthwhile in ways that are particularly notable, in that the advice given is precisely what one would expect from the New Age advice of the contemporary world. This book shows no commitment to relationships when they no longer feel good--the author talks about her own divorce and her advice to others, and it is equally clear that she has no fondness for biblical standards of morality and ethics, pushing instead for the law of attraction. This is a problem, but it is the sort of problem that is relatively easy to understand, even when one does not approve of it. The author provides advice for itching ears that want to be validated instead of rebuked.

This book is a mercifully short one at a bit more than 200 pages, all of which show the author dwelling on various losses that her target audience of New Age affluent Karens might have to deal with. The introduction of the book discusses the everyday losses that people suffer. After that the author deals with losses being losses (1), and the loss of friends (2), spouses to separation and divorce (3), losing faith (4), losing control (5), and losing health (6) and independence (7). The author dwells on the reading losing safety and familiarity (8), losing one's home (9), one's job (10), one's financial stability (11), one's hopes and dreams (12), one's youth (13), and the full nest that comes from having one's children at home (14). And that is not all, as the author then dwells on losing one's routine after retirement (15), losing an argument (16), losing trust (17), losing a special object, like some supposedly magic crystal or family heirloom (18), losing a body part (19), losing one's identity (20), losing one's will to endure (21), and losing confidence over past choices (22), after which there are acknowledgements. Perhaps all is not well in paradise.

One of the more notable aspects of this book is the way that contemporary culture focuses on mourning loss and dwelling on losses instead of showing gratitude for what one has. And it is obvious that this book is aimed at people who live good lives, more or less. The author is not talking about the mourning of people whose life is a joyless grind and who are dealing with serious issues in life. Rather, the sort of mourning that the author has others deal with is the sort of affluenza that one expects from people with basically privileged backgrounds and generally prosperous lives who nonetheless enjoy the feeling of mourning and sharing in the misery that is our contemporary society's dominant leitmotif. This is not healthy. And encouraging and enabling people's bad tendencies when it comes to such matters is surely not healthy either. This book could have helped people to mourn better by stripping away the illusions that keep contemporary people from coming to terms with their blessings and their lack of appreciation to God for what they have been given. It would take a truly bold author to take such an approach, though.
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1,568 reviews64 followers
November 11, 2020
4.5 stars

I have always been fascinated by the New Jersey Psychic dubbed the Long Island Medium. She seems like a fascinating person. So, when this book came up to review, I jumped on it. Little did I realize that my own mother would pass away in the meantime. I found this book hard to read when I was in the midst of my struggles. But once I had some distance a few months later (like four months later) I found this book quite a comfort.

Theresa gives us a lot of great ideas in here that really hit home hard for me. If you are going through something, this definitely has a lot to offer and suggest. I loved how many avenues this book went into and get get a great glimpse into her life as well to show us that we are not alone and we can move forward when things knock us on our butts.

I will definitely look for more books written by this great lady in the future!

I received this as an ARC (Advanced Reader Copy) in return for an honest review. I thank NetGalley, the publisher and the author for allowing me to read this title.
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16 reviews
March 10, 2023
I haven’t been able to read much since my breast cancer diagnosis in early October 2022. This book got me back into enjoying reading.
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209 reviews
June 26, 2020
Having read Theresa Caputo's other books, I was pleased to find her latest on Netgalley. While a bit more subdued in tone than her other books, Good Mourning: Moving Through Everyday Losses with Wisdom from the Other Side offers readers common sense advice for processing the losses that all of us encounter at one time or another in nearly every area of our lives: friendships, careers, health, etc. Many times, Caputo references her own losses, particularly her recent divorce. While Caputo doesn't offer salacious detail in regard to her personal life, she recounts her experiences in a friendly and relatable way.

Caputo credits "Spirit" for her advice to readers, but most of her insights seem to come from reflecting on her own experiences with loss and those of her family, friends, and clients. There is less emphasis on communication with "the Other Side" in this book than in previous ones.

