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Madres Narcisistas: Cómo lidiar con una madre narcisista y recuperarse del TEPT-C
Si usted es un hijo adulto de una madre narcisista, este libro es para usted, y si no está seguro de si su madre abusiva es una narcisista patológica, lo descubrirá.
Si usted lee este libro:
Se dará cuenta de todas las razones por las que su infancia fue tan traumática. Aprenderá a tratar con su madre narcisista sin ser su víctima por más tiempo. Descubrirá todas las creencias y hábitos disfuncionales que desarrolló durante su infancia. Aprenderá a contrastar los síntomas del Trastorno de Estrés Traumático Complejo.Los hijos adultos de padres narcisistas a menudo están plagados de tanta culpa y un profundo sentido de obligación y vergüenza que se sienten obligados a mantener todo lo que sucedió como un secreto familiar, incluso cuando está destrozando sus vidas. Es realmente difícil compartir su experiencia porque los narcisistas, y especialmente una madre narcisista, pueden ser muy buenos para crear la imagen perfecta de la familia para los extraños.
La solución no es perdonar u olvidar, sino comprender y trabajar en su autodesarrollo, y finalmente recuperar el control de su vida.
Incluso si nació en el lugar equivocado y creció lidiando con una madre abusiva, puede dejar atrás el pasado y construir un futuro mejor tomando el control de su vida. Este libro es un camino doloroso de conciencia, pero también es el primer paso de un viaje hacia una vida mejor.
138 pages, Kindle Edition
Published February 3, 2020
About the author
Caroline Foster
11 books24 followersI write books for people who are dealing with narcissists in various situations. I don’t write to display my knowledge or to brag about my credentials.
My books are simple and do not contain bibliographic references because victims of narcissistic abuse are not interested in academic works. They simply recognize the truth in what they read because they have experienced the topics of my books throughout their lives.
Dear survivor of narcissistic abuse, I genuinely care about you, and while healing isn't as simple as reading a book, I hope that my work will make a positive difference in your life. This is my ambition, and I wish you all the best.
Caroline Foster
My books are simple and do not contain bibliographic references because victims of narcissistic abuse are not interested in academic works. They simply recognize the truth in what they read because they have experienced the topics of my books throughout their lives.
Dear survivor of narcissistic abuse, I genuinely care about you, and while healing isn't as simple as reading a book, I hope that my work will make a positive difference in your life. This is my ambition, and I wish you all the best.
Caroline Foster
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April 7, 2021
Tengo que reconocer que este libro me ha sorprendido (aunque necesita una revisión y la traducción es algo regular). Estoy un poco saturada de leer sobre este tema y tenía miedo de lo que podía encontrarme. No obstante, es un libro cortito, sencillo y claro, sin historias personales, cartas o relleno innecesario. Además no pretende suplir en ningún momento a profesionales de salud, al contrario, anima a acceder a terapia (si se tiene ese privilegio, claro). Es como un primer paso, un acercamiento a un problema. Me gusta ese enfoque.
March 1, 2020
My husband bought this book, I would personally never have chosen this actual text because it is self-published on a popular therapy topic without footnotes or references. For this evidence-based therapy trained psychotherapist this is a “no-no.” As a clinician this book is redundant and frustrating, however I find a ton of use for this book for kids (reading level 6th grade and up) who are currently healing from a relationship with a narcissist mother. Whether the kids are currently dealing with the NPD mom, she was recently diagnosed or they are no longer in contact, this book is an easy read and it’s redundancies are helpful to help kids with loyalty binds make sense of the abuse they have endured.
So clinician rating? **
Kid rating? ****
So clinician rating? **
Kid rating? ****
October 8, 2020
This book was mind blowing! It made so much of my childhood makes sense. I totally recommend it for any children who were abused or neglected by their parents. It may just be the key to help you understand what really happened and how it has really affected you. I ended up buying five or six copies for friends and family members and could not be more thrilled with their responses too.
December 2, 2021
Narcissistic Mother's: How to Handle a Narcissistic Parent and Recover from CPTSD, narrated by Trei Taylor, is a book that I liked so much. I've listened to it on Audible, which was convenient while doing different activities.
The tone of the book is very modifying. The is hope for the people who have suffered from Narcissistic Parents and small steps of understanding what is going on in their life, and most of all, it is not children's fault. Finally, learn how to protect ourselves.
The tone of the book is very modifying. The is hope for the people who have suffered from Narcissistic Parents and small steps of understanding what is going on in their life, and most of all, it is not children's fault. Finally, learn how to protect ourselves.
