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Escaping Emotional Abuse: Healing from the Shame You Don't Deserve
The world-renowned therapist and author of the groundbreaking self-help classic, The Emotionally Abusive Relationship, delves into the most destructive and powerful weapon of the shame. And reveals its most powerful antidote...
In The Emotionally Abused Woman, therapist Beverly Engel introduced the concept of emotional abuse, one of the most subtle, yet devastating forms of abuse within a relationship. Now Engel exposes the most destructive technique the abuser uses to break our spirit and gain control--and guides readers on how to free themselves from the shame that can keep them from the life (and the love) they deserve.
Emotionally abused people are gradually stripped of self-esteem, dignity, and humanity--making them feel unworthy and utterly powerless to escape. But they possess a potent tool with which to combat self-compassion. In these pages, Engel shows how to access it. Using her highly effective Shame Reduction Program, she helps readers jumpstart the process of recovery by offering specific steps to help heal, regain self-confidence--and ultimately become empowered enough to leave--for good.
An invaluable resource for both men and women who suffer from emotional abuse, as well as therapists and advocates, Escaping Emotional Abuse is a supportive, nurturing guide for anyone seeking to break the chains of shame, and gain the emotional freedom to create healthier, lasting relationships.
In The Emotionally Abused Woman, therapist Beverly Engel introduced the concept of emotional abuse, one of the most subtle, yet devastating forms of abuse within a relationship. Now Engel exposes the most destructive technique the abuser uses to break our spirit and gain control--and guides readers on how to free themselves from the shame that can keep them from the life (and the love) they deserve.
Emotionally abused people are gradually stripped of self-esteem, dignity, and humanity--making them feel unworthy and utterly powerless to escape. But they possess a potent tool with which to combat self-compassion. In these pages, Engel shows how to access it. Using her highly effective Shame Reduction Program, she helps readers jumpstart the process of recovery by offering specific steps to help heal, regain self-confidence--and ultimately become empowered enough to leave--for good.
An invaluable resource for both men and women who suffer from emotional abuse, as well as therapists and advocates, Escaping Emotional Abuse is a supportive, nurturing guide for anyone seeking to break the chains of shame, and gain the emotional freedom to create healthier, lasting relationships.
368 pages, Paperback
Published December 29, 2020
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Beverly Engel
46 books228 followersBeverly Engel has been a psychotherapist for thirty years, specializing in the areas of abuse recovery, relationships, women’s issues and sexuality. She is also the best-selling author of 20 self-help books, many of which have been featured on national television and radio programs (Oprah, CNN, Ricki Lake, Starting Over) as well as national print media (O Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Ladies Home Journal, Redbook, Psychology Today, The Washington Post, The LA Times, and The Chicago Tribune to name a few).
She is considered one of the world’s leading experts on the issue of emotional abuse, as well as a pioneer on the issue, having written one of the first recovery books on the subject (The Emotionally Abused Woman).
She is considered one of the world’s leading experts on the issue of emotional abuse, as well as a pioneer on the issue, having written one of the first recovery books on the subject (The Emotionally Abused Woman).
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August 11, 2021
The most important tool that I was able to take from this wonderfully supportive and compassionate book was what I called SHeRP, or Shame Recognition Program is what the author calls it. I have to call things something silly most times; so SHeRP.
Anyway, I can tell you finding the shame and dealing with it is the first and foremost; not to mention; most important step to getting anywhere in trauma. Unfortunately that is the hard part.
I think the book helps and tries to give you the tools you need to be compassionate and kind to yourself and other things so that you can get past it and not feel shame that others leave you with.
This was very insightful.
I received a review copy from Goodreads and am leaving a voluntary review that this book is an excellent recommendation. I’m glad I read it.
Anyway, I can tell you finding the shame and dealing with it is the first and foremost; not to mention; most important step to getting anywhere in trauma. Unfortunately that is the hard part.
I think the book helps and tries to give you the tools you need to be compassionate and kind to yourself and other things so that you can get past it and not feel shame that others leave you with.
This was very insightful.
I received a review copy from Goodreads and am leaving a voluntary review that this book is an excellent recommendation. I’m glad I read it.
