The Power of a Woman's Words: How the Words You Speak Shape the Lives of Others

by Sharon Jaynes

Your Words Echo in Hearts and Minds Long After They Are Spoken
 
Have you listened to yourself lately? Did you know that your words are shaping other people’s lives? That they are the mirrors in which others see themselves? Every day you can speak life into their souls or suck the life right out of them. The choice is yours.
 
In The Power of a Woman’s Words, bestselling author Sharon Jaynes will show you how to exchange careless words that hurt for intentional words that help others succeed recognize words that tear down confidence and replace them with words that build others up overcome the negativity that pushes people away and become a well of positivity that draws others in tame your tongue by practicing practical principles that help you think before you speak stop being disappointed in your lack of control by taking hold of the power of the Holy Spirit  Words are one of the most powerful forces in the universe, and God has entrusted them to you! How will you use this gift? Your words can change the course of someone’s day…even someone’s life.
 
 

Genres: Christian, Nonfiction, Spirituality, Marriage, Personal Development, Faith, Self Help

240 pages, Kindle Edition

First published January 1, 2007

Reviews

[Sarah · Rating 2 out of 5]

This is the last of a whole group of books I bought about taming your tongue. All of them have disappointed me. This book started out well, but I ended up getting very distracted. I think she collected a huge file full of wonderful stories to illustrate her point and felt she had to use every last one. For me, reading one little story, one right after the other wasn't working.

[Loraine · Rating 5 out of 5]

Sharon Jayne's The Power of a Woman's Words had a profound effect on me as I think about what I say and the words that I choose to use with my husband, my family and my friends. Just one tidbit of wisdom among many that I read was:
"Oh God please install a filter between my brain and my mouth. Help me to choose words carefully and speak in smooth and mellow tones. Thank you for teaching me the lesson of the coffee filter."
I would say this is a must read for any Christian woman.

[Elise Sauder · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book convicted me in so many ways and inspired me to do better with the words I speak! The stories throughout the book kept me interested and I feel like the author did really well with the layout.
Would strongly recommend.

[Leigh Ann · Rating 5 out of 5]

I read this book on vacation as my daily devotion because it was our next book for our church book club. What a gem! This author is so gifted in encouraging us to use our words the right way and showing us wrong patterns without making you feel like you've been condemned. This is a book I wish I had time to read once a year. Great stuff!!

[Jodi Booth · Rating 5 out of 5]

Powerful is an understatement. Every chapter could've been dissected for hours by my women's group. I do not want to give the devil a foothold, so I want to tame my tongue, be a good listener, and not feed the fire of gossip. I want to be a woman who is wise enough to know when to say something or not and builds others up instead of tearing them down

[Lori Simcox · Rating 5 out of 5]

Such a great Bible study…Was so encouraging, uplifting and helpful. It really helps you understand just how important the words you speak are to each and every person and how they can effect someone’s life! “God has given us an incredible treasure-this gift is words. The gift is to be opened and shared to help others be all that God intended them to be.” Sharon Jaynes

[Abi · Rating 3 out of 5]

This was okay. It had some insightful things, but I feel it could have been a lot shorter. This book has three parts and I fleet like on the third part was super beneficial to me. Also, some of the anecdotal stories just didn’t sit well with me and some of them felt unnecessary.

[Linz · Rating 5 out of 5]

Wow, this was such an encouraging book!!! I think I underlined at least half the book! I would highly recommend this to anyone.

[Melinda Freeland · Rating 4 out of 5]

The Power of a Woman's Words by Sharon Jaynes will inspire women (and men) to choose their words carefully because this book illustrates the potent influence a woman's words can have in the lives of others.

Jaynes is one of the three women who comprise GIRLFRIENDS IN GOD (GIG), the non-denominational ministry that specializes in encouraging females in their spiritual life. I signed up for GIG daily devotional emails about three months ago, and that's how I came across this book. Jaynes' writing style in both the daily messages and in this book is both pleasingly lyrical in some sentences, and at other times refreshingly straight-forward, in a "let's be honest, girlfriend to girlfriend" format.