October 8, 2020
Very interesting. Addressed a lot of issues that are similar to adult children of alcoholics and other childhood traumas. Learned a few technical terms and revalidated what many years of therapy teaches already. It’s an excellent introduction to understanding to what you experienced and why, however, be cautious, if you are just starting out on the journey, it should be paired with an excellent, experienced therapist as you work through your discoveries.
July 16, 2020
What I read of the.book i loved!
I'm Tom's wife. Currently in working again on some healing. After realizing that my now deceased mom had created yet another wound in my heart. About 8or so years ago, I had gotten help and healing from many other past issues regarding my mom. Knowing how she was a Narcissists helps, because now I can both label it and understand WHy she was the way she was. Unfortunately my mom never got any help for anything. She was a very wounded and beautiful soul. I was taught in class that "Hurting people hurt people" that statement really stuck with me. About 4 years or so before losing my mom completely to death. Our family had really lost her to both drugs and alochol abuse. She was 57 when she passed. For anyone else who's mother was a Narcissist. Please know the guilt you maybe feeling inside from Not doing what they want you too. Is called false guilt. You are allowed to be your own person ok. It's ok to love you!
I'm Tom's wife. Currently in working again on some healing. After realizing that my now deceased mom had created yet another wound in my heart. About 8or so years ago, I had gotten help and healing from many other past issues regarding my mom. Knowing how she was a Narcissists helps, because now I can both label it and understand WHy she was the way she was. Unfortunately my mom never got any help for anything. She was a very wounded and beautiful soul. I was taught in class that "Hurting people hurt people" that statement really stuck with me. About 4 years or so before losing my mom completely to death. Our family had really lost her to both drugs and alochol abuse. She was 57 when she passed. For anyone else who's mother was a Narcissist. Please know the guilt you maybe feeling inside from Not doing what they want you too. Is called false guilt. You are allowed to be your own person ok. It's ok to love you!
October 6, 2021
don’t waste your time
July 23, 2022
This book was very interesting. For me, so many things from my childhood that never made sense and that confused me now all of a sudden make perfect sense. This book was eye opening.
April 17, 2026
This has already helped me counsel someone whose mother was a legitimate narcissist. Such a tough personality disorder … a good read in a culture where the term gets thrown around flippantly. Fascinating!
March 19, 2025
this book may have just single handedly changed my life . it is all starting to make sense to me now.
September 8, 2026
This book gives various breakdowns.
I like the narcissistic guilt trip where parents act like they are doing you a favor. I had that parent who would brag about how I fed you, housed you, clothed you, etc., as if it were not her job in the first place as a parent. Remind you what they gave up, relationships to raise you, or sacrificed for you. I used to believe it was a cultural, ethnic thing. This is a form of emotional abuse--a red flag of NPD (narcissistic personality disorder). The others listed vary, or she didn't really do or partially did, like not admitting wrongness. Yet she does apologize, only to do the same boundary-crossing thing again, as if the apology were useless, and I would call her on it.
Yes, drama-driven or like chaos, but they claim they do not, yet the actions or behaviors show otherwise. Victim thingy used quite a bit, or like someone else needs to help or do it for her to get out of her situation (manipulation). Emotional response, she'd get out of me most of the time! I hate that I thought I had forgiven and overcome, yet the last visit to help her, I saw I was not fully healed or okay around her, even spending the night or a month with her.
I like the narcissistic guilt trip where parents act like they are doing you a favor. I had that parent who would brag about how I fed you, housed you, clothed you, etc., as if it were not her job in the first place as a parent. Remind you what they gave up, relationships to raise you, or sacrificed for you. I used to believe it was a cultural, ethnic thing. This is a form of emotional abuse--a red flag of NPD (narcissistic personality disorder). The others listed vary, or she didn't really do or partially did, like not admitting wrongness. Yet she does apologize, only to do the same boundary-crossing thing again, as if the apology were useless, and I would call her on it.
Yes, drama-driven or like chaos, but they claim they do not, yet the actions or behaviors show otherwise. Victim thingy used quite a bit, or like someone else needs to help or do it for her to get out of her situation (manipulation). Emotional response, she'd get out of me most of the time! I hate that I thought I had forgiven and overcome, yet the last visit to help her, I saw I was not fully healed or okay around her, even spending the night or a month with her.
January 22, 2023
No es lo primero que he leído sobre el tema, pero sí que es de lo mejorcito que me he cruzado.
