Happy Baby

by Stephen Elliott

Some stories begin with happy-ever-after . . .

Genres: Fiction, Fostering, Abuse, Novels, Dark, Mental Health, Social Work

210 pages, Paperback

First published February 19, 2004

About the author

Librarian Note: There is more than one author in the Goodreads database with this name.

Stephen Elliott is the author of seven books including Happy Baby, a finalist for the New York Public Library's Young Lions Award, as well as a Best Book of 2004 in Salon.com, Newsday, Chicago New City, Journal News, and Village Voice. Elliott's writing has been featured in Esquire, The New York Times, GQ, Best American Non-Required Reading 2005 & 2007, Best American Erotica, and Best Sex Writing 2006. He is the editor of Where To Invade Next and three collections of politically inspired fiction. In January, 2009, he founded the online culture magazine, The Rumpus."

Reviews

[Jeff · Rating 4 out of 5]

My favorite of the three novels by Elliott that I've read. His portrayal of children in foster care in Chicago seems improbably horrific, but I suspect some very real life experience was utilized to create the scenes described in "Happy Baby." Each chapter works as a stand alone short story, and the literary device Elliott uses here (telling the story in reverse chronology) brings the main character, Theo, into intense focus by the end (when Theo is a 5th grader). The narrative is sparse, but there is just enough in each chapter to allow you to fill in the blanks and understand where the masochistic adult-Theo comes from. While the book is filled with descriptions of abuse, particularly by adults, the writing is tender and honest and mostly devoid of anger and judgment. I think that's the major accomplishment of this novel.

[Alexandra · Rating 4 out of 5]

Told anti-linearly, this book illuminates darker corners of the sadomasochistic mind in a more thoughtful and sensitive fashion than I expected. It is about the marriage of sexuality and violence. Brave, sparse and lovely. Plus Stephen Elliott is super nice---I met him (and bought this book) at a Sex Worker's Art Show; he showed us his scars.

[Peter · Rating 5 out of 5]

"Wow."

That's what I said last evening upon finishing Stephen Elliott's impressive Happy Baby. Though the subject matter, particularly the scenes of S&M and drug use, is often quite disturbing, this book has an oddly uplifting quality to it. Elliott based the novel generously on his own childhood as a ward of the State of Illinois, and it's a tightly written adventure through group homes, juvenile detention facilities and ultimately the outside world, from the sex trade of Amsterdam to file-clerk hell in Chicago and on to a San Francisco bagel shop, before inconclusively ending in Chicago.

The book is expertly written in present tense, with the chapters presented in reverse chronological order, with both methods effectively presenting the story. The present tense makes the clear distinction between the not-so-bad now and the protagonist Theo's darker past. More importantly, the reverse chronological order lets the reader know upfront that Theo somehow managed to survive his various ordeals. Had the book been written in standard chronological order, midway through the book the reader could easily have abandoned it, not wanting to see things get any worse for Theo. But in reverse order, I saw that he survived, and continued reading, wanting to know how he became the way he turned out.

As I mentioned, the ending is inconclusive. Theo will again be running away ("...one more time. I've got one left in me.") towards an uncertain but not necessarily grim future. He's survived up to that point, over and over again, and he'll undoubtedly survive one more time. And he insists it will be the last time he runs away, and I couldn't help hoping he finally finds a place to settle down and find the love and inner peace that has always eluded him.

[Emily · Rating 2 out of 5]

picked this up to see what my tolerance level is like for forthright prose by slightly damaged thirty-something males in a post-eggers world. plenty of dripping candlewax & coke-and-mirrors so far. but i'm all for futzing around with chronology and this one's told backwards.

at the end of it all, i realised i never let myself get below the surface of the story. that might be my fault as a reader, but might also be the distance at which the prose held me. it's clearly heartfelt, clearly very real. and because the subject matter is so harrowing at times, an OTT writing style wouldn't have fit either. the prose was good, solid. the detail was accurate and dispassionate. but eventually the declarative simplicity made me squirm and i put the book down feeling guilty for not having been more affected by it.

for one thing, the reverse-order storytelling didn't add much to the impact of the narrative. the happy baby only appears in the title - or the first chapter, as maria's baby seems to have a better life than either maria or theo. the margins of the story were too wide - we don't know where he's heading on from the first chapter, nor do we see theo before he's ten or so. i liked the scatter-shot effect of the chronology of the details to some extent, but it killed the suspense. i knew almost everything i needed to within the first couple of chapters.

clearly i was in the mood for something low-plot, not no-plot.