November 4, 2020
Before reading non-fiction books that can influence my life and health, I like to check and see if the author knows what she is talking about and whether the information she provides is reliable.
I was quite impressed to find the following information about Beverly Engel:
An Internationally recognized psychotherapist
Acclaimed advocate for victims of sexual, physical, and emotional abuse. Author of 22 self-help books, some award-winning and translated into many languages
A licensed marriage and family therapist
Has now practiced psychotherapy for 35 years.
Appeared in national television talk shows like Oprah and CNN.
Has a blog on the Psychology Today website, regularly contributes to the Psychology Today magazine
Featured in many established newspapers and magazines
Conducts training workshops throughout the USA and UK, for both professional and lay audiences
I think we can safely say that she is an expert.
Escaping Emotional Abuse provides great and comprehensive insights into what is emotional abuse, how to recognise it and what you can do about it. The content is very practical : what should you do? How do you identify the type of abusers? How can you tailor your actions accordingly. Should you stay? Should you leave? If you decide to stay, what should you do.
It's also essential reading for the abuser who wants to change because they can gain more awareness about themselves by identifying the type of abuser that they are.
This is a very well-written and readable book that has a comforting, understanding and sympathetic voice.
I would highly recommend it for anyone who has an unsatisfactory relationship where emotional abuse is suspected. It's for both victim and abuser because some abusers do want to change!
I was quite impressed to find the following information about Beverly Engel:
An Internationally recognized psychotherapist
Acclaimed advocate for victims of sexual, physical, and emotional abuse. Author of 22 self-help books, some award-winning and translated into many languages
A licensed marriage and family therapist
Has now practiced psychotherapy for 35 years.
Appeared in national television talk shows like Oprah and CNN.
Has a blog on the Psychology Today website, regularly contributes to the Psychology Today magazine
Featured in many established newspapers and magazines
Conducts training workshops throughout the USA and UK, for both professional and lay audiences
I think we can safely say that she is an expert.
Escaping Emotional Abuse provides great and comprehensive insights into what is emotional abuse, how to recognise it and what you can do about it. The content is very practical : what should you do? How do you identify the type of abusers? How can you tailor your actions accordingly. Should you stay? Should you leave? If you decide to stay, what should you do.
It's also essential reading for the abuser who wants to change because they can gain more awareness about themselves by identifying the type of abuser that they are.
This is a very well-written and readable book that has a comforting, understanding and sympathetic voice.
I would highly recommend it for anyone who has an unsatisfactory relationship where emotional abuse is suspected. It's for both victim and abuser because some abusers do want to change!
November 22, 2020
I was given a copy of this book by NetGalley in exchange for my honest review.
This book is way off the beaten path for me, but I’m so glad I read it. This book is primarily speaking to people who are currently in the midst of an abusive situation, the irony being - for me anyway - by the very nature of the abuse, I wouldn’t have been ready to read this in the midst of my experience. That being said, a little more than a year out, there were still a lot of poignant and meaningful moments. There are parts of this book that at times are difficult to get through, but that signals to me that there’s some hard truths to be acknowledged. I feel better understood, and that I’m continuing on my way to better understanding myself. I would recommend that anyone read this at any point in their lives, very eye-opening and well written. 4.5/5 stars
This book is way off the beaten path for me, but I’m so glad I read it. This book is primarily speaking to people who are currently in the midst of an abusive situation, the irony being - for me anyway - by the very nature of the abuse, I wouldn’t have been ready to read this in the midst of my experience. That being said, a little more than a year out, there were still a lot of poignant and meaningful moments. There are parts of this book that at times are difficult to get through, but that signals to me that there’s some hard truths to be acknowledged. I feel better understood, and that I’m continuing on my way to better understanding myself. I would recommend that anyone read this at any point in their lives, very eye-opening and well written. 4.5/5 stars
July 2, 2023
Continuing my bout of reading books about emotional abuse - Escape... is a really detailed compassionate and thorough book about supporting people who have experienced emotional abuse. The primary focus is on abuse in partnerships, however there is linkage with parents as well.
While this book is greatly in depth I would say there is a slight weakness with the section on personality disorders, which seems too general and somewhat poorly aligned with current understanding of personality disorders (at least when it comes to BPD).
