Cómo ser un imán para las personas

by Marc Reklau

¿Te sientes incómodo cuándo estás con más personas? ¿Realmente no sabes qué decir o cómo iniciar una conversación en un evento de Networking? ¿Te gustaría mejorar las relaciones con tu jefe o tus empleados? ¿Deseas mejorar las relaciones personales con tu pareja o tus amigos?

¿O simplemente te gustaría mejorar las relaciones personales en general y tu capacidad para causar una primera impresión impactante y establecer relaciones duraderas con todas las personas con las que estás en contacto?

En su nuevo libro "Cómo ser un imán para las personas" el escritor bestseller  internacional y consultor de desarrollo personal Marc Reklau te revela los secretos y la psicología para tener relaciones exitosas con otras personas.

Tu éxito y felicidad en la vida, en el hogar y en los negocios, dependen en gran medida de cómo te llevas con otras personas. ¿Eres capaz de influir y persuadirlas? Aunque el éxito puede significar algo diferente para cada persona, hay un cosa en común que influye mucho: otras personas.

Las personas más exitosas, con bastante frecuencia, no son las que tienen una inteligencia superior o mejores habilidades, y las personas más felices no suelen ser más   inteligentes que nosotros, sino las que tienen las mejores habilidades humanas.

En esta guía práctica y simple, aprenderás principios específicos que te ayudarán a establecer relaciones más poderosas, conexiones más sólidas y dejar una impresión positiva y duradera en todas las personas con las que te pones en contacto. La mayoría de estos principios son de sentido común, pero siempre es bueno tener un recordatorio, porque como se suele decir "el sentido común es el menos común de todos los sentidos". Cómo ser un imán para las personas te dará las herramientas que necesitas para lograr los resultados que necesitas.

Aprenderás...

Cuál es el tema más importante de cualquier conversación Cómo influir en los demás Cómo crear relaciones poderosas. Cómo causar una gran primera impresión Cómo realmente conectar con personas en un nivel más profundo Cómo convencer a la gente y hacer que te digan que sí. Cómo comunicarse efectivamente Cómo evitar cometer el pecado mortal en las relaciones humanas. Cómo hacer que el ego humano sea el aliado en cualquiera de tus esfuerzos. Cómo manejar sin problemas las quejas y las críticas. Cómo atraer y mantener la atención de la gente. Cómo escuchar con eficacia y ser la persona más inteligente en la sala. Cómo usar el lenguaje corporal para generar confianza inmediata y hacer conexiones más fuertes Cómo hacer que todos quieran estar cerca de ti

...y mucho más...

Las buenas habilidades con las personas muchas veces  hacen la diferencia entre perder el trabajo o conseguir un ascenso: entre ganar la venta o perderla; entre un cliente feliz o un cliente que no quiere trabajar m&aac

Genres: Communication, Self Help, Nonfiction, Personal Development, Psychology, Business, Relationships

124 pages, Kindle Edition

Published August 8, 2019

About the author

Marc Reklau (Esslingen am Neckar, Germany, 1973) is an Award Winning and #1 Amazon Best Selling Author, Coach and Personal Development Expert.


His current home base is the beautiful city of Barcelona, Spain.

Marc's mission is to empower people to create the life they want and to give them the resources and tools to make it happen.

He spent thousands of hours researching, studying and applying the principles and secrets of success and happiness.

His message is simple:
Many people want to change things in their lives, but few are willing to do a simple set of exercises constantly over a period of time.

You can plan and create success and happiness in your life by installing habits that support you on the way to your goal.

Reviews

[Darwin Champagne · Rating 2 out of 5]

This is 62 ways of saying “Be Nice”

Most of them are common sense and are almost condescending. A handful might pop out at you - the ones you know you need to work on or insecurities.

Personally I found his discussion on “thank you notes” to be the most interesting, and it’s just a throwaway paragraph at the end of the book.

It’s a nice coffee table book or something to cheer you up if you’re having a bad day.

