跟過去的每次跌倒說謝謝：柔式覺醒，告別渣男，找到幸福的自己

by 黃小柔

「唯有不愛自己，才會錯過愛情」
－－黃小柔

重新檢視雙十年華的自己，從跌跌撞撞到慢熟自信，從傷痕累累到勇敢去愛，面對每段感情的挫折從不躲避或繞過；曾經，傷害讓她不相信自己值得被愛，如今，找到愛並且懂得去愛，就是最簡單的幸福。

她說，如果你現在也正好處於人生的黑暗時期，希望這本書可以給你一些方向，我們一起找到更好的自己與幸福。

她說，每跌一坑學一課，這些都是人生中最好的課題，我從來不怨人生太苦；人生如果太順遂，也許就遇不到最好的自己了。

她說，以下陳述的狀況如果符合超過三項，別懷疑，他絕對是渣男中的渣男，快離開！

1：跟妳約會的時候手機永遠背面朝上。
2：只要問到關鍵字就會開始不耐煩。
3：在好兄弟面前批評別的女生。
4：眼中永遠只有自己的事情最優先。
5：什麼都要斤斤計較，對妳小氣卻對自己超大方。
6：在妳需要照顧的時候永遠不在。
7：老是神祕兮兮，捉摸不定。
8：很愛跟女生搞曖昧卻說是她們自己貼上來的自戀男。
9：窩在妳旁邊百依百順，吃妳的、喝妳的、住妳的小白臉。
10：吵架會動粗甚至口出惡言。

她說，真的遇到渣男，別想說要跟他天長地久，改變所有，什麼男人不壞，女人不愛，這些都是引火自焚！
　　
她說，好像一定要真的跳一次這樣的坑，才知道自己有多傻；但傻過沒關係，那些都是養分，滋養著你，下次就會看懂了。

從成長、愛情、婚姻，重新找回女人自信，她用自身的故事，和大家一起跨過那些年我們都想跳過的坑，再一次找回那些曾經的勇敢和單純，長成更懂選擇、更有智慧，更好的自己。

208 pages, Kindle Edition

Published March 22, 2019

Reviews

[capture stories · Rating 4 out of 5]

I had the pleasant experience of coming across this Chinese book that talks about relationships. The author is a popular celebrity from Taiwan. In her book, she tells stories of her past, pain, and failed relationships and how she came to find the right ONE, Mr. Right. As I follow the traces of her footsteps from the 20s to 30s, young to mature, being single to married, and building a happy family, she openly shared her tears, regrets, lessons learned during the journey of selfhood, finding her identity and in the end found who she truly is. I have enjoyed reading each of her stories as she tenderly reminds her fellow women to love, cherish and be kind to themselves before giving out love to others. Cute pointers that make a good man based on her experiences, which I find dear to heart and leave a smile on my face. Sweet, heart-warming, and lovely book that send whispers to you about LOVE, how to find it, then nourish it, and I think the insight to happily ever after love story begins with loving ourselves first, always before all else.

可愛，甜蜜，真實的一本兩性主題書本。閱讀中感到快樂而體會了許多有關如何尋找真愛，遇到了又能好好的經營感情和家庭。其中得知如何辨認誰才是真命天子，誰是渣男！最後發現原來真愛是來自先愛自，了解自己和適當的寬待自己。