While this book is greatly in depth I would say there is a slight weakness with the section on personality disorders, which seems too general and somewhat poorly aligned with current understanding of personality disorders (at least when it comes to BPD).
November 12, 2020
**I received an ARC from the publisher on Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.
For anyone who has experienced emotional abuse, who is experiencing it, who is recovering from emotional abuse, or dating someone who has gone through it, I would recommend this book. It's very insightful and full of helpful information. I thought Beverly Engel did a great job writing this book and compiling useful information. She has published other books on this subject and similar subjects as well. I love how she gives the reminder it's not your fault and you need to feel no shame. She has it right, you don't deserve this shame.
For anyone who has experienced emotional abuse, who is experiencing it, who is recovering from emotional abuse, or dating someone who has gone through it, I would recommend this book. It's very insightful and full of helpful information. I thought Beverly Engel did a great job writing this book and compiling useful information. She has published other books on this subject and similar subjects as well. I love how she gives the reminder it's not your fault and you need to feel no shame. She has it right, you don't deserve this shame.
January 31, 2021
This is one of the best books about abuse that I have ever read. The author's expertise shines through in each chapter, and she does a phenomenal job of acknowledging the variance between different people's life experiences, backgrounds, and choices, providing lots of descriptions and checklists for people to identify what applies to them. The book primarily focuses on abuse within the context of a romantic relationship, but also addresses child abuse to help victims determine how their upbringing may have affected their choice of a romantic partner, expectations for a relationship, and ability to stand up for themselves.
Beverly Engel writes to both men and women, and I hugely appreciate this. Most books about abuse are written to a female audience, exclusively use female pronouns, and only tell stories about female victims and male abusers. These books usually mention in the preface, or near the beginning, that men are sometimes also abused and that the book can help them as well, but there is no real acknowledgment of their situation within the source as a whole. Given how difficult it would already be for a man to acknowledge to himself that he is an abuse victim, I think that having to read a completely female-focused book would make it even more challenging for him to make it through the material, tell someone, and get help.
This book perfectly weaves in both male and female pronouns, and stories from both men and women who have suffered from emotional abuse. Given how rare this inclusiveness is for this topic, I appreciate it tremendously. Engel also profiles common traits of female abusers in a way that can be very eye-opening for people who have never considered the covert ways that women can abuse and control men.
This book is very long and seemed redundant to me at times, but it makes sense for the author to reinforce her points again in different contexts, since this is such a challenging issue and is so overwhelming to people. She does a great job defining shame and addressing its power, and provides practical exercises that people can do to help themselves deal with their shame and change their self-image. She also includes detailed information about how to make a decision whether or not to leave a relationship. She acknowledges the many different considerations that people might take into account, takes them all seriously, and provides helpful perspectives on whether or not abusers can change.
Many books and articles send the message that abusers can't change, never will, and must be cut off immediately and forever. Engel takes a much more nuanced approach to the issue, creating profiles of different types of abusers to help victims recognize what kind of abusive relationship they are in. This is one of the best and most unique parts of this book, in my opinion, and is part of why I am giving this book a full five stars.
Engel differentiates between people who know that they are abusing from those who are oblivious to it, and those who are reenacting unhealthy patterns from their childhoods from malicious abusers who take pleasure in making someone else suffer. She provides clear advice and encouragement for whatever abuser someone might be facing, and gives suggestions for how someone in a salvageable relationship might be able to reconcile with their partner and work through their issues together.
Also, Engel succeeds at giving an anti-shame message without presuming that her readership is full of perfect angels. Some books are like, "You are perfect the way you are," and build their self-acceptance messages based on this false premise. Engel avoids this trap, and shows that even when you are decidedly not perfect, and even when you may be in part responsible for a dysfunctional dynamic, you still do not deserve to be abused.
People who feel justifiable guilt for their own actions can still find help here, without the common unintentional message that a book only applies to "perfect" victims. Engel never makes light of the possibility that her readers might have their own abusive patterns, and even directly addresses what someone can do if they realize that they have been abusing their children. She covers possibilities and contingencies for all kinds of different issues, and shows that no one deserves to be degraded and dehumanized, regardless of their own faults.
