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Women Who Win at Love: How to Build a Relationship That Lasts
SEX. DATING. LOVE. MARRIAGE. WHAT IF YOU’RE DOING IT ALL WRONG?
Do you ever ask yourself why dating has become so damn hard? Do you wonder what makes some marriages last and others fall apart? Is your marriage struggling despite your best efforts to keep it together?
Women who win at love don’t have a gift you don’t have. What makes them unique, explain author and relationship coach Suzanne Venker and anthropology professor John M. Townsend, Ph.D., is that they aren’t at war with the men in their lives. Women who win at love reject the concept of sexual equality and embrace male and female nature instead.
Whether you’re still single and mapping out your life, or you’re divorced or unhappily married, Women Who Win at Love will permanently alter the way you view men and marriage, thus leading to your success in love. But you must be willing to step outside your comfort zone and accept countercultural truths. If you can do that, you’ve found the key.
You know how to win at almost everything else. Isn’t it time for you to win at love? In Women Who Win at Love, you will learn: the eight dating rules that lead to marriage, why super successful women struggle in love, what men want and what women want (hint: they’re not the same), why love is not a reason to get married, how to avoid the green grass syndrome, and why acting like a man lands women in a ditch.
Do you ever ask yourself why dating has become so damn hard? Do you wonder what makes some marriages last and others fall apart? Is your marriage struggling despite your best efforts to keep it together?
Women who win at love don’t have a gift you don’t have. What makes them unique, explain author and relationship coach Suzanne Venker and anthropology professor John M. Townsend, Ph.D., is that they aren’t at war with the men in their lives. Women who win at love reject the concept of sexual equality and embrace male and female nature instead.
Whether you’re still single and mapping out your life, or you’re divorced or unhappily married, Women Who Win at Love will permanently alter the way you view men and marriage, thus leading to your success in love. But you must be willing to step outside your comfort zone and accept countercultural truths. If you can do that, you’ve found the key.
You know how to win at almost everything else. Isn’t it time for you to win at love? In Women Who Win at Love, you will learn: the eight dating rules that lead to marriage, why super successful women struggle in love, what men want and what women want (hint: they’re not the same), why love is not a reason to get married, how to avoid the green grass syndrome, and why acting like a man lands women in a ditch.
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October 8, 2019
A voice of reason in the darkness of our current culture. Second+ wave feminism has taken generations of wisdom regarding marriage, family, and long term happiness and discarded it. Has this brought the happiness promised? I don't think so. So many young women are walking around looking shell shocked, wondering why everything promised them didn't come to fruition. This book offers a map out of the madness. Susan Venker's map is not a retreat into pre 19th amendment ideologies, but a guide for navigating the opportunities available to young women now and balancing those with the, dare I say it, inevitable future desire for family and relationships.
September 20, 2019
I've been a fan of Suzanne Venker ever since I discovered her writing a couple of years ago, so when I was given the chance to write a review of an ARC of her latest book, I couldn't pass it up.
Women Who Win at Love (WWWAL) is a refreshingly honest how-to guide that gives practical, applicable advice on how to engage with the opposite sex in a way that works. I love how Suzanne is able to make each tip simple and easy to implement in every woman's life today, regardless of where she is in her relationship journey (single, married, etc).
Suzanne's book explores the different obstacles women face when meeting, getting, and keeping their significant other by empowering women to take control by letting it go, to trust their instincts, and to get out of their own way!
I didn't find anything negative to say about the book except that if you've been following Venker's style, you might find some of the topics touched on in this guide a bit repetitive. But I don't think that's an accident. Many people learn and remember best through repetition and much of what Venker has said about love and relationships bears repeating. Themes like 'letting your man lead' and 'rejecting the feminist culture in order to find happiness' cannot be stressed enough, in my opinion, and it's great advice that I'm sure has helped many people navigate their relationships better.
Suzanne speaks candidly about the consequences of earning more than him, childrearing, and marriage in a way that most people are either oblivious about or are unwilling to confront before and after they say 'I do'.