All in all, a pleasant read and a nice way for Caputo's fans to catch up with the Long Island Medium.

Full Disclosure--NetGalley and the publisher provided me with a digital ARC of this book. This is my honest review.
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16 reviews
July 19, 2024
I really appreciated how this book reframed loss. Theresa talks about the everyday losses that seem smaller, but impact is in many ways. This was a mindset shifting book, and hearing it from Theresa is always a plus.
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August 31, 2020
I received an ARC from NetGalley, the author, and the publisher for an honest review. I have watched her show the Long Island Medium and have gotten a lot out of it. This book brings her gift to us about everyday loss. With us being in 2020 this book brought me comfort, inspiration, answers.
I could see where I had been through a loss such as financial loss and how I moved forward and the book showed me that it was how I did it that got me to where I am now. There are so many losses we go through and some we don't even think about.
I have always believed that I am never alone, there is always something there with me. I have experienced many of the things I read in the book. As I was reading the book, I found such comfort in knowing I wasn't alone, someone else understood. There were parts of the book that I thought this seems like it is somehow preparing me, This book is a gift and seems I am giving an honest review, when I looked at the cover of the book, I saw such sadness in Theresa's eyes. I thought it was going to be a difficult book to read but it wasn't, I could feel the spirit coming through her and because of that, such powerful wisdom came through.
As I said previously I have had losses and with some of the losses, it felt like I was in a tailspin, a fog, and would never make it through and this book helped me to understand that.
The only negative thing I could possibly say about this book is I wished it was already published because I can see in my head how many people are going to benefit from reading this book. You don't ever have to go through life alone and this book is going to help bring you through the losses you go through but you might find yourself saying I have heard a voice in my head during one or more of the roughest times you are going through.
This is a book I will buy and share with people who I know are going through rough times because I do think it will give them comfort just as it has given me comfort. There seems to be so much loss this year and as I am writing this review I am seeing that it will be released on October 6, 2020, and maybe that is when this year will start to turn around because people will be reading this book and it will begin to help people heal, help them see things a little clearer and with that, they take the steps to make life better.
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333 reviews82 followers
September 17, 2020
With everything going on in the world right now I thought this would be a good book to help me cope with the madness. It seemed perfect for this uncertain moment in time. But after reading a few chapters, I realized it wasn’t resonating with me. Honestly and unfortunately, I found it somewhat depressing.

I know this was not the desired outcome Theresa was aiming for when writing 𝐆𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐌𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠. I understand it is meant to provide comfort and solutions for challenging times. However, seeing all of the things one can lose compiled together in one book was overwhelming. It made my anxiety rise. There were losses mentioned in this book that I never even thought of before.

I did appreciate the layout of the book. Each chapter addresses a different loss. Some of the chapters include the loss of:
A friend
A Spouse (Separation or Divorce)
Faith
Control
Health
Independence
Home
Job
Body Part
Stability
Youth
Identity
𝘢𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘴.

The chapter that hit me the hardest was the chapter on losing your youth. Because I am a woman of a certain age, I am beginning to see the affects of aging. Therefore, this is a topic that I am sensitive to. Unfortunately, I finished the chapter more concerned with aging than I was before reading it.

Each chapter ended with pretty much the same advice, which is...always find the positive in the situation. Being grateful for what you have, always makes a bad situation better. There is always something to be thankful for, even after a loss.

Now, although I didn’t gain much from this book, I still encourage those interested to read it. Just because it did not resonate with me, does not mean it will not resonate with you. You never know, there may be a lesson for you within these pages, that was not meant for me.

Thank you @harpercollins for gifting me this advance ebook in exchange for an honest review.

