What a Narcissist Does at the End of a Relationship: Dealing With and Understanding the Aftermath of a Narcissistic Relationship

by Lauren Kozlowski, Escape The Narcissist (Editor)

Breaking up in normal circumstances is hard enough. If you throw a narcissist into the equation, it makes it all the more difficult. Not only are you left heartbroken from the separation, but the actions and behaviors of the narcissist post-break-up are nothing short of cruel, confusing, and downright crazymaking. You feel like your world has ended and you don’t know how to rebuild it.In this short book, I want to use my own experience with a narcissist to highlight and outline the following for Discarding, and why the narcissist does this. This is a cruel tactic used by the narcissist to either punish you or because you have nothing left to give them.What a narcissist does at the end of a while all narcissists are different, you can count on one thing being their behavior.How the narc feels and deals with the break-up. I'll discuss the toxic narcissistic relationship pattern, so you can avoid being sucked into it once more.If you're looking to read this book, you're likely heartbroken and looking for some guidance, support, or understanding. As someone who has been through the hell of a narcissistic relationship, I can offer you all three, and I hope this book can help you make sense of this heartbreaking time.

Genres: Self Help, Relationships, Abuse, Nonfiction

35 pages, Kindle Edition

Published September 11, 2019

Reviews

[Pyroclastic Ash · Rating 4 out of 5]

Logging all the books I haven't yet. Don't mind me.
P.S. Yes, I went down a rabbit hole. I do not regret it

4 stars.
Short read that seems aimed at preparing readers for the aftermath of leaving a relationship with a narcissist. It covers what someone will, or likely has encountered. I think this can be a very validating read and is quick.

[Charity · Rating 5 out of 5]

If you have ever had any unfortunate connection with a narcissist, I highly recommend this book.

[Hisgirl85 · Rating 3 out of 5]

3 stars. This was very short and succinct. So much of this was relatable with any narcissistic relationship (outside of partners). The silent treatment when you act out of what they desire, the blaming you for their actions, and the not caring about you except for what you can give them (even if it is just emotional support). The part of them throwing out specific behaviors when you act out of character resonated and felt validating that it wasn't just the few people I interacted with, but a notable and recognized behavior (like throwing out an image of being the supportive and caring one when a sign the non-narcissist is pulling away after a punishment, silent treatment, or other behavior the narcissistic person wielded).

Best advice and practice mentioned in the book is that when someone leaves you, don't chase them. Have more respect for yourself.

[Leslie Hill · Rating 2 out of 5]

short, informative

All this can be found on any reliable source on the internet. It was only $2, good thing! Still it is a precise and accurate picture of a narcissist. Seems the hardest thing for most to accept is the cold intelligence they use to get a read on what (the victim) needs. They excel at this cognitive empathy. Used only to manipulate, it is hard to understand how they can ‘know’ and cannot apply it to themselves. They will show their true colors. When they do, run and don’t look back.

[Kelly Arendse · Rating 5 out of 5]

Exactly what I needed

Crazy how even though every narcissist is different they are still all the same.
I needed this!
Thank you so much!

[Livia · Rating 3 out of 5]

A bit too vague and personal, bitter

This book is a very easy read, recommended for those, who do not want to gain a really deep understanding of the phenomenon of narcissism, but want to gain some strength, and pleasure for venting. Not a bad book, but there are many, many better ones than this.

[ValissaW · Rating 3 out of 5]

Helpful yes, but too brief

While the info here is well-meaning and helpful, it is a bit of a misnomer to call it a book per se. It’s more of an extended pamphlet. I appreciate the author did not pad the info for the sake of length, but given the depth and seriousness of the subject matter, it could have been more deeply explored. In any case, what was there was helpful.

[Robin P · Rating 3 out of 5]

Ok — Lots of typos

This book was okay. I have done a lot of reading so it just reinforced some basics of what I already knew. I struggled reading it because I don’t like reading typos.

[Danielle · Rating 5 out of 5]

Really good book. Reading this has made me realise Evan more how much of a narcissist my ex is. It’s also made me realise how much I don’t deserve to be treated like that and that I done the right thing walking away. Would highly recommend

[Stephanie]

Necessary reading

This book was a concise guide to the things I've been experiencing, and I recommend it to anyone who's recognized they're in a similar situation, so it can help them prepare for what's next.

[Carol Hickey · Rating 5 out of 5]

understanding narcissism

Cut through the fluff and went straight to the facts.
This improved my knowledge of what my friend is going through.
I had no idea what narcissism was, before this.
Made me realize it’s not as walking away.

[Jordan · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5

Really short, blog-like book. This felt like a pep talk from the older sister I never had.

[Leslie Bridges · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very on



The book was right on about so many things. My relationship was already over when I had read this book, but I looked back(still healing) and was like dang.

[Lianne Sykes · Rating 5 out of 5]

Research

Read this due to my parents getting divorced and my father futs the bill of a narcissist as if ot was written for him

[Aimee · Rating 2 out of 5]

Very brief overview. Not very specific. Does sum up the experience.

[seb gratz · Rating 5 out of 5]

Insightful

Very well written and explained This should be a book given to all high schoolers so that they're equipped knowlegably before the fact

[Lauren Milam · Rating 5 out of 5]

Well if this didn’t hit home. If you’ve ever been in a relationship with a narc, definitely read this book.

[Zara Prince · Rating 4 out of 5]

A bit short but it was definitely quite useful.

[S. Jackson · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was a quick read for me and answered some of the 'why' questions that I've had about previous situations.