Venker's writing is going to rub some people the wrong way but I could not find fault with any of the topics she talks about in her book because it has an honesty that women's studies classes lack. WWWAL addresses the joys to be had in motherhood and a healthy marriage, while also encouraging women to embrace their femininity and to accept men for who they are rather than who modern society tries to shame them into being. One of the reasons I liked this book so much was because of the sincerity and practicality in it that modern feminism finds so offensive. The truth that Suzanne reveals is that the issues that Hollywood and the media give credence to-- i.e., the wage gap, gender equality, and toxic masculinity--feed the very mindset that undermines loving relationships between men and women. This is an unpopular opinion, but that doesn't make it any less true.
I truly enjoyed this book as well as the others Suzanne has written and I can't wait for the next one.
Women Who Win at Love (WWWAL) is a refreshingly honest how-to guide that gives practical, applicable advice on how to engage with the opposite sex in a way that works. I love how Suzanne is able to make each tip simple and easy to implement in every woman's life today, regardless of where she is in her relationship journey (single, married, etc).
Suzanne's book explores the different obstacles women face when meeting, getting, and keeping their significant other by empowering women to take control by letting it go, to trust their instincts, and to get out of their own way!
I didn't find anything negative to say about the book except that if you've been following Venker's style, you might find some of the topics touched on in this guide a bit repetitive. But I don't think that's an accident. Many people learn and remember best through repetition and much of what Venker has said about love and relationships bears repeating. Themes like 'letting your man lead' and 'rejecting the feminist culture in order to find happiness' cannot be stressed enough, in my opinion, and it's great advice that I'm sure has helped many people navigate their relationships better.
Suzanne speaks candidly about the consequences of earning more than him, childrearing, and marriage in a way that most people are either oblivious about or are unwilling to confront before and after they say 'I do'.
Venker's writing is going to rub some people the wrong way but I could not find fault with any of the topics she talks about in her book because it has an honesty that women's studies classes lack. WWWAL addresses the joys to be had in motherhood and a healthy marriage, while also encouraging women to embrace their femininity and to accept men for who they are rather than who modern society tries to shame them into being. One of the reasons I liked this book so much was because of the sincerity and practicality in it that modern feminism finds so offensive. The truth that Suzanne reveals is that the issues that Hollywood and the media give credence to-- i.e., the wage gap, gender equality, and toxic masculinity--feed the very mindset that undermines loving relationships between men and women. This is an unpopular opinion, but that doesn't make it any less true.
I truly enjoyed this book as well as the others Suzanne has written and I can't wait for the next one.
January 23, 2021
This is a very counter culture book that gives valuable insight into the differing natures of men and women and how to best reconcile them. Each chapter is straightforward and fascinating.
September 5, 2019
Every young man and woman should be required to read this book, before entering into a relationship.
Many people are not taught how to have a lasting relationship. This book is all about, "If you don't nourish your marriage it will not stand, "til death do us part."
Many people are not taught how to have a lasting relationship. This book is all about, "If you don't nourish your marriage it will not stand, "til death do us part."
May 3, 2023
Mixed feelings about this book. Would have appreciated more insight from Townsend and less opinions from Venker.
September 26, 2019
I felt this book spoke to me. "Taking divorce off the table." was probably one of the best things in the book that I felt my SO and I are both guilty of throwing around all willy nilly. If you keep telling yourself there are other options out there, then it will definitely lead to a reality of ending up back on the dating scene and not strengthen the bond you already have with that special someone.
A fantastic read! I just couldn't put it down. The way Suzanne tells the stories and then backs them up with research and factually statistic information is brilliant! If you seem a little confused with today's societal pressures on dating, interacting within a relationship you already have and/or being told that divorcing at the slightest inconvenience, then this book is definitely a must read!
A fantastic read! I just couldn't put it down. The way Suzanne tells the stories and then backs them up with research and factually statistic information is brilliant! If you seem a little confused with today's societal pressures on dating, interacting within a relationship you already have and/or being told that divorcing at the slightest inconvenience, then this book is definitely a must read!
October 8, 2019
I read this book in just a few sittings - I couldn’t put it down! - and it has already set my marriage on a happier trajectory. The dominant culture has brainwashed women to believe we should be like men. We should want what men want and go after it the same way men do. Venker dismantles feminism's false, hopeless paradigms with grace, wisdom and humor.
