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Everyone You Hate is Going to Die: And Other Comforting Thoughts on Family, Friends, Sex, Love, and More Things That Ruin Your Life

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From one of today’s hottest young comedians, a transgressive and hilarious deep-dive into his favorite subject: relationships

Daniel Sloss’s comedy engages, enrages, offends, unsettles, educates, comforts, and gets audiences roaring with laughter–all at the same time. He has two Netflix comedy specials: DARK, a brilliant, laugh-out-loud meditation on our relationship with death; and Jigsaw, which needles apart the ideas of love, romantic relationships, and marriage–and according to Sloss, singlehandedly caused 160 divorces and 95,000 break-ups (he’s got the tweets to back up those numbers). His HBO special, Daniel Sloss Live: X, is a miraculous 85 minutes on the topic of male toxicity.

Now, in his first book, he picks up where Jigsaw and his other specials left off, and goes after every conceivable kind of relationship–with one’s country (Daniel’s is Scotland), with America, with lovers, ex-lovers, ex-lovers who you hate, ex-lovers who hate you, with parents, with best friends (male and female), not-best friends, with children, and with siblings. In Everyone You Hate Is Going to Die, every relationship gets the hilarious, brutal (but always incisive) Sloss treatment as he explains why all of our relationships are fragile and ridiculous and awful–but, just maybe, also valuable and meaningful.

259 pages, Hardcover

First published October 12, 2021

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Profile Image for Diana Iovanel.
125 reviews12 followers
February 1, 2025
Sloss is one of my favourite comedians of all times and I think he is really talented and insightful. My favourite thing about his comedy is that it always has a valuable message behind it, which blends extremely well with his really dark humour.

That said, he is not an author... This book is a regurgitation of what he said in all of his specials - only more detailed and with less jokes. On top of that the book is tiresomely meta, where he talks on and on about his editors letting him put dirty words in and us the readers giving him our money for this attempt at a book (as he puts it). Then there are all the pauses to explain Scottish slang to Americans - what bugs me about this is that he always points out the explanation is specifically for Americans, as if other nations either know Scottish culture perfectly, don't read his book or don't matter. The main vibe he gives off is the third option, although most likely it is the second.

He does remind us that the book only contains his opinions, but i think he still has a lot of work to do to express these without sounding condescending or all-knowing (I'm talking here of course about the parts where he is serious, not when he is obviously sarcastic). Again this comes down to not being a writer - I find the one-hour special the perfect format for him to get his message across with a perfect delivery, but this train-of-thought no ending essay format is too much for him, I find.

Most people that write books - I'd like to think, at least the good ones - write them because they have something to say and they feel that writing as a form of expression is the best for them. By contrast, here Sloss even says repeatedly that he only included the last chapter because his publisher really wanted him to have a chapter on that topic...ok? that made me laugh and reminded me of school essays. The motivation is backwards and it really shows - it pretty much shows in the rest of the book too as this project came across not as something the author was dying to do, just as a seized opportunity.

I gave the book an extra star because it did make me laugh repeatedly and because I was curious to find out more about his life, which I did.
Profile Image for Jill.
101 reviews15 followers
October 16, 2021
cannot even begin to imagine what it would be like picking up this book without being familiar with his comedy. those poor souls.
1 review
January 2, 2022
I love his Netflix specials. Amazing comedic timing and deliveries, all in all a perfect combination of wit, comedy and wisdom. I’ve replayed them countless times, and every time it’ll sent me into fits of laughter.

Unfortunately, none of that translated into the book.

This had none of the wisdom or wit. It’s a complete mess of repetition, crude deliveries justified by “if you don’t like me swearing then fuck off”, and zero structure whatsoever. His thoughts are everywhere and none of them coherent. His views though interesting and almost educating in his comedy specials, just appear edgy and stupid when written down.

I had looked forward to this book, now I cannot in good conscience recommend it to anyone.
Profile Image for Debra.
566 reviews
September 28, 2021
I received a digital ARC from NetGalley.

