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When You Don't Like Your Story: What If Your Worst Chapters Could Become Your Greatest Victories?
Bestselling author, cofounder of Girlfriends in God, and writer for Proverbs 31 Ministries Sharon Jaynes reveals the secret to living a better understanding that the worst parts of our past are the very things God uses most. Many people don't like the story God is writing in their lives. The mistakes, failures, tragedies, and circumstances outside of our control linger in our minds and hold us back. How do we come to grips with the pieces of our stories that we wish weren't there? How do we silence the pain of what has been done to us and the shame of what we've allowed to be done through us? In When You Don't Like Your Story , Bible teacher Sharon Jaynes shows us how God untangles our most painful emotions with the fingers of grace, putting his redemption on display. In the hardest parts of our narratives, we get to see God's greatest work--and this changes the ending of our stories. As we overcome shame, offer forgiveness, and use our stories to help others, we find freedom from the past and learn to live in the restoration of the present.
256 pages, Paperback
Published January 26, 2021
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May 6, 2022
Despite the amount of time this took me to read, in on and off spurts, and the fact that I didn't really feel like it shared a lot of new information for anyone but moi who doesn't think very clearly, I really loved this book.
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April 9, 2021
Everyone needs a friend to sit down and help you through tough spots. This book is that friend. When you don’t like your story it’s important to have someone speak truth into you. Turn your eyes upward and not on your circumstances. To turn your heart toward Jesus.
January 26, 2021
When I was invited to be part of this book launch I was very excited. The title of the book, "When You Don't Like Your Story" by Sharon Jaynes, especially appealed to me because right now (at the time I started reading), I don't like my story. I was hoping this book would "speak to me" as if it was written for me and I was not disappointed! Do you ever listen to a sermon or read a book and it is as if the pastor is speaking directly to you, or the author was in your head as they were putting pen to paper? Well this book will not disappoint!
Ask yourself, "Do you love your story?" What if you could transform a no answer into "I love my story!" If you could transform from question to exclamation it would be worth your time right?! Sharon explains, "He (the evil one) capitalizes on every hurt, magnifies every mistake, and punctuates every promise with a question mark." Let's get rid of those question marks and have more exclamation marks in our lives!!!
This book is the tool for you. And guess what? Sharon has a bible study coming out to accompany this book! I would be remiss if I did not tell you this book is about hard work. It's a good thing I am not afraid of working hard to navigate what God has in store for me.
Sharon utilizes various real life stories to reach each of us. There is something for everyone here. No matter what your past was like, your future is bright and is in God's hands. Believe that, feel that, live audaciously the life God has paved for you! Don't give up or give in! I almost did and I am glad Sharon has taken the talents God gifted her with to share with all of us.
Ask yourself, "Do you love your story?" What if you could transform a no answer into "I love my story!" If you could transform from question to exclamation it would be worth your time right?! Sharon explains, "He (the evil one) capitalizes on every hurt, magnifies every mistake, and punctuates every promise with a question mark." Let's get rid of those question marks and have more exclamation marks in our lives!!!
This book is the tool for you. And guess what? Sharon has a bible study coming out to accompany this book! I would be remiss if I did not tell you this book is about hard work. It's a good thing I am not afraid of working hard to navigate what God has in store for me.
Sharon utilizes various real life stories to reach each of us. There is something for everyone here. No matter what your past was like, your future is bright and is in God's hands. Believe that, feel that, live audaciously the life God has paved for you! Don't give up or give in! I almost did and I am glad Sharon has taken the talents God gifted her with to share with all of us.
January 24, 2021
At the beginning of this book, Sharon Jaynes shares her personal story, showing how she overcame shame over her dysfunctional childhood household and came to see that God could use her difficult circumstances for good. She shares a variety of other stories throughout the book, from friends, acquaintances, and women she has met while speaking at conferences. The stories cover a number of different themes and types of losses, and even though many of the stories near the beginning have happy endings, as the book continues, she shares testimonies from people were able to persevere, forgive, and find healing even when their stories did not conclude well. She encourages her readers to see God's redemptive hand in all of their sufferings, and shares practical steps for how women can overcome shame, make peace with their difficult experiences, and share their story with others.
Jaynes writes in a smooth and compelling style, weaving together Scripture verses, biblical narratives, women's testimonies, and insight into overcoming shame. When I read this, I was celebrating the fifth anniversary of the week when I first talked about my mental health issues with a friend and experienced freedom and peace in integrating all of my experiences into one story, instead of separating my public life and my private torment. Because of this, I noticed that Jaynes did not include any testimonies related to women overcoming mental health issues. I think that it would have been helpful for her to include stories about mental issues, to normalize and de-stigmatize this aspect of life, but a reader can still apply all of her teaching to whatever situation they are walking through.
However, I do want to provide a trigger warning for people who have experienced sexual abuse. Several women's stories in this book involve sexual trauma, and even though Jaynes does not include any graphic details about the abuse, she provides specific, sensory details related to the people and environments involved. These stories could trigger other victims, but because Jaynes takes the ravages of abuse very seriously and provides survivors' wisdom for recovery, this book can also help women heal and break past the shame of what someone did to them. Whether or not someone would find this helpful or hindering would depend on their mental state and how prepared they are to read multiple trauma narratives.
This book is full of excellent advice for Christians who want to see God's redemptive hand in their lives, move past shame, and speak up about their experiences. Also, even though it is specifically geared towards a female audience, the advice and truths in this book apply to anyone, and men may appreciate this as well, given its strong biblical base and insight into the healing process. This is a very wise and encouraging book, and at the end, Jaynes shares brief lesson plans for each chapter, assigning additional Scripture readings and asking reflection questions. This book is great for someone to read by themselves, but might have the most impact in a group, where people can work through the material together and begin to share their stories. This book is realistic, honest, and encouraging, and can help readers cast away their chains, feel forgiven, move past what was done to them, and find healing in Christ.