[Patrick O'Neil · Rating 5 out of 5]

Stephen Elliot's Happy Baby is beautiful. Although I am not saying the subject matter is beautiful. Violence, sadness, desperation, fear, abandonment, and rape - are not subjects that are beautiful. However the book is still beautiful. Elliot's sparse writing style of stripped down quick prose not only gets the job done, but flows with the rhythm, or maybe the pulse, of who he was then - even though it is the "him" of now that is telling us the story. If that makes any sense, I don't know.

This is the first book of Elliot's that I've read. I'd heard a lot of good things about him. And finally went to one of his readings here in LA a few months ago and totally dug what he read. A good friend lent me this book, and I'm now off to scrounge his newest The Adderall Diaries from another good friend (thank the gods for good friends that read) - I really don't think I'll be disappointed.

[Paul · Rating 5 out of 5]

sad, wise and heartbreaking. what more could you ask for in a book? the writing is first rate and what's even better -- the writer knows what he's talking about. he's lived the life and it's palpable. the book is told in reverse order but, once you understand that, it's not a problem. i read this book right after reading 'the delivery man' by joe mcginess jr. hated that book because it was so false you felt it in every page. hey joe, if you want to know what's it like to write about fucked-up characters who make a lot of poor decisions, read 'happy baby.' it's everything 'the delivery man' is not....and that's a very good thing for 'happy baby.'

[Rogine · Rating 4 out of 5]

Written in an nonlinear manner, Stephen Elliott accompanies his readers through Theo's heartbreaking and haunting story that started from his current life as a submissive and spineless adult to his abusive and violent childhood. Elliott tells such a heavy and difficult story to read in a light and subtle way that it left the readers developing a slight ache in their hearts despite not knowing the roots of Theo's troubles until the end.

I am fond of books, movies, TV shows, and any type of media that can be described as sad, dark, and hopeless. I was never able to pinpoint what aspect of media that pulls me in until Happy Baby successfully helped me figure out why I appreciate these particular themes and what make them "good" in my eyes.

Elliott provides a bird's eye perspective on Theo's day-to-day life. The nonlinear style of writing in the book is a really important feature because it gives readers a sense of hopelessness that will remain unresolved. The book starts with him being in an abusive relationship with a sadistic woman, but there is really no way for the readers to know what follows after that because the story goes backwards from there. The rest of the book provides an explanation on why Theo is the person he is today, but the question of whether or not he will overcome the circumstances that had held him back for so long still remains. And that's what I love about this book and the "depressing" genre in general: the unanswered questions that leave the consumers feeling empty and uneasy.

That's exactly what Happy Baby did to me, and Theo's story continues to haunt me from time to time because I know this fiction is someone else's reality. Elliott did a wonderful job in creating an emotional impact on his readers by not blatantly throwing to the readers' faces how messed up Theo's life was but instead doing it subtly and letting it accumulate to our hearts with every page that passes.

Happy Baby, contrary to the seemingly lighthearted title, is possibly one of the most depressing books I've ever read (and that says a lot because I read a lot of those kinds of books). The slight ache in my heart remains there, and the thought that Theo's story continues to be someone else's reality haunts me. Elliott is a very talented writer, and I look forward to reading his other books.

[P. · Rating 4 out of 5]

I downloaded a free copy from Mr. Elliott's website. And I read this while simultaneously reading Elliott's newest book, The Adderall Diaries, and while reading the oral histories of his childhood friends and acquaintances on therumpus.net. All of these writings deal in some way with the same subject and time period --- so I feel like maybe I will end up remembering all of it in a lump, fictionalized and not.

