与真实的自己和解(不是对现实妥协，而是全然接纳和善待自己)（Reconcile with Yourself (not a compromise with reality, but accepting and treating yourself well)）

by （美）蒂姆·德斯蒙德, Tim Desmond, Lu Ni

在遭遇挫折和失败时，我们往往会谴责和批判自己，觉得自己一无是处，好像所有的不幸都是自己一手造成的，并陷入不可自拔的自责和痛苦里。我们会觉得同情和安慰自己就是在为自己开脱，是逃避现实和不负责任的表现。其实，每个人需要“自我同情”。《与真实的自己和解》一书告诉我们，自我同情是一种全然接纳和善待自己的态度，以温和的心态理解自己的失败，平静地接纳当下痛苦的想法和情绪。这不是对现实的妥协，而是与自己和解。（ While encountering setbacks and failures, we often condemn and criticize ourselves, feel that we are useless, as if all misfortunes were caused by ourselves, and we are caught in incomparable blame and pain. We feel sympathy and comfort are justifications for ourselves. They are evasive reality and irresponsible behavior. In fact, everyone needs "self-compassion." The book Reconcile with Yourself tells us that self-compassion is an attitude of total acceptance and kindness, understanding your failure with a mild attitude, and calmly accepting the painful thoughts and emotions of the moment. This is not a compromise on reality, but reconciliation with yourself. ）

128 pages, Kindle Edition

Published March 1, 2018