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The Breakup Monologues: The Unexpected Joy of Heartbreak
Mixing humour, heartache and science, award-winning comedian, author and accidental relationship guru Rosie Wilby embarks on a quest to investigate, understand and conquer the psychology of heartbreak. Tragedy plus time equals comedy, right?
In 2011, comedian Rosie Wilby was dumped by email. .. though she did feel a little better about it after correcting her ex's spelling and punctuation. Obsessing about breakups ever since, she embarked on a quest to investigate, understand and conquer the psychology of heartbreak.
That quest proved to be a creatively fertile one, resulting in Rosie's acclaimed podcast The Breakup Monologues. She decided to ask her colleagues on the circuit about their experiences of romantic disaster and recovery, thinking, 'if one group of people have become adept at learning from catastrophe it is comedians. The worst onstage deaths are the performances that enlighten us most about how to improve.' She wondered if comics had been able to transfer this 'fail better' logic to love.
This book is a love letter to her breakups, a celebration of what they have taught her peppered with anecdotes from illustrious friends and interviews with relationship therapists, scientists and sociologists about separating in the modern age of ghosting, breadcrumbing and conscious uncoupling. Her plan is to assimilate their advice and ideas in order to not break up with Girlfriend, her partner of nearly three years. Will this self-confessed serial monogamist, and breakup addict, finally settle down?
In 2011, comedian Rosie Wilby was dumped by email. .. though she did feel a little better about it after correcting her ex's spelling and punctuation. Obsessing about breakups ever since, she embarked on a quest to investigate, understand and conquer the psychology of heartbreak.
That quest proved to be a creatively fertile one, resulting in Rosie's acclaimed podcast The Breakup Monologues. She decided to ask her colleagues on the circuit about their experiences of romantic disaster and recovery, thinking, 'if one group of people have become adept at learning from catastrophe it is comedians. The worst onstage deaths are the performances that enlighten us most about how to improve.' She wondered if comics had been able to transfer this 'fail better' logic to love.
This book is a love letter to her breakups, a celebration of what they have taught her peppered with anecdotes from illustrious friends and interviews with relationship therapists, scientists and sociologists about separating in the modern age of ghosting, breadcrumbing and conscious uncoupling. Her plan is to assimilate their advice and ideas in order to not break up with Girlfriend, her partner of nearly three years. Will this self-confessed serial monogamist, and breakup addict, finally settle down?
208 pages, Hardcover
First published May 27, 2021
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About the author
Rosie Wilby
6 books11 followersRosie Wilby is an award-winning comedian, author and podcaster who has appeared on BBC Radio 4 programmes including Woman's Hour, Saturday Live, Four Thought, Unsafe Space and Loose Ends, TV shows including Good Morning Britain and Sunday Morning Live and podcasts including The Guilty Feminist. Her latest book The Breakup Monologues is inspired by her acclaimed podcast (a double British Podcast Award nominee) and is published globally by Bloomsbury. Her first book Is Monogamy Dead? was longlisted for the Polari First Book Prize and followed her TED talk of the same name. She regularly contributes to publications including The Independent, Stylist and Perspective and has hosted programmes for Virgin Radio, BBC and Resonance. She's currently working on a debut novel and a third nonfiction book. Follow her on X / Twitter @rosiewilby and Instagram / Threads@breakupmonologues
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June 14, 2021
This was such an insightful and fun read (+ Rosie’s footnotes were excellent). What I loved the most about this book was when Rosie explored the psychology of love & heartbreak and how overall a breakup can act as an opportunity for personal growth🪴This was a very enjoyable read, but I would have liked a bit more clearer structure to it.
May 13, 2021
rounded up from 4.5. Full review on @gee.booksandlife instagram :)
June 4, 2021
There’s something incredibly raw and human about delving into how the human psyche reacts to romantic woe. Drawing on her own experiences and others, Rosie Wilby looks at the way relationships can shape us and affect our choices in a future partner. From its premise, I imagined this to be simultaneously a funny, poignant and sad look at the effect of break-ups, or “conscious uncoupling” ala the breakdown of Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin's marriage.