So, anyway. Elliott has a very clear way of writing without sacrificing description. One part that sticks with me is the description of taking a breath feeling like "rubbing my lungs with my finger" (That's not a direct quote but it is very close I think). This book would be valuable because it's an open depiction of a protagonist who enjoys violent sex (for some reason I get the impression that this is not common, feel free to educate me), but moreover it's valuable just because it's a good book. It captures experiences that its readers may never have had or have desired and makes them relatable. There's a good sense of lost-ness and that kind of young toughness that's just vulnerability. I feel bad that I didn't in some way pay for my reading experience.

[Allan MacDonell · Rating 5 out of 5]

I won’t presume to imagine Stephen Elliott’s reaction on the day, not long after the publication of Elliott’s Happy Baby, when wunderkind street hustler author JT LeRoy was exposed as a middle-aged woman named Laura Albert. Unaware of Albert’s grandest and grossest fiction—her impersonation of a young man afflicted with AIDS—Elliott had placed a chunk from a JT LeRoy interview ahead of his own precise and sure Happy Baby narration, and a JT LeRoy blurb gushes on the novel’s back cover. So, I pick up Happy Baby in 2014, and I immediately congratulate myself on my broadmindedness for going forward with reading the book despite the author’s obvious appeal and susceptibility to fraudulent trolls. About five pages in, I am in the thrall of the real deal, slipping into the flow of honest, clear-eyed hard truths, stripped of victim posturing and self-pity, with a bit of a chip on the shoulder, perhaps, but that bit of chip is just right, just short of righteous. I read on, assured that the authenticity of Stephen Elliott’s voice is absolute and a separate matter from the author’s time in juvenile justice and social services custody, and—voila—my broadmindedness is rewarded with gritty, dirty storytelling that actually makes me feel better about being a human being.

[Imogen · Rating 5 out of 5]

That's so weird that I never reviewed this- I just left my review for The Adderall Diaries and saw that I didn't have a rating here. Stephen always says this is his best book, but I think it's just his best pre-Adderall Diaries. They do such different things, though, it's hard to compare them; this is definitely the best novelization of his early life, though. The backwards conceit works well, the prose (as always) is clear and direct and gives you room to feel however you want about it, although the way you will feel is probably "sad." Recommended.

[Julia Smillie · Rating 4 out of 5]

I waffled a lot on whether to give this book three or four stars. Sometimes I found the subject matter -- S&M, drugs, sodomy -- difficult to read. Sometimes I found the subject matter -- love, identity, pain, loss -- enveloping. Mostly I liked it. Some passages were searingly beautiful. I think it's a really significant novel, beautifully executed. Having read some of Elliott's nonfiction, it's impossible to read this without knowing that much of it is rooted in reality. I'm not sure whether that makes it harder or easier, better or worse. It just means I kept thinking I was reading a memoir and had to remind myself it wasn't. Not really. But sort of.

[M. · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book reminded me of how I felt when I had to read The Stranger in high school. Back then I was confused by the existentialist tone and the attitude of the main character, who had a total resignation towards his shitty life as it happened around him. Happy Baby had that similar resignation, but it was one I was well familiar with. Something I used to liken to being stuck in the doldrums at sea. The feeling of helplessness. Of simply being a recipient of mundanity, violence, and existence at the constant mercy of other people's power over you. Happy Baby makes your impoverished, institutionalized life seem somehow magical, cause it's real.

[Rachel Cassandra · Rating 4 out of 5]

this book should really have four and a half stars. i found the format of this novel (progressing backwards by chapter) to be perfectly suited for the subject matter (bdsm, juvenile detention centers, and abuse), and Steven Elliot's observations were simple and true. I have one complaint (don't read this if you're planning to read the book...)we never find out really why he got into the detention center. It drove me a little nuts, especially since that is what started his whole life on this particular course.

[GD · Rating 3 out of 5]

Very unappealing. I'll read a little more, since several people I respect say it is very good.