I've watched a few of Sloss's specials and find him hilarious--his act involves verbally walking up to the electrified fence continuously, about to put his finger on it, but knowing when to pull back so that even when he's crude, or has contradictory statements ping pong back and forth--as comedians are want to do--he doesn't lose his audience. He sets up the right amount of rapport with the audience that when he does tackle a serious topic--the death of a sister; a female friend who was sexually assaulted by someone he and his friends knew--you're with him, and stay with him, as he knows the right comment to toss in the middle to break the tension ever so slightly, while still staying serious.

It's a gift that, unfortunately for him and some fellow comedians, doesn't always translate to the page.

I couldn't stop laughing at the start of the book, but then the repetition of a particular idea over and over (how great his parents are, whether people should be parents overall) lost me, as the crude became cruder, and then cringe-worthy, all for sake of filling pages. The book could've been better edited, but then it would've been half its size. Some really great jokes get buried in a pile of muck that after 20% I couldn't keep sifting through. It's taking an hour-long special and stretching it out to a 2+ hour read. I'm kinda disappointed.
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Author 1 book29 followers
November 28, 2021
Eh, whatever. Bitch had a lot to say, most of it being incorrect or irrelevant or inappropriate or just.. frankly, insipid. But, he said it funny here and there. So, here's your fucking three stars. I'll watch your shows.
Profile Image for Samuel.
296 reviews63 followers
December 3, 2022
Daniel's comedy is powerful stuff apparently. In the introduction of this book, Daniel claims that his stand-up routine Jigsaw has caused over 120,000 people to break up or end their relationship. This is based on the number of Twitter messages he's received and people coming up to him after a show telling him this is the case. So what was this life-altering piece of wisdom that made people leave their partner? "It was essentially, there's this lie that I think society breeds into us that being in a relationship is better than being alone, and I disagree with that. I think being in a good relationship is better than being alone, but being alone is infinitely better than being in a bad relationship."

On the whole, I though this was very entertaining. If you like Daniel’s standup work, you’re probably going to enjoy this. There’s a lot of serious stuff in here too, but told in such a way that it ends up being both poignant and funny. I think that’s a mark of a great comedian. Daniel is exceptional at making crazy analogies, which are very inventive and just hilarious. I recommend listening to this book on audio. Hearing Daniel narrate this definitely added to my enjoyment of the material.
Profile Image for Kristi Lamont.
2,149 reviews75 followers
January 5, 2022
Giving this 4 stars because of how often it had me quite literally laughing out loud. Sometimes to the point of tears. And at situations described in such wildly inappropriate (to my Frail & Delicate Southern Flower ears) language!

I mean, seriously, y'all--I was snorking laughing. If I were one to guffaw, I would've been guffawing.

I guess that means that my spirit animal is actually a young man from Scotland?

No. Lie. Detected.

Now, of course, I have to go watch Daniel Sloss perform live stand-up comedy on Netflix.

PS
I picked up Everyone You Hate is Going to Die from the new non-fiction shelves at my local public library, never having heard of Mr Sloss before then. Very glad I did. This is another "early years" book by someone who I very much think I will enjoy reading more by down the road. (Please note it is not a memoir proper, more like just Thoughts On Important Things. Kinda like the title says, LOL.)

PPS
You're wrong about Florida, you know, Mr Sloss. There's a lot more than 100 of the Florida Man subspecies out there.
Profile Image for Meghan.
2,468 reviews
August 31, 2020
This book was received as an ARC from Knopf Doubleday Publishing Group in exchange for an honest review. Opinions and thoughts expressed in this review are completely my own.

From beginning to end, the entire book was non-stop hysterical. I can totally relate to David as he "dissects" every particular relationship he or his friends have ever been in and he can tell whether or not to end it. Many scenarios in the book, I had a lot of a-ha moments and they justified me ending the many difficult relationships I had. Our community will not only relate to this book, but it will be a much needed comedy to read during this pandemic.

