Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness

by Debi Silber

Recovering from betrayal can be hard, but it can be done with grace, love, and dignity, using the tips and tools in this warm and engaging book on learning to trust again.

You couldn’t brace yourself because you never saw it coming. Your sense of safety and security is shattered in an instant, and the shock is imprinted on your body and mind. Your heart breaks, you feel like you got sucker punched, and the pain is so raw, consuming, and overwhelming you can barely breathe. Someone close to you, possibly a family member, partner, or friend, just pulled the rug out from underneath you—lies you so easily believed and actions you dismissed because it never crossed your mind that the one you trusted the most could ever hurt you. You thought this person had your back. You thought the two of you were honoring the same rules, sharing the same moral code, and respecting the same beliefs. This was a person you loved, trusted, and believed.

This is what it feels like to be blindsided by betrayal.

During times of betrayal, when we most need support, sometimes the ones we would turn to first are the betrayers. Other times, we’re saddled with shame and fear. But it’s during these times when we need to turn for help and learn to trust again. This work offers support, comfort, and community to those struggling with feelings associated with betrayal and guides them to healing from a painful experience with betrayal.

Readers will learn about, and move through the proven five stages from betrayal to breakthrough, and will be lovingly guided with tools and strategies along the way. They’ll also learn how predictable healing can be as they read not only Debi’s journey through betrayal, but the stories of others who have learned to copy, heal, and move on from betrayal to a place of trust and well-being. Readers will identify with at least a few of the many people in the book who share their unique experiences. In addition, they’ll learn about the three groups who didn’t heal and be inspired to take a different course of action so that they can have a more positive outcome.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction

248 pages, Hardcover

Published October 4, 2020

Reviews

[Ally · Rating 3 out of 5]

My therapist recommended this book based off of Debi Silber's Ted Talk. I think her topics on PBT (post betrayal transformation) were excellent and 95% spot-on. I think it might help couples who are struggling with betrayal but are hoping that reconciliation is possible. I found it interesting that all of Dr Silber's study participants featured in the book were divorced at the time of the study. Debi's betrayal and reconciliation story is the only one that actually involved reunification of the marriage in any way, which felt odd considering the title of the book.

I also did not enjoy the aspects that involved "trusting yourself", or "trusting the higher beings and the universe". So if you are a Christian you might glean from some of this, but take it with a big grain of salt.

[Minke · Rating 5 out of 5]

Really enjoyed this book and it's insightful exercises. Grateful to have found it.

[Ana]

Acgtually good

[Carol · Rating 3 out of 5]

Insightful but not the miracle cure I'm seeking. 😅