It's Not You, It's Me: How to Heal Your Relationship with Yourself and Others

by Camilla Sacre Dallerup

Warning!
This book will make you fall deeply in love – with yourself!

What if I told you that a difficult relationship – be it with a partner, a friend, a relative, a colleague, or with your job, your diet, your body – was sent your way as a challenge, so you can find your way home to YOU?

It is common for people to find themselves repeatedly in the same situations, following the same patterns and falling into the same traps. Only by looking inward can we heal and find respect, acceptance and, most importantly, the self-love that we all deserve.

It’s Not You, It’s Me will help you discover how these challenges can give you the chance to heal and improve the most important relationship of all – the one with yourself.

192 pages, Paperback

Published December 10, 2019

Reviews

[Melanie (mells_view) · Rating 4 out of 5]

It's Not You, It's Me by Camilla Sacre-Dallerup is actually the first self-help book that I've ever read. The title was appealing to me, and the simple yet eye catching cover didn't hurt my desire to pick this book up. I figure we could all use a little self reflection every once in awhile, and I think reading this book gave plenty of advice on how one can do so. I did think that the formatting of the book was a little confusing, but also this is an ARC and I'm not an avid reader of self-help books, so I'm unaware if this type of formatting is a common style of the genre. What I do know is that I enjoyed the affirmations, and I enjoyed that there were actual exercises in the book that the author walked you through step by step. It was helpful considering I'd never picked up a book by her before and I'm new to self-help. That being said I think that even if you're new to the genre you'd be able to follow along with this one well. It did take me a week or so to get through it, but I think that taking your time reading through allows you soak in what you're reading.

All in all this was a good read. I think I will definitely pick up another by this author, or maybe even just another self-help/self-reflection book in general.

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*ARC

[Isabelle | Nine Tale Vixen]

I received an advance review copy from Watkins Publishing through Netgalley; all opinions are my own and honest.

DNF @ 32%

This is too rah-rah cheery, "everything happens as the universe meant it to, so you could learn and grow" for me. It borders on toxic positivity: stop feeling sorry for yourself, if you're not happy you should change your life, love yourself enough to take the plunge.

For some people who need/want a kick in the pants to get their shit together, this might be a good resource. But I didn't find it particularly helpful.

[Lecy Beth · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is part self-help book and part workbook and a good resource for anyone who wants (or needs) to work on self-love. There is a mix of personal stories, short pieces on a variety of topics from finding your voice to ending negative self-talk, and lots of activities and journal prompts to help you work through some of the hard feelings that have kept you from loving yourself. I was able to connect with much of what Sacre Dallerup shares in the book, but there were a few ideas that were off-base for me. Despite that, I think this could be a beneficial read for many people. *Advance copy provided by the publisher in exchange for my honest review.

[Randi Renee Long · Rating 4 out of 5]

Got the ebook from the library and it was getting close to it needing to be returned but I have been busy lately so I had Alexa read the rest of the ebook to me via the amazon Alexa app on my phone. Book Hack haha. This is a really good book for individual development. There a writing prompts in the book to help you really dive into yourself and your thinking. I really liked that. It has the ability to make a person vulnerable.

[Virginie · Rating 5 out of 5]

A must read!!! I loved it.

[Kate Henderson · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book is really not good!!
It hasn’t given me any information to take away.
It is pretty obvious what has been said. There is no substance to this.
There are some case studies from clients saying how much Camilla has helped them, but there is still no actual information. Incredibly disappointing!
It just doesn’t go anywhere!
Complete waste of time!

[Amanda · Rating 4 out of 5]

I picked up this book at one of her book signings because Camilla is one of my favorite meditation teachers. I bought another copy for my mom since I know she loves her meditations on insight timer. There are so many great tools and journal prompts to work through and I love the meditations she recorded for the book.

I also appreciate that she is always a student, making her much more believable than some other authors in this category. You’ll get out of this book what you put in to it just like any work we do on our selves.

[Kinsey · Rating 4 out of 5]

With an emphasis on self-love and taking responsibility for your own life, It's Not You, It's Me is a breath of fresh air in the self help world. With guided exercises and a no-nonsense attitude, this book is perfect for those of us who sometimes struggle with self-esteem issues that affect the other relationships in our lives, or vice versa.

A special thank you to Netgalley for providing me with a free advanced copy of this book in exchange for my honest opinion.

[thewoollygeek (tea, cake, crochet & books) · Rating 4 out of 5]

A helpful book for someone on the start of their self acceptance and self love journey , broken into easy chapters and with guided exercises it’s a great little self help book. Wonderful book, great guide and a wonderful self help tool.

Thanks to netgalley and the publisher for a free copy for an honest opinion