We will consider adding this title to our Non-Fiction collection at our library. That is why we give this book 5 stars.
Profile Image for Patricija || book.duo.
887 reviews642 followers
April 17, 2022
2/5

Nieko nesitikėjau ir vis tiek nuvylė. Tiems, kurie sekė Danielio karjerą, tikrai nebus nieko naujo – senos temos, seniai girdėti pamąstymai – apie šeimą, meilę, santuoką, draugus, toksiškas antras puses, mirusią seserį ir mylinčius tėvus. Žinoma, kaip ir leidžia knyga, temos kiek išplėstos, tačiau jaučiasi milžiniškas poreikis ištempti bent iki 150 psl, tai daug visokio turinio paaiškinimo išskirtinai amerikiečiams (ar tik jie skaitys?), daug burnojimo ant savo redaktorės ir panašių pasikartojimų. Bajerių ne tiek daug, kiek galėtum pagalvoti, gal daugiau bandymo tuščiai šokiruoti. Žinoma, jei į rankas knygą paims tas, kuris su Slosso kūryba nesusipažinęs, gal ir įmanoma, bet what are the chances? Tiems, kurie myli ir klauso, visų apšaukimas cunts tikrai neprivers net virptelėti.

Trūko knygai ir struktūros aiškesnės nei tiesiog skyrių pavadinimai, nes nepriklausomai nuo pastarųjų, autorius kartojosi, pergalvojo tas pačias idėjas (jei pasirinksime tikėti, kad pergalvojo). Trūko humoro, galiausiai, trūko tiesiog priežasties, kam ši knyga buvo reikalinga. Jo, suprantu, kad dėl pinigų, bet kartais net ir tai – pakankamai gera priežastis, jei sugebi tuos pinigus pelnytai užsidirbti. O dabar didžiąją dalį laiko man buvo nuobodu – net kartu su Danieliu geriant g&t’s. Svarstau – ar jei nebūčiau tokia akyla jo kūrybos gerbėja, man būtų juokingiau? Tikriausiai ne. Todėl tik dar labiau nesuprantu kas tiksliai turėjo būti šios knygos auditorija. Nei čia memuarai, nei autobiografija, nei straipsniai. Veikiau mintys suguldytos ant popieriaus, nelabai logiškai, nelabai tvarkingai ir nelabai reikalingai. O labiausiai erzino tai, kad rodėsi, jog tai jaučia net ir pats Slossas.
Profile Image for Λευτέρης Αναγνωστόπουλος.
Author 3 books78 followers
November 15, 2021
Don't let the 2/5 fool you, I still recommend the book. It's just that I literally thought that, "it was ok," as the rating suggests.

Daniel Sloss is one of my favorite comedians and even I had front row seats when he came to Athens the September of 2021. I had many laugh out loud moments while reading his book, but at times it was just tedious reading how many times he had sex in his life, or reading some of the same jokes that he wrote for his stand-up specials just with more elaboration. When the book is at its best, it reads like one of his specials, just unedited. If you like his comedy, read it, if you don't know him, binge his three specials and then read it. If you don't like him, this book won't win you over.

Conclusion: I've watched his specials multiple times and I'll keep doing so. Can't say that I'll be reading this book again in the future though.
Profile Image for Ayushi Sharma.
19 reviews
November 27, 2021
It feels good to finally finish a fucking book after ages. This one was a fun read (especially cuz I read it in Daniel Sloss's voice in my head). I'm also going to listen to the audiobook cuz why not. It's the first book that's made me laugh out loud so many times (not that I've read that many books). My parents think I've met someone new cuz I kept laughing/smirking at my phone. Thanks Sloss. A lot of what's in the book is also in his standup specials but a man's got one life and his experiences aren't going to change as per the mode of entertainment. Ofc it'll feel repetitive. Also, the book's mainly addressed to Americans, idk if Sloss's been anywhere apart from Europe and America but it feels like he hasn't. (I am free enough to write this long ass review no one cares about but I'm not free enough to actually Google and fact check). idk how to end this review, just like man didn't know how to end his book so we'll just leave it here and anyone reading this should pretend I wrote a helpful review.
Profile Image for anna.
142 reviews3 followers
November 8, 2025
Had me laughing from the beginning to the end. I need a paperback copy so I can highlight the whole book. I hadn't watched his Netflix specials so I went in blind with no expectations, but I loved it.

