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July 9, 2022
First Reading - 2020 (4 Stars)
For some reason I loved this. I wish it were longer. Personally I never wanted to try online dating, and I can specifically state what I think are more than justified reasons ...
1. I was afraid it would make me hate myself even more.
2. I knew I wouldn't like inorganically having a date with someone an algorithm told me was likeminded.
3. My sense of worth would not have survived being rejected for any further dates.
4. On the same note, I would not have had the heart to tell anyone I didn't like I wasn't feeling it.
5. The possibility that no match would take me in the first place.
On top of that, the whole thing just seems like such needlessly high pressure - like you're going to be assessed in every small detail of your behaviour, and yet you somehow have to bring out your best and funniest, most sensitive and interesting self all in the course of a few hours.
Many of the guys in this podcast sounded like weirdos, so I honestly don't think I would have been that bad a catch - a self-disqualifying claim if ever there was one - but still I would have sucked at it cause it takes time man. It takes time to get to know someone.
This podcast was great fun to listen to though. It has an almost voyeurish pleasure to it. Although I found myself feeling bad for the girls as they all seemed normal, and kind of bemused if not disgusted by the guys - especially the fuckboy one. I mean, some people. Thank God I'm married now and no longer have to worry about finding someone through this process.
Second Reading - 2022 (4 Stars)
I only listened to this short podcast less than two years ago, but for some reason, trawling through my earlier Audible purchases (thanks to their amazing Plus Catalogue, it takes a good solid minute of high speed scrolling to get there far down), I saw this and decided I felt like listening to it again. It's so fun and cringey but also very helpful for dating tips or (if you're like me and no longer single) just a good source of advice for how to comport yourself in any social situation without seeming too much like an asshole. Once again, the dudes - the gay Chinese guy, and the sex façade idiot, I could not stand, although they both became a little more human-like after taking on Dr Goldstein's advice. I also think Goldstein herself should be commended. Usually, in podcasts or audiobooks like this that deal with sex or relationships, I find the writer or presenter really annoying, but Goldstein is very amiable and actually has some great and novel ideas for how to get people out of their shells and being more approachable, as well as reapproachable.
For some reason I loved this. I wish it were longer. Personally I never wanted to try online dating, and I can specifically state what I think are more than justified reasons ...
1. I was afraid it would make me hate myself even more.
2. I knew I wouldn't like inorganically having a date with someone an algorithm told me was likeminded.
3. My sense of worth would not have survived being rejected for any further dates.
4. On the same note, I would not have had the heart to tell anyone I didn't like I wasn't feeling it.
5. The possibility that no match would take me in the first place.
On top of that, the whole thing just seems like such needlessly high pressure - like you're going to be assessed in every small detail of your behaviour, and yet you somehow have to bring out your best and funniest, most sensitive and interesting self all in the course of a few hours.
Many of the guys in this podcast sounded like weirdos, so I honestly don't think I would have been that bad a catch - a self-disqualifying claim if ever there was one - but still I would have sucked at it cause it takes time man. It takes time to get to know someone.
This podcast was great fun to listen to though. It has an almost voyeurish pleasure to it. Although I found myself feeling bad for the girls as they all seemed normal, and kind of bemused if not disgusted by the guys - especially the fuckboy one. I mean, some people. Thank God I'm married now and no longer have to worry about finding someone through this process.
Second Reading - 2022 (4 Stars)
I only listened to this short podcast less than two years ago, but for some reason, trawling through my earlier Audible purchases (thanks to their amazing Plus Catalogue, it takes a good solid minute of high speed scrolling to get there far down), I saw this and decided I felt like listening to it again. It's so fun and cringey but also very helpful for dating tips or (if you're like me and no longer single) just a good source of advice for how to comport yourself in any social situation without seeming too much like an asshole. Once again, the dudes - the gay Chinese guy, and the sex façade idiot, I could not stand, although they both became a little more human-like after taking on Dr Goldstein's advice. I also think Goldstein herself should be commended. Usually, in podcasts or audiobooks like this that deal with sex or relationships, I find the writer or presenter really annoying, but Goldstein is very amiable and actually has some great and novel ideas for how to get people out of their shells and being more approachable, as well as reapproachable.
April 6, 2021
Dr Nikki helps six people with their dating issues. She gets a motormouth to slow down; the woman who thinks all men cheat to rethink her pov; the man who's first question in speed dating is 'wanna fuck' [yikes, dude]; the woman who steamrolls her dates has to hand her dating profile over to her daughter; the control freak had to ease up, put on a blindfold and shout to his date across the park; and, help a woman who thinks all the men on the dating apps are trash, to find some treasure.
This was interesting from the voyeur point of view, I mean you listen in to their dates, and wince a lot, so it was more like a slice of life than an advice title.
3 stars
This was interesting from the voyeur point of view, I mean you listen in to their dates, and wince a lot, so it was more like a slice of life than an advice title.
3 stars
July 13, 2021
Some very interesting theories and information about personalities in general, not just in terms of dating. Some of it did feel put-on though. I don’t think the impacts were as ground shattering as it was made out to be.
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