Provengo de una familia disfuncional con una madre narcisista y un padre mayormente ausente. La violencia fue moneda corriente desde mi infancia hasta que me fui de la casa de mi madre a los 20 años. Siempre he sabido que la situación en que vivía era tóxica, pero no pude comprender en profundidad cuánto o hasta qué punto me afectaba sino hasta que me fui. Hoy llevo ya 5 años de independencia en los cuales hice mi luto, sufrí, reflexioné y, creo, pude sanar.
Madres Narcisistas me caló particularmente porque pareció haber sido escrita para mí, como si mi madre hubiera sido el objeto de estudio para componer la obra. Algo que me pasó con unos artículos o libros sobre familias disfuncionales que he leído en los últimos años es que abarcaban tantas posibilidades que en ocasiones terminaba leyendo capítulos enteros que no resonaban para nada conmigo antes de volver a lo que sí me era familiar. Aquí no me ocurrió. Párrafo tras párrafo me quedé sin aliento por la certeza con la cual se describía a mi madre, a mi padre, a mi hermana, a mi familia en su conjunto, y a mí misma. Demoré bastante en terminarlo porque de a ratos me traía recuerdos enterrados y cuasi olvidados y terminaba por volverse abrumador.
No puedo ser objetiva con esta lectura porque todo lo leído resonó conmigo. En tan pocas páginas Caroline Foster me ayudó a comprender la psiquis de mi madre (que, en sus propias palabras, no significa justificar ni perdonar sus acciones) y, gracias a ello, mejorar un poco nuestro vínculo y controlar las situaciones y mis reacciones en lugar de dejarme llevar por sus provocaciones.
Pienso que las personas que sospechan que tienen una madre narcisista necesitan leer este libro. Se explican todos los comportamientos y sus posibles variantes en pocas palabras y con un vocabulario fácil de seguir, sin demasiados tecnicismos ni terminología de campo. Asimismo, permite dar una perspectiva humana de los narcisistas sin justificarlos ni hacer sentir al lector-barra-víctima que está obligado a perdonar en el nombre de la salud mental. Además de dar información precisa con ejemplos y sencilla de entender, se destaca por su empatía y la validación a los sentimientos de hijos e hijas de narcisistas.
Provengo de una familia disfuncional con una madre narcisista y un padre mayormente ausente. La violencia fue moneda corriente desde mi infancia hasta que me fui de la casa de mi madre a los 20 años. Siempre he sabido que la situación en que vivía era tóxica, pero no pude comprender en profundidad cuánto o hasta qué punto me afectaba sino hasta que me fui. Hoy llevo ya 5 años de independencia en los cuales hice mi luto, sufrí, reflexioné y, creo, pude sanar.
Madres Narcisistas me caló particularmente porque pareció haber sido escrita para mí, como si mi madre hubiera sido el objeto de estudio para componer la obra. Algo que me pasó con unos artículos o libros sobre familias disfuncionales que he leído en los últimos años es que abarcaban tantas posibilidades que en ocasiones terminaba leyendo capítulos enteros que no resonaban para nada conmigo antes de volver a lo que sí me era familiar. Aquí no me ocurrió. Párrafo tras párrafo me quedé sin aliento por la certeza con la cual se describía a mi madre, a mi padre, a mi hermana, a mi familia en su conjunto, y a mí misma. Demoré bastante en terminarlo porque de a ratos me traía recuerdos enterrados y cuasi olvidados y terminaba por volverse abrumador.
No puedo ser objetiva con esta lectura porque todo lo leído resonó conmigo. En tan pocas páginas Caroline Foster me ayudó a comprender la psiquis de mi madre (que, en sus propias palabras, no significa justificar ni perdonar sus acciones) y, gracias a ello, mejorar un poco nuestro vínculo y controlar las situaciones y mis reacciones en lugar de dejarme llevar por sus provocaciones.
Pienso que las personas que sospechan que tienen una madre narcisista necesitan leer este libro. Se explican todos los comportamientos y sus posibles variantes en pocas palabras y con un vocabulario fácil de seguir, sin demasiados tecnicismos ni terminología de campo. Asimismo, permite dar una perspectiva humana de los narcisistas sin justificarlos ni hacer sentir al lector-barra-víctima que está obligado a perdonar en el nombre de la salud mental. Además de dar información precisa con ejemplos y sencilla de entender, se destaca por su empatía y la validación a los sentimientos de hijos e hijas de narcisistas.