I received a free copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for an honest review.
Jaynes writes in a smooth and compelling style, weaving together Scripture verses, biblical narratives, women's testimonies, and insight into overcoming shame. When I read this, I was celebrating the fifth anniversary of the week when I first talked about my mental health issues with a friend and experienced freedom and peace in integrating all of my experiences into one story, instead of separating my public life and my private torment. Because of this, I noticed that Jaynes did not include any testimonies related to women overcoming mental health issues. I think that it would have been helpful for her to include stories about mental issues, to normalize and de-stigmatize this aspect of life, but a reader can still apply all of her teaching to whatever situation they are walking through.
However, I do want to provide a trigger warning for people who have experienced sexual abuse. Several women's stories in this book involve sexual trauma, and even though Jaynes does not include any graphic details about the abuse, she provides specific, sensory details related to the people and environments involved. These stories could trigger other victims, but because Jaynes takes the ravages of abuse very seriously and provides survivors' wisdom for recovery, this book can also help women heal and break past the shame of what someone did to them. Whether or not someone would find this helpful or hindering would depend on their mental state and how prepared they are to read multiple trauma narratives.
This book is full of excellent advice for Christians who want to see God's redemptive hand in their lives, move past shame, and speak up about their experiences. Also, even though it is specifically geared towards a female audience, the advice and truths in this book apply to anyone, and men may appreciate this as well, given its strong biblical base and insight into the healing process. This is a very wise and encouraging book, and at the end, Jaynes shares brief lesson plans for each chapter, assigning additional Scripture readings and asking reflection questions. This book is great for someone to read by themselves, but might have the most impact in a group, where people can work through the material together and begin to share their stories. This book is realistic, honest, and encouraging, and can help readers cast away their chains, feel forgiven, move past what was done to them, and find healing in Christ.
I received a free copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for an honest review.
January 19, 2021
I have chapters and pages in my story that I don’t like. I wish that I could tear them out, shred them, and set fire to them.
How about you?
Have you considered that God can use the ugly and broken shards of your life to piece together beautiful and valuable artwork?
Bestselling author Sharon Jaynes examines her life and the lives of others in light of the stories that make us uncomfortable, those stories that we would like to forget. You know, the ones you’ve hidden away and hope no one hears about. We’re missing the point.
Jaynes asks, “What if your worst chapters could become your greatest victories?”
Defeats into victories?
God pieces together the shards of life with gold, much like the art of Kintsugi. The scars of gold tell others how God has transformed our brokenness into works of art that delight all.
“We live life forward, but we understand it backward.” Sharon Jaynes, p. 32.
We don’t know God’s strategic plan for our lives. However, when we look back and remember how God used those uncomfortable times, we understand His artistry in the scars of gold.
Jaynes shows how God transforms disappointment, guilt, shame, forgiveness, and much more into understanding, gratitude, and trust in His plan for us.
She has added resources like Scriptures that reveal our identity in Christ, prayers for forgiveness, and a Bible Study Guide that small groups can use to go through the book together.
This is a “must-read” for a time such as this … a must-read for those who don’t understand how God can use their brokenness … a must-read for a new perspective on the disappointments of life.
The book will be available on January 26. Preorder today to receive exclusive bonus content.
I received an advance reader copy from the publisher for my honest review.
How about you?
Have you considered that God can use the ugly and broken shards of your life to piece together beautiful and valuable artwork?
Bestselling author Sharon Jaynes examines her life and the lives of others in light of the stories that make us uncomfortable, those stories that we would like to forget. You know, the ones you’ve hidden away and hope no one hears about. We’re missing the point.
Jaynes asks, “What if your worst chapters could become your greatest victories?”
Defeats into victories?
God pieces together the shards of life with gold, much like the art of Kintsugi. The scars of gold tell others how God has transformed our brokenness into works of art that delight all.
“We live life forward, but we understand it backward.” Sharon Jaynes, p. 32.
We don’t know God’s strategic plan for our lives. However, when we look back and remember how God used those uncomfortable times, we understand His artistry in the scars of gold.
Jaynes shows how God transforms disappointment, guilt, shame, forgiveness, and much more into understanding, gratitude, and trust in His plan for us.
She has added resources like Scriptures that reveal our identity in Christ, prayers for forgiveness, and a Bible Study Guide that small groups can use to go through the book together.
This is a “must-read” for a time such as this … a must-read for those who don’t understand how God can use their brokenness … a must-read for a new perspective on the disappointments of life.
The book will be available on January 26. Preorder today to receive exclusive bonus content.
I received an advance reader copy from the publisher for my honest review.
August 10, 2024
First and foremost, thanks to NetGalley and the publishers for the ARC of WHEN YOU DON’T LIKE YOUR STORY: What if Your Worst Chapters Could Become Your Greatest Victories?
Sharon Jaynes writes for Proverbs 31 Ministries. It is a fantastic resource for Christian women; the ministry addresses difficult life situations and hard truths. Ms. Jaynes touches on a popular subject; a trend now is for people to be introspective and are encouraged to look into their past to come to grips with their present, It can be a daunting task, especially when one realizes their is much pain that one may have suppressed but is now unmasked… and the reveal is heart rending. However, this book provides comfort, if not relief, to those of us despairing of all our mistakes and regrets. Ms. Jaynes has done much research; there are anecdotal stories of people “just like us”, quotes from authors and numerous biblical references.