She reminds us that men are simple. They’re not stupid, as today’s sitcom culture suggests, but they’re easy to get along with, if women keep a few principles in mind.
The first half of the book will help a woman make good dating choices; the second half will help a woman build a marriage that will last. I'm looking forward to gifting the book it to my daughters and my sister.
She reminds us that men are simple. They’re not stupid, as today’s sitcom culture suggests, but they’re easy to get along with, if women keep a few principles in mind.
The first half of the book will help a woman make good dating choices; the second half will help a woman build a marriage that will last. I'm looking forward to gifting the book it to my daughters and my sister.
February 1, 2021
I am someone who believes that men and women are different, and that we both bring something unique to the table and that our differences should be embraced rather than erased. However, the writing style and overall format of this book left something to be desired. The editor missed some obvious typos, and the selection of quotes to highlight made for some awkward interruptions in the flow of the chapters. Read in a day.
January 12, 2021
A Book With Good Directions
I enjoyed reading and actively listening to this book. I don't agree with everything it says, in part 1 above some of the rules of dating ie. Let him chase you, don't offer to pay on dates etc. Aside, I did enjoyed reading part 2 about valuing your marriage instead of getting the greener grass syndrome.😉
I enjoyed reading and actively listening to this book. I don't agree with everything it says, in part 1 above some of the rules of dating ie. Let him chase you, don't offer to pay on dates etc. Aside, I did enjoyed reading part 2 about valuing your marriage instead of getting the greener grass syndrome.😉
October 22, 2024
first, this book's base theory is that, at least eventually, most women want to get married and, for some, also have kids. so, first, one needs to agree with this.
positives: some of the ideas
negatives: some of the ideas (a major example: the reason why most marriages stop working is the wife no longer respects the husband...and, i'll add, long live the patriarchy!...or putting your children first is a bad idea...no, just make them, get the "i'm a mama/mum/momi" label for the ego and then let them figure life out by themselves, they have the state, the state can take care of them completely...that's one version how we get to Brave New World, women caring about their kids less, just enough to make them...my take, you don't wanna bother with the kids that much, don't make them, then the wife can have more time for the husband, the book says you should put the kids after the husband...why? because he provides the income? wtf, book?!...then we have "feminine energy" and "masculine energy" and one is made to receive the other...the book gets like that too...aaaand him wanting to have sex with her is equivalent to her wanting to talk to him...i was dying on the floor with laughter..."men are super simple", yes, men are not smart, complex, or anything, and women just want that guy, so simple...men are meant to make money while women to give birth...another winner...obviously, women are just a means to perpetuate him, simple...i could not stop laughing)
and this also became a "how to" manual for women to look in a specific way (to get the outcome above), even if they might want to act differently, ideally.
why bother so much to get the men who don't want you unless you pretend to be more like someone else? (ex: dress with _ to look less like a sl*t so that some man wants to marry you, not just have sex...almost like the point is to trick the man to give the marriage...same for how many dates to wait until you should have sex with a man...and a lot of the book....this manipulative approach is not the best life strategy).
mainly, this succeeded in portraying for me a tragic side of life.
...but, we, feminists, we ruin things, the book says ("Suzanne Venker, who blames feminists for destroying the relationship between the sexes").
positives: some of the ideas
negatives: some of the ideas (a major example: the reason why most marriages stop working is the wife no longer respects the husband...and, i'll add, long live the patriarchy!...or putting your children first is a bad idea...no, just make them, get the "i'm a mama/mum/momi" label for the ego and then let them figure life out by themselves, they have the state, the state can take care of them completely...that's one version how we get to Brave New World, women caring about their kids less, just enough to make them...my take, you don't wanna bother with the kids that much, don't make them, then the wife can have more time for the husband, the book says you should put the kids after the husband...why? because he provides the income? wtf, book?!...then we have "feminine energy" and "masculine energy" and one is made to receive the other...the book gets like that too...aaaand him wanting to have sex with her is equivalent to her wanting to talk to him...i was dying on the floor with laughter..."men are super simple", yes, men are not smart, complex, or anything, and women just want that guy, so simple...men are meant to make money while women to give birth...another winner...obviously, women are just a means to perpetuate him, simple...i could not stop laughing)
and this also became a "how to" manual for women to look in a specific way (to get the outcome above), even if they might want to act differently, ideally.