This book is incredibly thorough, practical, wise, and honest, and I am amazed by the author's expertise and sensitivity. It took me a while to gather my thoughts and write a review, but I wanted to go into detail about what people can expect, instead of just saying that it is thorough and excellent. I would highly recommend this to anyone who has experienced emotional abuse in the past or present, who is trying to process whether or not they have abused someone else, or wants to better understand the issue to support others.
I received a temporary digital copy through NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
Beverly Engel writes to both men and women, and I hugely appreciate this. Most books about abuse are written to a female audience, exclusively use female pronouns, and only tell stories about female victims and male abusers. These books usually mention in the preface, or near the beginning, that men are sometimes also abused and that the book can help them as well, but there is no real acknowledgment of their situation within the source as a whole. Given how difficult it would already be for a man to acknowledge to himself that he is an abuse victim, I think that having to read a completely female-focused book would make it even more challenging for him to make it through the material, tell someone, and get help.
This book perfectly weaves in both male and female pronouns, and stories from both men and women who have suffered from emotional abuse. Given how rare this inclusiveness is for this topic, I appreciate it tremendously. Engel also profiles common traits of female abusers in a way that can be very eye-opening for people who have never considered the covert ways that women can abuse and control men.
This book is very long and seemed redundant to me at times, but it makes sense for the author to reinforce her points again in different contexts, since this is such a challenging issue and is so overwhelming to people. She does a great job defining shame and addressing its power, and provides practical exercises that people can do to help themselves deal with their shame and change their self-image. She also includes detailed information about how to make a decision whether or not to leave a relationship. She acknowledges the many different considerations that people might take into account, takes them all seriously, and provides helpful perspectives on whether or not abusers can change.
Many books and articles send the message that abusers can't change, never will, and must be cut off immediately and forever. Engel takes a much more nuanced approach to the issue, creating profiles of different types of abusers to help victims recognize what kind of abusive relationship they are in. This is one of the best and most unique parts of this book, in my opinion, and is part of why I am giving this book a full five stars.
Engel differentiates between people who know that they are abusing from those who are oblivious to it, and those who are reenacting unhealthy patterns from their childhoods from malicious abusers who take pleasure in making someone else suffer. She provides clear advice and encouragement for whatever abuser someone might be facing, and gives suggestions for how someone in a salvageable relationship might be able to reconcile with their partner and work through their issues together.
Also, Engel succeeds at giving an anti-shame message without presuming that her readership is full of perfect angels. Some books are like, "You are perfect the way you are," and build their self-acceptance messages based on this false premise. Engel avoids this trap, and shows that even when you are decidedly not perfect, and even when you may be in part responsible for a dysfunctional dynamic, you still do not deserve to be abused.
People who feel justifiable guilt for their own actions can still find help here, without the common unintentional message that a book only applies to "perfect" victims. Engel never makes light of the possibility that her readers might have their own abusive patterns, and even directly addresses what someone can do if they realize that they have been abusing their children. She covers possibilities and contingencies for all kinds of different issues, and shows that no one deserves to be degraded and dehumanized, regardless of their own faults.
This book is incredibly thorough, practical, wise, and honest, and I am amazed by the author's expertise and sensitivity. It took me a while to gather my thoughts and write a review, but I wanted to go into detail about what people can expect, instead of just saying that it is thorough and excellent. I would highly recommend this to anyone who has experienced emotional abuse in the past or present, who is trying to process whether or not they have abused someone else, or wants to better understand the issue to support others.
I received a temporary digital copy through NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
October 20, 2020
Escaping Emotional Abuse by Beverly Engel is a gem of a book. With compassion and kindness, Engel addresses victims of emotional abuse at every step of the process. Here you will be treated with respect and understanding for your situation and receive a step by step guide to leave an emotionally abusive relationship while also being nurtured to regain your dignity and self-respect. This book is written for not just women, but men as well, and includes helpful exercises in each step of the process to assist in the healing process.
Engle also has the wisdom to not claim that her book is the sole agent of healing. She strongly advises the reader to attend individual therapy to talk through their situation with an outside source that can provide further individualized care.