Ms. Jaynes offers a balm for suffering souls, whose personal life story would otherwise flood them with guilt, shame, or despair. The beauty this reader found is that in examining your story ( the good, bad, and the ugly parts), one doesn’t need to be stuck in the downward cycle of despair or depression over it! She offers gentle questions and pragmatic suggestions in each chapter. I am reminded of an old gospel song by Bill and Gloria Gaither entitled “Something Beautiful” in which the lyrics speak of God turning the brokenness of dashed hopes and dreams, and the ashes of life’s failures into something beautiful. This book guides readers into understanding this mystery of the transforming work God desires to accomplish in our love. He is in the business of redemption and transformation.
Ms Jaynes’ book is an encouragement for the downtrodden or despondent, especially those of us who have walked the Christian life , but whose path was filled with many ruts in the road, potholes, obstacles and detours. It is encouraging to read the stories from contemporary individuals as well as biblical characters to realize God’s purposes is to bring glory to Himself through difficult life situations, people and even devastating stories. And His purposes will not be thwarted, despite our story. We may not like our story, but we can learn to be at peace with it. Ms.Jaynes shows us the way to receive God’s peace and grace as we embrace our story. God uses ALL things ( the good, bad, and the ugly) in OUR story to show HIS glory as He develops HIS story of grace, redemption, and transformation in our life!
Sharon Jaynes writes for Proverbs 31 Ministries. It is a fantastic resource for Christian women; the ministry addresses difficult life situations and hard truths. Ms. Jaynes touches on a popular subject; a trend now is for people to be introspective and are encouraged to look into their past to come to grips with their present, It can be a daunting task, especially when one realizes their is much pain that one may have suppressed but is now unmasked… and the reveal is heart rending. However, this book provides comfort, if not relief, to those of us despairing of all our mistakes and regrets. Ms. Jaynes has done much research; there are anecdotal stories of people “just like us”, quotes from authors and numerous biblical references.
Ms. Jaynes offers a balm for suffering souls, whose personal life story would otherwise flood them with guilt, shame, or despair. The beauty this reader found is that in examining your story ( the good, bad, and the ugly parts), one doesn’t need to be stuck in the downward cycle of despair or depression over it! She offers gentle questions and pragmatic suggestions in each chapter. I am reminded of an old gospel song by Bill and Gloria Gaither entitled “Something Beautiful” in which the lyrics speak of God turning the brokenness of dashed hopes and dreams, and the ashes of life’s failures into something beautiful. This book guides readers into understanding this mystery of the transforming work God desires to accomplish in our love. He is in the business of redemption and transformation.
Ms Jaynes’ book is an encouragement for the downtrodden or despondent, especially those of us who have walked the Christian life , but whose path was filled with many ruts in the road, potholes, obstacles and detours. It is encouraging to read the stories from contemporary individuals as well as biblical characters to realize God’s purposes is to bring glory to Himself through difficult life situations, people and even devastating stories. And His purposes will not be thwarted, despite our story. We may not like our story, but we can learn to be at peace with it. Ms.Jaynes shows us the way to receive God’s peace and grace as we embrace our story. God uses ALL things ( the good, bad, and the ugly) in OUR story to show HIS glory as He develops HIS story of grace, redemption, and transformation in our life!
May 14, 2022
I guess I’m in the minority who didn’t love this book. My book club read this book together and there was definitely diverse opinions regarding the writing style. The ideas were good, what she attempted to convey, was great, her execution left something to be desired on many occasions. Everyone has a story, yes, however, the way the story is relayed can either lead the reader to empathize, connect with, or be isolated. The writing was so surface level on many occasions that I felt no connection with what she was attempting to relay, which is to bad because I felt there was so much promise. Overall, it did lead to some good discussions in group :)
August 5, 2022
We all have a story that God uses. This book is incredible and well written with stories that seemed disastrous but always proved to be a blessing when shared with others. God is always with us whether we chose the story or not. Our past something we did or had five to us … it is not who we are. Share your story. We used this book as part of a Bible study and 15 women shared and bonded in love.
January 24, 2021
Whether it’s your first Sharon Jayne’s book or your 25th, When You Don’t Like Your Story will resonate as you reflect on parts of your own story and how God uses them victoriously. With multiple examples from her own life and the lives of others, Sharon shares transparently on heartache, struggle, hope, and redemption. She uses numerous word pictures and examples of struggle and triumph in the Bible to point us to our hope-a Sovereign God who loves us and who is trustworthy. Difficult topics such as death, abuse, shame, and others are covered with compassion and honesty showcasing the saving work of Christ in our toughest times.
Favorite chapters and quotes:
There’s Always a Meanwhile- “God is always working and we can have Holy confidence independent of our circumstances.”
The Scab You Won’t Stop Picking-picking at our emotional scabs “keeps wounds from healing and keeps us from moving forward.”
“Trading in your Green Stamps”- a simple picture of the complex work of redemption: trading one thing for another better thing.
Lens One or Lens Two? Which One is Better?-perhaps one of my favorite chapters as it resonated with me about how the focus on my story affects my attitude.
If you don’t like a part of your story from childhood or you’re struggling with the current realities of COVID, injustice, etc., Sharon addresses the root of each struggle and practical steps to allow God to help you write a new ending. Don’t stay stuck in your worst chapters when God is “simply inviting you to turn the page”.
As a bonus, a Bible study guide is included in the back of the book as well as resources about finding your true identity in Christ. Also included are prayers for forgiving others and receiving God’s forgiveness.
Thanks for the ARC and the opportunity to review.
Favorite chapters and quotes:
There’s Always a Meanwhile- “God is always working and we can have Holy confidence independent of our circumstances.”
The Scab You Won’t Stop Picking-picking at our emotional scabs “keeps wounds from healing and keeps us from moving forward.”
“Trading in your Green Stamps”- a simple picture of the complex work of redemption: trading one thing for another better thing.
Lens One or Lens Two? Which One is Better?-perhaps one of my favorite chapters as it resonated with me about how the focus on my story affects my attitude.