"Loneliness is like most things in the world: You have to practice it to get good at it. Sometimes being alone is utter bliss. Once you get used to being alone, relationships really have to go out of their way to interest you. If you want to be in a relationship with me, you have to be better than being single."
Profile Image for Sleepy  Kid.
70 reviews2 followers
October 23, 2021
Okay so it's kinda baised review since I absolutely love Sloss but this book is worth your time I promise.

First of all:
Why did this book had to end?????????

Secondly, This book technically comes under self-help genre and honestly I am not a big fan of the genre and this is gonna be the only book I would read in this genre (unless Sloss or Gervais or Jeselnik wrote a book).

Now about the book:
IT'S FUCKIN HILARIOUS! I wanted to highlight the whole book because of the writing style. It's like a friend coming up to you and talking to you about his experiences and the conclusions he drew from it. The only difference being that friend is famous don't really give a shit about cunts like us (Daniel Hangover). The humor is great as he is a comedian and it's not just Sloss making jokes over basically everything but also him teaching us some valuable lesson one of them being and I quote

" Loneliness is like most things in the world: You have to practice it to get good at it. Sometimes being alone is utter bliss. Once you get used to being alone, relationships really have to go out of their way to interest you. If you want to be in a relationship with me, you have to be better than being single."

I would really suggest you guys should watch the stand up specials of Sloss before reading the book so that you can get an idea of his style and what to expect from him.
Profile Image for Lies.
41 reviews1 follower
November 8, 2021
all this book was missing was a princess diana reference, and then sloss gave me one

hilarious and clever book that delivered what was expected, i sincerely hope daniel ever decides/gets the chance to write another one
Profile Image for Paula (kotwksiazkach).
211 reviews28 followers
October 23, 2021
Soooo good! Hilarious and yet profound, clever, makes you really think while still having fun.
Profile Image for Kurt Pankau.
Author 11 books21 followers
December 24, 2021
Occasionally insightful and often funny, but rather exhausting overall. If there's one thing I enjoy less than listening to someone explain their pop philosophy with unearned absolutism, it's comedians marveling at how they get to write a book. The bits about why and how he hates England and loves Scotland are great, as are some of the anecdotes around his close friendships. The chapter on death was at least interesting. But for the most part, it's just exhausting.
Profile Image for Evie.
737 reviews760 followers
February 5, 2022
I’ve listened to this on audio and loved the fact that it’s read by the author himself. He is a funny fella, with some sharp jokes up his sleeve, that - as with most comedians - a lot of people will find offensive or crude. The book was my first brush with Sloss, and it felt new, fresh and entertaining - after the book, I watched the Netflix specials and realized that he basically wrote down all of his jokes and packed them into a book. It’s the same material, same stories, same ideas. I don’t really get the point.. ?

Either way, I still thought it was some funny shit and I had a blast listening to the audio, so that amounts to 4 stars from me.
Profile Image for ➸ Gwen de Sade.
1,226 reviews112 followers
November 17, 2021
Literarily, the book is not a masterpiece and I didn't think I would like it so much. However, there were some chapters hitting me hard right now and were indeed eye-opening. I like Daniel Sloss. He's a good man, I also recommend his stand-ups, which you can currently watch on popular streaming platforms.
Profile Image for Luk Van den Berk.
26 reviews1 follower
February 28, 2025
I truly needed to read this book! It has many "on point opinions". Sometimes it was like reading my own mind!
It was funny, it's got a lot of swearing, it was chaotic at some times, I laughed out loud many times!
3⭐️ but don't let it fool you, I would still recommend this book. A good quick read for me.
Profile Image for Curtis Trueblood.
217 reviews5 followers
August 30, 2022
Meh. Feels like a lot of the work here was unoriginal and forced. There was material that had the bones of comedy but was lacking Daniel sloss's presentation of it and stand up form to be actually funny. I don't think his skills as a stand-up comedian translate to literature directly. I did laugh out loud once though.

