Living authentically means relating to other beings in a way that doesn’t reduce them to mere objects, but instead remains attuned to the profound possibilities inherent within them.
Existentialists identify three fundamental types of being: the self, the other, and the world. To live authentically, you must attune yourself appropriately to each of them. Relate authentically to yourself by not identifying too closely with any image of yourself and remaining aware of your freedom to choose. Relate to others authentically by never treating them as objects, but with the same respect for their freedom that you would demand for yourself. And, finally, relate authentically to the natural world by not reducing it to a mere resource to be exploited. Promote harmony with nature by rekindling the sense of mystery and wonder it once inspired in us.
Actionable advice:
Try an authenticity thought experiment to identify areas in your life that you’d like to change.
Nietzsche once developed a thought experiment that he called the eternal return. He envisioned this experiment as a kind of device that would help you to make more authentic decisions. For this experiment, ask yourself what changes you would make to your life were you to know that you would have to relive it, exactly as it is, again and again for all eternity. What do you think? Is there anything you would change, or can you honestly say that you’d be content to live your life over and over again, forever?
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Our freedom depends on the recognition of others.
All this talk of authentic individuality – a bit egocentric, no? And isn’t it insensitive to say that people are always free when so many people are oppressed?
These are common criticisms of existentialism, but, in fact, many existentialist writers anticipated these criticisms and accounted for them in their philosophy. Simone de Beauvoir, for example, argued that in order for us to live fully fledged authentic lives, we have to recognize each other's freedom.
Because, just as we depend on others for our physical survival, we also depend on them for the survival of our sense of self, through their recognition of us as people who have value and freedom. But, just as others have the power to recognize us as free subjects, they also have the power to deny us that freedom by treating us like objects.
In a famous passage, the philosopher René Descartes once described how he couldn’t be sure that the people walking by outside his window were even conscious. He insisted that, for all he knew, they could be mechanical automatons walking around in hats and coats.
Several centuries later, Sartre incorporated this insight into his own thought. He argued that, just as it was possible for Descartes to see the people outside his window as potential objects, it’s also possible to treat people as objects, too.
The most extreme case of this is slavery, in which one group of people treats another group as objects to be used and traded.
But, Sartre argued, even in supposedly free and equal societies, people objectify each other all the time. For example, when you’re dealing with the clerk at the post office, it probably doesn’t cross your mind that this person has desires and aspirations and struggles just like you. From your perspective, this person is just a letter-stamper.
For the most part, this kind of objectification is relatively harmless. It becomes problematic when people objectify you in ways that harm your self-esteem and limit your sense of freedom.
A common example of this kind of objectification is shame. As Sartre argued, when someone shames you for something, he imposes a very one-sided and negative image of you onto your consciousness. Not only does this feel bad, but it limits the way you think about yourself, reducing your possibilities for living.
Shaming someone, then, is not an authentic way of relating to others. Authentic relationships mean trying your best not to reduce others to mere objects, and instead recognizing others as free and dynamic subjects just like you.
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Existentialism was a diverse philosophical movement centered on the theme of human freedom.
Today, the word existentialism tends to evoke images of fashionable intellectuals smoking cigarettes in trendy Parisian cafés. This is likely because it was in the French context that existentialism first erupted into mainstream awareness. The movement's figureheads, Jean-Paul Sartre and Simone de Beauvoir, were the first existentialist philosophers to enjoy celebrity-like status. And the couple’s famously open relationship and bohemian lifestyle would become synonymous with an existentialist way of life.
But this perception of existentialism is far narrower than the movement really was. For one thing, its main ideas had already begun to develop in the nineteenth century with Nietzsche and Kierkegaard. Both of these thinkers, in their own ways, sought to rescue authentic individuality from an increasingly homogenized mass culture. Other influences include the German phenomenologists Husserl and Heidegger, and also great works of literature, like the masterpieces of Dostoevsky and Kafka, all of which explore existentialist themes.
Existentialism, then, isn’t a single, unified philosophy – it’s more a collection of works that focus on similar problems. That being said, all existentialist writers agree on a few basic principles.
To begin with, all existentialists sought to reorient philosophy away from abstract theorizing and back to the real problems of life as people actually experience them. All existentialist philosophy begins from the position that a human being experiences the world from a first-person, subjective point of view. In fact, they remind us, it’s only from this point of view that philosophy has any value at all.
The unique nature of our first-person perspective means that each person’s experience of the world is profoundly personal, and can never be interchanged with anyone else’s point of view. So, in the end, you, and you alone, are capable of making sense of your experiences and deciding how to act.
For this same reason, existentialists tend to eschew traditional interpretations of the meaning of life – like the ones found in religious and philosophical doctrines. While it’s fine to draw inspiration from anywhere, existentialists caution against blindly adopting prepackaged answers to the big questions in life.
To existentialism’s credit, it’s not a philosophy that tells you how to live your life. Rather, it seeks to orient you to these big questions so that you can answer them for yourself.
Lastly, all existentialists emphasize human freedom. While you can’t control everything in life, much of it unfolds according to the choices and commitments you make. You may not like it, but you’re responsible for creating the life you want, as well as the person you want to become.