The author uses Biblical references, stories from people she's met over the years, personal anecdotes, and quotes by both famous and unknown individuals, in examples that show how just a few words have the power to either rip apart another person's measure of worth or to build up a human being's level of confidence and self-esteem.

I try to never say things that I personally would be upset about if someone were to say the same thing to me—the problem is that I define myself as pretty "thick-skinned." It's taken me a long time to realize that just because something might not bother me, it would probably injure at least about 50% or more of the people I know because they are not as "unaffected " by particular words or actions as I am. Sharon Jaynes' book has helped to remind me that my words do play a vital role in both how other people feel about themselves and how those people, due to my choice of words, feel about me.

Those individuals who mean the most to me are the ones who I most definitely want to watch what I say when I speak to them. The Power of a Woman's Words has five chapters highlighting how words can affect these "most special to me" individuals, and even gives examples of specific do use/don't use phrases when we address these people in our lives: our children, spouses, friends, fellow believers and God. A sixth chapter under this subsection of "The People We Impact," includes an area that will have the farthest-reach: this chapter is titled, "The Power of a Woman's Words to the World."

The other two sections of this motivating book are "The Power We Possess" and "The Potential to Change," which includes chapters such as "The Potency of Silence" and "The Profound Possibilities."

Since I am a writer, I love how Jaynes sprinkles quotes throughout her book not only from Scripture, but also by well-known poets and writers, and even "unknown" authors. The particular quotes she uses bring home the point of each section in the book in which the quote is included. Some of my favorite quotes and passages Jaynes used, including her own "quoted" words were:

"Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave." -- Martin Luther

"Your words become the mirror in which others see themselves." -- Sharon Jaynes

"With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be." -- James 3:9-12 TNIV

"I seldom feel sorry for the things I did not say." -- Author Unknown

I recommend this book not only to Christians who search for ways to become more like the person God intended them to be, but for any mom, dad, husband, wife, friend, family member, and to any and every person who strives to bring about the best in others and to cause the least amount of damage (intentional or unintentional) to those who share with them this awesome world God created.

[Jill · Rating 5 out of 5]

The revised edition of Sharon Jaynes' "The Power of a Woman's Words" is more concise and better organized than the first edition, but it is still as good as the previous version. The cover is more attractive and the chapter headings better represent the text.

There are newer anecdotes and some elaboration of stories previously included.  The purpose of the book remained the same--encouraging readers to watch their words because our words are powerful. Our words can tear others down, build them up or affect our attitudes--whether positive or negative. Jaynes shows us how to use self-control to tame our tongue and exchange negative words for positive ones as well as thinking before speaking.  This is a great small group study, especially when combined with her DVD teaching.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free as part of Sharon Jaynes' "The Power of a Woman's Words" Launch Team.  The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

[Tiare · Rating 4 out of 5]

Dang, this book could have gotten 5 stars if it weren't for some of the self righteous comments the author made a few times in the book. It would have been better for her to write to a wider audience, then to assume that everyone that reads the book is so conservative of a Christian woman that she would "never" watch an R rated movie, or go to a nightclub. The author had to justify herself a few times so that we wouldn't think "badly" of her for doing such things. (The movie was EDITED that she saw, etc.) I guess I sort of understand, I used to be like that too.

But her message is a great one that every woman needs to hear, especially those of us that are mothers, and we have the opportunity to tear down our children or build them up. I marked many passages in this book, and will keep it on my bookshelf to remind me of the importance of using our words to uplift others, not just in our family, but anyone we get the chance to meet in this life. The positive message in this book far outweighs the few instances I was annoyed by her comments.