[Sandra Vel · Rating 2 out of 5]

Nada especial si ya se ha leído antes el famoso libro de Dale Carnegie : Cómo ganar amigos e influir sobre las personas

[Jamie · Rating 1 out of 5]

i’m not the right demographic for this !!! it lost me when the fourth tip is you need to agree with people for people to like you …

[Donna · Rating 3 out of 5]

I picked up two of these books about dealing with people. After only 3 minutes, the first one I attempted to listen to was an instantaneous DNF. The narrator was so annoying in that audio...so I put this one in instead. Much better audio in my opinion.

But as far as content, I think it fell more into the "commen sense" realm rather than the "life changing" realm. Now with that being said, there are certainly people who could use a little common sense in their life.

A good reminder is always nice. So 3 stars.

[Jan · Rating 1 out of 5]

I thought I would read through this book for laughs, and boy, did I have a good laugh. The 62 tips are either obvious, repeated, stretched, or stupid.

[Asha Seth · Rating 3 out of 5]

Great tips to emerge a positive people magnet.

Last but not least the third ingredient, Appreciation. Next to love, appreciation is probably the most critical force in the universe. Why do our marriages and jobs go sour? When we don’t appreciate them anymore. When we don’t appreciate what we have. And how do we make happiness and success grow? Appreciating what we have. Appreciate your spouse, your children, your employees, your boss, your clients and the most important thing—let them know that you appreciate

[Unni · Rating 2 out of 5]

"Wayne Dyer once said to accept that 50 per cent of the people you meet in your life won’t like you, no matter what you do, no matter how nice you are, no matter how good you are."

[Sara Salehi]

Generally insightful for those priming their reading taste for psychology, but definitely not for comprehensive reading as it lacks mindfulness and practicality.

[Joan · Rating 3 out of 5]

Viene a ser el clásico de Dale Carnegie actualizado a este siglo. Se salva porque, pese a lógicos, incluye ciertos consejos que no viene mal tener en cuenta y está escrito de forma llana y directa, consiguiendo una lectura fluida. Por lo demás, casi nada sorprende: el motivo del libro se puede reducir más o menos en tratar bien a la gente. Mostrar amabilidad, hacer cumplimientos, dejar de lado rencores, ser puntual a las citas... Otras recomendaciones son muy cuestionables, como la de mostrarse de acuerdo con todo lo que dice tu interlocutor, bajo pretexto de que no vale la pena discutir. La versión para Kindle en español presenta varios errores ortográficos.

[Emma · Rating 3 out of 5]

Very short book. Lots of very basic tips that I’d heard before! Some of it was a bit too suck up, like everything needs to be dictated by what the other person wants not what you want, let them think they came up with your ideas etc.

Best advice from this was more mindset focussed, such as noticing other people’s strengths, only by liking yourself better will you like others better, you must surround yourself with people that motivate you - not those that drain you as that will eventually make you cynical like them. And focus on being an optimist (and smile) as you’ll lift peoples spirits around you.

[Connor Magary · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great quick read. Very useful strategies.

[Emily · Rating 1 out of 5]

he lost me when he told me to stop gossiping xoxo

[Anagha S Setlur · Rating 4 out of 5]

some very implementable tips.

[Surajit Roy · Rating 5 out of 5]

How to Become a People Magnet is a book that promises to change your life by teaching you how to attract everyone you meet. The book is divided into 62 tips, each one designed to help you become more magnetic.

Reklau’s tips cover a wide range of topics, including how to improve your communication skills, how to make a great first impression, and how to build strong relationships. Whether you’re looking to make new friends, find a romantic partner, or simply become more outgoing, this book has the advice you need.

Like many self-help books, How to Become a People Magnet is full of useful tips and tricks that can be used to improve your social skills. However, what sets this book apart is its focus on the importance of building genuine relationships with the people you meet. By taking the time to get to know the people around you and understanding what makes them tick, you can create lasting bonds that will make them want to be around you. In a world where so many people are looking for superficial connections, this book provides a refreshing reminder of the importance of truly connecting with others.

Click the link to read a comprehensive review of this book.

[A. · Rating 1 out of 5]

For a book that promises to teach you to attract people, it seems very insecure in its own ability to attract readers, with the writer constantly and rather obnoxiously seemingly asking for your approval. 