If you don’t like a part of your story from childhood or you’re struggling with the current realities of COVID, injustice, etc., Sharon addresses the root of each struggle and practical steps to allow God to help you write a new ending. Don’t stay stuck in your worst chapters when God is “simply inviting you to turn the page”.
As a bonus, a Bible study guide is included in the back of the book as well as resources about finding your true identity in Christ. Also included are prayers for forgiving others and receiving God’s forgiveness.
Thanks for the ARC and the opportunity to review.
January 26, 2021
I have followed Sharon Jaynes for a while after finding her through an online bible study. When I read about her new book “When you Don’t Like Your Story”, I immediately felt a pull towards it. How many of us can look back and say, “I regret nothing and am happy with every decision I’ve made?”
Thinking about my own story, I have made many strides towards making amends to my past and some poor life choices, but there are others that linger that I honesty do not know what to do with, so this book went on my list of “must reads”. When the chance to read it pre-release presented, I jumped all over it.
I really resonated with this book. Not only did Sharon share her own story, but also stories of others that did not always have a happy ending. This made the book so much more relatable, even when God doesn’t give us the answer we are looking for, he gives us a learning opportunity and a chance for growth.
One of the most powerful statements for me in the book was, “sometimes we prefer to live in the certainty of dysfunction rather than embrace the uncertainty of change.” Change is a struggle for me, whether it was finding the courage to leave an abusive marriage, trying to move on after the death of a child and moving forward with day to day choices, it is hard. I have printed this quote out and already refer to it often.
I encourage anyone feeling “stuck” or unable to move past a certain event to read this book. It is a window into the chance we have to rebuild our ending and be a light for others.
Thinking about my own story, I have made many strides towards making amends to my past and some poor life choices, but there are others that linger that I honesty do not know what to do with, so this book went on my list of “must reads”. When the chance to read it pre-release presented, I jumped all over it.
I really resonated with this book. Not only did Sharon share her own story, but also stories of others that did not always have a happy ending. This made the book so much more relatable, even when God doesn’t give us the answer we are looking for, he gives us a learning opportunity and a chance for growth.
One of the most powerful statements for me in the book was, “sometimes we prefer to live in the certainty of dysfunction rather than embrace the uncertainty of change.” Change is a struggle for me, whether it was finding the courage to leave an abusive marriage, trying to move on after the death of a child and moving forward with day to day choices, it is hard. I have printed this quote out and already refer to it often.
I encourage anyone feeling “stuck” or unable to move past a certain event to read this book. It is a window into the chance we have to rebuild our ending and be a light for others.
March 15, 2023
What I appreciate about Sharon's writing, whether in book form, or blogging, (and speaking), she is honest, real, forthright and relevant for today.
In her newest book, When you Don't like your Story..... it relates to our very personal life.
Life is tough. We do things we regret; time passes and we don't accomplish as much as we had hoped to... but in those deep dark times, is when God sheds he light - God uses broken vessels. When we are blinded by our thoughts, life, experiences, God will open the eyes of our heart to see HIS love in us. when we can FULLY trust he will turn ALL things for our GOOD, that includes the bad stuff.
Allow God to talk to you as you read this book. Pray before starting this book. If you are stuck, this and the Bible with Prayer and Faith can move you from this place to a better one. Only Believe.
In her newest book, When you Don't like your Story..... it relates to our very personal life.
Life is tough. We do things we regret; time passes and we don't accomplish as much as we had hoped to... but in those deep dark times, is when God sheds he light - God uses broken vessels. When we are blinded by our thoughts, life, experiences, God will open the eyes of our heart to see HIS love in us. when we can FULLY trust he will turn ALL things for our GOOD, that includes the bad stuff.
Allow God to talk to you as you read this book. Pray before starting this book. If you are stuck, this and the Bible with Prayer and Faith can move you from this place to a better one. Only Believe.
January 21, 2021
I really enjoyed When You Don't Like Your Story by Sharon Jaynes. It is about moving past and letting go of the parts of your story you wish were different and wish you could change. Sharon uses parts of her story, the stories of friends and acquaintances, and the lives of Biblical people to show how God can use our story, even the dark or ugly parts, for His purposes. In seeing the title of the book I thought the book was going to be only about Sharon's life and personal experiences and how she came to move forward, coming to grips with the hard, ugly, painful parts of her life. By including the experience and examples of other people and Biblical people I see how we realize that this is not just about one person moving forward from the parts of her life that she doesn't like but it is applicable and available to everyone's struggles with their lives and the parts they wish were different. Sharon writes in her book, " We cannot delete, discard, or amend the past, but we can repurpose and reclaim the present."
The writing flows easily and the stories are inspiring to read. This book is much needed encouragement as we go through our lives trying to overcome, hide, understand and even like the struggles and messes of our past. In the book Sharon shows how God can use even the most difficult experiences of our lives for good and to comfort others. We learn not to look to the world or others for our worth and value but to look to God for our value. Sharon provides steps in overcoming the parts of our story we don't like and look through a different lens. It is about reclaiming our lives and becoming the child of God we are created to be in life. It is about not dwelling on our hurts, pain, shame, guilt, and brokenness but moving forward allowing God to redeem the mess and ashes in our lives. Sharon provides a Bible Study Guide to use as you read through the chapters along with a list of verses showing our Identity in Christ and Prayers on forgiveness in the back of the book.
I received an advanced copy of this book fir my hosest review. All opinions expressed in this review are my own.
The writing flows easily and the stories are inspiring to read. This book is much needed encouragement as we go through our lives trying to overcome, hide, understand and even like the struggles and messes of our past. In the book Sharon shows how God can use even the most difficult experiences of our lives for good and to comfort others. We learn not to look to the world or others for our worth and value but to look to God for our value. Sharon provides steps in overcoming the parts of our story we don't like and look through a different lens. It is about reclaiming our lives and becoming the child of God we are created to be in life. It is about not dwelling on our hurts, pain, shame, guilt, and brokenness but moving forward allowing God to redeem the mess and ashes in our lives. Sharon provides a Bible Study Guide to use as you read through the chapters along with a list of verses showing our Identity in Christ and Prayers on forgiveness in the back of the book.
