Rethink Love: 3 Steps to being the one, attracting the one, and become one

by Monica Berg

I’ve attended more than 500 weddings over 22 years. I’ve been privy to couples’ most intimate moments as they share their hopes for their relationship and fears that arise before the ceremony, and as they work through the inevitable issues that come up afterward. No, I’m not a wedding crasher, I just happen to be married to a Rabbi. Rethink Love is for anyone who is in love, wants love, or wishes to rekindle love. Relationships can be our biggest source of joy and our biggest source of pain. Every relationship has its problems, but the ones that work are the ones we consistently work on. Difficulties aren’t a sign of a bad marriage or a looming breakup. Challenges are a powerful signal that your relationship needs to evolve, and you are being called to reconnect to something greater, to evolve, and love more deeply. Love isn’t something we need to find, accumulate, or protect. It is something that we inherently possess, and the only way to receive it fully is to give it away. We have to throw away our misconceptions of what relationships are in order to embrace what they can be. Rethink Love emphasizes taking responsibility for the quality of your relationships while offering practical pathways to immediate, long-lasting solutions for improving them. Every person is worthy of being loved, and every relationship has the potential to bring lasting fulfillment.

Genres: Self Help, Relationships, Nonfiction

273 pages, Kindle Edition

Published February 9, 2020

About the author

Mother, wife, sister, daughter, teacher, friend, author, podcaster, cardio enthusiast and change junkie, Monica integrates all that she is into her mission of sharing with others, what she’s discovered. Monica is a fresh voice that channels the powerful internal spark of Light living within us all. Authentic and fearless, she reminds us of our extraordinary potential and pushes us onward with compassion and understanding.

While informed by her many years of kabbalistic study, Monica also draws heavily on her own personal life experiences. She battled and overcame a debilitating eating disorder at a young age, and as a mother of four children, one of whom has special needs, she has become an outspoken advocate for him and others struggling to find their voice.

With her trademark blend of humor, insight, and honesty, she shows individuals how to create a life that feels like it is working, like it makes sense, and most importantly, a life in which they are living and loving as the powerful, fulfilled person they’ve always wanted to be. Her personal endeavors have taught her how the practical wisdom of Kabbalah can bring Light and strength into even the most challenging experiences by changing the one thing we can control, ourselves.

Monica Berg, a self-professed Change Junkie, shares her combination of wisdom and real-life awareness with talks found compelling to a wide range of men and women at different stages in their lives. She leads people to not only see how they can change (change is the only constant in life) but inspires them to get excited about a lifestyle of change.

Monica Berg is the author of Fear Is Not an Option, Rethink Love, The Gift of Being Different, co-hosts the Spiritually Hungry podcast, and serves as Co-Director & Chief Communications Officer for Kabbalah Centre International. She lives in New York with her husband Michael and their children David, Joshua, Miriam, and Abigail.

Reviews

[Amanda Webster · Rating 4 out of 5]

To me this book did exactly what the title says - it made me rethink love. At the time I read it I had spent 2 months away from my long distance partner, those two months have since turned into a year and two months and I am still implementing the lessons I learned in this book.
Most importantly this book allowed me to shift my mindset from being a taker to being a giver, to realizing that within a relationship the only things that I can control are my own actions, and my own outpouring of affection. I've stopped trying to control my partner, and certainly stopped trying to change them.
This book was well written, the structure was easy to follow and easy to take lessons from. The author is charming, and her writing embeds humour, spirituality, and the wisdom won from years of marriage.
It is pretty woowoo, and very experienced based. (:

[Liz Tippit · Rating 5 out of 5]

There is so much wisdom here. And so much practical actionable guidance for a better-than-good relationship. I love the way she approaches topics and her candor about some of the most common issues couples have. Who wants to hear that if anyone in your relationship needs to change it's probably you (not your partner)? She delivers the hard truths but most importantly guides you to a place where you can embrace them. In the theme of rethink I was presented with a lot of ideas that seemed backwards but upon consideration so much of what I thought I knew about how good relationships work was pretty flawed. I had several paradigm shifting experiences with this content. I think there is something new here for everyone to learn.

[Victoria Pinder · Rating 5 out of 5]

My husband and I listened to this audio together and it was like every chapter we had something to talk about and grow. Just having some conversations we never had before on topics we don't normally think about was good and the one chapter on how we argue was my favorite portion in the book. It made us really have a great conversation in a way that was like well we can discuss this rationally and not just think in our minds. Great read.

[Jordan · Rating 5 out of 5]

delightful book

I found this book when I started to question “what is love?”. There were some things that I already knew, but it is great to have some reinforcement. This is a must read for any couples looking to grow their relationship. The book is heterosexual based, though, so some things did not apply to my relationship. Lovely book.

[WAYNE BAKER · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loving Takes Effort. Now We Know The Rules.

I loved the easy read & Rules after each chapter. I plan to type them up & post on refrigerator. I wish I had this information years ago & will share with my 3 adult children.

Monica, thank you so very much for sharing from the heart.

Your raving fan, Nonie

[Shuang · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book has shifted some of my misconceptions about intimacy between couples. Like the author has demonstrated throughout this book - “Love is more than just a feeling. It is a process requiring continual attention.”

[María Fernanda · Rating 5 out of 5]

Amazing!!! A must!!!
Increíble, es un libro que todos deberían tener!
Una guía del re descubrimiento del amor incondicional en todas sus presentaciones. Te invita a re pensar tus relaciones 💛

[Julia Alfred · Rating 5 out of 5]

I absolutely enjoyed this book. There are many ideologies that make sense in how we respond in love and to our partners and how we can work on ourselves.

[Ari Yii · Rating 4 out of 5]

I love the way the author writes. Is truly inspiring and I think that she catches the real essence of love and how to get back to it.

And also I love, love, love the title.

[Valen-Marie · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved reading this. Valuable whether you’re single or in a relationship. Really appreciated its incorporation of spirituality and the Kabbalistic principles. So much beautiful wisdom here.

[Elham · Rating 5 out of 5]

So much learning in this book. Loved, understood and enjoyed it so much. It's like learning from Monica's life and experiences.

[Alfredo Saldaña III · Rating 5 out of 5]

Love and your purpose

Do we love with an open heart, was the question it left me asking. Great read see how you love...

[Karen Valenzuela · Rating 2 out of 5]

Repensar en el amor de Monica Berg

Libro de autoayuda para convertirnos en la persona indicada para atraer a la persona indicada. Libro basado en las experiencias propias y de pacientes de la psicologa/autora de este libro.

Se me hizo muy repetitivo y largo.