𝑮𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝑴𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒏𝒊𝒏𝒈 is available for pre-orders on Amazon. Release Date is Oct. 6th



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October 28, 2020
....so now when she feels sad or thinks about the abuse she has endured, she volunteers. Each time she cries, she takes a gift to someone, compliments a stranger, or pays for someone's coffee. "I try to walk a more thankful path and be a light to others," she said. "I fight the sadness and hurt with laughter and love. I want to turn my story into a positive one." pg 83

At the first inkling of a related negative emotion, Spirit suggests that you immediately say the words "stop, stop, stop" in your head and then replace that unsafe or unfamiliar thought with one that puts you at peace. For instance, you can close your eyes and visualize yourself inside a home or on a beach, with angels or near a loved one who is still in this world. pg 87

A study found that regrets related to things you wished you'd said or done stay with you longer than things you actually said or did, which are more powerful in the short term.
.... you can reduce regrets by simply saying what you feel in the moment - but also being mindful of the words that you use. If you say what you mean, and say it carefully, you won't have anything to regret, and you will be able to move on without an unrelenting burden. pg 206
76 reviews3 followers
August 7, 2020
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Good Mourning is a book from The Long Island Medium, Theresa.I have been to one of her events and have also read her prior books.She is amazing. Theresa explains loss by everyday things not just the loss of a loved one. It can be a lost oppurtunity, loss of a friend,a relationship,or a divorce.. With the help of the "Spirit" Teresa helps us learn to manage our daily losses. With the different stories show how to come to terms with your daily losses and recover from painful times in our lives. Then we can move through the pain of !is a and begin to heal. Thank you Net Galley for allowing me to read and review this book.As
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July 2, 2020
This book is a self help book like no other. It finally clicked that everyone suffers Daily losses and needs to grieve, even the small things. The author explains how grief isn’t only for loosing a loved one, but a friendship, a lost opportunity, even the smallest thing. This is what sets the book apart. The way it’s chapters are separated by different losses makes it easy to connect with. This can even be used as a reference book for a reminder of how to handle your loss in a certain situation.
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476 reviews9 followers
September 17, 2020
Good Mourning is an excellent book to read especially in 2020. The book is all about daily losses and how we all have them. These daily losses, might be the loss of your favorite ring, or a good friendship. However simple it may be I love how she states it’s still a loss and you still have to go through some sort of grieving phase over it. I think these are very helpful stories and tips to just about everyone. I also love how Theresa Caputo writes as if she were speaking to you personally and not through a book.
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1,395 reviews9 followers
October 31, 2020
3.5 -3.75 stars

I have been to see Ms. Caputo’s live show several times and I have always been blown away. GOOD MOURNING is the first book from her that I’ve read. While I wasn’t as blown away, it was interesting. While I didn’t truly connect with the first half of the book, she gave good advice that I’ve tucked away in case I ever need it. It wasn’t until the second half of the book that I really connected with it. Once she started talking about losing your youth and learning to deal with an empty nest, I was all in.
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February 9, 2021
I love Teresa Caputo so anytime she has a new book out I grab it. This book had some enlightening passages and She is as honest and forthright as always. It focused on all types of loss so Sadly everyone can relate to at least 1 or more chapters of the book depending on your situation. But out of all her books this was my least favorite. I sped thru her other 2 books but this was a little slower for me. The reason I gave it only 3 stars is I found it to be repetitive and predictable throughout the book. But when her next book is out I will surely run to her it.
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November 25, 2021
In an every changing world, we all suffer everyday losses. Focusing on different types of loss, from loss of a relationship, career, health to financial stability, Theresa Caputo wants us to learn to manage daily losses to hopefully lead more fulfilling lives. Each chapter deals with a different loss one may experience. I enjoyed listening to the audiobook while following in my own book. Throughout the book, Theresa references “Spirit”, but honestly, a lot of the information is common sense.
I have read other books by Theresa Caputo and watched her TV show for sometime.
Author 5 books1 follower
July 4, 2023
Theresa Caputo is a medium who can see and talk to the dead. In this book Theresa explains how a person might feel when they lose something even if it is a loss of a house. Everyone is mourning something but Theresa goes on to explain that you can still live a happy fullfilled life even though that person or object isn't with you anymore.

