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Sex Witch: Magickal Spells for Love, Lust, and Self-Protection
“A shameless celebration of sexual freedom, Sex Witch encourages us to cultivate the potent, political powers we all possess within our hearts and minds and between our thighs.”
-- Kristen J. Sollée, author of Witch Hunt , Cat Call , and Witches, Sluts, Feminists Sex Witch combines occult knowledge with tried-and-true relationship advice to provide spells for each stage of a relationship. Self-love, seduction, sex, love, protection, revenge, and healing are all covered. The spells, such as “A Tarot Spread to Find Which Relationship Format Is Right for You,” “No TERFS Embrace Gender Identity,” and “Consecrate Sex Toys” use occult knowledge and Saint Thomas’s award-winning relationship writing to manifest a spell book that does something genuinely it works. Sex Witch is real. Love is not always fair. Sometimes we get hurt or hurt others. Using the magic inside, you’ll learn how to stay balanced during these ups and
•Break toxic cycles.
•Use candle magic to summon the perfect partner.
•Embrace and unleash your kinks.
•Navigate relationships through rough patches.
•Get over former lovers.
•Practice self-forgiveness and self-kindness.
-- Kristen J. Sollée, author of Witch Hunt , Cat Call , and Witches, Sluts, Feminists Sex Witch combines occult knowledge with tried-and-true relationship advice to provide spells for each stage of a relationship. Self-love, seduction, sex, love, protection, revenge, and healing are all covered. The spells, such as “A Tarot Spread to Find Which Relationship Format Is Right for You,” “No TERFS Embrace Gender Identity,” and “Consecrate Sex Toys” use occult knowledge and Saint Thomas’s award-winning relationship writing to manifest a spell book that does something genuinely it works. Sex Witch is real. Love is not always fair. Sometimes we get hurt or hurt others. Using the magic inside, you’ll learn how to stay balanced during these ups and
•Break toxic cycles.
•Use candle magic to summon the perfect partner.
•Embrace and unleash your kinks.
•Navigate relationships through rough patches.
•Get over former lovers.
•Practice self-forgiveness and self-kindness.
240 pages, Paperback
Published February 1, 2021
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May 3, 2021
I will preface this with — I’m glad I read this book, there was a lot of great info in it. The Marilyn Manson bit that the book opens with was a bit “yikes” but she wrote it before the news broke on just how incredibly YIKES he is. (Though this feels like one of those out-in-the-open secrets, like so many other abusers.)
None of my not-so-excellents below offended me or hurt my feelings, but I could see how it might alienate some readers.
What was excellent:
+ This was a great, relatively sex positive book that broke down the basics of sex magic. I’ve saved a couple spells to do on my own, and I really liked how freely she talked about sex for fun and for pleasure. (Because hello, those are major perks to sex!)
+ The rituals were easy enough for a beginner to follow, but varied enough that I think almost anyone could find something in the pages to enrich their practice.
+ There were a lot of ways to support self-care a s self-empowerment in these pages, and they didn’t focus solely on sex with a partner. The spells were also written to include real-life actions to rectify a situation. So,etching often missing from the narrative with spells you find online.
What was not-so-excellent:
- She strongly dislikes Christians. She spends maybe too much time talking about how horrible Christians are — and I get it. There are a lot of people who use faith to hurt others. But Christians are a hugely, varied group. There are liberal, sex positive Christians just as there are rigid, racist pagans. Sometimes people are assholes and not in the anal sex way.
- She thinks “vanilla” sex is boring and prudish? And again, I get it, “vanilla” is conventional and anything outside that is deemed “wrong.” I am a sex positive person... who likes vanilla sex. It didn’t strike me as particularly sex positive to be like “yeah, do what brings you pleasure but if it’s vanilla, eh, I mean, you’re boring.”
None of my not-so-excellents below offended me or hurt my feelings, but I could see how it might alienate some readers.
What was excellent:
+ This was a great, relatively sex positive book that broke down the basics of sex magic. I’ve saved a couple spells to do on my own, and I really liked how freely she talked about sex for fun and for pleasure. (Because hello, those are major perks to sex!)
+ The rituals were easy enough for a beginner to follow, but varied enough that I think almost anyone could find something in the pages to enrich their practice.
+ There were a lot of ways to support self-care a s self-empowerment in these pages, and they didn’t focus solely on sex with a partner. The spells were also written to include real-life actions to rectify a situation. So,etching often missing from the narrative with spells you find online.