I received an advanced copy of this book fir my hosest review. All opinions expressed in this review are my own.
January 16, 2021
Sharon Jaynes most recent book, When You Don't Like Your Story has absolutely spoken into my life and deals with things I couldn't find help with elsewhere. The shame I've carried around for years over many different things that either someone else did to me, how people made me feel, things I daily tell myself, or choices I've made myself that were wrong, are all addressed. I'm so thankful that she wrote this story, shared so much, and put into words that there is forgiveness for us all, no matter what. That we can move past or even rename those chapters that we so desperately would love to rip out of our life's pages. I'm blessed for God's soverign grace, mercy, and love. I am excited to see these next chapters in my life and how God will use me for His glory and purposes.
I'm excited to see beauty in my coming chapters of life.
I hope you will give this book a chance, it truly is for everyone, it will bless you. I am a slow reader and I read through this book very quickly (two weeks), and looked forward to picking it back up to see what other truths and goodness I would hear about! I'm excited to do the upcoming Bible study on the book as I can only imagine how amazing that will be!
Sharon, truly I've loved each of the books I've read of yours, but deeply, truly, I can't thank you enough for this book. I thank you for being bold and standing up for those of us that had no idea how to move on from the shame and desperation of the choices we've made in the past. Thank you for making it clear from a Biblical standpoint that we aren't damaged goods, we ARE enough, we are beautiful, we are chosen, we are valuable, we are dearly loved, anointed, appointed, free of condemnation, washed, justified, and sanctified through Christ, and most importantly we are holy in God's sight, without blemish, and free of accusation!!
What a blessing!
I'm excited to see beauty in my coming chapters of life.
I hope you will give this book a chance, it truly is for everyone, it will bless you. I am a slow reader and I read through this book very quickly (two weeks), and looked forward to picking it back up to see what other truths and goodness I would hear about! I'm excited to do the upcoming Bible study on the book as I can only imagine how amazing that will be!
Sharon, truly I've loved each of the books I've read of yours, but deeply, truly, I can't thank you enough for this book. I thank you for being bold and standing up for those of us that had no idea how to move on from the shame and desperation of the choices we've made in the past. Thank you for making it clear from a Biblical standpoint that we aren't damaged goods, we ARE enough, we are beautiful, we are chosen, we are valuable, we are dearly loved, anointed, appointed, free of condemnation, washed, justified, and sanctified through Christ, and most importantly we are holy in God's sight, without blemish, and free of accusation!!
What a blessing!
December 6, 2020
When You Don't Like Your Story
What If Your Worst Chapters Could Become Your Greatest Victories?
by Sharon Jaynes
Nelson Books
Thomas Nelson
Biographies & Memoirs | Christian | Religion & Spirituality
Pub Date 26 Jan 2021
I am reviewing a copy of When You Don’t Like Your Story through Nelson Books/Thomas Nelson and Netgalley:
In When You Don’t Like Your Story we are reminded that many people aren’t happy with the stories that God is writing in their lives. We feel that the mistakes, failures, tragedies, and circumstances outside of our control linger in our minds and hold us back. But the author reminds us that God turns our broken stories into beautiful prose and the unwanted pages in the book that is our life into stunning narratives of victory.
Author Sharon Jaynes reminds us that our ravaged pages can turn into God’s redemptive victory. She goes on to teaming us that though we live our life forwards, we understand it backwards. She goes on to point at that their are times we prefer to live in the certainty of dysfunction rather than to embrace the uncertainty of change.
It is pointed out too that God does not simply want to comfort us in our distress, but infant he also wants to heal us from the history of hurt that causes it.. we are reminded too that just as forgiving others sets us free from the hate place forgiving ourselves sets us free from shame.
We are reminded too that our story is a divine weapon that has the power to defeat the devil. It is pointed out too that struggles remove fluff from our Faith to make it rock solid, and that hardships can prepare ordinary people from an extraordinary destiny.
I give When You Don’t Like Your Story five out of five stars!
Happy Reading!
March 30, 2021
** I received an Advanced Reader Copy of this book via NetGalley from the publisher in exchange for an honest review. All thoughts and opinions are my own.**
Sharon Jaynes does a great job of explaining how shame plays a major part in our lives, ever since it was introduced due to original sin. Many of us don't like our stories and are stuck on them. We constantly question or are shameful about our pasts. Jaynes explains how we can take these unwanted parts of our story, and move forward with them. The parts of our story that we want to rewrite, are just the parts God has given us to help others.
It's about taking our challenges and grief, and using that to help others. Sharon does a great job of bringing in Biblical text to explain that, to God, we aren't the lies we tell ourselves. To God, we are beautiful, holy, chosen, valuable and so many other amazing things. By remembering this, and how much God loves us (after all, He gave His only son) we can be transformed. Jaynes also brings in so many different experiences to this book. Not only her own personal stories and how she has turned her ugly chapters into something beautiful, but how others around her have. These testimonies are very powerful, and go to show that your story can be an inspiration to others.
I would definitely recommend this book to others, especially those struggling with their own story.
Sharon Jaynes does a great job of explaining how shame plays a major part in our lives, ever since it was introduced due to original sin. Many of us don't like our stories and are stuck on them. We constantly question or are shameful about our pasts. Jaynes explains how we can take these unwanted parts of our story, and move forward with them. The parts of our story that we want to rewrite, are just the parts God has given us to help others.
