The Heart of Domestic Abuse: Gospel Solutions for men who use control and violence in the home

by Chris Moles

Domestic abuse and violence are on the rise in our culture today, and just as prevalent in the church of Jesus Christ as it is in the population at large. With an estimated one-fourth of women in the church living with abuse and violence, pastors and biblical counselors need to have the resources to offer hope and help. From his vast experience in batterer intervention, and his training in biblical counseling, Chris Moles encourages godly men in the church to call abusive men to repentance and accountability through the power of the Holy Spirit. Here is a valuable resource for every church leader and Christian man.

Genres: Counselling, Marriage

118 pages, Kindle Edition

Published February 12, 2020

Reviews

[C.H. Cobb · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent resource for counselors who deal with abusive husbands. Thoroughly biblical approach. The author has a wealth of experience in dealing with both unsaved men as well as those who profess faith in Christ. That experience is evident in his writing and perspectives.

[Wood Marshall · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great helpful tool

This book is another tool that pastors need in there tool box. This book is a great helpful guide to help pastors counsel the abuser.

[Lynette · Rating 5 out of 5]

I wish church leadership world read this

Having heard from many women seeking help from the church....I have frequently heard them say they were told....submit more, respect better, serve lovingly, sacrifice much....and then encouraged to do marital counselling of some kind. Oh how I wish one of those churches had read this and listened to them.

They feel abandoned and like they are the one wrong. Loneliness is strong and with it comes the realization that for them to be safe, they have to walk away from almost everything they've held dear....

Please....please.....READ THIS, church leaders and counselors.

[Matt · Rating 5 out of 5]

Tremendously Helpful and Practical

Chris Moles does a masterful job at unveiling the heart of the abuser and how to deal with him from Scripture. In doing so, he explains some of the common tactics used by abusers to avoid facing the responsibility of their abuse so that we (the readers) are more aware and less likely to be duped by their facade.

Highly recommended to all in the minister and especially to pastors. This is one book I will refer to if ever dealing with a domestic abuse situation.

One caveat is that the Kindle book is horribly formatted, so I would recommend the print copy.

[Julie Havener · Rating 5 out of 5]

I read this book to add to my learning in Biblical Counseling. Little did I realize how it would challenge my personal walk. “Abuse is the result of a heart of pride which uses power as a means of gaining or maintaining control.” Few of can say we have never done that to anyone, no none of us can. So it was a good opportunity to have rough edges knocked off my tower of pride.

Chris Moles humbly presents the process needed in the heart of a man struggling with abusive ways and the ways a counselor can begin to work in this difficult area of counseling. The book is readable and helpful, encouraging and convicting, inspiring and practical.

[Jeremy · Rating 4 out of 5]

Excellent book on very challenging subject matter. Chris Moles' experience as a pastor and batterer intervention leader comes through readily. This book offers the hope of the Gospel without settling for surface-level change. This would be a good read for any staff pastor, elder or biblical counselor. The Scriptures used to describe abuse are well-chosen. The case study Chris shares, along with his questions and thoughts, are a good model.

[Clayton Wagler · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great book and overview of dealing with men who struggle with abuse. There is not a lot of content out there for working with the abuser side of abuse, but Moles has done good work on the matter, putting it together nicely in his book. However, the formatting of the Kindle version of this book is poor. 3.5/5 stars

[Darryl Burling · Rating 5 out of 5]

Must read for abuse

Good principles and sound wisdom. I was initially a little skeptic all, but Moles’ advice aligns with general biblical counseling principles. This is focused on the abuser rather than the victim. Kindle formatting needs work.

[Nathan Cassaro · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent Book

I loved this book! As a reforming abuser myself, I found it to be a must read. As someone who also wants to counsel abusers someday, I think it is a great read for counselors and pastors as well.

[Felice Wilson · Rating 5 out of 5]

Churches need this

Every pastor and church leader should read this book. Also, check out Chris Moles' podcast, speaking engagements and programs. I am grateful for his work.

[Carl · Rating 5 out of 5]

great book. very helpful

Practical. Thorough, easy to read and useful

An encyclopaedia of useful stuff for a various serious subject

Hugh,y recommended to anyone with interest in this

[Loraena · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is VERY helpful for understanding men with this problem and helping them change. Great resource for pastors & counselors or anyone who walks alongside struggling marriages & hurting couples because the problem is far more rampant than we typically like to think and if you don't know what you'e looking for, you're likely to miss it. We need bigger categories and more tools in our toolbelt and this book is a good one for that.