why bother so much to get the men who don't want you unless you pretend to be more like someone else? (ex: dress with _ to look less like a sl*t so that some man wants to marry you, not just have sex...almost like the point is to trick the man to give the marriage...same for how many dates to wait until you should have sex with a man...and a lot of the book....this manipulative approach is not the best life strategy).
mainly, this succeeded in portraying for me a tragic side of life.
...but, we, feminists, we ruin things, the book says ("Suzanne Venker, who blames feminists for destroying the relationship between the sexes").
March 31, 2024
This book calls out the modern mythologising about marriage, and instead it points towards what works (both in real-life relationships and from the research). It contains age-old approaches, that harness the inherent differences between men and women. There’s plenty of common sense that is reinforced by modern empirical material. No mumbo jumbo, no extreme ideology, no confected outrage, no Marxism cloaked in kind words. It really goes back to truth telling and basics.
“Women who win at love don't have a gift you don't have. What makes them unique, explain author and relationship coach Suzanne Venker and anthropology professor John M. Townsend, Ph.D., is that they aren't at war with the men in their lives. Women who win at love reject the concept of sexual equality and embrace male and female nature instead.”
The case studies are powerful, and the narrative is compelling/balanced. Written five years ago and published in 2019, Venker in particular has been well ahead of her time. Her thinking has subsequently been echoed by many writers, commentators, podcasters, bloggers in the subsequent years. This counter cultural movement is also visible in the increasingly stark differences between Millennials and Gen Z.
Venker and Townsend hold no sentimentality for the past. They are not “arguing to go back to the 1950s” (in fact, I haven’t heard or read anyone who is arguing this). They are presenting options (which are alternative to some of the socially prevailing ideologies), they are presenting a constructive and positive mindset for relationships, along with approaches for men and women to collaborate together (with the result of better wellbeing for children).
Well worth reading, especially for younger adults of both sexes.
“Women who win at love don't have a gift you don't have. What makes them unique, explain author and relationship coach Suzanne Venker and anthropology professor John M. Townsend, Ph.D., is that they aren't at war with the men in their lives. Women who win at love reject the concept of sexual equality and embrace male and female nature instead.”
The case studies are powerful, and the narrative is compelling/balanced. Written five years ago and published in 2019, Venker in particular has been well ahead of her time. Her thinking has subsequently been echoed by many writers, commentators, podcasters, bloggers in the subsequent years. This counter cultural movement is also visible in the increasingly stark differences between Millennials and Gen Z.
Venker and Townsend hold no sentimentality for the past. They are not “arguing to go back to the 1950s” (in fact, I haven’t heard or read anyone who is arguing this). They are presenting options (which are alternative to some of the socially prevailing ideologies), they are presenting a constructive and positive mindset for relationships, along with approaches for men and women to collaborate together (with the result of better wellbeing for children).
Well worth reading, especially for younger adults of both sexes.
September 22, 2019
A Needed Course Correction
Suzanne Venker is a modern day Moses, leading women out of the slavery of pagan 4th wave feminism and into a new land of truth, freedom and life satisfaction. Full of stories from unhappy women looking for a change, and backing up her advice with real data from scientific studies and her counseling experience, she tries to help women restore needed balance to their lives.
No matter how many times we hear it said, gender is not a social construct. There are biological and cultural differences between men and women that need to be considered when men and women decide how to plan and live their lives. These differences also mean that relationships can be a minefield if men and women don't empathize and understand the differences between the way men and women approach dating, marriage, parenting and careers. This book is full of advice on how to minimize relationship conflicts and keep things running smoothly.
Suzanne skewers the current paradigm and shows a way forward, reviving common sense relationship advice that has worked for ages, explains why it works and adapts it to today's bleak dating/marriage landscape. If you have an open mind and are fed up with the way things are, Suzanne's "Back to the Future" advice might be just what you are looking for.