It also claims it's not a book about people pleasing, and yet so much of it teaches you to do exactly that– by the time you reach its fourth chapter (which won't take long, considering each chapter is generally just two pages of frankly obvious advice) it outright tells you to agree with people as much as possible and “[o]nly disagree with people if you have absolutely no other choice”. Yet this fact is swiftly contradicted, where in Chapter 16 the book says: “The worst thing you can do is say things or agree with people just to please them.” 

This is not the first, nor shall be the last, contradiction in this book– it is almost 150 pages of tips that are surface-level, contradictory and, worst of all, repetitive. I don't know if there needs to be a book with 62 variations of one solution: be nice to people. One could have reached the same conclusion 10x faster by just reading the contents page.

I read the book for a laugh, but it was more effective at either annoying me or lulling me to sleep. How to Become a People Magnet might be useful for those completely inexperienced in social niceties, but I didn't find this book particularly magnetic. But hey, at least my edition had a nice cover– thank you, Sourish Mitra, whoever you are.

[Erica · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was insightful and motivating. I think anyone looking for a short and sweet supportive look at ways to carry on conversation and shifting the spotlight onto others will appreciate this one.

I enjoyed this as an audiobook, narrated by Greg Douras, who was excellent.

The Story
The book highlights self-improvement techniques when it comes to building interpersonal relationships, focusing on various ways to ease into conversation, maintaining discussion, developing stronger connections, improving listening skills, reciprocating, influence, genuine kindness, humility, and humor.

There were a few parts of redundancy and some rather common sense notions, but not overly distracting.

The Writing
Organized well.

Positive tone and outlook great for self-reflection as well as inspiration.

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[Baasith Fazil · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book thought me some good and great perspective view of peoples. Short stories deep profound and more lessons. To be honest this is my first book of reading in digital device. Hope this helps many peoples as me 💯

[Book'd Hitu · Rating 4 out of 5]

At some point of time, this book feels like targetting people who works in Sales.
The book contains very practical insights in a very easy language, give a try.

[Lore · Rating 2 out of 5]

Hazlo reír… sip, hazlo reír mucho

[Brittany Wallace · Rating 2 out of 5]

Trying to avoid being HR’s worst nightmare in the new year

[Amanda Zhang · Rating 2 out of 5]

I listened to this one. A lot of it was common sense to me for how to be a good/kind person, but I took away a few nuggets.

[Jake Robb · Rating 5 out of 5]

Such a great read. A fun opportunity to learn how to be a kind and selfless person who is genuinely interested in those around you. I enjoyed each chapter and there were so many great insights.

[Yana Le · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very obvious tips but good reminders.

[Brandon Hair · Rating 3 out of 5]

Decent book but not much different than many of the other books of very similar titles.

[Girish · Rating 5 out of 5]

Turned the last page of this master guide " How to become a people magnet"

Its such a life lesson. Every minute we deal with people. But we often don't understand that when we do, we are dealing with emotional minds and not with analytical bots.

We are least bothered to understand how to deal in a right way...

Good Read...

Simple things in life will make huge differences ... 👍

[Zach Reid · Rating 4 out of 5]

practical advice that you can implement everyday.

[Antoine Puylaert · Rating 2 out of 5]

The whole Brooks tells you basic info on how to be nice..

[Adam Conder · Rating 3 out of 5]

*How to Become a People Magnet* by Marc Reklau contains various strategies designed to help readers improve their social skills and become more likable and charismatic. Here’s a list of the 62 strategies mentioned in the book:

