The Accountable Man: Pursuing Integrity Through Trust and Friendship

by Tom L. Eisenman

Good men--husbands, fathers, church leaders, pastors--sometimes make bad choices. And for far too many men, bad choices have led to the crumbling of marriages and ministries. Tom Eisenman knows it doesn't have to be this way. He also knows that in order for men to develop authenticity, vulnerability, honesty, trust--the character traits of spiritual maturity--they must cultivate healthy relationships with their brothers on the journey. In The Accountable Man Eisenman shows men how to build friendships of camaraderie and relational depth. He casts a compelling vision of interdependence and spiritual vitality--a vision in which no man stands alone against the temptations of our twenty-first century. Perfect for use in men's groups, small groups or one-on-one accountability reationships, this helpful, hopeful book includes lists of straight-to-the-point questions that will help men challenge one another to spiritual maturity and integrity.

Genres: Christian

144 pages, Paperback

First published May 31, 2004

Reviews

[Joey · Rating 3 out of 5]

My university classmate's monito't monita and it is one of my most unforgettable spiritual books I have ever read.

Despite my atheistic viewpoints, I liked the fact that I was moved by Tom L. Eisenman's lecture on how to build a strong friendship. I agree that the best way to be accountable to your friends / best friends is open communication. When you are open to them, you establish a building of integrity, for the foundation has sedimentary rocks of TRUST. Alas, I did not apply the lessons I learned to my special friend who has grown apart from me. Nevertheless, I learned a great deal from my experience. On the contrary, I always believe that we can LOVE without any divine intervention.

It could be a unisex self-help book. ^^

[Joshua Pearsall · Rating 5 out of 5]

An amazing book I will be paring alongside Kevin Watsons Band Meeting. Powerful, scriptural, and practical! If you are interested in accountability with one or more other faithful brothers or sisters in Christ, then this book comes highly reccomended.

1 - the accountable man
2 - when two are better than one
3 - what to look for in a Christian friend
4 - are you ready for accountability?
5 - the primary skill: listening well
6 - loving confrontation
7 - partners in prayer
8 - getting started
Appendixes: the dark night experience & accountability questions

[John · Rating 4 out of 5]

The premise is that one of the main things a man needs in order to do right and grow is accountability, and to find someone to be accountable within everything. Accountability produces integrity because when one is accountable to someone one is forced to think twice and there is someone there to ask all the hard questions. I see the appeal, and it's very practical and will probably result in strong friendships - but, it seems a bit like friendship with a function(with rules and contracts) - and a risky one. Maybe one is needed, but it also is more of a help toward achieving the goal of becoming the best man. It's an interesting concept, it is - I just can't see this becoming a norm.

[Legacy Dad · Rating 4 out of 5]

How to stay true to your family, wife and values.

[Nathan]

Great and practical book. I recommend this for many young men I mentor. Works especially well with groups (and even contains its own question section). Small size; easy to read.