At the end of each chapter, she gives you an exercise to do to help you woth the grievance process. This book is a must read for those who are going through a loss and not sure if you are able to push pass the grief to a better life.
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105 reviews
May 24, 2024
Not sure how I feel about this book. It had a bunch of great life advice and stories, however half way through I was done with seeing “spirit says” prior to every sentence. Should have expected this upon picking this book up based on who wrote it. Regardless, it was pretty good if you can get past the whole idea that this is a self-help book where it’s not the author sharing their knowledge, but rather the author sharing what their “spirit” has said to them.
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1,733 reviews9 followers
February 5, 2021
I love Theresa Caputo so much. Her books really always have such a positive and inspirational messages that I normally always need to hear. This one is all about loss and dealing with different types of loss whether it be a job, love, health or whatever. I thought this books was fun and interesting and I loved everything about it.
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155 reviews1 follower
April 17, 2021
I like Theresa from her tv show. But was dissapointed by this book. Too much God/ Spirit stuff for me. While I believe in a higher self/ universe concept, this was too Divine purpose/ meaning. I would have been ok but there was neither more "learning from the otherside" nor deeper self help. May be someone actively going thru a loss will find support ( and I hope so). It just wasnt that for me.
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105 reviews1 follower
January 9, 2022
A good book if you need a little boost. Instead of focusing on the death of a loved one, this book focuses on the “little” everyday loses that we all experience. Not every chapter will apply to every person, but I do think there is wisdom in this book for everyone. I love Theresa Caputo and her personality, which made the book fun to read (considering the topic). Overall an enjoyable read, and I’ve already recommended it to some friends.
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March 2, 2024
One of my old lady friends from aquafit recommended books by Theresa Caputo. This really was an easy and quick read and very insightful whether you believe in her gift or not. I loved the line “always look on the bright side of loss”, once you are able, there’s so much to learn, not just loss through death, all kinds of loss. I’ll be sure to pick up some else by her.
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October 20, 2025
Awesome reading and invaluable insight

Although I have never had an experience with a medium I believe in Theresa from my very soul. I am so very grateful to her for answering questions I didn’t know I had. I am at peace now knowing that what I believed in my heart is actually true. God bless her and the work she does.
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224 reviews
October 8, 2020
I absolutely LOVE this book and will probably be buying 100 copies to give as Christmas gifts just because I know SO many people who should read this book. Very religious and very spiritually healing.
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October 23, 2020
Theresa Caputo always knows the right things to write about to encourage us to be the best we can be .

I would recommend this book to anyone who has an open mind to the Spirit World. This book was a joy to read.
192 reviews
December 6, 2020
I have my doubts of heaven and spirits. I have been struggling with this, since my Dad died. I read this book and Theresa explained my thoughts and doubts very well. Thank you for making me believe better.
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March 11, 2021
Confession; she is my guilty binge! And to think I found her book today, wow. She does have sage wisdom, her life is not perfect but gotta admire her honesty. She just moves forward one step at a time.
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276 reviews
May 3, 2021
This book hit a lot of good spots... Stuff I've left for years. Some things didn't apply yet... But will. I would recommend this book if you have grief and loss in many different areas in your life. This book did have a lot of Christian references... It didn't bother me... But it might some.
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November 10, 2025
This book was a little different then I expected. Every chapter was about mourning something or someone, everything from grief due to losing someone to grief due to regrets. She gives a lot of insight on how to deal with these.
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July 28, 2020
I didn’t know what to expect reading this book. I’m glad I did. This has given me so many practical ways to help myself get through tough situations and tough moments of emotional distress.
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October 6, 2020
Good Mourning by Theresa Caputo is an insightful and inspiring read with everything going on in the world right now. 
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October 8, 2020
Audio. Always enjoy listening to Theresa! Not as good as her other books, but still a soothing read in times of COVID.
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