If anything about this title draws your interest, read this book.
If you are young and just starting dating, read this book.
If any part of you has any concerns about your relationship, read this book.
5/5 stars
Engle also has the wisdom to not claim that her book is the sole agent of healing. She strongly advises the reader to attend individual therapy to talk through their situation with an outside source that can provide further individualized care.
If anything about this title draws your interest, read this book.
If you are young and just starting dating, read this book.
If any part of you has any concerns about your relationship, read this book.
5/5 stars
October 26, 2020
Emotional abuse can be confusing as it is subtle. One may ask is this normal interactions or not .The author leads you to the answers, from emotional abuse identification to how to deal. In the opening she states the following: " No matter what you decide to do I will support you. I will walk along side of you".
Very detailed yet easy to understand this is an important book.
I want to thank NetGalley, Citadel Press and Kensington Publishing for the opportunity to read and review this book. It releases 29 December 2020
Very detailed yet easy to understand this is an important book.
I want to thank NetGalley, Citadel Press and Kensington Publishing for the opportunity to read and review this book. It releases 29 December 2020
October 14, 2020
This book was an exceptional read for anyone who has experienced emotional abuse (well-defined by the author) from a partner or family member. Although I exited a relationship that was emotionally abusive many years ago, there was so much presented by the author that was totally new to me; one of the major revelations was how childhood emotional abuse can lead to entering a relationship with an abusive partner later. The exercises Ms. Engel presents are highly useful, as is her focus on self-compassion and self-soothing exercises. These are concepts that I had never been exposed to before despite past counseling. In short, I think this is an excellent book for anyone who has suffered an emotionally abusive relationship, past or present.
Thanks to #netgalley for an Advance Reader’s Copy #Escaping Emotional Abuse
May 23, 2023
I'm a mental health therapist- and came across this book in my local B&N. It's been an invaluable bibliotherapy resource and tool to use- and have clients reflect on their own:
1) Do I identify with the definitions and descriptions in this book?
2) How do I feel about the phrase "emotional abuse," and how it's treated in society?
3) Do I feel my situation is valid- concerning- a call to action?
I love the clear and concise nature of this book, the languaging in it, and how it directly confronts the emotional aspects of abuse. So many books focus solely on physical/sexual mistreatment. So many discuss abuse, but give no information regarding steps to take, how to protect yourself, and the barriers that keep us in such situations.
A perk of using this as a tool, is that it's a third person technique! I'm not putting my own definiton out there- or acting as the sole expert in a helping relationship. No pressure for YOU to define such a huge concept, either- or visit Dr. Google- because here's Beverly Engel with some expert information! Having your hands on this book means you're empowered in your own exploration- formation of ideas- and as the expert of you! This is important when someone has been disempowered by an abuser over a period of time.
Therapists will know it's also imperative to give clients autonomy, and step out of the way as much as possible, when certain safety situations may be involved- due to the ethical risks should a client feel you are TELLING them to take certain actions- rather than feeling they are coming to that conclusion on their own. Using bibliotherapy means I can be there as a client centered support 100% of the time, and leave the psychoeducational teaching to someone else for the moment. I get to avoid the expert chair- when it wouldn't serve my clients.
Thank you for creating something like this! I've used this resource for about 6 months, and have had nothing but positive response from clients.
DIGITAL COPY NOTE:
I ESPECIALLY appreciate that it's published ebook format- as you can guess how nervewracking it would be for someone to have a physical copy of this book in an unsafe situation. Or really: for anyone who has limited privacy, to read something with "abuse" in the title. The digital copies of mental health books make it possible for someone to read any time- any where- as long as they have a password protected device and can download a "cloud reader" app.
: )
1) Do I identify with the definitions and descriptions in this book?
2) How do I feel about the phrase "emotional abuse," and how it's treated in society?
3) Do I feel my situation is valid- concerning- a call to action?
I love the clear and concise nature of this book, the languaging in it, and how it directly confronts the emotional aspects of abuse. So many books focus solely on physical/sexual mistreatment. So many discuss abuse, but give no information regarding steps to take, how to protect yourself, and the barriers that keep us in such situations.
