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Making Space: Creating boundaries in an ever-encroaching world
Boundaries and self-care go hand in hand; you can't have one without the other. We understand the importance of self-care, but how do we protect the space within which we do it?
When we have healthy boundaries, we create a space between us and all else, where we feel safe, clear and confident in who we are and what we want and need. Our boundaries - the limits we place on what we will and won't tolerate - define our routines, habits, choices, parenting, jobs, relationships; everything. And there's nothing more important for our self-care.
In this practical guide, Jayne Hardy - author of The Self-Care Project and founder and CEO of The Blurt Foundation - helps us explore our existing boundaries; the ones that work for us and the ones that work against us; and guides us on creating new boundaries so that our physical, mental, emotional and digital spaces are protected.
Packed with friendly advice, the latest research and worksheets to help you reflect on your own experiences, Making Space is for anyone who feels overwhelmed, disconnected or walked on by life, and wants to make a change in an ever-encroaching world.
When we have healthy boundaries, we create a space between us and all else, where we feel safe, clear and confident in who we are and what we want and need. Our boundaries - the limits we place on what we will and won't tolerate - define our routines, habits, choices, parenting, jobs, relationships; everything. And there's nothing more important for our self-care.
In this practical guide, Jayne Hardy - author of The Self-Care Project and founder and CEO of The Blurt Foundation - helps us explore our existing boundaries; the ones that work for us and the ones that work against us; and guides us on creating new boundaries so that our physical, mental, emotional and digital spaces are protected.
Packed with friendly advice, the latest research and worksheets to help you reflect on your own experiences, Making Space is for anyone who feels overwhelmed, disconnected or walked on by life, and wants to make a change in an ever-encroaching world.
- GenresSelf HelpNonfiction
200 pages, Paperback
Published March 31, 2020
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January 15, 2021
Well written, funny and easy to understand. The worksheets really help to consolidate the information and helps with the practical aspect of boundaries.
June 8, 2020
Self-care is crucial in this cut-throat world we live in. Understanding its importance and how to protect the space within which we achieve this is something we should all be aware of. Hardy explores the reader’s existing boundaries, the ones that work for them and the ones that don’t. She demonstrates how to create new boundaries in a way that our physical, mental, emotional and digital spaces are protected.
Throughout this book Hardy takes the reader on a journey of re-self-discovery. We learn a little about her personal experiences and why she has written this book, along with what our boundaries are and making space within relationships, the digital age and around work. She also includes blank exercise sheets for the reader to fill in that will help them rebuild or strengthen their boundaries. It’s interesting as having it there in black and white in front of you helps you focus and begin your journey of change.
Hardy’s writing style is personal as she speaks directly to the reader. This is essential in a self-care book as the reader needs to be able to feel connected and be able to relate to what they are reading. It allows the experience to take full effect as you will be looking at your own boundaries, relationships and why you have them in place. You will feel vulnerable as you are opening up to a new way of thinking, ways to say “No” and to stop people-pleasing. With Hardy’s encouragement and positivity you feel a sense of worth as she reminds you that you are enough. It’s inspiring to see as you know she is with you on this difficult journey. She cheers you on prompting that this is your book, your way. Truly refreshing to read as such positive encouraging support is hard to come by these days.
There is so much to learn from this book. It reminded me at times of my therapy sessions and how quite often in life you need that outside perspective. I re-learned how getting enough sleep will impact your mood and behaviour. Tips on how to limit stress and time spent on my phone. To remember that I am not just a mother, that I have an identity and I shouldn’t lose it because I am a parent. Hardy is with you every step of the way and breaks it down into digestible enjoyable chunks, showing the reader why we act and respond the way we do and how we can work on changing this. It’s a learning process that leaves you feeling more than satisfied with the end results.
The chapter Making Space In The Digital Age will speak to many, if not all readers and offers interesting advice and helpful tips that will make a difference. We are constantly glued to our phones, forever looking down and scrolling. One of the many traps we all fall victim to is social media. Hardy shows the reader how what we see on the internet has been chosen, edited and filtered. That it is not real life. People choose what they want people to see so naturally you would only put up the best. Hardy peels back the layers of social media leaving it exposed and unrecognisable to the reader. You start to see the internet for what it is and stop comparing your life to others and start the process of making space, giving your mind room to breathe.
I give Making Space: Creating boundaries in an ever-encroaching world By Jayne Hardy a Five out of Five paw rating.
A burst of positive glorious energy. This book is perfect for anyone who is feeling suffocated or adrift in their day to day and wants to make a change. You need to get your paws on this. We have to start looking after ourselves, as self-neglect can lead down a very dangerous path. We need to make time and space for ourselves, to not forget that we are important and are always, always enough. Food for the mind, feed it this most delicious treat dear reader, you won’t regret it.
Throughout this book Hardy takes the reader on a journey of re-self-discovery. We learn a little about her personal experiences and why she has written this book, along with what our boundaries are and making space within relationships, the digital age and around work. She also includes blank exercise sheets for the reader to fill in that will help them rebuild or strengthen their boundaries. It’s interesting as having it there in black and white in front of you helps you focus and begin your journey of change.
Hardy’s writing style is personal as she speaks directly to the reader. This is essential in a self-care book as the reader needs to be able to feel connected and be able to relate to what they are reading. It allows the experience to take full effect as you will be looking at your own boundaries, relationships and why you have them in place. You will feel vulnerable as you are opening up to a new way of thinking, ways to say “No” and to stop people-pleasing. With Hardy’s encouragement and positivity you feel a sense of worth as she reminds you that you are enough. It’s inspiring to see as you know she is with you on this difficult journey. She cheers you on prompting that this is your book, your way. Truly refreshing to read as such positive encouraging support is hard to come by these days.
