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گذر از رنجش بین ما: التیامبخشی و آشتی بدون هیچ مصالحه
ارتباط بدون خشونت به شما کمک میکند:
خود را از آثار تجربیات گذشته و یادگیری فرهنگی آزاد کنید.
الگوهای فکری را که منجر به مبادله، خشم و افسردگی میشوند در هم بشکنید.
تعارضات را با آرامش حل کنید چه شخصی باشند چه عمومی، محلی باشند یا بین المللی.
ساختار اجتماعی را به وجود آورید که از برآورده شدن نیاز همه حمایت میکند.
روابط را بر اساس احترام متقابل، محبت و همکاری شکل دهید.
خود را از آثار تجربیات گذشته و یادگیری فرهنگی آزاد کنید.
الگوهای فکری را که منجر به مبادله، خشم و افسردگی میشوند در هم بشکنید.
تعارضات را با آرامش حل کنید چه شخصی باشند چه عمومی، محلی باشند یا بین المللی.
ساختار اجتماعی را به وجود آورید که از برآورده شدن نیاز همه حمایت میکند.
روابط را بر اساس احترام متقابل، محبت و همکاری شکل دهید.
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First published September 1, 2004
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About the author
Marshall B. Rosenberg
109 books1,043 followersMarshall Rosenberg was an American psychologist and the creator of Nonviolent Communication, a communication process that helps people to exchange the information necessary to resolve conflicts and differences peacefully. He was the founder and Director of Educational Services for the Center for Nonviolent Communication, an international non-profit organization.
In 1961, Rosenberg received his Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the University of Wisconsin–Madison and in 1966 was awarded Diplomate status in clinical psychology from the American Board of Examiners in Professional Psychology. He lived in Albuquerque, New Mexico, where the Center for Nonviolent Communication's office is located.
In 1961, Rosenberg received his Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the University of Wisconsin–Madison and in 1966 was awarded Diplomate status in clinical psychology from the American Board of Examiners in Professional Psychology. He lived in Albuquerque, New Mexico, where the Center for Nonviolent Communication's office is located.
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August 17, 2019
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کتابهای روزنبرگ رو به خاطر مامانم میخونم. چند ساله که با تعهد ستایش برانگیزی داره روی خودش و زخمهاش و روابطش و الگوهای رفتاریش کار میکنه. و بیشتر این تلاشها هم در کارگاههای ارتباط بدون خشونت اتفاق میافتن.
با ذات ماجرا همدلم اما یه زاویههایی باهاش دارم که هنوز نمیتونم صورتبندی کنم دقیق. حتی مطمئن نیستم زاویه واقعا با حرفهای روزنبرگه یا با شیوهی استفادهی مامانم ازشون و شت شخصیای که اونجا دارم.
یه جوری «خود» و حسها و نیازهاش رو آجر اول هر تحلیل و التیامی میذاره که میخوام سرم رو بکوبم به دیوار. ولی در نهایت روش و نتیجه چیز خودخواهانهای نیست... مشکلم باهاش تئوریکه. که خب، اگه صادق باشم آنچه التیامی به همراه داشته در ارتباط مشوش من و مامانم، تئوریهای من نبوده. روشهای مامانم بوده. فلذا دارم دندون رو جیگر میذارم و بیشتر خواهم خوند ازش.
از این کتاب اونچه به همراه میبرم «تمرکز بر آنچه در زمان حال در ما -و در دیگری- زندهاست» و «مواجهه با تاثیر اتفاقات گذشته بر اون چیزهای زنده در اکنون» ه. که در مقابل «تمرکز بر وقایع گذشته» قرار میگیره. و تاکید بر اینکه التیام ما از یک رنجش، وابسته به کنشهای طرف مقابل یا کسی که موجب رنجش ما شده نیست. همون چیزی که چند ماه پیش بعد از دو جلسهی سنگین تراپی دربارهی ارتباط با مامان بهش رسیده بودم. برای درمان من در اکنون، کاری از پدر و مادرم بر نمیاد. نیازی هم بهشون نیست. درمان و التیام کار شخصی ماست و در نهایت توش تنهاییم.
کتاب به اسم «گذر از رنجش بین ما» با ترجمهی کامران رحیمیان چاپ شده.
کتابهای روزنبرگ رو به خاطر مامانم میخونم. چند ساله که با تعهد ستایش برانگیزی داره روی خودش و زخمهاش و روابطش و الگوهای رفتاریش کار میکنه. و بیشتر این تلاشها هم در کارگاههای ارتباط بدون خشونت اتفاق میافتن.
با ذات ماجرا همدلم اما یه زاویههایی باهاش دارم که هنوز نمیتونم صورتبندی کنم دقیق. حتی مطمئن نیستم زاویه واقعا با حرفهای روزنبرگه یا با شیوهی استفادهی مامانم ازشون و شت شخصیای که اونجا دارم.