Okay, I'm about halfway done with this. No doubt I'll finish. It's an amazing book.

Finished this a few days ago. The chapter sequence comes in reverse. At times, I wondered if this technique was too affective. It isn't. The last chapter is powerful. It made me reconsider everyting that had happened to the protagonist and understand a little bit how he'd arrived at the terrible place he did in the first chapter.

[Sofia · Rating 4 out of 5]

Interesting, this, though I'm not sure whether it has quite the desired effect. The movement into the past feels like regression, but also potentially positively, therapeutically, rather than entirely fatalistically. I kind of feel like it should've had a bit more substance, but it illustrated a lot of stuff I'd been uncertain about.

[Jennifer]

i learned that stephen elliot is a really good writer, and he took me on a little old trip - a trip to those hideous places unplacable orphans and the children of the fantastically inept are placed, and an explanation of why he likes to get beat up in the right way by a woman he is terrified of.

[Erin Beck · Rating 4 out of 5]

I now totally understand why some people like to be beaten while in sexual situations.

[Kate · Rating 4 out of 5]

oh man. good but a harrowing read. definitely a poor choice on my part for beach reading.

[ds white · Rating 3 out of 5]

readable but forgetable

[Catherine Tudor · Rating 1 out of 5]

I came in thinking that this would be a thought provoking book about a young man's troubles after exiting both prison and foster care. But I was sorely mistaken. This entire novel deals with Theo, the main character, and his sexual experiences both good and bad, but mostly bad. It deals with an overly attached sort of girlfriend who likes to play games with her "boy toy." This can range from slapping him, raping him, to tying him up and blindfolding him to much more. I would not recommend this book to anyone unless you like this sort of erotic fiction. Think Fifty Shades of Grey gone horribly wrong. I couldn't even get through the entire book, it made me so uncomfortable. Would NOT RECOMMEND!

[Lisa · Rating 5 out of 5]

Stark and beautiful in that the narrator holds nothing back from the reader and never attempts to justify life choices or behavior, which are achingly, clearly motivated by deep needs set in motion by cruel treatment and neglect. Read this when you are feeling brave.

[Rachel Walker · Rating 3 out of 5]

Survival in the worst context - abuse and neglect of children by parents and adults. Some of it is darkly humorous but reveals how the already fucked-up, fuck-up the most vulnerable.

[Jimmy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Crying like a baby.

[R C · Rating 5 out of 5]

guy who told me to read this ghosted me, it was good tho

[Connor · Rating 4 out of 5]

Lasting effects of childhood trauma

[Paul Clarkson · Rating 3 out of 5]

A second time of reading as I couldn’t recall anything of it from over ten years ago. That was a little telling. It was a sort of satisfying read around something that's essentially unpleasant: the potential repercussions and effects on the psyche of those who have lived in residential children's services. In this case, in the United States.

The narrator’s life is told in reverse, starting in the present and going back incrementally to his relatively safe, relatively loving childhood. A range of characters are met along the way, some are fighters, some wholly cruel, some that play victim, and some who comply, all in an effort to endure and survive, with little experience of the world, and limited or no positive markers to draw on.

The story is told in a matter-of-fact way, as if emotions have been blunted, I guess in order to live through abuse, neglect and disinterest from supposed carers. Psychologically, there’s a struggle for control, the resignation of control, a drive to have others make decisions for him, and in that, abase him. These character traits grow stronger as he gets older. Throughout, there are references and paragraphs dedicated to sadomasochism (note: this isn't over-the-top detail but enough to give a sense of why he has such drivers) as a form of emotional release. There is also a camaraderie and friendship, sometimes sadomasochistic - more maso- than sado- in itself, that brings comfort to hopelessness. It's almost amusing when two characters with the same masochistic drive are trying to meet each other's needs. That won't work!

The nature of human character and how it can be influenced by adverse circumstances, coping with neglect and abuse, appeals to me. And I didn't feel despairing, not at least of the main characters; some I liked, attracted by their gritty will to survive. I was disheartened by the desolate picture of the statutory services and the lacking of those who were meant to be responsible, meant to care. Heartbreaking really. I've worked with many young people from very tough and/or indifferent backgrounds, always challenging, frequently inspiring and invariably rewarding and, without exception, colleagues were strongly committed. But I realise that the experiences described in Happy Baby are sadly for real at times.