What was not-so-excellent:
- She strongly dislikes Christians. She spends maybe too much time talking about how horrible Christians are — and I get it. There are a lot of people who use faith to hurt others. But Christians are a hugely, varied group. There are liberal, sex positive Christians just as there are rigid, racist pagans. Sometimes people are assholes and not in the anal sex way.
- She thinks “vanilla” sex is boring and prudish? And again, I get it, “vanilla” is conventional and anything outside that is deemed “wrong.” I am a sex positive person... who likes vanilla sex. It didn’t strike me as particularly sex positive to be like “yeah, do what brings you pleasure but if it’s vanilla, eh, I mean, you’re boring.”
May 5, 2021
I wanted to love this book, I really did. There's some useful basics in the first few chapters, a good introduction to the sexuality spectrum, a basic rundown of kinks and fetishes, and some pretty good spells that I intend to incorporate into my practice. The book is very sex positive and LGBTQ+ inclusive, which I liked. What jarred me the most about this book is just how much angst, ax-grinding, and shaming against those who prefer "vanilla" sex there was. Kinks aren't for everyone, and those who prefer vanilla sex are still valid. That, in addition to the Christian bashing on almost every page really took me out of the self-love, pleasure, and beauty of sex mindset. Something about having my chosen deity to work with and worship being called a "submissive little bitch" made me feel really alienated as a reader. While I don't identify with organized religion, I feel like the whole "Christians suck!" narrative has been beaten so far into the ground that it is tedious to read.
Also, the first page telling the story of how Saint Thomas wanted to hook up with Marilyn Manson? YIKES. I'm going to assume the book was already in the works of being published before the abuse allegations came to light, but it's still really cringey to read in 2021. Especially since it was pretty much an open secret.
Maybe this book just wasn't for me. I consider myself a pretty progressive, sex positive person, but something about this book just felt really angry and spiteful. This is my first time reading anything by Saint Thomas, so maybe she's not an author for me. What I was hoping to be a celebration of sexuality ended up being a very bitter and alienating read.
Addendum: The unironic use of the word “muggle” several times throughout the book made me cringe.
Also, the first page telling the story of how Saint Thomas wanted to hook up with Marilyn Manson? YIKES. I'm going to assume the book was already in the works of being published before the abuse allegations came to light, but it's still really cringey to read in 2021. Especially since it was pretty much an open secret.
Maybe this book just wasn't for me. I consider myself a pretty progressive, sex positive person, but something about this book just felt really angry and spiteful. This is my first time reading anything by Saint Thomas, so maybe she's not an author for me. What I was hoping to be a celebration of sexuality ended up being a very bitter and alienating read.
Addendum: The unironic use of the word “muggle” several times throughout the book made me cringe.
June 8, 2022
This book approaches the topic of magic in a pretty well rounded way.
Also, it is modern and written in a funny way. Many times I found myself laughing while reading it.
Reasonable spells, although I would place a little more caution regarding curses.
Also, it is modern and written in a funny way. Many times I found myself laughing while reading it.
Reasonable spells, although I would place a little more caution regarding curses.
August 9, 2024
This is the worst witchcraft book I have ever read in my life. I hope to never find a book that is worse than it.
I don't even know where to start with how bad it is. The book opens with a promise that you should fuck a candle. It promises not to kink shame, but insists if you're vanilla you should try skydiving. For some inexplicable reason this author refuses to call skat anything other than "poop play" and also regularly gives advice to steal the hair of your lovers and exes.
It claims to be LGBTQ friendly but every spell is in binary M/F dynamics with no actual room for poly or queerness. Witches are always referred to in the feminine. Exes are always referred to in the masculine. My favorite is her definition of lesbians. This is a direct quote from the book: "lesbians are female-identifying goddesses who have an enduring romantic and physical attraction to other female identifying goddesses." Deifying people for any sexual orientation is fucking gross, I'm not sorry.
This book reads like it was written by an overzealous LaVeyan who has no understanding of why LaVeyan Satanism is dying out and why people think it's cringe.
Also, the actual advice? Literally awful. One of the spells calls for putting red glitter on your partner while they aren't looking to mark them as yours. First of all, I've never read something so anti-poly in my life despite the author's claims to be pro-poly. Second of all, at no point should you be putting spells on your partner without consent, that is deeply unethical. Third of all, there's so many sexier ways to cast binding and claiming magic in consensual, non-creepy ways than this.