A perk of using this as a tool, is that it's a third person technique! I'm not putting my own definiton out there- or acting as the sole expert in a helping relationship. No pressure for YOU to define such a huge concept, either- or visit Dr. Google- because here's Beverly Engel with some expert information! Having your hands on this book means you're empowered in your own exploration- formation of ideas- and as the expert of you! This is important when someone has been disempowered by an abuser over a period of time.
Therapists will know it's also imperative to give clients autonomy, and step out of the way as much as possible, when certain safety situations may be involved- due to the ethical risks should a client feel you are TELLING them to take certain actions- rather than feeling they are coming to that conclusion on their own. Using bibliotherapy means I can be there as a client centered support 100% of the time, and leave the psychoeducational teaching to someone else for the moment. I get to avoid the expert chair- when it wouldn't serve my clients.
Thank you for creating something like this! I've used this resource for about 6 months, and have had nothing but positive response from clients.
DIGITAL COPY NOTE:
I ESPECIALLY appreciate that it's published ebook format- as you can guess how nervewracking it would be for someone to have a physical copy of this book in an unsafe situation. Or really: for anyone who has limited privacy, to read something with "abuse" in the title. The digital copies of mental health books make it possible for someone to read any time- any where- as long as they have a password protected device and can download a "cloud reader" app.
: )
December 31, 2020
I received a free ARC. This is my honest review.
“Escaping Emotional Abuse” is a powerful and empowering book.
Beverly Engel brings clarity to multiple aspects of emotional abuse:
>the connection between shame and emotional abuse
>how shaming works as a means of control in a relationship
>the various emotional abuse tactics employed by abusers – this list is heartbreakingly long!
>reasons why it is so hard to end an emotionally abusive relationship, including details on the potential history of abuse or shaming a survivor has experienced leading up to the emotionally abusive relationship
>the extensive damage emotional abuse can cause survivors
Particularly helpful is a questionnaire to determine if you are being emotionally abused.
Beverly Engel also describes the different types of emotional abusers in detail and helps a reader consider whether their abuser is intentionally or unintentionally abusing them. In addition, she helps a reader understand whether their partner suffers from a borderline personality disorder.
It felt very empowering to read these descriptions to understand what an emotional abuser would be like and how they manipulate and control their partners. Knowledge is power!
Throughout the book, Beverly Engel writes with a compassionate understanding of the reader. She gives empathetic support for the survivor on their journey from recognizing their emotional abuse to overcoming their shame and potentially leaving the abusive relationship.
Beverly Engel’s book provides multiple exercises and activities to help readers to a better understanding of their emotional abuse and to move past their shame into a place of self-compassion, self-understanding, and self-forgiveness.
“Escaping Emotional Abuse” is a book that will give emotional abuse survivors the support and knowledge they need to move forward with their lives and not let anyone ever shame, manipulate or control them again.
“Escaping Emotional Abuse” is a powerful and empowering book.
Beverly Engel brings clarity to multiple aspects of emotional abuse:
>the connection between shame and emotional abuse
>how shaming works as a means of control in a relationship
>the various emotional abuse tactics employed by abusers – this list is heartbreakingly long!
>reasons why it is so hard to end an emotionally abusive relationship, including details on the potential history of abuse or shaming a survivor has experienced leading up to the emotionally abusive relationship
>the extensive damage emotional abuse can cause survivors
Particularly helpful is a questionnaire to determine if you are being emotionally abused.
Beverly Engel also describes the different types of emotional abusers in detail and helps a reader consider whether their abuser is intentionally or unintentionally abusing them. In addition, she helps a reader understand whether their partner suffers from a borderline personality disorder.
It felt very empowering to read these descriptions to understand what an emotional abuser would be like and how they manipulate and control their partners. Knowledge is power!
Throughout the book, Beverly Engel writes with a compassionate understanding of the reader. She gives empathetic support for the survivor on their journey from recognizing their emotional abuse to overcoming their shame and potentially leaving the abusive relationship.
Beverly Engel’s book provides multiple exercises and activities to help readers to a better understanding of their emotional abuse and to move past their shame into a place of self-compassion, self-understanding, and self-forgiveness.