January 21, 2021
If you want a brief introduction into narcissistic mothers with some tips on how to recover from their negative effects then this book is for you. When I say brief I really mean it. Is that a bad thing? No, definitely not. It is far from an in-depth account on the role narcissistic mothers have in the trauma of children and their arrested development. The tips given will play a role in your recovery but I still believe that one should have a solid understanding on how trauma affects the body and brain particularly in children. The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel van der Kolk would be a good book for this. Recovery from CPTSD is a little more than just journaling and positive thinking (although good techniques in recovery) which seems to be a central theme of the tips provided in this book. In saying this, Caroline really does pack the pages with just enough information to begin your recovery from the negative effects of narcissistic mothers. And this information is important for everyone including those who have not been affected by narcissistic mothers.
Because of the brief nature of this book, it would be excellent for when you need a reminder on certain topics, for example the three roles assigned to children by a narcissistic mother. Each section is neatly laid out which allows for quick access to the particularly bits of information one requires in that moment. Although the way the book is written is very simplified and at times is repetitive and lacks good vocabulary, it really doesn't take away from the message being delivered and that is important. The way Caroline has written this works and she does mention how the book is written right at the beginning. It was meant to be this way. It is very easy to read and this supports the notion that the book is meant to be picked up quickly when you need reminding about something on narcissist mothers.
Because of the brief nature of this book, it would be excellent for when you need a reminder on certain topics, for example the three roles assigned to children by a narcissistic mother. Each section is neatly laid out which allows for quick access to the particularly bits of information one requires in that moment. Although the way the book is written is very simplified and at times is repetitive and lacks good vocabulary, it really doesn't take away from the message being delivered and that is important. The way Caroline has written this works and she does mention how the book is written right at the beginning. It was meant to be this way. It is very easy to read and this supports the notion that the book is meant to be picked up quickly when you need reminding about something on narcissist mothers.
January 9, 2021
The narration for this title is absolutely terrible. The narrator sounds like a bad text-to-speech program -- think Dragon Naturally Speaking in 2003 or so. There's no inflection or there's too much inflection; her tone is mechanical or saccharine, and the pauses? Good grief. She pauses every 10 seconds in all the wrong places. It throws everything off. You will be relieved when she stops speaking. This is useful information to have (insofar as I think one can actually "heal" from CPTSD; I have major doubts on that score), but take my advice and find a better place to get it. Maybe from the print book.
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June 13, 2021Es una buena primera aproximación a este tema. Un pequeño vistazo a otro de esos tabúes que parece que todavía perduran en nuestro tiempo. Es uno de esos libros que, posiblemente, puedan aportar claridad a quien lo necesita (aunque todavía no lo sepa)
Por otra parte, la traducción y la (nula) corrección del texto son para devolverlo directamente.
Por otra parte, la traducción y la (nula) corrección del texto son para devolverlo directamente.
August 2, 2020
This book is an easy read and offers an organized approach to dealing with a narcissistic parent. Well written and digestible material.
May 5, 2024
Very eye opening and helpful. I highly recommend.
January 9, 2023
i was very hesitant to read this book, as i'm not huge on self help books in general - let alone self diagnosis books, but i'm genuinely glad i was recommended this and gave it a try. i've never had my childhood (or rather, my mother) summed up so directly and bluntly in text. while i've certainly considered my mother to be a narcissist, this book empowered me to do further research and encouraged a different path in my own self discovery and self improvement. the writing is easy to understand and empathetic, you can tell the author speaks from a place of experience and history. the only portion of the text that did not sit well with me was how black-and-white the 'enabling father' chapter was.
this, once again, could be taken from caroline's own background and it's possible that she's projecting her residual hurt and distaste onto the pages, however the rest of the book was about options. allowing all readers to find a 'version' of themselves, or a 'victim/mold' they could relate to. to state that every father in the parent dynamic is an enabler who "allowed their child to be abused" is a very harmful way of thinking. i can speak on a personal level that without my father, i would not have survived or became who i am today, and while there is always room for improvement, i could never see him as someone who backed down and allowed abuse. if anything, he was both a protector role and her victim. then again - it is possible those of us with narcissistic mothers each have very different relationships to their one, remaining parent and i am projecting as well.
even if you don't have a narcissistic parent yourself, if you're trying to support someone who does - this is, without a doubt, worth the read.
this, once again, could be taken from caroline's own background and it's possible that she's projecting her residual hurt and distaste onto the pages, however the rest of the book was about options. allowing all readers to find a 'version' of themselves, or a 'victim/mold' they could relate to. to state that every father in the parent dynamic is an enabler who "allowed their child to be abused" is a very harmful way of thinking. i can speak on a personal level that without my father, i would not have survived or became who i am today, and while there is always room for improvement, i could never see him as someone who backed down and allowed abuse. if anything, he was both a protector role and her victim. then again - it is possible those of us with narcissistic mothers each have very different relationships to their one, remaining parent and i am projecting as well.
even if you don't have a narcissistic parent yourself, if you're trying to support someone who does - this is, without a doubt, worth the read.