[Heather · Rating 5 out of 5]

This audiobook was so incredibly convicting and helpful! So many tangible examples of how words can build up or tear down. It was almost like doing a deep dive on the verses in James about the power of the tongue. I cringed when I realized that I’ve heard myself and others say so many of the phrases listed in the book as words that can destroy a person’s identity and self-worth or, at the very least, ruin their day.

I pray that I’ll remember to keep a tight rein on my words and use the acronym THINK before speaking when I want to open my mouth.

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Thank you, Sharon, for this incredibly eye-opening book! I want to use my words to speak life over everyone I meet.

[Lori Jorgensen · Rating 5 out of 5]

Ever need to sit down with your best friend and have a conversation about your words? If the answer is yes, then this book is for you. Get comfortable and grab a cuppa. Settle in and read about the power of your words. What you speak can bring life to someone or they can bring death to a relationship. Get ready to really dig deep and admit your faults but in the end find joy.

[Sally · Rating 2 out of 5]

I haven't finished it. It was good, solid word, but nothing new to me.

[Amanda · Rating 3 out of 5]

I thought it was a pretty good book, for what it is, but lacks in some respects. For example, she could have gotten into the power of words in song, because they are combined with the amazing power of music, but she totally skipped over that. It would have been a great addition, as a lot of people, especially Christians, are oblivious to the power of the music they listen to over their spiritual life. But it might be that Mrs. Jaynes, for all her good insight into the power of words, has not investigated music specifically.

Otherwise, I think she could have left out the anecdotes from secular movies that were entirely unnecessary to make her point, and there were some theological flaws, but the overall message is solid and a very important one. It was definitely a help to me as I have recently gotten married and really needed to be reminded of the power my words have with my husband, and through him to many others (he's a minister), especially given that I have a history of using my words carelessly. I think that the author, like all of us, still has room to grow, but she is sharing the insights that God has given her along the way and that is a very good thing. I pray that she continues to learn and to become more like Jesus and to continue to share what she learns with women everywhere. :)

[Kelley · Rating 5 out of 5]

I was one of the readers blessed enough to be on the launch team to read Sharon Jaynes new book The Power of a Women’s Words. And when I say blessed I don’t use that word lightly this book launch reached us right as the quarantine was starting and it couldn’t of been a better time! Stuck at home 24 hours a day in the yucky weather of Michigan winter with the family I dearly love but who after a week straight are starting to drive me slightly crazy learning to control my tongue better was a great and convicting thing!
Each chapter deals with a different part of our lives where we can do better controlling our tongues. I love that Sharon tells story example of other people but also from her own life in each part and then follows it up with a biblical story. Then at the end of each chapter she gives practical tips and ideas of how we can put our words to use in each situation!
I would definitely recommend this book to all my friends and to all women because none of us have our tongues under control all the time. It is not an easy thing to control but with the Holy Spirits help nothing is impossible!

[Tyra Sharpton · Rating 5 out of 5]

“While we blunder through our days with wrong turns and wrong numbers, we have the right answer! We posses the potential to change the course of a life for all eternity.”

“When Nancy heard her words coming out of someone else’s mouth, she was appalled and ashamed. Maybe you’ve felt the same way at times. But, thank God, we can listen, learn , and make a decision to leave the critical spirit behind and put the filter of grace securely in place.”

These are two quotes from the newly released book ,”The Power of a Woman’s Words” by Sharon Jaynes.
This book is such an easy read but at the same time helps you to realize how your words impact the world around you.
It’s full of life stories that you can relate to , showing how what you say and how you say it can change the course for the worst or for the better. Most importantly, it shows you how you can change your words through the eyes of grace that only comes through a relationship with Jesus Christ.
I highly recommend this book.