(Note: I received an advance copy of this book for review)
Suzanne Venker is a modern day Moses, leading women out of the slavery of pagan 4th wave feminism and into a new land of truth, freedom and life satisfaction. Full of stories from unhappy women looking for a change, and backing up her advice with real data from scientific studies and her counseling experience, she tries to help women restore needed balance to their lives.
No matter how many times we hear it said, gender is not a social construct. There are biological and cultural differences between men and women that need to be considered when men and women decide how to plan and live their lives. These differences also mean that relationships can be a minefield if men and women don't empathize and understand the differences between the way men and women approach dating, marriage, parenting and careers. This book is full of advice on how to minimize relationship conflicts and keep things running smoothly.
Suzanne skewers the current paradigm and shows a way forward, reviving common sense relationship advice that has worked for ages, explains why it works and adapts it to today's bleak dating/marriage landscape. If you have an open mind and are fed up with the way things are, Suzanne's "Back to the Future" advice might be just what you are looking for.
(Note: I received an advance copy of this book for review)
March 12, 2021
To say that I expected more from this book would be an understatement.
However after a brief self-reflection I concluded that my expectations are precisely characteristic of many women today : astronomically high. I thought I would get the "secret sauce" to win at love but what I got was the formula that my momma always knew.
I once heard a relationship coach say that there is a market in keeping women single and angry because it drives up their consumerism. Suzanne, 'the relationship fixer' Venker is on a mission to heal the frustration and loneliness that plenty of women are experiencing ..(things that money can't substitute )
"How to win at love "is truly not that complicated. Helpful principles that work (and still do) have just been bumrushed by progressive agendas which in the author's opinion, have mislead an entire generation of women.
Before reading this book, I was already on a mind-shift journey to plug out of the toxic 'cosmopolitian message' and embrace truly femininity. This book helped me to solidify my approach and armed with tools that I can say are already working.
However after a brief self-reflection I concluded that my expectations are precisely characteristic of many women today : astronomically high. I thought I would get the "secret sauce" to win at love but what I got was the formula that my momma always knew.
I once heard a relationship coach say that there is a market in keeping women single and angry because it drives up their consumerism. Suzanne, 'the relationship fixer' Venker is on a mission to heal the frustration and loneliness that plenty of women are experiencing ..(things that money can't substitute )
"How to win at love "is truly not that complicated. Helpful principles that work (and still do) have just been bumrushed by progressive agendas which in the author's opinion, have mislead an entire generation of women.
Before reading this book, I was already on a mind-shift journey to plug out of the toxic 'cosmopolitian message' and embrace truly femininity. This book helped me to solidify my approach and armed with tools that I can say are already working.
April 27, 2023
Women Who Win at Love
This book is a practical set of guidelines for young women who want to get married and who want to have a traditional, lasting, and satisfying marriage. This is a great book, well written, containing great time-tested advice.
Just a couple of examples:
The author tells her young female audience to follow their instincts and at the same time eloquently addresses the issue of hypergamy by advising against succumbing to the “grass is greener on the other side” syndrome.
Also, the author masterfully illustrates the power women have in relationships by figuratively comparing them to puppeteers and men to puppets. To paraphrase this section; in relationships, women are like puppeteers, they control the strings and men respond. The reaction they get from men depends on which string they pull. How true this is.
Juxtaposing this puppet image with a strong leader, a head of the family type man who takes control in difficult situations that the author claims every husband should be presents a dilemma. Aren’t these two personas mutually exclusive? Well, the answer is expanded upon within the book.
This book is filled with practical information and advice, but it also delineates some of the issues and challenges set forth by today’s society.
The author succinctly presents each issue and proposes a solution she deems necessary for a healthy traditional relationship that leads to traditional marriage. It is up to the reader to expand upon and apply these principles in real life.
This book is a practical set of guidelines for young women who want to get married and who want to have a traditional, lasting, and satisfying marriage. This is a great book, well written, containing great time-tested advice.
Just a couple of examples:
The author tells her young female audience to follow their instincts and at the same time eloquently addresses the issue of hypergamy by advising against succumbing to the “grass is greener on the other side” syndrome.