“Escaping Emotional Abuse” is a book that will give emotional abuse survivors the support and knowledge they need to move forward with their lives and not let anyone ever shame, manipulate or control them again.
May 21, 2022
🕊JAK UWOLNIĆ SIĘ OD PRZEMOCY PSYCHICZNEJ🕊
To jedna z lepszych książek o nadużyciach, jaką kiedykolwiek czytałam. Specjalistyczna wiedza autorki przebija się w każdym rozdziale i wykonuje ona fenomenalna pracę, rozpoznając różnice miedzy doświadczeniami życiowymi, pochodzeniem i wyborami różnych ludzi.
Autorka pisze zarówno do mężczyzn jak i kobiet. Większość książek tego typu kierowana jest do damskiej grupy czytelniczek. Ta pozycja doskonale wplata zarówno męskie, jak i żeńskie zaimki oraz historie zarówno mężczyzn jak i kobiet, którzy cierpieli z powodu przemocy emocjonalnej. Engel opisuje również cechy „kobiet-sprawców”, otwierając oczy dla osób, które nigdy nie rozważały ukrytych sposobów wykorzystywania i kontrolowania mężczyzn przez kobiety.
Pisarka rozróżnia ludzi, którzy wiedzą, że nadużywają, od tych, którzy są tego nieświadomi, od tych którzy odtwarzają niezdrowe wzorce z dzieciństwa od złośliwych oprawców. Udziela jasnych rad i zachęt dla każdego sprawcy przemocy, z którym ktoś może się mierzyć, oraz daje sugestie, w jaki sposób pogodzić się ze swoim partnerem i wspólnie rozwiązać problemy.
Ta książka jest niezwykle dokładna, praktyczna, mądra i uczciwa, i jestem zdumiona fachowością i wrażliwością autorki. Gorąco polecam każdemu kto miał lub ma styczność z przemocą emocjonalną. Pozwól sobie zrozumieć pewne rzeczy i przenieść się poza wstyd do miejsca współczucia dla siebie, zrozumienia siebie i przebaczenia.
To jedna z lepszych książek o nadużyciach, jaką kiedykolwiek czytałam. Specjalistyczna wiedza autorki przebija się w każdym rozdziale i wykonuje ona fenomenalna pracę, rozpoznając różnice miedzy doświadczeniami życiowymi, pochodzeniem i wyborami różnych ludzi.
Autorka pisze zarówno do mężczyzn jak i kobiet. Większość książek tego typu kierowana jest do damskiej grupy czytelniczek. Ta pozycja doskonale wplata zarówno męskie, jak i żeńskie zaimki oraz historie zarówno mężczyzn jak i kobiet, którzy cierpieli z powodu przemocy emocjonalnej. Engel opisuje również cechy „kobiet-sprawców”, otwierając oczy dla osób, które nigdy nie rozważały ukrytych sposobów wykorzystywania i kontrolowania mężczyzn przez kobiety.
Pisarka rozróżnia ludzi, którzy wiedzą, że nadużywają, od tych, którzy są tego nieświadomi, od tych którzy odtwarzają niezdrowe wzorce z dzieciństwa od złośliwych oprawców. Udziela jasnych rad i zachęt dla każdego sprawcy przemocy, z którym ktoś może się mierzyć, oraz daje sugestie, w jaki sposób pogodzić się ze swoim partnerem i wspólnie rozwiązać problemy.
Ta książka jest niezwykle dokładna, praktyczna, mądra i uczciwa, i jestem zdumiona fachowością i wrażliwością autorki. Gorąco polecam każdemu kto miał lub ma styczność z przemocą emocjonalną. Pozwól sobie zrozumieć pewne rzeczy i przenieść się poza wstyd do miejsca współczucia dla siebie, zrozumienia siebie i przebaczenia.
May 3, 2021
Escaping Emotional Abuse: Healing from the Shame You Don't Deserve is an empowering guide to anyone who suspects to be, is, or has been emotionally abused.
This is a healing book that offers wisdom and practical tools for those who are ready to understand and recover from the shame abuse causes.
Highly recommended for its clarity and life-changing content!
It was a wonderful experience to have had a conversation with Beverly Engel during a podcast interview! Her wise and compassionate presence reflected her commitment to healing lives!
