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The Dating Blueprint: What she wants you to know about dating but will never tell you
Women don’t feel comfortable telling a man what they wish he knew about dating. He’s expected to know it.
Unfortunately, the only time men receive specific guidelines is when they’re being told what they’re not supposed to do. As a result, very few know what they are supposed to do! What men want is a clear blueprint.
Imagine how much simpler dating would be if women could just speak their minds! Therefore, Jason Evert surveyed more than a thousand women and asked them questions such as:
• How would you want a man to ask you out?
• How do you not want to be asked on a date?
This book reveals their surprising answers, plus:
• How to know if she’s the right one
• Where women don’t want to go on a first date
• What word they want a man to say when he asks
• When, where, and how he should ask
• What she hopes the date will include
• How a man can save his marriage before he’s married
Dating doesn’t need to become a relic of the past. It needs to be revived. For this to happen, men need to put down their screens, look a woman in the eye, and ask her on a date. The Dating Blueprint explains how.
Unfortunately, the only time men receive specific guidelines is when they’re being told what they’re not supposed to do. As a result, very few know what they are supposed to do! What men want is a clear blueprint.
Imagine how much simpler dating would be if women could just speak their minds! Therefore, Jason Evert surveyed more than a thousand women and asked them questions such as:
• How would you want a man to ask you out?
• How do you not want to be asked on a date?
This book reveals their surprising answers, plus:
• How to know if she’s the right one
• Where women don’t want to go on a first date
• What word they want a man to say when he asks
• When, where, and how he should ask
• What she hopes the date will include
• How a man can save his marriage before he’s married
Dating doesn’t need to become a relic of the past. It needs to be revived. For this to happen, men need to put down their screens, look a woman in the eye, and ask her on a date. The Dating Blueprint explains how.
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126 pages, Kindle Edition
Published October 10, 2019
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About the author
Jason Evert
54 books229 followersJason Evert has spoken on five continents to more than one million people about the virtue of chastity.
Jason earned a master’s degree in Theology, and undergraduate degrees in Counseling and Theology, with a minor in Philosophy at Franciscan University of Steubenville. He is a frequent guest on radio programs throughout the country, and his television appearances include Fox News, MSNBC, the BBC, and EWTN.
After speaking solo for several years, he teamed up with Crystalina, and the two married in 2003.
Jason earned a master’s degree in Theology, and undergraduate degrees in Counseling and Theology, with a minor in Philosophy at Franciscan University of Steubenville. He is a frequent guest on radio programs throughout the country, and his television appearances include Fox News, MSNBC, the BBC, and EWTN.
After speaking solo for several years, he teamed up with Crystalina, and the two married in 2003.
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October 6, 2023
As a practical guide, the book is certainly more useful to those who are relatively young (late teens/early 20’s), new to the faith, or have never heard succinctly the Christian conception of dating and marriage. What I found more interesting was the author’s focus on how marriage, and dating understood rightly as a path to marriage, demands a man imitate Christ’s sacrifice.
Christ did not stumble unwittingly to the cross. However, many men today find themselves in relationships they never formally initiated, progressing them through happenstance and the mere passage of time, and enjoying the fruits of married life without making the vows that impose responsibilities.
Christ gave of himself, to the point of death, for the sake of his bride, the church. But modern conceptions of marriage are more akin to mutually beneficial business arrangements that are discarded when one side feels they give more than they receive.
The author effectively, albeit briefly, suggests to men the steps they can take to play their part in restoring marriage to its original role: a reflection of the self-sacrificial and generative love of God for us, his people.
Overall, a good quick read for men disillusioned with the current state of dating affairs. And a good a reminder that there is another road, but that you must be intentional in walking it, and always acknowledge that it, like everything we do, leads back to Christ.
Christ did not stumble unwittingly to the cross. However, many men today find themselves in relationships they never formally initiated, progressing them through happenstance and the mere passage of time, and enjoying the fruits of married life without making the vows that impose responsibilities.
