Dangerous Normal People

by L.W. Hawksby

This memoir will take you on a remarkable and sometimes dark journey through a young woman’s two (very different) domestically abusive relationships. With her experience laid out in diary form, spanning November 2013 to early June 2016, the author reveals the subtle and not so subtle “red flag behaviours” of Casanova Psychopaths, Malignant Co-Dependents and the common Narcissist.

The reader will also learn about the Narcissistic Virus and discover how sometimes victims can be so broken by NPD Abuse that sometimes the only way to survive is to burn all your bridges and walk into the fire with the Devil himself.

The author did not escape unscathed. She suffered the Narcissistic Virus, gained criminal convictions and still displays many C-PTSD symptoms. This is an honest and impactful insight into her journey.

This book is designed to be mainly educational so will suits not only victims and survivors but also professionals interested in making judicial, social care and health systems better.

L.W. Hawksby is a “Ninja Donor”. She ensures that a percentage of the profits from the sale of her books is donated to human and animal focussed charities, each year on Halloween, which is the favourite time of year for Rufus, her youngest son, who has Asperger’s Syndrome.

Genres: Psychology

268 pages, Kindle Edition

Published September 23, 2019

Reviews

[Emma Frame · Rating 1 out of 5]

This writer is in fact Lucy Haughey from Glasgow who is a convicted sex offender who slept with an underage boy at 37 years old. This book paints her as the victim but she is, in fact, the predator. Should be taken off the shelves

[Jeff Dawson · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is an interesting, yet unusual read. The author freely admits her choices in partners is suspect, to say the least. For some reason she is drawn to men with questionable qualities, to say the least. Best I can tell, it’s more about a physical attraction then a mental one and there in could lie the problem.
Her description of the relationship with Johnathan is about as toxic as one can get. Yet, for over a year she endures the humiliation and constant lies hoping he will straighten out. You know that’s not going to happen. I do know a girl who went through a similar relationship for nine years. But unlike the author, she figured out she didn’t need a man in her life and finally figured life out. She had three daughters and realized that is what she needed to focus on.
As a parent I cannot fathom the author letting this man near her children. Seriously, what was she thinking. It was if the children took a back seat while she chased this man like a love lost teenager. That is unacceptable! There is not excuse for such behavior. Hopefully, she has realized this and put her children ahead of any relationship or desires she personally needs.
The story is too long. I started losing interest at about the 80% mark because became repetitious and to be quite frank, boring. We’ve read enough of their sexual encounters and what ever point was trying to be made became blurred.
One of the highlights is the focus on today’s technology and how people have not matured enough to handle it-I phones, smart phones. She lives on it. She thrives on it. She can’t live without it! Seriously? You have children and at times, a job. Get a grip and some self-control. But that is the way of our current youth movement. Thank you, Steve Jobs for creating one of the greatest evils known to man.
It would be interesting to hear from her children and what is like to live with a lunatic boyfriend and an unstable mother. This had to be the worst of times for them.
I understand the need for technology and that it has its place, but when it consumes your every waking moment, you need help. And all the people in this story needed serious mental health counseling.
The day women realize they can’t fix men and vice-a-versa, there should be a major drop in domestic violence, physical and mental. It isn’t easy walking away from a relationship that is becoming toxic, but it’s a lot easier on yourself and everyone around you if you do; especially children.
Who will like this? Anyone who questions the loyalty and character of a partner. Lucy provides an excellent road map to follow and the traits to watch out for.

[Dawn Smith · Rating 5 out of 5]

An absolute must read for anyone who has or may be in an abusive relationship. The red flags are not only useful to clarify previous abusive traits and confirm they were in fact abusive (as so many will excuse certain narc traits as the narcs personality and not actually abusive when in fact they are) but its also brilliant Intel you can use when your ready to get involved with a new partner. I found the music list a very personal touch and you really felt the emotions of the character portrayed. This should be part of any abuse victims recovery process, although no one has the same story the emotions are the same. And re someone who mentioned the children in this book I presume the author left them out of it as much as possible as the story was about an abusive relationship between two people not about the kids family adventures to the park, maybe you should take a look at an Enid Blyton book next time?

