Me, My Selfie & Eye: A Midlife Conversation About Lost Identity, Grief, & Seeing Who You Are

by Janna Lopez

We've all heard of the midlife crisis, and it tends to evoke particular images—such as men buying sports cars, or for women, it's steamy affairs with younger men. But there's more to midlife than crisis or indiscretion. In "Me, My Selfie Eye", Janna Lopez explores midlife identity loss and the subsequent grief that accompanies it. It examines emotional, mental, and spiritual complications with honesty, humor, questions, insights, and reflections about how to navigate this very specific transition and come out whole on the other side.

This timely book was written to connect, console and encourage anyone in the throes of midlife identity crash. It's a practical, modern conversation about the process of midlife upheaval and pinpoints grief as the main culprit, especially when everything we believed as true about ourselves becomes uncertain.

It aims to help reconstruct a lost midlife identity, and guide you through the untidy process of flying through until you can see your self again.

315 pages, Kindle Edition

Published January 12, 2020

Reviews

[A.N. Tipton · Rating 5 out of 5]

Raw, real and vulnerable

Beautifully written, completely real, honest, funny and raw in the author's journey through the discovery of her Self. Very relatable for anyone who has been confronted with any type of identity crisis (and let's be real, don't we all from time to time?) Highly recommended!

[Paul · Rating 4 out of 5]

“Me, My Selfie & I” is an autobiographical story of a smart, successful woman whose “Self” spins into a midlife tailspin after some unfortunate events. Told with intelligence, insight, honesty and humor; it proved an interesting read.
I was a skeptic to start out; it isn’t the kind of book I would choose but it was a monthly book club selection. I thought being of the “self-help” genre it might be long on 'you should do this'. I didn’t find that at all here. There is food here for thought; but really this is just her story and her way of looking at what was happening to her, take it or leave it. And well told at that.

Lopez calls her experience the “dark flight of the self”, a description that kind of lost me. The book is broken into three sections based on the title of “Me”, “My Selfie” and “Eye”. Terms of her creation that again I didn’t totally follow. However, within each section, smaller, well thought out themed chapters tell her story in ways that make total sense and often segue nicely into the next.

All in all, a very well-written memoir. Even though it was not of that much interest in me, I’ll give it 4 stars, specially since no one on Goodreads has rated/reviewed it yet.