یه جوری «خود» و حسها و نیازهاش رو آجر اول هر تحلیل و التیامی میذاره که میخوام سرم رو بکوبم به دیوار. ولی در نهایت روش و نتیجه چیز خودخواهانهای نیست... مشکلم باهاش تئوریکه. که خب، اگه صادق باشم آنچه التیامی به همراه داشته در ارتباط مشوش من و مامانم، تئوریهای من نبوده. روشهای مامانم بوده. فلذا دارم دندون رو جیگر میذارم و بیشتر خواهم خوند ازش.
از این کتاب اونچه به همراه میبرم «تمرکز بر آنچه در زمان حال در ما -و در دیگری- زندهاست» و «مواجهه با تاثیر اتفاقات گذشته بر اون چیزهای زنده در اکنون» ه. که در مقابل «تمرکز بر وقایع گذشته» قرار میگیره. و تاکید بر اینکه التیام ما از یک رنجش، وابسته به کنشهای طرف مقابل یا کسی که موجب رنجش ما شده نیست. همون چیزی که چند ماه پیش بعد از دو جلسهی سنگین تراپی دربارهی ارتباط با مامان بهش رسیده بودم. برای درمان من در اکنون، کاری از پدر و مادرم بر نمیاد. نیازی هم بهشون نیست. درمان و التیام کار شخصی ماست و در نهایت توش تنهاییم.
کتاب به اسم «گذر از رنجش بین ما» با ترجمهی کامران رحیمیان چاپ شده.
October 20, 2024
Weer mooie inzichten over NVC en dit keer echt over hoe empathie inhoudt dat je je verbindt met wat aanwezig is in iemand anders en welke fases en stappen er zijn om pijn tussen mensen los te laten.
August 23, 2015
A fast read, and engaging. This is essentially a transcript of a section of a workshop or public talk, where Marshall demonstrates an important process of connection and mourning, with participants. The process itself I have found quite valuable. Marshall's form of teaching sometimes seems simplistic, folksy or arrogant in a way that bugs me, even when I appreciate the content (and I will say, nonviolent communication has changed my life for the better).
February 19, 2021
دریچهای به دنیای ان وی سی یا همون ارتباط بین خشونت با خوندن این کتاب و قبل این، کتاب پرورش محبت آمیز کودکان برام باز شد. ولی همچنان سوالهای زیادی راجع به این رویکرد برام بی پاسخ مونده و نیازه که از این مجموعه بیشتر بخونم. ضمن اینکه خود کتابها هم حجم کمی دارند و شاید آنطور که باید و شاید وارد جزییات و چگونگی انجام روش نمیشن. به هر حال به عنوان متدی نو برام شیرین بود و نکات بدیع زیادی داشت. مثلا اینکه "عذرخواهی روشی خشونت باره" یا اینکه بدون حضور شخصی که موجب رنجش تو هست نیز میشه التیام حاصل کرد(هرچند که آنچنان خوب وارد این قسمت بحث نشد) یا اینکه در این روش همدردی نکوهیده میشه و همدلی ستایش و فرقشون اینه که در اولی شما میگید " میفهمم چه احساسی داری،یا اینکه این موضوع که بیان کردی عمیقا ناراحتم کرد" همدردی مد نظر ما نیست چرا که توجه رو از فرد میدزده و روی ما معطوف میکنه. ما نمیخوایم از کس دیگه سرشار بشیم. ما صرفا باید حضور داشته باشیم. این تنها چیزیه که نیازه. این حضور حتی لازم نیست به طور کلامی تاکید شه. شاید بیست دقیقه در سکوت به حرفهای کسی گوش دادن و به لحظه لحظهاش توجه داشتن، حق مطلب رو ادا کنه.
January 31, 2024
Marshall Rosenberg's book Nonviolent Communication - A Language of Life has been life-changing for me since I first read it in 2003. It is my most recommended book; a coaching client tells me that he read it so often his first copy fell apart.
This book - Getting Past the Pain Between Us - is a slender volume, a transcript of a workshop. I read it in one sitting.
I wonder if readers will get the full value without reading Rosenberg's book Nonviolent Communication - A Language of Life. This would be recommendation. An alternative is to look out Rosenberg's videos on YouTube, which include a three-hour introduction. (I picture Rosenberg in his orange shirt on this videos.)
For my purposes, reading this slim volume again was a reminder of Rosenberg's teachings, packaged in just 40 pages.
This book - Getting Past the Pain Between Us - is a slender volume, a transcript of a workshop. I read it in one sitting.
I wonder if readers will get the full value without reading Rosenberg's book Nonviolent Communication - A Language of Life. This would be recommendation. An alternative is to look out Rosenberg's videos on YouTube, which include a three-hour introduction. (I picture Rosenberg in his orange shirt on this videos.)
For my purposes, reading this slim volume again was a reminder of Rosenberg's teachings, packaged in just 40 pages.