[Stephanie Barrett · Rating 5 out of 5]

Amazing

'Dangerous Normal People' is a book that unfortunately resonates with me a lot. I went through ready Lucy's story like it was my own. The book and Lucy's story alone is written SO well and I feel it gives you a really accurate version of what this person is doing to her and how these events transpired, but it also offers you some really good points. I particularly enjoyed the song recommendations and the explanations of key terms. This book really is for anyone, anyone that's been affected, have friends or family who are or even someone in social services. You can learn so much around these behaviours and how to spot them in other relationship. Lucy is a strong brave women.

[Nicola Jones · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book has helped me beyond any other book I’ve ever read!

I would recommend this book to anybody working in Human Resources, Police Force/Guarda/Defence Force, social workers, Domestic Violence counsellors, Doctors, Nurses & it couldn’t hurt for Judges or Magistrates to have a read to help them come to understand what makes some people before them in court, tick.

I had to put this book down several times as while I was reading it, certain things Lucy experiences in the book triggered my own traumatic experiences from the past that I had honestly thought I’d put to bed long ago.

I’ve suffered at the hands of the flying monkeys she describes so well too!

I’ve been arrested falsely purely because my ex (abuser) was spiteful and played the victim and concocted a story to suit him.

I have recommended this book to several ladies recently and they have all thanked me for doing so. It has helped me understand myself and what I need to avail.

Can’t wait for the next instalments!!

Nicola

[Tammy Ebright · Rating 5 out of 5]

Couldn't put it down!

An accurate and detailed description of the horror of narcissist abuse. Thank you for the openness and sharing your vulnerable story. For pointing out the red flags along the way so others can understand what to look for.

[Patty Gilman · Rating 1 out of 5]

If the ugly cover doesn't prevent you from wasting your money on this book then maybe the fact that L.W. Hawksby (Lucy Haughey) is a convicted rapist and pedophile will deter you.

DO NOT SUPPORT AN AUTHOR WHO RAPES MINORS

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[Christina · Rating 1 out of 5]

This writer is a convicted sex offender and also abuses animals. Gross. Do not give this author one cent.

[Tammie Jones · Rating 5 out of 5]

Ordered this book to begin to understand the narcissist and the narcissistic virus. This is a true story based on the author who experienced the same abuse and her life. This is a well written , it actually hit the nail on the head in seeing the same or similar behaviors when trying to understand this sickness. This was a very educational book and has helped me personally begin the healing process of being a victim .It went beyond what I had expected in that I learned .understanding Casanova psychopaths and the narcissist virus so it touched on all of these and it’s a very helpful very educational read
Thank you

[Abbey Redfearn Plexico · Rating 5 out of 5]

So if you have ever experienced Narcissistic Abuse, this is so insightful to the mind of the victim. The lies, manipulation, addictions, triangulation, trauma bonding, etc., are all there. If you or someone you know has or is experiencing this, it is a great book to read. She does a great job of showing how victims have reactive abuse and physical health issues due to this. I felt like there were definite threads of my life in here. AND if you do relate to this book, please please please get with a trained therapist in trauma and narcissism.

[Nicola · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book, a must read for abuse victims.

[Marjorie · Rating 1 out of 5]

Lucy Haughey (L.W Hawksby) is a pedophile, do not buy her books.

[April · Rating 1 out of 5]

Difficult read. I feel this book was never proof read, and was not very professional written. And very confusing at times. This person made herself look like a victim but in fact was dishonest.

[Mary S · Rating 1 out of 5]

Save your money. This author doesn’t even sound likeable, let alone knowledgeable. This is NOT where you find the help you need!