Emotionally Immature Parents: Overcoming Childhood Emotional Neglect due to Absent and Self involved Parents

by Theresa J. Covert

Do you think your parent might be toxic?

Do you feel like you are living with the consequences of bad parenting?
Does your parent still treat you badly even though you are an adult?

Maybe your parent has passed away, but you still seem to be affected by them and cant stop thinking about the way they treated you.
This Book is for anyone that has been in a toxic relationship with their parent and would like to learn more about it and learn how to recover from the long lasting traumatic effects that the relationship has left you with.

But First, A Warning:
Before we go further, let me make something abundantly clear:
This book does not contain a "magic wand" that will bring you instant answers without having to do any work.

What I’m about to share with you takes both time and effort and has worked wonders for me and my private clients. And I believe it can help you too.

But this only works for those who are willing look deep inside themselves and are committed to finding true happiness.

So with that said, let me tell you…

Does any of this sound familiar to you?

As a child:
- You felt like you were never good enough
- Your parent seemed wrapped up in themselves and their life
- Your parent didn’t seem to care about your feelings
- Your parent was very controlling and manipulative
- You were made to feel bad or wrong if you got upset
- Your needs weren’t met

As an adult:
- You still feel like you are not good enough
- You feel confused, anxious, sad in your relationship with your parent
- Your parent puts you down, and never celebrates your achievements
- You sometimes doubt your perception of events, and feel like you are going crazy
- You struggle to make decisions and have difficulty trusting your gut instinct or intuition
- Your parent is very critical, manipulative, controlling and tells  lies
- They still don’t seem to care about your feelings or your needs
- You feel like you are the one parenting them

This Book is for you if you have been in a toxic relationship with your parent and you just want to make sense of it and make some changes.

Maybe you have tried to talk to your partner or friends about your relationship, but they don’t understand either and they may even tell you that it couldn’t have been that bad.

Maybe you know that your parent treated you badly and unfairly growing up, and you know its affecting you now but you don’t know what to do about it.

Sometimes a parent can have a mental health illness like depression, borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, or addictions, which unfortunately would have created a toxic environment for you to grow up in.

If so, then you might be feeling really alone and confused, frustrated and unable to see a way out or how things can change.

This Book will help you to:
- No longer feel confused or questioning your parents behavior
- Finally make sense of your childhood
- Learn what was really going on
- Learn why you feel the way you do
- Make sense of your experiences
- Learn how to protect yourself from any future toxic relationships
- Regain that lost self esteem and self worth

I can’t promise you that reading to this book is going to be a “total cure”, bu

Genres: Psychology, Self Help, Nonfiction

98 pages, Kindle Edition

Published January 17, 2020

Reviews

[Lexxie · Rating 4 out of 5]

I really enjoyed this book and found it useful. It’s written with authority like any book attempting to categorize people and like any book of that category you have to take it with a grain of salt. But, I was impressed with the details and very realistic examples. It’s advice was also thorough and straight forward. It was written so well I was always engaged. Highly recommend.

[Sarah · Rating 5 out of 5]

Parents can try the best we can but we just don’t know what we don’t know. This is such a great read for anybody that has relationships (all of us.) The writing seemed really simple but the topics were so straightforward and well articulated that I didn’t mind once I got into the book. I particularly liked how, instead of placing blame or victimizing, the book objectively discussed different relationships and how to navigate them in a whole and healthy way. Such a good read!

[Jared · Rating 4 out of 5]

As a therapist, this book was super helpful in allowing me to better conceptualize some of my clients’ behaviors (primarily those of my adolescent clients). Sometimes, you have to look at a case objectively and recognize that parents are not perfect and sometimes it has a detrimental effect on the child. This book did a wonderful job and putting this into perspective.

[MAPP Lab · Rating 5 out of 5]

Feelings in Focus: Emotionally Immature Parents Study

The Multimethod Assessment of Personality and Psychopathology (MAPP) Lab at Cleveland State University wants to understand your experience!

During childhood, did your parent:
* Avoid emotional situations or conversations?
* Get defensive, angry, or upset when you told them how you felt?
* Make you feel guilty for expressing your feelings?
* Have difficulty with criticism or self-reflection?
* Not think about other people’s feeling?
* Tell you to stop being emotional or to “get over it”?

Requirements to participate:
* Age 18 years or older
* Reside in the U.S.
* Be fluent in English
* Have/had a parent who is emotionally immature (does any of the listed behaviors)

This IRB approved study (IRB-FY2024-264), will not associate usernames or profiles with responses in any way. If you have any questions, please contact Dr. Kathleen W. Reardon, the faculty advisor, and I at mapplab@csuohio.edu or (216) 687-3762.

If you’re interested, you can access the interest form here: https://csufull.qualtrics.com/jfe/for...

[STACY GOODIN · Rating 3 out of 5]

Great content

Great content but needed some more editing. The attempt at a conversational tone wasn't always well executed. Also, there were some errors that really threw me- like words that were obviously mixed up - eg. parent when it should be child. Still worth a read.

[Carly Cashen · Rating 5 out of 5]

What an impactful read!! It speaks to so many of my experiences and I really liked the exercises. I think it helped me see where some of my struggles come from an avenues to lessen my pains! Could not put it down!

[Kristina · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book is just a borrowed version (title included) of Lindsay Gibson's better book.

[Lauren · Rating 1 out of 5]

The lack of editing in this text undermines its credibility. The Amazon description reads better than the book, which is both meandering and repetitive. The author also misses an opportunity to connect with a larger audience by assuming all readers are parents.