[Lisa Ticaric · Rating 1 out of 5]

I really and truly cannot understand all the positive reviews on this book. I got half way through and couldn't finish it. I have done a fair share of bible studies in my time, and this was absolutely painful to get through. In the discussion guide, she takes any bible verse that includes a word related to her topic and crams it in the study without any application or opportunity to discuss how it relates to life. She makes you look up three bible verses that all say the exact same thing and then doesn't follow through with any point or message. I wanted to poke my eye out!!! And she bends bible stories to fit what she's saying, regardless of whether they truly relate or not. The actual book to read is her taking every generic anecdote she could think of and stringing them all together to relate to her topic. And there is NO connection between the discussion guide and reading book whatsoever. I have followed Sharon Jaynes's blog for years and enjoy her short insights and thoughts, but I will not read any other books by her.

[Joyce · Rating 5 out of 5]

During the COVID 19 crisis, with plenty of extra time, I picked up “The Power of a Woman’s Words”. Speech, blessings and kind words are some of my favorite topics to read about, but this book brought to life the true power our words hold. “Words become the mirror in which others see themselves”. The book shares several real life examples of how powerfully words can bring help or hurt into lives. It also gives practical examples of seeing the true need of others, how to speak words of blessing that can lift someone up and how sometimes, silence can be the best type of speech for the situation!
This book has the power to change your life and the lives of those you have contact with. Through the words we speak, truly lives are shaped and we have the power through our words to bring blessing and hope to make an impact for life. If you want to make an impact in the lives of others, read this book!

[Cathy Beshore · Rating 5 out of 5]

The Power of a Woman’s Words is an excellent book, and I highly recommend it. I have cried tears of joy and sadness throughout this book. It has challenged me to carefully choose my words in any given situation…”The Hebrew word for “mouth,” peh, is often translated “edge.” Like a knife, the tongue has a sharp, powerful edge that can either be used to hurt or heal (quoted from the book). Another passage that I really love…We can learn to speak words of grace that invite those around us to come ashore for a needed respite and then set sail once the storm has passed.

As we reflect on our life, I’m sure we will always remember the people who were our “cheerleaders” and showered us with their love, encouragement, and kind words. This book will definitely challenge you to do the same and become one of those memorable people!

[Dutchess · Rating 5 out of 5]

Sharon Jaynes’s “Power of a Woman’s Words: How the Words You Speak Shape the Lives of Others” brought life when I needed it most. My daughters are young women now and I am not adjusting well. My words of wisdom were not being received as the balm and guidance I thought they would be. So, when I received a copy of this new release of Mrs. Jayne’s book, POWW, it was really like Poww! Wow! I’m reading thinking, “So that’s what I did wrong.” I love the stories and the scripture to back up all she had to say. I highly recommend this book to not only mothers of adult children but of young children, sisters, friends, wives, women of God – everyone. It addresses women but I’m going to share it with my husband. Thank you, Mrs. Jaynes for this timely tool; for speaking life to me in such a way that I can now speak it to others.

[Elli · Rating 5 out of 5]

I LOVE this book. It was very convicting, which I think is part of what makes it such a good book. I learned a lot about not only what words I should be using when talking to people, but also how I can begin to make those changes. Instead of talking to other people with impatience and rude words, we should speak with love and encouragement, especially as Christian women. As a Christian woman, I want my words to reflect my faith and to bring encouragement and love to every person I come in contact with. This book helped me to see many of the areas where I need to work on changing the way I speak to people, and talked about how, with God’s help, anyone can change to become a woman who uses her words to uplift and love others instead of tearing them down. :) definitely recommend this book to every Christian woman!!

[Jody · Rating 5 out of 5]

What an amazing journey”The Power of a Woman's Word has taken me on. Sharon Jaynes has written a wealth of information, as she authentically shares her heart and teaches us about the power of our words that can build up or tear down. Sharon shares examples and goes deeply into the choices we make and lists words that are life giving and also has us look at the ways we use words to tear down others. When we trust God to make us an instrument of encouragement, hope and life changing for good. The story is not over, we can choose to build up others and THINK before we speak. I love this book and will be going back to it again and again, I highly recommend this book for other women. It will be life altering for you and your sphere of influence.