1. Be genuinely interested in others.
2. Smile.
3. Remember people’s names.
4. Be a good listener.
5. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
6. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
7. Make the other person feel important—and do it sincerely.
8. Avoid arguments.
9. Show respect for the other person's opinions.
10. If you're wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
11. Begin in a friendly way.
12. Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
13. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
14. Let the other person feel that the idea is theirs.
15. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
16. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
17. Appeal to the nobler motives.
18. Dramatize your ideas.
19. Throw down a challenge.
20. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
21. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
22. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing others.
23. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
24. Let the other person save face.
25. Praise every improvement, even the slightest.
26. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
27. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
28. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.
29. Pay attention to your body language.
30. Make eye contact.
31. Avoid negative judgments.
32. Stay positive and enthusiastic.
33. Learn to give sincere compliments.
34. Show appreciation regularly.
35. Don't be afraid to show vulnerability.
36. Practice empathy.
37. Understand the power of touch.
38. Know when to keep quiet.
39. Ask for advice.
40. Stay humble.
41. Share your successes with others.
42. Use people’s names when speaking with them.
43. Build trust through honesty and integrity.
44. Be generous with your time and resources.
45. Avoid gossip and negativity.
46. Practice patience.
47. Learn to forgive and let go.
48. Be approachable and accessible.
49. Develop a sense of humor.
50. Stay curious and keep learning.
51. Be consistent in your actions and words.
52. Show interest in other people’s stories.
53. Don’t interrupt when someone else is speaking.
54. Learn to manage your emotions.
55. Be adaptable and open to change.
56. Cultivate self-awareness.
57. Show genuine concern for others’ well-being.
58. Be mindful of your tone of voice.
59. Learn to apologize when necessary.
60. Encourage others to be their best selves.
61. Understand the power of silence.
62. Always be willing to help others.

These strategies emphasize the importance of empathy, active listening, humility, and genuine interest in others, all crucial for building strong and meaningful relationships.

[Jung · Rating 5 out of 5]

"How to Become a People Magnet: 62 Simple Strategies to Build Powerful Relationships and Positively Impact Others" by Marc Reklau is a practical guide designed to help readers enhance their interpersonal skills and become more likable and influential in both personal and professional relationships. The book is structured around 62 actionable strategies that focus on improving communication, emotional intelligence, and social awareness to build stronger, more meaningful connections with others.

Reklau begins by emphasizing the importance of self-awareness as the foundation for becoming a "people magnet." He argues that understanding your strengths, weaknesses, and emotional triggers is essential for developing authentic relationships. The book encourages readers to practice active listening, empathy, and mindfulness, which are crucial for making others feel valued and understood. Reklau also highlights the significance of non-verbal communication, such as body language and eye contact, in conveying warmth and openness. The author presents a series of strategies that focus on specific aspects of social interactions. For instance, he advises readers to smile more often, use people's names in conversation, and give genuine compliments to create positive impressions. Reklau also discusses the power of positivity and how maintaining a positive attitude can attract others and foster a supportive social environment.

Another key theme in the book is the importance of reciprocity in relationships. Reklau stresses that building trust and rapport requires a balance of giving and receiving. He encourages readers to offer help, share resources, and show appreciation to others, as these actions strengthen bonds and create a sense of mutual respect. The book also addresses the challenges of dealing with difficult people and navigating conflict. Reklau offers strategies for managing disagreements with tact and diplomacy, such as staying calm, seeking common ground, and focusing on solutions rather than problems. He also emphasizes the value of forgiveness and letting go of grudges to maintain healthy relationships.

In addition to interpersonal skills, Reklau touches on the importance of personal development and self-improvement. He encourages readers to cultivate a growth mindset, set goals, and continually strive to become the best version of themselves. By doing so, they can inspire others and lead by example. Throughout the book, Reklau provides practical exercises and tips that readers can implement in their daily lives. These include techniques for improving conversation skills, building confidence, and expanding one's social network. He also includes anecdotes and real-life examples to illustrate how these strategies can be applied in various situations.