October 12, 2018
Ce tout petit livre est un court compte-rendu d'un stage donné par Marshall Rosenberg, où il met en pratique les aptitudes nécessaires pour parvenir à une écoute authentique (ou non-violente), qui mise sur le ressenti au moment présent plutôt que sur les jugements ou, ce que nous faisons trop souvent, les reproches et l'attitude défensive face à ces reproches (exprimés ou imaginés), laquelle empêche un véritable échange nécessaire à la résolution des problèmes. Il reste à espérer que la personne avec qui nous avons besoin d'établir ou de rétablir cette communication soit ouverte à l'écoute...
May 16, 2018
Very useful addon to the main book
The book is a transcript from a workshop and focus on relationships where people experiencea lot of pain with very useful insight on how to start and sustain productive dialogue in challenging emotional backgroinds.
The book is a transcript from a workshop and focus on relationships where people experiencea lot of pain with very useful insight on how to start and sustain productive dialogue in challenging emotional backgroinds.
December 18, 2017
This short booklet is mostly transcribed dialog from workshops. However, the summary of the empathetic healing process is worth the read.
February 10, 2020
I bought this book to try and try and heal a rift with a family member, but I'm not sure that I could use it without supervised practice first. However it is food for thought.
May 3, 2020
Simple and straight forward. Good points to take away.
May 21, 2022
I don't like to write
A review o just give give stars I liked book. It
says ten more words are required. Why do you limited people expressions ? Strange.
A review o just give give stars I liked book. It
says ten more words are required. Why do you limited people expressions ? Strange.
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October 25, 2022what can i say saved my relationship
June 18, 2024
Some really interesting ideas around empathy, kindness, rupture and repair, from a revolutionary heart. Thank you Marshall- you’ve left quite a legacy.
December 1, 2025
Pure gold for navigating conflict without abandoning myself. It taught me to bridge 'you hurt me' and 'this is what I need.' When I shut down in heated moments in my head, self-talk, or in real-time moments, I find that these scripts are helpful.
February 2, 2017
Getting Past the Pain Between Us
Being that this was not a novel, I cannot really use my normal star rating system that I borrowed from my friend. I grew up with the NVC (nonviolent communication) process. My mother and grandmother were both very interested in this, I however had never read any of the books or gone to any of the meeting/workshops for this. This book was the first one I've read. I read it because it was short and because I lost my father recently and wanted to maybe learn how to grieve. It did not help me with that, but it was interesting none the less. Getting Past the Pain Between Us, was more of a guide to resolve differences between people. Resolve the hurts and anger, through role playing and leaning the skill of empathy. One thing the author wrote "Playing with your pain." struck a cord with me, though maybe not in the way the author might have thought it would. To me, it meant that I could detach myself from my pain, analyze it, figure it out, "play" with it, and hopefully resolve it. The author, Rosenberg, begins the book with a role-playing scenario of someone that has pain with their family member, and through this role playing, is able to resolve their issues and problems that they had with their brother. Then he proceeds with explaining what he was doing in the roleplaying and introduced the tool/skill of empathy, and how to apply it. I found the last portion of the book the most useful. Where he outlines the steps to apply.
Being that this was not a novel, I cannot really use my normal star rating system that I borrowed from my friend. I grew up with the NVC (nonviolent communication) process. My mother and grandmother were both very interested in this, I however had never read any of the books or gone to any of the meeting/workshops for this. This book was the first one I've read. I read it because it was short and because I lost my father recently and wanted to maybe learn how to grieve. It did not help me with that, but it was interesting none the less. Getting Past the Pain Between Us, was more of a guide to resolve differences between people. Resolve the hurts and anger, through role playing and leaning the skill of empathy. One thing the author wrote "Playing with your pain." struck a cord with me, though maybe not in the way the author might have thought it would. To me, it meant that I could detach myself from my pain, analyze it, figure it out, "play" with it, and hopefully resolve it. The author, Rosenberg, begins the book with a role-playing scenario of someone that has pain with their family member, and through this role playing, is able to resolve their issues and problems that they had with their brother. Then he proceeds with explaining what he was doing in the roleplaying and introduced the tool/skill of empathy, and how to apply it. I found the last portion of the book the most useful. Where he outlines the steps to apply.
August 10, 2016
I came to know about NVC from an elderly gentleman and the way he talked to others made me feel that yes, he is indeed talking compassionately. So, I was interested in knowing more about NVC. Instead of reading the main NVC book first, I somehow happened to pick this one up and read it in a week. One can read it in an hour but many a times, I just felt the need to let the process sink in by taking a break and thinking over it. Since it was an indirect introduction to NVC, nonetheless, I am in love with Marshall Rosenberg for working on this technique and series. It makes so much sense and I could look back at so many incidences where unintentionally I landed myself in situations of conflict - hurting myself and others in process. Do read it - although starting with the main guide of NVC might be a better idea.
October 15, 2008
step by step, helpful for the depth of transformation.
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June 13, 2018When I think about how and why I rate a book, this workshop transcript does not fit into my reasoning. Read if you are interested in how non-violent communication can be used in fractured relationships.
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