Also, the author masterfully illustrates the power women have in relationships by figuratively comparing them to puppeteers and men to puppets. To paraphrase this section; in relationships, women are like puppeteers, they control the strings and men respond. The reaction they get from men depends on which string they pull. How true this is.
Juxtaposing this puppet image with a strong leader, a head of the family type man who takes control in difficult situations that the author claims every husband should be presents a dilemma. Aren’t these two personas mutually exclusive? Well, the answer is expanded upon within the book.
This book is filled with practical information and advice, but it also delineates some of the issues and challenges set forth by today’s society.
The author succinctly presents each issue and proposes a solution she deems necessary for a healthy traditional relationship that leads to traditional marriage. It is up to the reader to expand upon and apply these principles in real life.
October 3, 2019
Suzanne Venker writes with authority, but also with kindness and caring. Reading one of her books is like sitting down and chatting with an old friend. She truly cares about her readers, and wants them to get it right, to have a fulfilling, lasting relationship. In her latest book, Women Who Win at Love, Suzanne tells the truth about women and men and their inherent differences, dating, sex, relationships, marriage. It is a must read for women of all ages. I especially urge young women to read this book! Everything you need to know is right here! Save yourself from making mistakes! And for those of us who have been married a little while or a long while, there’s valuable information in here for you too!
January 10, 2022
This book isn’t for you if you are progressive, aren’t a religious person, don’t want children, care about work/your career and don’t believe in traditional values. In other words, if you wish you could go back to 1950’s this IS the book for you.
Suzanne Venker’s book summarized:
• Your marriage comes before anything else in your life, including before YOU
• Lower your expectations and settle for “just ok”
• Put your partner’s wants and needs before your own always
• Don’t make more money than your partner
• Find a career based on, not what you like or are good at, but based on if it’s marriage/family “friendly”
• Have sex whether you want it or not, just because your partner wants it
• She doesn’t believe in “spousal rape”, because apparently if you are married your partner now owns you and your body
• According to her there’s no such thing as nature AND nurture when it comes to forming people’s personality, only “nature” and our “animal instinct”
• Sex before marriage is “living in sin”
• Marry young, preferably before you’re mature enough to know what you are doing
• Depend financially on your partner
• Take divorce off the table, except in the case of domestic violence or substance abuse (in other words, be ok with cheating, chauvinism, disrespect and stay in a relationship even if you are unhappy)
• Change your way of thinking, if you have zero or low expectations you won’t be disappointed and therefore happier (her words!).
If you still decide to read it, please look up scientific research on every single one of the “studies” she mentions and see things for yourself. Learn about correlation vs. causation and think for yourself. Just because 2 situations happen in certain occasions it doesn’t mean that one is the cause or the result for the other. In other words, be a free thinker and don’t take random people’s advice at face value, especially when their opinion is not only biased but catered to her own agenda and beliefs. Brainwashing seems to be in trend nowadays and a lot of people are taking advantage of that fact to get rich and famous. Beware!
Suzanne Venker’s book summarized:
• Your marriage comes before anything else in your life, including before YOU
• Lower your expectations and settle for “just ok”
• Put your partner’s wants and needs before your own always
• Don’t make more money than your partner
• Find a career based on, not what you like or are good at, but based on if it’s marriage/family “friendly”
• Have sex whether you want it or not, just because your partner wants it
• She doesn’t believe in “spousal rape”, because apparently if you are married your partner now owns you and your body
• According to her there’s no such thing as nature AND nurture when it comes to forming people’s personality, only “nature” and our “animal instinct”
• Sex before marriage is “living in sin”
• Marry young, preferably before you’re mature enough to know what you are doing
• Depend financially on your partner
• Take divorce off the table, except in the case of domestic violence or substance abuse (in other words, be ok with cheating, chauvinism, disrespect and stay in a relationship even if you are unhappy)
• Change your way of thinking, if you have zero or low expectations you won’t be disappointed and therefore happier (her words!).
If you still decide to read it, please look up scientific research on every single one of the “studies” she mentions and see things for yourself. Learn about correlation vs. causation and think for yourself. Just because 2 situations happen in certain occasions it doesn’t mean that one is the cause or the result for the other. In other words, be a free thinker and don’t take random people’s advice at face value, especially when their opinion is not only biased but catered to her own agenda and beliefs. Brainwashing seems to be in trend nowadays and a lot of people are taking advantage of that fact to get rich and famous. Beware!
