The Four Laws of Love: Guaranteed Success for Every Married Couple

by Jimmy Evans

The Four Laws of Love represents the culmination of Jimmy Evans’ influential career. In this deeply personal book, Jimmy Evans outlines the foundational pillars upon which God designed marriage. Without holding back, he tells the story of his own marriage, which was hurtling toward divorce until this self-proclaimed “bad husband” came to recognize and put into practice these four laws. This book sounds a wake-up call for every kind of marriage, including those that are barely surviving and those that seem to operate on autopilot. Couples who follow these simple guidelines — recognizing the original intent and purpose of marriage—will inject new life into their unions. They’ll see hurting marriages find healing and watch good marriages become great. Each revitalized relationship will play a part in restoring marriage to its sacred role at the center of human civilization.

Genres: Marriage, Christian, Nonfiction, Relationships, Faith, Christianity, Personal Growth

154 pages, Kindle Edition

Published February 11, 2020

Reviews

[Makenzi Roberts · Rating 5 out of 5]

Every person on planet earth needs to read this. Whether you’re single, married, not sure if marriage is for you, divorced, etc - you will gain much knowledge and insight into God’s purpose for marriage and how to love your spouse. I read this book in two days! I was hooked. And I have already started to implement learnings into my own marriage.

[Greg Webb · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is right up there with Love & Respect for must-read marriage books!

[Debbie Okrainetz · Rating 5 out of 5]

I should have read this when I was first married--might have saved some problems! However it is good even now when I am older.

[Shonda Moore · Rating 5 out of 5]

I learned a lot.

[Katie G · Rating 4 out of 5]

“What is your together purpose? it has to be something greater than paying the bills. What is it that you can be a part of as a married couple that is bigger than you? What is it that you can do together that you cannot do alone? That purpose will cause you to grow together and stay together for the rest of your lives” - Jimmy Evans

[Kristina · Rating 5 out of 5]

I was introduced to Jimmy Evans through an XO Marriage live streaming event (Hope for Homes) and liked his style of preaching. In his portion of that event, he mentioned this book and I was glad that Hoopla is featuring it as part of their collection. I adored this book! Evans breaks down the four laws of love found in Genesis, the initial Bible verse about marriage. I've been talking about three of the four laws mentioned ad nauseam to my husband for years, but for the first time was able to see ways that I fall short as well. I'm incredibly stubborn and struggle with pride, so I appreciated the direct way that this book points out what each spouse needs in a marriage and how to change your own behaviors instead of expecting your partner to do so first. I've already recommended this book to my husband and will for sure be rereading this in the future to reinforce the concepts presented.

[Shirley Conley · Rating 4 out of 5]

I think this book would make a great wedding gift so I am sending it to my nephew who just got married. Although I think it would be an excellent book to have read before getting married to get started right. But any stage of marriage could use these reminders and will give you ideas to improve your marriage. It's never too late.

The 4 laws: Priority, Pursuit, Partnership and Purity. Then they are each broken down in the "how- too's" Great read for any stage of your relationship.
Remember "Marriage is a relationship created and sustained by God."

Marriage takes commitment, work and fun on our part.

[Tori Farmer · Rating 4 out of 5]

My husband and I got a copy of this book to learn more about a Godly marriage after we attended an XO Marriage retreat with our church. There is a lot of good information in here. Some of it was good for now and some of it was good for later. There are some things that are not true. For example the information about a woman's hymen being useless and scientists being clueless. Many OB/GYN doctors that I have seen or talked to have said that it is to keep that area safe as a baby from bacteria that could get inside. Other than a few of these moments, this was a rather good and information book with many things my husband and I have used or done.

[Jonathan Johnson · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good book

Overall, this was a good book
There is never a limit on the number of books I can read to grow my relationship and this book was even better because my wife read it as well
This allowed us to share thoughts about the concepts in the book and to put together plans to grow our relationship
The one thing I want to enact from this book is a “vision retreat,” where you go on a mini vacation with only your spouse and you spend a majority of that time discussing the previous year and what plans you will put together for your family

[Sanna Ditolla · Rating 4 out of 5]

Such a good book that is easy to read with so many helpful insights.

I would have given this book 5 starts had it not been the incorrect teaching of soul-ties at the end of the book. We have a spirit, we are a soul. We do not tie our souls to someone. Otherwise we would bring all these other souls with us when we die, and that is not biblically accurate or stated in God’s Word. It’s interesting that he states there’s no soulmate yet then talks about soul-ties. It all stems from new age teaching that has crept into the Christian teaching.

[Susan · Rating 4 out of 5]

One of the things Bob and I do to keep our marriage strong is to read marriage related books together. We find they provide topics on which we can discuss. Jimmy Evans is one of my favorite Christian marriage counselors. I found him on TBN a few years ago and enjoyed his presentations. I would have given five stars but we have read other books by Evans so some of the material is repeatitive. Highly recommend it for any couple.