Christ gave of himself, to the point of death, for the sake of his bride, the church. But modern conceptions of marriage are more akin to mutually beneficial business arrangements that are discarded when one side feels they give more than they receive.
The author effectively, albeit briefly, suggests to men the steps they can take to play their part in restoring marriage to its original role: a reflection of the self-sacrificial and generative love of God for us, his people.
Overall, a good quick read for men disillusioned with the current state of dating affairs. And a good a reminder that there is another road, but that you must be intentional in walking it, and always acknowledge that it, like everything we do, leads back to Christ.
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November 15, 2024A great common sense “guide” to dating, marriage, love, and all that comes with it. Evert emphasizes the sacrificial aspect of love a lot, which on a couple occasions helped whip me into shape while reading. It was very encouraging and motivating while also very realistic. Definitely a book I’ll pull out every now and then for both reflection on how I love others and also for practical wisdom.
July 23, 2022
When I was first handed this book on the college campus I was a little skeptical because I saw that it was written from a catholic view. As an evangelical Christian I knew I would have to take it with a grain of salt but there would still be plenty of agreement and wisdom.
After reading I can say that this book is a good practical guide to biblical dating while still a push to live holy before and after marriage. While the last chapter did contain more catholic traditions and a parallel reference to 2 Maccabee’s the overall advice does not take away from a gospel story of marriage. The book does contain a little wording that is more catholic than I am accustomed but overall great wisdom and practical read for guys at any stage of a relationship.
After reading I can say that this book is a good practical guide to biblical dating while still a push to live holy before and after marriage. While the last chapter did contain more catholic traditions and a parallel reference to 2 Maccabee’s the overall advice does not take away from a gospel story of marriage. The book does contain a little wording that is more catholic than I am accustomed but overall great wisdom and practical read for guys at any stage of a relationship.
May 12, 2021
It's hard to take stars away from this book because it does exactly what it sets out to do. It provides an alternative to what the modern culture tells us dating should be and it provides a clear outline about how men should be approaching dating. It discusses how to live chastely in a dating relationship and even talks about how to approach struggles in a marriage. I would recommend this to anyone who is dating, looking to start dating, or even married (if just for the last part).
May 25, 2025
Round two on reading this,prolly cuz I skimmed the first time. Still a great book I’ll come back to every now and then. Not just a detailed Christian outlook on dating but gives specific spiritual guidance to young men on how to prepare yourself before a relationship. Also mentions the 40 Martyrs of Sebaste which is a tremendous story on its own. Def top book for me.
August 9, 2025
Jason Evert put together a great little study of what women wish men would know about dating before starting. He summarizes his conclusions from a self-conducted study of over a thousand women and uncovers how women would like to be asked out on a date and treated during the dating process. Jason encourages men to be courageous and just ask women out, communicating with clarity and sincerity throughout. It has some useful datings tips and helpful language for use while dating. He calls men on to holiness and chastity, making sure, as he always does, to highlight the evils of pornography up front in Chapter 1. I was really impacted when he argued that everything is at stake when men fail to step up to the challenge of answering the call to marriage - so many children not being born, so many souls who never came into being. He also dabbles in a light variety of thought-provoking marriage prep topics from a human formation standpoint with sprinkles of secular references and Catholic perspectives, saint stories, and literature. The intended audience seems to be Catholic high school to college aged guys but is written such that women can enjoy and benefit from it as well. As such, secular readers without much buy-in to Christian views on marriage, family and chastity might find the later chapters to be a somewhat strange without comprehensive logical flow and proofing of certain beliefs. Overall this book was a good starting point for entering the world of Catholic dating with plenty of food for thought and good discussion questions at the end. Readers would do well to seek more wisdom and knowledge on the whole discernment process of dating towards marriage, theology of the body, and theology of marriage from other good sources.
