misandry
/mɪˈsandri/
noun
dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against men (i.e. the male sex).
I had many issues with this.
1) I listened to the audiobook. The narration is done by the author herself, and it is fucking awful. She has a monotone voice, and reads with no dedication at all, it sounds so lazy and rushed.
2) There are so many quotes in particular that I take issue with, or find rediculous.
Such as: "refuse to bruise!" I cant? Maybe I just dont like poetry, I think I`m just too impatient to listen to people who speak in similies, I find it so goddamn stupid.
"Some destruction is beautiful." It really isnt tho? I don`t think I get it...
"She begins to wonder if kisses has calories?" Then she`s fucking dumb??
"You think your body is made out of mostly water, but it`s poetry." It`s not though?
I guess I`m missing the point, but I just rolled my eyes so hard at all of these, it kinda hurt.
3) There are also things I simply cannot agree with. I HATE HOW SHE PRESENTS HER THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS AS IF THEYRE UNIVERSAL TO EVERY WOMAN. Her reality isn`t necessarily mine, so why does she use broad terms such as "women" and "us"
There IS no us, Amanda.
I do not feel like all the odds are stacked against me, and I do not feel war-bound. I do not wear red lipstick as a "battle cry," I wear it because I like how it looks. And, ok - for attention. Human beings do things for attention, it`s normal and ok. "I don`t need men`s validation." Great. I don`t NEED it either, but is it so goddamn wrong that I`d like it? Speak YOUR truth, not everyone elses.
4) The misandry. This is not the kind of feminism I vouch for. Do I want equal rights? Hell yeah. Do I want to "tear everything down and build a QUEENDOM because men have had their time?"
NO?? EQUALITY, NOT SUPERIORITY. The men of today are not responsible for what their forefathers did. No man today has ever burned a woman on a stake, so don`t hold them accountable for that.
"Books too difficult for any man to understand."
"He dreams about killing you." WHAT. EVEN.
She talks about killing men. Dismembering men. Burning men.
I know a lot of men I`d be sad to see burn.
I don`t know about you, but I have a nice father, a few nice uncles, an amazing grandfather, I`ve had male friends, I have men in all my classes and the majority are really nice. Yeah, there are assholes. Of course there are, but you don't have to burn the entire house down because there is one snail there. You pick it up, and throw it out.
5) Repeating phrases for 1 minute, making me go fucking crazy. She says "you have to eat" for one minute straight. STOP.
PROS
+ for thanking the women who came before her, for describing the ways in which women have to protect themselves while going out, for calling out the lack of women in history books, for criticising the "other girls"-thing, and for encouraging people to raise their boys better.
Unfortunately, none of this made me want to rate it any higher. The misandry is problematic, the inculsivity feels like pandoring and the book as a whole is a rushed mess.
UPDATE: THE FACT THAT THIS WON THE GOODREADS CHOICE AWARD FOR BEST POETRY BOOK OF 2018 IS AN INSULT TO BOOKS IN GENERAL WTF
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Another update: Mostly I just think this is lazy writing, like taking up a whole page with the phrase "You have to eat." New comments on this review from three years ago is starting to get really annoying. I was 17 and I had a lot to learn still. I've debated removing this review, but I'm keeping it on here for now because I still agree with a lot of what I said and apparently it resonnated with a lot of people who read it. For the record, I actually am a feminist. Just not the kind who dreams about dismembering men, I guess.
Update no. 3: This review was written five years ago by a 17-year-old :) I've wanted to delete it because there are some things I'd like to add or subtract in order to reflect my views years later. But I refuse to take it down simply because of the pissy comments I get and the outrage it inspires. If I ever take it down, it will be on my terms. For the record, I'll delete all comments from now on. Don't waste your time. Write your own review.