There's also multiple spells involving putting glitter on candles, like the author couldn't be bothered to find out that glitter is made of plastic and if you burn it you're openly releasing carcinogens into your fucking house. She also has spells to burn candles on top of newspaper, because nothing says a spell's complete like a nice little housefire.
The crazy part here is I could keep going with the problems in this book. Every part of this is so bad. Do not read it. Do not follow it. The advice in here will actively harm you. I would give this 0 stars if I could.
I don't even know where to start with how bad it is. The book opens with a promise that you should fuck a candle. It promises not to kink shame, but insists if you're vanilla you should try skydiving. For some inexplicable reason this author refuses to call skat anything other than "poop play" and also regularly gives advice to steal the hair of your lovers and exes.
It claims to be LGBTQ friendly but every spell is in binary M/F dynamics with no actual room for poly or queerness. Witches are always referred to in the feminine. Exes are always referred to in the masculine. My favorite is her definition of lesbians. This is a direct quote from the book: "lesbians are female-identifying goddesses who have an enduring romantic and physical attraction to other female identifying goddesses." Deifying people for any sexual orientation is fucking gross, I'm not sorry.
This book reads like it was written by an overzealous LaVeyan who has no understanding of why LaVeyan Satanism is dying out and why people think it's cringe.
Also, the actual advice? Literally awful. One of the spells calls for putting red glitter on your partner while they aren't looking to mark them as yours. First of all, I've never read something so anti-poly in my life despite the author's claims to be pro-poly. Second of all, at no point should you be putting spells on your partner without consent, that is deeply unethical. Third of all, there's so many sexier ways to cast binding and claiming magic in consensual, non-creepy ways than this.
There's also multiple spells involving putting glitter on candles, like the author couldn't be bothered to find out that glitter is made of plastic and if you burn it you're openly releasing carcinogens into your fucking house. She also has spells to burn candles on top of newspaper, because nothing says a spell's complete like a nice little housefire.
The crazy part here is I could keep going with the problems in this book. Every part of this is so bad. Do not read it. Do not follow it. The advice in here will actively harm you. I would give this 0 stars if I could.
February 15, 2021
This is one of those books I want to keep in my collection for my children to read it. It was a really fun book, very approachable and had some great tips and tricks. which says a lot considering I'm an incredibly queer ace.
The only thing I personally didn't like was the fact that the book really talked down on straight, no kink relationships , but other than that, I highly recommend it!
The only thing I personally didn't like was the fact that the book really talked down on straight, no kink relationships , but other than that, I highly recommend it!
November 12, 2021
A lil bit to much weed talk, but other than that funny & interessting.
Might need to pick up a printed version if I can get my hands on one, as it was somewhat hard to follow in audiobool form.
Might need to pick up a printed version if I can get my hands on one, as it was somewhat hard to follow in audiobool form.
February 10, 2021
This book is amazing for baby witches like myself, it covers the basics of witchcraft. It teaches about sexuality and self acceptance (shit you don’t learn in school). This book is great to use for your grimoire! As a witch who is trying to learn about deities and astrology (to incorporate in my tarot readings), I HIGHLY recommend this book. It’s an easy read and so the spells! So nice and simple.
October 4, 2022
Fun read that presents a lot of info in dictionary-definition-type layouts.
Where the book shines is its inclusivity - even if it veers a bit cringe at times (the use of "bitch/witch," "all gays are inherently magickal," etc.). Mostly sex-positive (other reviewers have noted the dings on vanilla sex), and includes a well-rounded crop of information for anyone interested in rituals/magic (with particular emphasis on candle magic) alongside some real-world actions and activism.
Where the book shines is its inclusivity - even if it veers a bit cringe at times (the use of "bitch/witch," "all gays are inherently magickal," etc.). Mostly sex-positive (other reviewers have noted the dings on vanilla sex), and includes a well-rounded crop of information for anyone interested in rituals/magic (with particular emphasis on candle magic) alongside some real-world actions and activism.
April 13, 2021
Written for a VERY mature audience, this book was well written and fun to scrounge around. Every page imparts wisdom deeper than most books termed "witch" are willing to go. But going there is a MUST!
February 19, 2023
una total decepción, o sea, es un grimorio de hechizos q no siempre están relacionados a la sexualidad, y ya
August 1, 2021
Casi todo definiciones generales o hechizos y recetas que meh... Pero hay quien mataría por eso, así que...
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