There is so much to learn from this book. It reminded me at times of my therapy sessions and how quite often in life you need that outside perspective. I re-learned how getting enough sleep will impact your mood and behaviour. Tips on how to limit stress and time spent on my phone. To remember that I am not just a mother, that I have an identity and I shouldn’t lose it because I am a parent. Hardy is with you every step of the way and breaks it down into digestible enjoyable chunks, showing the reader why we act and respond the way we do and how we can work on changing this. It’s a learning process that leaves you feeling more than satisfied with the end results.
The chapter Making Space In The Digital Age will speak to many, if not all readers and offers interesting advice and helpful tips that will make a difference. We are constantly glued to our phones, forever looking down and scrolling. One of the many traps we all fall victim to is social media. Hardy shows the reader how what we see on the internet has been chosen, edited and filtered. That it is not real life. People choose what they want people to see so naturally you would only put up the best. Hardy peels back the layers of social media leaving it exposed and unrecognisable to the reader. You start to see the internet for what it is and stop comparing your life to others and start the process of making space, giving your mind room to breathe.
I give Making Space: Creating boundaries in an ever-encroaching world By Jayne Hardy a Five out of Five paw rating.
A burst of positive glorious energy. This book is perfect for anyone who is feeling suffocated or adrift in their day to day and wants to make a change. You need to get your paws on this. We have to start looking after ourselves, as self-neglect can lead down a very dangerous path. We need to make time and space for ourselves, to not forget that we are important and are always, always enough. Food for the mind, feed it this most delicious treat dear reader, you won’t regret it.
February 18, 2020
"Boundaries are inescapable: they're the physical, mental, digital, emotional, environmental, spiritual and cultural constructs that crest a framework which underpins and influences how we behave, our expectations on how those around us might behave, what we take responsibility for, what others take responsibility for, what we let in and what we keep out, and the relationship we have with ourselves and everything around us."
The author of The Self-Care Project, and its accompanying journal, is back with a book about how to create healthy boundaries. As a 'fixer' and people pleaser, I was sure I could learn something. Split into nine chapter, Hardy explains her own experiences with boundaries, defines boundaries, suggests how to explain boundaries to children and delves into digital, relationship, work, societal and emergency boundaries (the latter is so very useful!). She also recommends websites, apps and social media accounts to explore.
I picked up some vital points from this book:
1. Healthy boundaries are not selfish.
2. We're not always taught boundaries (especially when it is in someone's interest for us not to have them). Children benefit from learning healthy boundaries.
3. Ask for and accept help.
I enjoyed reading this supportive book and value its advice, which I plan to put into practice. Written with warmth and experience, this is a thought-provoking and empowering read.
The author of The Self-Care Project, and its accompanying journal, is back with a book about how to create healthy boundaries. As a 'fixer' and people pleaser, I was sure I could learn something. Split into nine chapter, Hardy explains her own experiences with boundaries, defines boundaries, suggests how to explain boundaries to children and delves into digital, relationship, work, societal and emergency boundaries (the latter is so very useful!). She also recommends websites, apps and social media accounts to explore.
I picked up some vital points from this book:
1. Healthy boundaries are not selfish.
2. We're not always taught boundaries (especially when it is in someone's interest for us not to have them). Children benefit from learning healthy boundaries.
3. Ask for and accept help.
I enjoyed reading this supportive book and value its advice, which I plan to put into practice. Written with warmth and experience, this is a thought-provoking and empowering read.
September 12, 2021
This has been on my “to read” physical bookshelf for the past 18+ months (pre-pandemic). I did a shelf sort out a week or so ago and found this again. I was going to send it straight to the charity shop but decided that it could come away on holiday with us so I could skim read a couple of chapters that seemed relevant. To my surprise I’ve read the whole thing in two days. Super easy to read. Relevant and relatable. And has left me with a fine selection of phrases to use when I need to say No to something.
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August 17, 2020Like reading a story about me
I love all of Jayne's books. There are so many times that I'm reading away and think "that's me!" . I have struggled with self-care and boundaries all my life and always thought there was something wrong with me. Now I realise that there are others in the same boat and yes, people have been taking advantage of my knid , helpful nature. If this sounds familiar...you have to read this book!
I love all of Jayne's books. There are so many times that I'm reading away and think "that's me!" . I have struggled with self-care and boundaries all my life and always thought there was something wrong with me. Now I realise that there are others in the same boat and yes, people have been taking advantage of my knid , helpful nature. If this sounds familiar...you have to read this book!
April 4, 2021
This was just the perfect book for me to read at this moment in time. I didn't realise this was the same author as the Self Help Project I read a few years ago. I loved this much more.
Beautifully put and divided into sections about making much needed space and creating your own personal boundaries, and feeling confident in doing so. I just want to soak the pages up and hope the words stay with me.
I feel like this book could help everyone.💫
Beautifully put and divided into sections about making much needed space and creating your own personal boundaries, and feeling confident in doing so. I just want to soak the pages up and hope the words stay with me.
I feel like this book could help everyone.💫
February 26, 2023
I love this book very much. Although English is not my first language that makes me don’t understand some informal words , it is inevitably great book for me to reflect my previous self. Highly recommend to those who are disconnected with their lives or struggled to find their true value.
May 18, 2020
Making Space
Another excellent book by Jayne Hardy.
Making Space shows you how to create boundaries in your life so you have some much needed space.
Highly recommended.
Another excellent book by Jayne Hardy.
Making Space shows you how to create boundaries in your life so you have some much needed space.
Highly recommended.
August 27, 2021
This is more about how to spot ill-defined or nonexistent boundaries than implementing boundaries, but it was helpful nevertheless.
October 9, 2021
What rubbish!
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