The best part is that this book was making me question my relationship with my now EX so I put it down only to later be dumped so I guess this is a bit of a cathartic achievement to finish reading it?
Profile Image for Shayma Rsayssi.
102 reviews39 followers
November 7, 2021
Okay, let me start this review by letting you know that the human being who wrote this book is my favorite comedian and I can confidently rank him in the top 10 of my fav people ever (people who make me laugh even if they don't know me tend to rank higher on the list, I don't care about love, make me laugh) PS: I'll probably spend the review talking about Daniel Sloss and not the book in itself.
Another thing I should mention is that I don't read non-fiction books, I already see enough of reality in real fucking life why would I read about it, even more, I read to escape reality. Anywho, this book tho broke that principle of mine.
One might question, why do I love Daniel Sloss this much? Genius comedian: to make you laugh but then after a few days you find yourself still thinking about his analogies and jokes because some shit he said was more than laughs. (JK It's the dark humor...) Honestly, my huge respect for Daniel Sloss comes from his Show X, which made me laugh my ass off and then cry myself to sleep. Touring the show more than 300 times in a span of a year to make sure the message gets out there is something that I appreciate dearly. But then I watched his other shows and it was my first time seeing someone using the same dark jokes and being honest about his shitty thoughts and that allowed me to be more true to myself I think.
Now when it comes to the book, it was an opportunity to touch on a lot of subjects. From mental health, which was a chapter that made me cry also ( I don't remember why now but I remember there were tears), to sex, female friends, male friends, a whole ass chapter about The greatest country in the world: 'Merica of course. To say that I enjoyed this book is the least I can say, I stopped reading it for a few days because I didn't want it to end... I even read the acknowledgment and about author part, because both of those were hilarious too. Watch me buy the audiobook because I bet all I have (which is not a lot) it would be 1000 times better to listen to Daniel Sloss himself narrate the whole thing, half of which is cursing btw (not complaining).
Profile Image for Domino Belle.
8 reviews
October 14, 2021
To paraphrase the Legend himself: If you’ve seen Daniel Sloss’s stand-up specials you’ll notice they fall under a very similar format. He tells some jokes and legally fulfills his obligations as a comedian, and then towards the end he does a sad 15 minute TED talk. He talks about serious subjects with a level of maturity only seen in Golden Retrievers.

He’s brilliant (the c*nt). He knows he doesn’t know everything about everything, and yet he has an amazing ability to take complex thoughts, make you view them from a new perspective, and while he’s at it, pigeon hole at least 7 wank jokes in there just in case you forgot he’s a cheeky knob.

This book explores the patented Daniel Sloss perspective on all forms of relationships. Toxic exes, new loves, sibling rivalry, being friends with the opposite sex, being friends with people who have the same type of genitals as you, and being just as mature about it as you are (which is to say not at all.) He talks about his experiences with death, depression, and his never ending desire to see how far he can push his editors before they tell him to dial back the vagina euphemisms (the answer is never, he’s a word genius). He talks about his love of Scotland, and his love and dislike of other countries (especially England, you pile of human excrement). He approaches all these subjects and more through his very unique lens, and while some of it falls into the sad 15 minute TED talk portion…he also makes you laugh. He is full of neurotic introspection, and it is fucking hysterical and somehow deeply moving to witness. That’s the Daniel Sloss method. You’re going to laugh, and you’re going to grow as a person doing it.