It's about taking our challenges and grief, and using that to help others. Sharon does a great job of bringing in Biblical text to explain that, to God, we aren't the lies we tell ourselves. To God, we are beautiful, holy, chosen, valuable and so many other amazing things. By remembering this, and how much God loves us (after all, He gave His only son) we can be transformed. Jaynes also brings in so many different experiences to this book. Not only her own personal stories and how she has turned her ugly chapters into something beautiful, but how others around her have. These testimonies are very powerful, and go to show that your story can be an inspiration to others.
I would definitely recommend this book to others, especially those struggling with their own story.
September 16, 2024
Lens One, or Lens Two...
As one who has a great interest in Narrative Research, this book provides inspirational insight into how the perception of our life stories alters one's ability to progress and go forward, regardless of their life challenges and circumstances. As humans, we have the power to say, "this is not how my story is going to end," and the power to decide how to respond to challenging situations and circumstances through a positive lens; gleaning all that the situation, circumstance, or life lesson provides. In Narrative Research, we also term the navigation and altering of one's narrative as narrative remapping.
Jaynes beautifully shares her narrative, and the narrative stories from participants that have remapped their story and chose a different lens to view their circumstances through. When our stories are filtered through the lens of God's grace; the view changes and becomes clearer, as the individual develops in their faith, grows in empathy and compassion for their own selves, and others.
Take Away...
"God doesn't want us to simply forget our suffering. Healing does not mean forgetting. He wants us to be fruitful in our suffering. Suffering can become seed in our hands. We can choose to slip those seeds in little packets and store them away, or we can choose to sprinkle those seeds, as good news of how God brought us through in the well-tilled soil of a ready soul. That's what it means to be fruitful. That's when healing happens. That's when we cross over from bitter to better once and for all--when our stories give hope to others that life can be different on the other side of pain. Your heartache can become someone else's hope."
If you are searching for, or need support to navigate your own narrative, Jaynes offers an encouraging and inspirational resource that is inclusive of her readers.
As one who has a great interest in Narrative Research, this book provides inspirational insight into how the perception of our life stories alters one's ability to progress and go forward, regardless of their life challenges and circumstances. As humans, we have the power to say, "this is not how my story is going to end," and the power to decide how to respond to challenging situations and circumstances through a positive lens; gleaning all that the situation, circumstance, or life lesson provides. In Narrative Research, we also term the navigation and altering of one's narrative as narrative remapping.
Jaynes beautifully shares her narrative, and the narrative stories from participants that have remapped their story and chose a different lens to view their circumstances through. When our stories are filtered through the lens of God's grace; the view changes and becomes clearer, as the individual develops in their faith, grows in empathy and compassion for their own selves, and others.
Take Away...
"God doesn't want us to simply forget our suffering. Healing does not mean forgetting. He wants us to be fruitful in our suffering. Suffering can become seed in our hands. We can choose to slip those seeds in little packets and store them away, or we can choose to sprinkle those seeds, as good news of how God brought us through in the well-tilled soil of a ready soul. That's what it means to be fruitful. That's when healing happens. That's when we cross over from bitter to better once and for all--when our stories give hope to others that life can be different on the other side of pain. Your heartache can become someone else's hope."
If you are searching for, or need support to navigate your own narrative, Jaynes offers an encouraging and inspirational resource that is inclusive of her readers.
February 14, 2021
“Yes, I’d like a different story, please.” But “God turns broken stories into beautiful prose and unwanted pages into stunning narratives of victory.”
Author Sharon Jaymes writes in a personable, relatable style. She’s quite open about sharing the difficult times in her own life; yet she does so in a way that’s encouraging, convicting, and comforting. She uses accounts of Biblical characters to enable readers to glean wisdom and hope by facing difficult times through a lens of faith. She also shares stories of other woman whose own stories are ones that include heartaches, but have allowed God to work through their own pain. Their stories are an encouragement that God can take our own stories and make them a testimony of His redemption and grace.
Please note: Some of these stories mention difficult experiences such a sexual and physical abuse; loss of a child and spouse; and abortion. Although these women’s stories are ultimately ones of recovery and faith, they are sometimes still heart-rending. I’m mentioning this because these things could be an emotional trigger for some women.
I thought this was an excellent book. I learned much from this author that will help me going forward in life.
I received a copy of this book from the publisher. All opinions are my own.
Author Sharon Jaymes writes in a personable, relatable style. She’s quite open about sharing the difficult times in her own life; yet she does so in a way that’s encouraging, convicting, and comforting. She uses accounts of Biblical characters to enable readers to glean wisdom and hope by facing difficult times through a lens of faith. She also shares stories of other woman whose own stories are ones that include heartaches, but have allowed God to work through their own pain. Their stories are an encouragement that God can take our own stories and make them a testimony of His redemption and grace.
Please note: Some of these stories mention difficult experiences such a sexual and physical abuse; loss of a child and spouse; and abortion. Although these women’s stories are ultimately ones of recovery and faith, they are sometimes still heart-rending. I’m mentioning this because these things could be an emotional trigger for some women.
I thought this was an excellent book. I learned much from this author that will help me going forward in life.
I received a copy of this book from the publisher. All opinions are my own.
January 26, 2021
Sharon Jaynes has done it again! Her newest book, When You Don’t Like Your Story spoke volumes into my life! It deals with the past traumas in our life that we all as humans go through and the majority of us never let go of! Things such as abuse, divorce, death, loss of job, un-forgiveness, shame. Anything that has changed the way you think your life should of went.
Sharon has a way of intertwining Bible stories and life stories so we know that we are not alone in what we are going through! That God is with us every step of the way even when we can’t feel him he has a greater plan!
One of my favorite things Sharon wrote was how healing happens when we can cross from bitter to better once and for al. When our stories can give hope to others that life can be different on the other side of their pain! Our heartache can be someone else’s hope!