This is a healing book that offers wisdom and practical tools for those who are ready to understand and recover from the shame abuse causes.
Highly recommended for its clarity and life-changing content!
It was a wonderful experience to have had a conversation with Beverly Engel during a podcast interview! Her wise and compassionate presence reflected her commitment to healing lives!
December 30, 2020
This is an informative and insightful book, that talks about the destructive patterns, the holds of fear, shame, and guilt, signs for recognizing this insidious abuse when it happens, and ways to deal with and heal from it. I'd say that this book is for anyone who has experienced emotional abuse, is experiencing it, is recovering from it, or is with someone who has gone through it.
Thank you, NetGalley, for this e-ARC.
Thank you, NetGalley, for this e-ARC.
September 13, 2021
This book can change your life - it has mine! By reading this book I was able to recognize abusive tactics, understand the extreme negative impact of abuse, how to counteract the damage caused by abuse, and ultimately escape emotional abuse! This is a good book to read for people who are going through abuse, friends and family who know someone who is going through abuse, and anyone who is not currently in a relationship (know the red flags!!!)
January 15, 2024
EVERYONE NEEDS TO READ THIS BOOK. whether you are someone who has gone through emotional abuse or not. This gives such clear understanding as to what emotional abuse is and how it impacts people. While this book is specifically geared towards more intimate relationships, you can use the information and apply it to yourself if you are someone who went through childhood emotional abuse. Loved this book!
didn-t-finish
May 20, 2025The author gives us a list of behaviors that indicate that someone is being abusive, and while many of them are accurate and useful things to look for, the author also includes things like "being depressed" and "frequent mood changes", as well as other symptoms of mental illness. Painting mentally ill people as abusive is not helpful to victims of abuse, and further stigmatizes mentally ill people.
January 4, 2021
I received this book in a good reads giveaway! As a relationships therapist, I am always looking for good resources for my clients. I thought this was a wonderful resource to share. I like how clear and concise the author is and that she provides tangible steps for healing. Emotional abuse can be hard to name when you are experiencing it, this book provides tools for identifying the signs.
March 24, 2025
Український переклад - "Звільнись від емоційного насилля"
Чудова книга з практичним супроводом виходу з аб'юзивних стосунків. Від усвідомлення, що з тобою відбувається, до докорінних змін власного життя та зцілення від емоційного насилля.
Приклади, вправи, деталі кожного кроку, що веде до свободи.
Чудова книга з практичним супроводом виходу з аб'юзивних стосунків. Від усвідомлення, що з тобою відбувається, до докорінних змін власного життя та зцілення від емоційного насилля.
Приклади, вправи, деталі кожного кроку, що веде до свободи.
July 6, 2021
This was a tough read, but super helpful, informative, and I felt like the author did a great job in making me feel like I have the ability to change. As someone who has been on both sides of emotional abuse - I highly recommend this book.
May 9, 2022
Very well done and very thorough. This is a great book for those who think they may be in an emotionally abusive relationship. There are exercises so the person can work out the ideas for themselves. The author is also careful about how to deal with leaving your partner.
June 15, 2022
LOVED IT!!
This book is well written, easy to understand, and not written from a clinical researcher's perspective.
This book needed to be written decades ago. Solid advice for anyone looking for answers about going through recovery from an abusive relationship.
Excellent.
This book is well written, easy to understand, and not written from a clinical researcher's perspective.
This book needed to be written decades ago. Solid advice for anyone looking for answers about going through recovery from an abusive relationship.
Excellent.
December 4, 2020
Interesting read
December 10, 2020
Review will be up soon on my blog, www.therapybooknook.com/blog
March 18, 2021
Best book
March 17, 2023
It’s such a helpful book with lots of information on emotional abuse. You can learn so much from it, you can learn how to begin the healing process.
September 3, 2023
Why
Alot of this is true I was looking more about growing up with emotional abuse by parents. This was about by husband's also
Alot of this is true I was looking more about growing up with emotional abuse by parents. This was about by husband's also
May 31, 2024
A good book to help you know how to deal with the shame that comes with emotional abuse.
July 25, 2024
Thank you for this. Very informative and helpful.
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