As I’m writing this, I’m beyond excited that 1 week from now I’ll be seeing Daniel perform live for the very first time. He’s touring his new show “HUBRIS”, I happen to be a mere 3.5 hour drive from Indianapolis, so fuck it, I’m going. I can’t wait to see the magic unfold in person. And probably listen to some wank jokes as well.
Profile Image for Tom McCluskey.
67 reviews1 follower
January 24, 2022
This book, in parts, is incredibly funny. However, most of it reads like the ramblings of a comedians memoir (that’s what it is?? Fuck me). It’s alright but there’s no real point to the book apart from a collection of sometimes disturbing stories Dan has collected through the years of being a comedian.

At one point Dan said he’d met his then best friend, Craig, when he was 7 and they were inseparable for the next 6 years. Then two paragraphs later he said he moved school when he was 10 and lost touch. Work that out. Statistical errors like this are not to go unpunished.

I probably wouldn’t recommend this book to Lucy as she’s probably not interested in the chatter of someone she’s never heard of. We will probably watch his Netflix shows though.
Profile Image for Neha D'souza.
240 reviews46 followers
January 15, 2022
I have enjoyed and recommended Daniel Sloss’s Netflix special to friends. While I like him as a comedian, I couldn’t bring myself to completely enjoy this book. I think, it comes down to how relatable it is to you as an individual reader. And to what extent you agree with Sloss’s views. I really liked the chapter on romantic relationships and the chapter about England and America. The rest, though, in my opinion, oscillated between unstructured drivel and somewhat organised profane rambling. I am also not a big fan of swearing. And 50% of this book is just that.
23 reviews15 followers
September 2, 2022
Was definitely easy to read and entertaining, but reuses a lot of bits/takes from his comedy specials and also had a few sections (especially on gender) that felt a little more iffy. He acknowledges that he’s not an expert/subjected to gendered violence, but parts of this were still a bit uncomfortable to read.
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30 reviews2 followers
December 2, 2021
Деніел Слосс руйнує не лише романтичні стосунки (див. його спешл Jigsaw), але й дружні, бо під час прочитання книжки ваші повідомлення до друзів складатимуться виключно зі скріншотів його жартів у непристойних кількостях.
Profile Image for Anoushay !.
17 reviews
November 7, 2023
I love Daniel Sloss and I liked parts of the book a lot but so much of it should have stayed in the drafts
Profile Image for Joe Clegg Prada.
190 reviews
April 22, 2025
This cunt is so fucking funny. My favourite comedian by a mile. Exactly my sense of humour. Even the Acknowledgments, which simply had nothing to do with the book’s themes, were funny as fuck. What a listen.

Listen being key. The best people to record audiobooks are the people whose jobs it is to make others laugh. And Sloss is the best at this. The whole 6 and a half hours felt like an extended stand up special. A real treat.

If you haven’t seen his Netflix special about toxic relationships, start there, then head here. Best material ever.

Sloss knows a big chunk of his audience for this are American. And it’s hilarious to hear him constantly calling them out on their shit and explaining Scottish/British words and humour and common sense/decency.

And underneath all the shithousery are genuinely important messages about relationships in life, how to make the best out of them, fuck off the ones that aren’t working and most importantly, developing a healthy and loving relationship to yourself.
Profile Image for Daniela Silva.
26 reviews
January 6, 2024
I really loved this book. It was exactly what I needed after a shitty year. It made laugh and it made me think about many things.

I love Daniel’s shows and I think that the book carries the same vibe. He is unapologetically himself and the humor is as dark as always. But he is also smart and real. He has some great takes about different topics and some interesting thoughts about different things of life.

Each chapter is about a different subject, and it can feel somewhat disconnected. And so the book may come across as missing some running theme. I personally didn’t mind it.

I did get the book as an audiobook, and I think I will recommend it because it is Daniel himself who reads it. And that is just awesome.
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