Here are the 62 strategies from “How to Become a People Magnet” by Marc Reklau:

01. Be Yourself: Authenticity is key to forming genuine connections.
02. Smile Often: A smile is a universal sign of friendliness.
03. Remember Names: Using someone’s name in conversation makes them feel valued.
04. Make Eye Contact: It conveys confidence and attentiveness.
05. Be an Active Listener: Focus fully on the speaker and show genuine interest.
06. Show Empathy: Understand and share the feelings of others.
07. Give Genuine Compliments: Complimenting others sincerely builds rapport.
08. Be Positive: Maintain a positive attitude to attract people.
09. Practice Gratitude: Show appreciation for what others do for you.
10. Keep Your Word: Trustworthiness is essential in relationships.
11. Be a Good Conversationalist: Engage in meaningful and balanced conversations.
12. Speak Clearly: Clear communication reduces misunderstandings.
13. Ask Questions: Show interest by asking about others' experiences and opinions.
14. Show Curiosity: Be genuinely interested in learning about others.
15. Use Humor: Light humor can make you more approachable and relatable.
16. Practice Mindfulness: Be present in your interactions with others.
17. Be Humble: Acknowledge your flaws and be open to learning.
18. Take Responsibility: Own up to your mistakes and learn from them.
19. Be Forgiving: Let go of grudges to maintain healthy relationships.
20. Offer Help: Helping others builds strong bonds and trust.
21. Be Generous: Share your time, resources, and knowledge.
22. Be Patient: Patience shows respect for others' time and circumstances.
23. Be Tactful: Approach sensitive topics with care and diplomacy.
24. Maintain Boundaries: Respect others' limits and communicate your own.
25. Be Open-Minded: Embrace diverse perspectives and ideas.
26. Practice Compassion: Show kindness and concern for others.
27. Be Honest: Honesty builds trust and strengthens relationships.
28. Manage Your Emotions: Control your reactions to maintain harmony.
29. Avoid Gossip: Focus on positive communication and avoid speaking ill of others.
30. Be Reliable: Consistency in your actions and behavior fosters trust.
31. Show Respect: Treat everyone with dignity and consideration.
32. Express Gratitude Frequently: Regularly thank others for their contributions.
33. Be Supportive: Offer encouragement and support in times of need.
34. Create Win-Win Situations: Seek solutions that benefit everyone involved.
35. Respect Others' Opinions: Even when you disagree, value their perspective.
36. Apologize When Necessary: A sincere apology can mend a damaged relationship.
37. Be Transparent: Openness in your actions and intentions builds trust.
38. Show Interest in Others' Lives: Ask about their goals, hobbies, and experiences.
39. Be Flexible: Adapt to changing situations and others' needs.
40. Use Positive Body Language: Open and inviting body language enhances communication.
41. Celebrate Others' Successes: Share in their joy and achievements.
42. Be a Good Host: Make others feel welcome and comfortable in your presence.
43. Avoid Being Judgmental: Approach situations with an open mind.
44. Practice Self-Care: Taking care of yourself enables you to be there for others.
45. Be Consistent: Consistency in behavior builds reliability and trust.
46. Listen to Understand, Not to Respond: Focus on truly understanding the speaker.
47. Use “We” Language: Create a sense of collaboration and teamwork.
48. Maintain a Sense of Humor: Humor can ease tension and create a bond.
49. Be Approachable: Foster an environment where people feel comfortable coming to you.
50. Encourage Others: Provide motivation and support for others' goals.
51. Know When to Keep Quiet: Sometimes silence is more powerful than words.
52. Share Your Experiences: Personal stories can build connections.
53. Be Vulnerable: Sharing your feelings can strengthen relationships.
54. Practice Small Acts of Kindness: Small gestures can have a big impact.
55. Build Trust Over Time: Trust is earned through consistent actions.
56. Express Your Thoughts Clearly: Ensure your communication is clear and understood.
57. Focus on Solutions, Not Problems: Adopt a problem-solving mindset.
58. Be Inclusive: Welcome others into your social circles.
59. Respect Others' Time: Punctuality and respecting others' schedules is crucial.
60. Share Resources: Be generous with your knowledge and tools.
61. Be Modest: Avoid boasting and remain humble about your accomplishments.
62. Be Yourself, Always: Authenticity is the key to long-lasting and meaningful relationships.

In summary, "How to Become a People Magnet" offers a comprehensive guide to building stronger, more impactful relationships through self-awareness, effective communication, and positive social behaviors. By following Reklau's 62 strategies, readers can enhance their interpersonal skills, attract others, and create lasting connections that enrich their personal and professional lives.

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