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May 16, 2025
This is a great read that every lady should have on her bookshelf. For someone like me, who didn't have a female figure to guide me on relationships, reading this book was a truly fulfilling experience. I found it particularly relatable as I was raised in an environment where I adopted more masculine traits and focused on my career, only to find myself wondering where all these new thoughts and feelings came from when biology kicked in. I'm so glad I've found this book now, and I'm excited to put its lessons into practice. Thank you, Susanne Venker, for sharing your wisdom with us - we need more books like this, so please keep writing!
October 8, 2019
How our culture has impacted love relationship and what you can do about it.
Many books have been written on relationships. Women Who Win in Love is a great one for this culture and time of history. Addressing how the feminist movement has altered this cultures views and beliefs, this book brings into focus the important factors that a woman needs to know early enough in life to make decisions that will draw a man to her for a life long love relationship. A very good read for anyone who desires a healthy love relationship and family in their future. Shelly B
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Many books have been written on relationships. Women Who Win in Love is a great one for this culture and time of history. Addressing how the feminist movement has altered this cultures views and beliefs, this book brings into focus the important factors that a woman needs to know early enough in life to make decisions that will draw a man to her for a life long love relationship. A very good read for anyone who desires a healthy love relationship and family in their future. Shelly B
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July 27, 2023
If women really do want to win at love, then this book should be part of the game plan. There are so many wisdoms in this book, and women just need to take a moment to listen to (or read) them, and put a lot of the modern conditioning that they’ve received about love and relationships on hold for a minute, and consider getting back to the old fashioned model of feminine energy that excites and motivates a man. Men need to listen to this too…as a man and husband, I approve this message!
February 2, 2024
Most of the book is full of things we have heard and read being said before. But I appreciated the honesty about womanhood and the approach to value oneself more.
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November 4, 2025Traditional view, but there is truth. Biggest takeaway is respect is a nonnegotiable.
August 10, 2023
LOVED this!! Suzanne is AMAZING! Can't wait to read all the others!
December 26, 2023
HIGHLIGHTS:
1. Women enter into emotional connection after sex.
2. DATING RULES:
- Let him chase you. Men love a challenge. When he is interests, he will pursue you.
- You are worth him paying for the date. Say thank you.
- no more than 2 drinks.
3. CO-HABITATION:
- Don’t Live Together Before Marriage
- Women don’t have the luxury of wasting their baby-making years.
- Build a life of marriage and family.
- Don’t live together. There is no incentive to move the relationship forward. Women don’t have the biological years to waste.
- Make sure he is ready and maintain your own living space.
- 20s Women have strongest bargaining partner.
4. MEN’S NEED:
- Respect, companionship, sex. When they get these needs are met, a good man will do anything to make his wife happy.
5. WOMEN:
- Women don’t respect men they can dominate.
- W don’t want to have sex with men they don’t respect.
- Women have to be taught and encouraged to respect men.
- Men have to be taught and encouraged to express love.
1. Women enter into emotional connection after sex.
2. DATING RULES:
- Let him chase you. Men love a challenge. When he is interests, he will pursue you.
- You are worth him paying for the date. Say thank you.
- no more than 2 drinks.
3. CO-HABITATION:
- Don’t Live Together Before Marriage
- Women don’t have the luxury of wasting their baby-making years.
- Build a life of marriage and family.
- Don’t live together. There is no incentive to move the relationship forward. Women don’t have the biological years to waste.
- Make sure he is ready and maintain your own living space.
- 20s Women have strongest bargaining partner.
4. MEN’S NEED:
- Respect, companionship, sex. When they get these needs are met, a good man will do anything to make his wife happy.
5. WOMEN:
- Women don’t respect men they can dominate.
- W don’t want to have sex with men they don’t respect.
- Women have to be taught and encouraged to respect men.
- Men have to be taught and encouraged to express love.
October 27, 2024
Great book, conservative dating advice & marriage happiness advice
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