Thank you again Sharon Jayne I love all your books but this book is my all time favorite by you!! Well done!!
Sharon has a way of intertwining Bible stories and life stories so we know that we are not alone in what we are going through! That God is with us every step of the way even when we can’t feel him he has a greater plan!
One of my favorite things Sharon wrote was how healing happens when we can cross from bitter to better once and for al. When our stories can give hope to others that life can be different on the other side of their pain! Our heartache can be someone else’s hope!
Thank you again Sharon Jayne I love all your books but this book is my all time favorite by you!! Well done!!
February 10, 2021
WOW, Sharon Jaynes has done it again with her newest book, When You Don’t Like Your Story. Sharon has a way of writing that makes you feel as if she is talking directly to you, her friend, as you sit and share a cup of coffee. She is transparent with her own story, sharing her heartache, struggles, hope and redemption. Many of us have chapters of our story we would like to rewrite or forget. Sharon encourages us to use these messes and struggles to find hope and encouragement. She shows us how God can use even the most difficult experiences of our lives for good. One quote from the book; “We cannot delete, discard, or amend the past, but we can repurpose and reclaim the present” spoke volumes to me about how I can use my experiences to help and comfort others. The stories are not just inspiring to read, but they are perfect examples to help each of us move forward in overcoming the parts of our story we don’t like.
January 22, 2021
Book Review for “ When You Don’t Like Your Story” by Sharon Jaynes
There is so much healing in this book. I highlighted almost every word! We all know we should forgive and we all know that Jesus died to forgive our sins, but what we know in our heads does not always translate to our hearts. Sharon Jaynes gives real-life example after example of people that have allowed God to use their past mistakes and trauma to heal others.. “ There is a way to transform the worst parts of your story into a work of art. Your biggest mistakes have potential to become God’s greatest miracles.” And while the devil whispers in our ears about how we are broken, unwanted, unlovable, etc..., God shouts how we are loved, wanted and healed. “God turns broken stories into beautiful prose and unwanted pages into stunning narratives of victory.”
We want to hide the “bad” stuff, but when we bring it to light, we find so many others are struggling as we are. Bringing it all into the light takes the power away from the devil. It brings healing and forgiveness, of ourselves and others. “ We cannot delete, discard or amend the past, but we can repurpose and reclaim the present.”
It’s time...it’s time to move out of the shadows, it’s time to turn away from Satan's whispers, it’s time to listen to our Creator, the one that truly loves us and wants what’s best for us.
There is so much healing in this book. I highlighted almost every word! We all know we should forgive and we all know that Jesus died to forgive our sins, but what we know in our heads does not always translate to our hearts. Sharon Jaynes gives real-life example after example of people that have allowed God to use their past mistakes and trauma to heal others.. “ There is a way to transform the worst parts of your story into a work of art. Your biggest mistakes have potential to become God’s greatest miracles.” And while the devil whispers in our ears about how we are broken, unwanted, unlovable, etc..., God shouts how we are loved, wanted and healed. “God turns broken stories into beautiful prose and unwanted pages into stunning narratives of victory.”
We want to hide the “bad” stuff, but when we bring it to light, we find so many others are struggling as we are. Bringing it all into the light takes the power away from the devil. It brings healing and forgiveness, of ourselves and others. “ We cannot delete, discard or amend the past, but we can repurpose and reclaim the present.”
It’s time...it’s time to move out of the shadows, it’s time to turn away from Satan's whispers, it’s time to listen to our Creator, the one that truly loves us and wants what’s best for us.
January 31, 2021
Perhaps THE best book I have read in a very LONG a time! No matter your age or present circumstances; whether the tough times are due to your choices or someone else’s; this book provides perspective, encouragement and most of all, HOPE that things CAN and WILL get better. It introduces the concept of“ “Meanwhile” , whe God seems to have forgotten you or appears absent, and assures that “when the situation is out of my control, it’s not out of God’s hands.” No matter how dire your circumstances, God still has the pen in His hand, and He’s still on the throne. “When You Don’t Like Your Story” provides many examples of trauma, chaos, “bad chapters” , and assures us our worst chapters can be changed into our greatest victories! This book is a MUST a read for our present times. I intend to reread it, this time following the Bible Study Guide in the back of the book.
March 24, 2021
It can be difficult going through life unhappy with your circumstances, but there is another way to look at things and this fresh perspective can make it all seem worthwhile. We are not just trudging from one circumstance to another - God is actively writing the story of our lives, and we are a participant!
When you realize that your life has been orchestrated by the greatest writer to ever exist, it is possible to see thing with new eyes. Sure, there have been some really rough events, but we are more than just a statistic. There might seem to be no way (or at least no NATURAL way) that things can turn around, but with The Good Lord on our side, we are capable of things which seem impossible.
If you're here and able to read this book, it's not too late. Get a glimpse of God's awesome transformative power and work with him to create an ending that will put your mind at ease!
When you realize that your life has been orchestrated by the greatest writer to ever exist, it is possible to see thing with new eyes. Sure, there have been some really rough events, but we are more than just a statistic. There might seem to be no way (or at least no NATURAL way) that things can turn around, but with The Good Lord on our side, we are capable of things which seem impossible.
If you're here and able to read this book, it's not too late. Get a glimpse of God's awesome transformative power and work with him to create an ending that will put your mind at ease!
January 26, 2021
This book helps the reader look at their story from God’s perspective.
When we want a new story in our life, we need to look to God and see how he is writing it for our good, even when we feel it is terrible and want to change or forget it.
Sharon Jaynes writes in her book, “When You Don’t Like Your Story”,
“God turns broken stories into beautiful prose and unwanted pages into stunning narratives of victory.”
I know this from experience…. God took parts of my story and turned them from ashes to beauty. Because of God’s great love for me, my messy unwanted story has helped me turn my mess into a ministry and help others.