[Mrs Debbie Montague · Rating 5 out of 5]

As always an excellent read

Jimmy Evans is excellent at explaining and teaching on such an important subject.
I read this book as a marriage refresher 20 years in and at times it was a comfort to know my husband andbI are still getting it right plus I learned a few new things and was reminded of some things we had forgotten.
I believe every couple, whether starting out or 50 years into their marriage should read this book.

[Saloni Shah · Rating 5 out of 5]

It not only gives practical advice but speaks on why we need to do what we need to do for our marriage to succeed. One of my favorite lines from this book is - "your marriage will stop working if you don't work on your marriage". Love is not a feeling it is an action and Jimmy describes it in this book very well! It is not gender-biased. would recommend couples to do this reading together and check on the health of their marriage

[Otis · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent enriching book. The Four Laws of Love is an awesome resource for anyone considering, seeking, and already married couples. It has so many nuggets of biblical truths to bless your relationship and unlock the doors to an extraordinary making of God purposed marriage. Recommend material. Caution: life changing if applied

[Yomara Moreno · Rating 5 out of 5]

Una obra de arte

Uno de los dos mejores libros que han caído en mis manos sobre matrimonio. El pastor Evans explica de manera magistral cada área importante en el matrimonio y da consejos prácticos para mejorarlo. Me ha llenado de fe y creo completamente que lo que dice es cierto!!

[Charity (Booktrovert Reader) · Rating 5 out of 5]

What a great book on marriage by Jimmy Evans. He shared a lot of simple truths on creating a marriage that honors God and your spouse. It helped me evaulate how I communicate to my spouse and how to show love to him that will aid our marriage to floursh. I appreciate this book and the perspective that it persented.

[Luke Walker · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is written across all ages and stages of marriage, and there many practical tools, practices and insight to better your marriage and understand your spouse. It's well structured and easy to read while covering some pretty deep topics. Certainly some items for me to take away and work on now, and revisit the book again in the future to build on it.

[Milly Tomkinson · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was enlightening and beautifully written. This is a book you don’t just read once and put it back on the shelf, it is a book you read, work through individually and with your spouse, a book you pray over and a book you continuously refer to throughout your life.

I highly recommend getting a hardcover copy of you can so that it can truly stand the test of time.

[Blake C Pfaff · Rating 4 out of 5]

All in all a really great book on practical relationship wisdom and perspective to have for marriage.

Only knocks I have was his positive use of the term “complain” to your spouse. He should use a different word there. His theology on male headship and order of creation I would say go against historical Christian understanding.

[Joel Stockstill · Rating 5 out of 5]

Must read for all couples and singles!

This is the best marriage book I have ever read. Every person I know would benefit from Pastor Jimmy’s amazing insight into the Biblical model for love, relationships, and marriage. You won’t be able to put it down!

[Paul Hovey · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good read

Enjoy this book because it's scripture base It made the scriptures come alive for me. Excellent talking points With your spouse while reading the book. I did not like the end of the book. I would have liked a wrap up or conclusion.

[Abisai Soto · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very practical and Biblically sound

I loved reading this book. Jimmy does a great job in laying out simple yet very illusive ideas on marriage. I love that it was an easy read and it was full of practical advice!

[BillieJo · Rating 5 out of 5]

Was a help in a time of need

I started reading this in a time I really needed help figuring out how to move forward. Many of the things in this book have give me new ideas on how to do that and will help us build a stronger relationship with each other and God.

[Denise · Rating 5 out of 5]

I recommend all of Jimmy's stuff. His teachings on marriage are spot on. He gets it after he and his wife nearly divorced years ago. A wise friend just told me, and it's true, "You will only get out of this what you want to."

[Kevin Trainer · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was very good and just what I needed . I need the Holy Spirit to teach me how to be a husband, a husband who loves his wife like Christ loves the church. I highly recommend this book to all married couples. Four stars for sure.

[Cheri Perry · Rating 5 out of 5]

I Wish I Would Have Read This Sooner

Real talk on real issues. Jam packed with the biblical principles to build a lasting foundation for marriage. Pointed comments delivered in a non judgy/stuffy manner. A MUST READ

[samantha holloway · Rating 4 out of 5]

4.5 ⭐️ This book offered a lot of great marriage & relationship advice. It’s based very heavily on scripture & faith which I loved, but I think there is benefit to anyone looking to strengthen their relationship regardless of their beliefs.

[Bobbi · Rating 5 out of 5]

Every person, married, engaged, or even hopeful needs to read this book!!

[Kelli Widmer · Rating 5 out of 5]

Amazing book. Highly recommend. Based off of scripture and what God says about marriage. Very eye opening.

[Sonnigirl · Rating 4 out of 5]

Every couple getting married or already married needs to read this book ❤️
Going to incorporate it into my premarital counseling!