“I gave birth to one child, a son, but I have thousands of daughters. You are Black and White, Jewish and Muslim, Asian, Spanish-speaking, Native American and Aleut. You are fat and thin and pretty and plain, gay and straight, educated and unlettered, and I am speaking to you. Here is my offering to you.”
So speaks Maya Angelou in the Preface to Letter to My Daughter, her third book of essays. The book is a slim volume, containing twenty-eight short pieces, which are titled by theme. Examples are “Philanthropy”, “Vulgarity” and “Violence”, which are full of nuggets of wisdom, couched in examples from her own experience. There are more personal memories too, such as “Mother's Long View”, “Surviving”, “In the Valley of Humility” or “Mt. Zion”. There are even specific anecdotes about the friends and people she knows, such as “Bob and Decca”, “Fannie Lou Hamer” and “Celia Cruz”. In these cases it is clear that she feels she has learned a great deal from her friendships with these people, and wishes to impart these insights she has gained. By relating an anecdote from her past, she gets our full attention. Sometimes it is even something painfully embarrassing, where she rather wishes it had not happened. In each case, she seems to hold nothing back. There is a truth which she has learned as a result, and she wishes to share it with us, her readers,
“Let's tell the truth to people. When people ask, 'How are you?' have the nerve sometimes to answer truthfully. You must know, however, that people will start avoiding you because, they, too, have knees that pain them and heads that hurt and they don't want to know about yours. But think of it this way: If people avoid you, you will have more time to meditate and do fine research on a cure for whatever truly afflicts you.”
We feel as we read this, that Maya Angelou is wise in a truly ancient sense. In earlier times, many cultures respected the elders in a tribe for their experience, and the younger people looked to them when making their own life decisions. Largely we have lost this ability; this automatic sense of respect. Too often the voices of the elders are lost. But Maya Angelou takes hold of this power again. She is both commanding and humble. She is both searingly honest about herself, and brutally matter-of-fact in her advice,
“Never whine. Whining lets a brute know that a victim is in the neighborhood.”
This slight volume from 2008 became a bestseller; many people viewing it as an inspirational book. The idea was initially sparked off in the author's mind when she was going through some old boxes of notes and papers, full of ideas for future books and poems. From twenty years' worth of notes written to her friend Oprah Winfrey, Maya Angelou sifted ones which she felt deserved a wider audience, as the truths in them were so universal. They should be shared,
“I am convinced that most people do not grow up ... We marry and dare to have children and call that growing up. I think what we do is mostly grow old. We carry accumulation of years in our bodies, and on our faces, but generally our real selves, the children inside, are innocent and shy as magnolias.”
The book can be read straight through, or taken as an essay a day. “Essay” is perhaps rather a grand term for what is often a personal anecdote with a bit of advice thrown in, but then the book does defy categorisation, being part memoir, part poetry and part a sort of guidebook. It is a book of advice, on how to live well, and how to live a life with meaning. It navigates the fine line between homespun philosophy and inspirational religiosity quite well. (Maya Angelou has a very strong faith.) Her skilled writing, her honest compassion, and her intriguing and many personal anecdotes means that this is an appealing read for all. Yes, she identifies and speaks strongly with a Black female voice, but this can be read with empathy, and with significant meaning, by everyone,
“All great artists draw from the same resource: the human heart, which tells us all that we are more alike than we are unalike.”
I do have one quibble, and this may be with the publishers. The volume is slight - 162 pages in large print. Of these, 28 are completely blank. Each essay is separated, not only by the rest of the page, plus perhaps the reverse being left blank, but in addition there is a whole extra page in between too. Since some of the pieces are only a couple of pages long in total anyway, this makes the reader feel the page-turn is far too quick. It is distracting. Surely a slim volume is exactly that? Some volumes of poetry are very slight, yet we don't feel “cheated” by the small page-count! But this feels like an attempt to bolster it up. If the publisher really felt it needed more bulk, then perhaps it could have been doubled with an earlier book, or a selection of poems.
For this reason it remains at a three star read for me, although it could well be touching four, if more essays had been included - or its presentation had been more honest.
Although this book came towards the end of her life, with just one more part of her autobiography (making seven in total) and one more book of poetry afterwards, I would recommend it as an introduction to Maya Angelou's writing, for anyone who has never read any. It is a feel-good book; not as devastating as the first part of her autobiography, nor as complex as some of her poetry. Of course much of her work has this same beautiful conversational tone. The essays or chapters seem to follow her autobiographies, at least at first. It is like a reprise of some of her life events covered in those, plus new ones. She uses them to illustrate her advice for life, and to inspire her readers. In a sense, she seems to be writing a commentary on her autobiographies. This book is a very easy, straightforward yet worthwhile read. Here is my favourite quotation,
“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud. Do not complain. Make every effort to change things you do not like. If you cannot make a change, change the way you have been thinking. You might find a new solution.”