[Ryan Chapman · Rating 4 out of 5]

Stephen Elliott's Happy BabyM is a short novel told in reverse chronological order, deftly chronicling in the first person one man's experiences with rape, drugs, abuse, juvenile detention centers, and the brutal effect all those things have on a person in their adult life. A similar technique was employed in the film Irreversible, which, in recounting a rape and its awful effects, casts an air of doom over the chronologically early pre-rape scenes. There is some of that here, though the real intelligence of the book is in the prose: Elliott doesn't take the cliché path of Bret Easton Ellis nihilism or Chuck Palahniuk one-liners at all. I've never read any Hubert Selby Jr., who also wrote on the subject; perhaps there's a literary antecedent there. Anyway, Elliott instead humanizes Theo the protagonist to a fierce degree, always imbuing his pain and trauma with a warmth missing from other tomes on the subject. Theo's mind is so wrecked from his childhood that the only clarity he achieves is during the brief release of masochistic acts such as self-mutilation, bondage sex, and the various dominatrixes he frequents. The judgment is that without such avenues in his adult life, Theo would never escape the throbbing numbness his life has become. The balance of the prose style is that Theo encounters everything on the same level, from selling bagels to watching extreme sex shows to most interpersonal exchange. This tone would deteriorate into monotony with most writers—Elliott still makes it compelling. I highly recommend Happy Baby.

[Avital · Rating 5 out of 5]

I'm impressed and also wondering how he dares writing so openly. Is it a part of the need to suffer abuse?
The Village Voice is cited saying it's a heartbreaking autobiographical novel. I do know that his father is still alive-while in the book he isn't.
I find it interesting that instead of using a flashback he goes back in time-starting in the present and moving through the past, everything in the present tense.
The book is a pageturner-why? how/ what makes it this way?

It's been a while since a book kept me awake, but I stayed awake to read and think about it.
Beside the story itself I am thinking about these things:
-The telling is forward and never flowery, but the language use is crystal-clear and exact, beautiful.
-I am wondering why it's such a fast read-does it mean it lacks layers, or that there is one issue we go so deep into, there is no place for anything else.
-the chapter with Mr. Gracie killed me.
-The emotional impact is huge. If I thought it was all fiction-would it be so too?

[MaleReader · Rating 3 out of 5]

Not the type of story I usually review. It is a story collection, sort of a memoire, not sure exactely how much of it is real and how much is fiction though. It's got a bit of sex but this is defenitely not a work of erotica. It's a sad story of a boy who lost his parents and became the ward of the state. He got abused, teased and threathened by his peers as well as the adults who were responsible of him. It's at time touching, disheartening, sad. You'll be immerse into a large array of emotions.

The writing style is very mininalistic. It uses short sentences with very few adjectives and adverbs, which enhanced the dramatic atmosphere of it. I did not like how drastically the narrative jumped from places, or times, or characters. It gets sometimes confusing I found.

A good emotional read. Read it if you'd like to have an idea of what the life of these kids can be like.

[Shanni · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book gripped me from start to finish. Told in reverse order, it chronicles moments in the life of a boy named Theo from Chicago, whose parents died early, through the foster system and drifting through various jobs and relationships as an adult. It seems like a lot of the book is autobiographical, and it's told with heartbreaking honesty. The suffering Theo endures is shocking and disturbing, and affects his life later as an adult. The way it's told in reverse order makes it feel like you're unearthing more and more about how the man got to be how he is as an adult. Some people might describe it as a book about sadomasochism, as that's a large theme, but it's a lot more about that. This book cuts deep, it's so real. It lays bare the shame, self-hatred and ugliness many abuse victims experience. It made me deeply sad knowing much of this is real. But its honesty inspires me to write. Content warning: rape, abuse, violence, sadomasochism.