March 22, 2023
I started this book being absolutely blown away. I was up every night reading it just feeling so seen and understood by this author. It was such an aid in me recognizing deeper patterns in myself and even more toxic behavior than I could see before in my mother. I gained a lot of courage and strength through reading, to be able to set more boundaries and even go fully no contact a few weeks ago with my mother. This book is filled with wonderful information for the first section or two, but the last roughly 35% of the book is a real hit or miss. I didn’t realize before reading that the author is a life coach rather than a trained professional therapist, and the advice given further into the book should be taken with a grain of salt. There is a good bit of emphasis on being fully healed™️, and the advice is written almost fully in bullet point style. I was really turned off by the formatting change, and how easy she made it seem to recover from such a difficult mental health disorder as CPTSD is.
So overall, I love the amount of information and awareness this author brings to narcissism, yet I believe the advice they give in the second half lacks the nuance and professionalism needed for the topic
So overall, I love the amount of information and awareness this author brings to narcissism, yet I believe the advice they give in the second half lacks the nuance and professionalism needed for the topic
December 22, 2022
Another extremely validating book that goes through a day in your life with you so accurately that it gives you whip lash. I enjoyed the chapter that provided solutions and tips on how to reframe your inner dialogue. This was a super short read, only a 3.5 hour audiobook. I would recommend this to anyone that needs something to tell them it’s not their fault and remind you that you’re only a victim in your game of life.
March 3, 2024
This is written in a way that feels like you’re talking to someone who just “gets it”, but it is obvious that said person is also a professional in dealing with these things. Not only does it give a lot of background on the disorder itself, but it has some good journal prompts, actionable steps to take on your own, guidelines on the types of therapists/y to seek, ways to handle your abuser in social situations and good cues to be on the lookout for in yourself and your narcissistic abuser.
I have found that most books will typically only act as a “test” to discover if NPD is what someone has, so I enjoyed this book as a resource. It’ll be handy to keep on the shelf to reference.
I have found that most books will typically only act as a “test” to discover if NPD is what someone has, so I enjoyed this book as a resource. It’ll be handy to keep on the shelf to reference.
October 7, 2024
2,5/5 ⭐️
La versión en español necesita una revisión. ✍🏼
Como primer acercamiento a este tema puede ser buena opción, especialmente para jóvenes y adolescentes.
La versión en español necesita una revisión. ✍🏼
Como primer acercamiento a este tema puede ser buena opción, especialmente para jóvenes y adolescentes.
July 22, 2026
Forget the opinion of clinicians - Caroline has absolutely nailed it with this book.
Written for childults like me, who have spent their entire life (32years!) desperately trying to fix a hopeless mother-daughter relationship, I cannot thank her enough.
She's written this in a way that's focused on what really matters when it comes to identifying a narcissistic parent and the symptoms that the child/childult experiences. Plus how to deal with those symptoms.
Something that stood out to me was her explanation of C-PTSD flashbacks. For the first time, they make sense to me, and I now know how to identify and handle them.
Caroline, thank you for writing this book, you've saved my life.
Childult = child adult
Written for childults like me, who have spent their entire life (32years!) desperately trying to fix a hopeless mother-daughter relationship, I cannot thank her enough.
She's written this in a way that's focused on what really matters when it comes to identifying a narcissistic parent and the symptoms that the child/childult experiences. Plus how to deal with those symptoms.
Something that stood out to me was her explanation of C-PTSD flashbacks. For the first time, they make sense to me, and I now know how to identify and handle them.
Caroline, thank you for writing this book, you've saved my life.
Childult = child adult
January 9, 2021
Highly Recommend
This was an incredibly enlightening book. If you are the child of a narcissist you will find this book very validating.
This was an incredibly enlightening book. If you are the child of a narcissist you will find this book very validating.
March 11, 2022
Validating.
April 1, 2026
Good book. Helpful. Easy read. Good advise.
December 21, 2020
This will definitely put things in perspective. You're going to learn a lot about how to deal and recognize and start to recover!
September 4, 2026
WORK LIBRARY READ
I ALSO BELIEVE I HAVE A NARCISSIC PARENT.
I ALSO BELIEVE I HAVE A NARCISSIC PARENT.
December 18, 2020
This book is self published and it shows, but boy am I thankful for it. It made me feel like I was reading the story of my life, and I don’t think I’ve ever felt so understood.
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May 2, 2021oof 👀
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