[Roberta · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent TRUTHS in this wise book.
I "met Sharon Jaynes" at a "GIRLFRIENDS IN GOD"
Concert. I know she writes from experience and love.
"We are Gods Masterpiece, Chosen....and dearly loved,
fearfully and wonderfully made."
"Words, one of the most significant forces in the universe,
can be used for good or evil. Your words can change the course of
the day, the course of a life."
# instill confidence into a child's heart.
# encourage a husband to accomplish his dreams.
.
#Fan the dying embers of a Friends smoldering hope
#Draw someone to the love of Jesus
#Open the door to powerful prayer.

Speak LIFE to those around you.

[Raychel · Rating 5 out of 5]

During this Covid time, it’s easy to be frustrated and not stop and think how what you say will effect others. When I started reading, I wasn’t sure how much it would change me, my thinking and my little world. My kids can see a change in my attitude and what I say. This is positive, helping me get closer to where I want to be with God and the changes in my family is amazing. It’s well written and relatable. Knowing others struggle with what I do helps. I’m excited to continue applying in my daily life and journey with not only God but my family, friends and even strangers. Definitely will be rereading in the future.

[Tori · Rating 5 out of 5]

My way of using words has always been speak before thinking. I know this about myself, yet I couldn’t change it. I was headed down a downward spiral with stress and anxiety, that my words and my actions reflected that and I would snap at everyone. I had gotten this book in hopes to change that. Sharon’s books have always been great, inspiring reads, that I knew I HAD to have this one if I wanted to have healthy relationships with people. Her words are ones I already have heard before, but she makes it relatable. It was like ✅ yep I do that, ✅ yep I do that too. When in times of conflict, or potential conflict, I can remember her stories and change my mindset. This is what I needed!

[Tony Tallarico · Rating 5 out of 5]

Just read The Power of a Woman’s Words by Sharon Jaynes and I absolutely loved it! I couldn’t put the book down. There are stories in this book that I can relate to and there are other stories that made me want to do more for others, be better. I absolutely believe we can ALL use a few reminders and tips on how to tame our tongue. We have our Lord but sometimes we need some additional assistance. We ALL have struggled with our words, especially in turbulent times such as now (the current quarantine). So why not pick this book up, snuggle up with a comfy blanket and a nice hot tea (or coffee) and enjoy the book? Dare to put it to work!

[Connie]

Jesus called us to be Ambassadors for Christ, and this includes our words. The “Power of a Woman’s Words” not only shows us the problem (our tongues) but offers wonderful, practical and simple solutions with great tear-jerking true stories. If a book “sticks”, I know it’s anointed by God. Two favorite chapters were the ones on how to talk to your grown children as well as the one about having the guts to talk to others about Jesus (The Woman in the Checkout Line). I’m already seeing the fruit of applying these principles to my kids and strangers. It’s been awesome! Biblically sound, meaty but easy to read. Very convicting in a life changing way. A wonderful gift for any Christian woman.

[Summer Brown · Rating 5 out of 5]

Yet another wonderful read by author Sharon Jaynes! This book was a welcome reminder of just how powerful our words can truly be – both positive and negative. We can create a positive impact with the people and the world around us by paying attention to what we say and using our God-given gift of words for blessings! This book will help you take a look at yourself and examine how you can put all of this into action. If you desire to increase happiness and success if your life – this is a must read!

[Sarah · Rating 4 out of 5]

It's true! Our words matter, ladies! We make or break our homes, marriages, relationships with our children, and friendships with our mouths. When I was just entering the adult world, my mom shared some of the most sound counsel with me: "A wise woman builds her house," and she does so with her hands AND her words. This book is a good intro for women of any age who seek to walk in the Spirit and admonish, in truth & in love, our family and friends by speaking to & over them God's life-giving words