God is a god of redemption!
Thank you, Sharon Jaynes, for writing this book filled with hope and encouragement.
When we want a new story in our life, we need to look to God and see how he is writing it for our good, even when we feel it is terrible and want to change or forget it.
Sharon Jaynes writes in her book, “When You Don’t Like Your Story”,
“God turns broken stories into beautiful prose and unwanted pages into stunning narratives of victory.”
I know this from experience…. God took parts of my story and turned them from ashes to beauty. Because of God’s great love for me, my messy unwanted story has helped me turn my mess into a ministry and help others.
God is a god of redemption!
Thank you, Sharon Jaynes, for writing this book filled with hope and encouragement.
January 27, 2021
Sharon Jaynes is a fabulous Bible storyteller. It’s my very favorite part about When You Don’t Like Your Story. But then, she takes her engaging retelling of a Bible story and weaves her own personal stories with friends’ stories and application, and so it flows.
I wanted to read Sharon’s book because I don’t like my story, and I used to have a hard time understanding why anyone would want to hear it. Sharon shares that she discovered that parts of her story she wished had been edited out have become the ones God has highlighted as His most amazing work. Me too! Throughout the pages of When You Don't Like Your Story, Sharon gives reason after reason why we shouldn’t keep God’s work hidden away in the untold stories of our lives.
I wanted to read Sharon’s book because I don’t like my story, and I used to have a hard time understanding why anyone would want to hear it. Sharon shares that she discovered that parts of her story she wished had been edited out have become the ones God has highlighted as His most amazing work. Me too! Throughout the pages of When You Don't Like Your Story, Sharon gives reason after reason why we shouldn’t keep God’s work hidden away in the untold stories of our lives.
January 23, 2022
I can not say enough about this book and God's timing in when I read it. Jaynes shares honestly from her own life and struggles as well as the stories of others. She also pulls from the Bible examples of characters in the Old and New Testament who maybe would've preferred to have edited their life stories. God uses times in people's lives that were the hardest or darkest to bring Himself glory, to grow character, and to deepen purpose and relationship. It was recommended to me by a good friend, and then I didn't read it for at least a year. Now was the time i needed the truths within its pages. I recommend it without reservation. I have been sending out quotes from it as I have been traveling through its richness.
April 1, 2023
Wow what a great book! I would recommend this to anyone who may need a better understanding of how to get through difficult times and learning how to turn your darkest chapters of your life into the best victories just like God has planned for us. I found this book at a Christian store and the title captured me because at this time in my life I didn't like some of what my story had been and wished I could tear out some of the chapters. This book gave me a lot of understanding and great bible references that were similar to some of our darkest chapters in life and how God always made a way for the good! Also a great book to keep in your collection with Bible lessons in the back for times in life you may need to refer back to one day. Everyone needs this book!
May 13, 2023
"We have great potential when we do not allow our present circumstances to determine our future destiny...Our worst scenes can become God's best. Our pain can become a portal of God's Grace. Our ravaged pages can become God's redemptive masterpiece."
This is my first of Sharon Jaynes' novels, but after perusing When You Don't Like Your Story, it certainly won't be my last. I just love when an encounter or a conversation or something my eyes randomly come across remind me of God's goodness. This entire book was exactly that for me. Not only did I feel uplifted mentally, but spiritually—He has our best intentions in mind. And no matter how "bad" life gets, our lowest, most painful moments have the potential of preceding our greatest triumphs. After highlighting insightful quotes and marking my own notes, I find myself flipping back and reflecting on my own life. I remind myself of the concepts I've picked up from this book alone, such as embracing the discomfort that comes with uncertainty (which ultimately brings about growth), and trusting in the bigger purpose and plan that goes beyond the scope of current pain and suffering.
"There is always a MEANWHILE that will make the pain WORTHWHILE."
This is my first of Sharon Jaynes' novels, but after perusing When You Don't Like Your Story, it certainly won't be my last. I just love when an encounter or a conversation or something my eyes randomly come across remind me of God's goodness. This entire book was exactly that for me. Not only did I feel uplifted mentally, but spiritually—He has our best intentions in mind. And no matter how "bad" life gets, our lowest, most painful moments have the potential of preceding our greatest triumphs. After highlighting insightful quotes and marking my own notes, I find myself flipping back and reflecting on my own life. I remind myself of the concepts I've picked up from this book alone, such as embracing the discomfort that comes with uncertainty (which ultimately brings about growth), and trusting in the bigger purpose and plan that goes beyond the scope of current pain and suffering.
"There is always a MEANWHILE that will make the pain WORTHWHILE."
January 26, 2021
I have always loved Sharons books, and this one does not let you down! I have cried through pages that told me of my own story, laughed at insights and thoughts that are what I hear from my friends as well as myself. I have almost used up an entire highlighter marking what made me think more intensely.
I would highly recommend this book, just make sure to have a box of tissues, and a thermos of coffee so that you don’t have to get up to refill your cup or find your tissues. This will refill your heart with love, for yourself, as you realize that your story has an ending that you never thought possible.
I would highly recommend this book, just make sure to have a box of tissues, and a thermos of coffee so that you don’t have to get up to refill your cup or find your tissues. This will refill your heart with love, for yourself, as you realize that your story has an ending that you never thought possible.
February 2, 2021
Sharon has a great way of sharing not only her own life stories but the lives of those in the Bible that causes you to see your life in a different way. I have found healing through her new book When You Don't Like Your Story, and a freedom from past childhood experiences that I thought I never would have. One of the many statements that she made in her book that really set me free was, "Sometimes we prefer to live in certainty of dysfunction rather than embrace the uncertainty of change." If you are looking for a book to help you see that God is the author of your story, no matter your experiences, then pick up Sharon Jayne's new book and look forward to change.
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