Biggest takeaway: The right woman, right time matrix tool for discernment. I did it for myself to help myself make my own “List” and it’s challenging me to become that list first.
Biggest improvements: I found the organization of the chapters after “Ask Her Out” to be somewhat scatterbrained and hard to follow, despite it all being great stuff.
Other Recommended Reads: Theology of His Body / Theology of Her Body by Jason Evert, Courtship of the Saints by Patrick O’Hearn, Christian Courtship in an Oversexed World by T. J. Morrow, Pretty Good Catholic by Rachel Hoover Canto, Men & Women are from Eden by Dr. Mary Healy, On Christian Marriage by Pope Pius XI, Christian Marriage (Casti Cannubii) Encyclical by Pius XI, Of Human Life (Humanae Vitae) Encyclical by Paul VI, On the Family (Familiaris Consortio) by John Paul II, Love and Responsibility by Karol Wojtyla (Pope JPII)
Biggest takeaway: The right woman, right time matrix tool for discernment. I did it for myself to help myself make my own “List” and it’s challenging me to become that list first.
Biggest improvements: I found the organization of the chapters after “Ask Her Out” to be somewhat scatterbrained and hard to follow, despite it all being great stuff.
Other Recommended Reads: Theology of His Body / Theology of Her Body by Jason Evert, Courtship of the Saints by Patrick O’Hearn, Christian Courtship in an Oversexed World by T. J. Morrow, Pretty Good Catholic by Rachel Hoover Canto, Men & Women are from Eden by Dr. Mary Healy, On Christian Marriage by Pope Pius XI, Christian Marriage (Casti Cannubii) Encyclical by Pius XI, Of Human Life (Humanae Vitae) Encyclical by Paul VI, On the Family (Familiaris Consortio) by John Paul II, Love and Responsibility by Karol Wojtyla (Pope JPII)
September 24, 2020
Notable Content: The book talks a lot about chastity, including issues like
An excellent read. It's refreshing to hear such truth without apology.
Any plans to come out with a female-oriented one? ;)
An excellent read. It's refreshing to hear such truth without apology.
Any plans to come out with a female-oriented one? ;)
June 10, 2021
Life changing
I often wonder why our generation is so bad at loving. In this short book, Jason Evert gives us the antidote to a culture of lust; he teaches us how to date, how to love, and how to live a good life with her. Thank you, Lord, for placing this book in my hands!
I often wonder why our generation is so bad at loving. In this short book, Jason Evert gives us the antidote to a culture of lust; he teaches us how to date, how to love, and how to live a good life with her. Thank you, Lord, for placing this book in my hands!
June 7, 2020
Good for young men who need some guidance on how to date as a Catholic Man!
May 4, 2021
I know this was written for men but I actually got a lot out of it. Also, I feel for the woman who went on a date to a sketchy parking lot where her date informed her of his felony record. 😲
August 23, 2022
Wow, I did everything backwards!
July 29, 2023
Great read about how to frame yourself for dating prior to even meeting someone to date.
October 28, 2023
This was pretty simple but I ended up highlighting a lot. Better than expected.
December 25, 2023
A Must Read for Every Man
Evert distills timeless wisdom that has aided me in a relationship, and now in being single. Marriage is a beautiful cross.
Evert distills timeless wisdom that has aided me in a relationship, and now in being single. Marriage is a beautiful cross.
April 20, 2024
I’m biased because Jason Evert’s a G. Talked to the guy last year on the phone. Good man
May 6, 2024
Oh, what a fantastic book. Extremely useful if you are new to Catholicism wanting to live a rightly and well lived life, and also to the ones already married. I definitely recommend it to every man.
September 5, 2024
This book was informative and fantastic. Such a great read for guys! (Although I also enjoyed it as a woman.) 10/10 would recommend.
May 18, 2025
This book opened my eyes in ways that I have never thought of before.
December 24, 2024
Women are complicated.
April 26, 2024
only 4 stars bc it didn't instantly get me a gf
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