I think if you're a fan of colloquial style monologues or indeed Rosie's podcast, then you'll enjoy the informal yet considered approach, but personally, I'd have liked a little more structure to it. It is heartwarming and there’s plenty of laugh out loud moments, but I felt as though it was a stream of consciousness rather than an edited distinct investigation. Some points felt like they went off on a tangent, whilst others were too short and there was often concentration on things that weren’t actually breakup related as the title suggests. I expected it to be more like a collection of essays, which I think I would've enjoyed more as this anecdotal style meant that the change in narrator and time period can feel a bit confusing. Instead, whilst confronting her own breakups, Rosie looks at the uniqueness of separation and draws on the wisdom of experts and loved ones to look at the impact of a breakup on both past and modern-day relationships.
Whilst it does mention the sadness and bleakness that can come from breakups, Rosie instead concentrates on breakups as opportunities for growth and almost as catalysts for a new era of self. It's candid and considered, and it's not my usual type of book to go for but I think if you enjoy lighthearted non-fiction you'll like this.
*Thanks to Bloomsbury for my copy in exchange for an honest review
I think if you're a fan of colloquial style monologues or indeed Rosie's podcast, then you'll enjoy the informal yet considered approach, but personally, I'd have liked a little more structure to it. It is heartwarming and there’s plenty of laugh out loud moments, but I felt as though it was a stream of consciousness rather than an edited distinct investigation. Some points felt like they went off on a tangent, whilst others were too short and there was often concentration on things that weren’t actually breakup related as the title suggests. I expected it to be more like a collection of essays, which I think I would've enjoyed more as this anecdotal style meant that the change in narrator and time period can feel a bit confusing. Instead, whilst confronting her own breakups, Rosie looks at the uniqueness of separation and draws on the wisdom of experts and loved ones to look at the impact of a breakup on both past and modern-day relationships.
Whilst it does mention the sadness and bleakness that can come from breakups, Rosie instead concentrates on breakups as opportunities for growth and almost as catalysts for a new era of self. It's candid and considered, and it's not my usual type of book to go for but I think if you enjoy lighthearted non-fiction you'll like this.
*Thanks to Bloomsbury for my copy in exchange for an honest review
April 27, 2021
A deeply relatable novel celebrating love- its beginnings, its endings and what it can teach us about ourselves.
It is not often we see a candid exploration of how sexuality affects a persons perception of their own relationships. This novel explores the lesbian identity both in isolation and in comparison to other sexuality’s, which I greatly enjoyed.
I have found that lesbianism is often talked about and grouped in with other sapphic identities rather than being recognised as a unique experience, and in this novel, Rosie Wilby shows how this can affect a queer persons perception of their own sexuality. When combined with her musings about how difficult she found navigating her past relationships, this discussion was deeply relatable. I would have loved to have a book like this when I was younger.
The addition of footnotes meant this novel read like an episode of Rosie’s podcast The Breakup Monologues, with asides littered into educate listeners and make them laugh.
And this book was laugh out loud funny. Heartbreak can be hilarious!
I recommend this novel to:
- lesbians 👭
- lovers of light nonfiction 📚
- anyone that loves to laugh 🎙
Overall I think everyone should read this novel. I couldn't put it down.
To pre-order this book now for £16.99, click HERE and receive it when it's released on May 27th 2021.
I received an advance review copy for free via NetGalley. I am leaving this review voluntarily 📚.
It is not often we see a candid exploration of how sexuality affects a persons perception of their own relationships. This novel explores the lesbian identity both in isolation and in comparison to other sexuality’s, which I greatly enjoyed.
I have found that lesbianism is often talked about and grouped in with other sapphic identities rather than being recognised as a unique experience, and in this novel, Rosie Wilby shows how this can affect a queer persons perception of their own sexuality. When combined with her musings about how difficult she found navigating her past relationships, this discussion was deeply relatable. I would have loved to have a book like this when I was younger.
The addition of footnotes meant this novel read like an episode of Rosie’s podcast The Breakup Monologues, with asides littered into educate listeners and make them laugh.
And this book was laugh out loud funny. Heartbreak can be hilarious!
I recommend this novel to:
- lesbians 👭
- lovers of light nonfiction 📚
- anyone that loves to laugh 🎙
Overall I think everyone should read this novel. I couldn't put it down.
To pre-order this book now for £16.99, click HERE and receive it when it's released on May 27th 2021.
I received an advance review copy for free via NetGalley. I am leaving this review voluntarily 📚.
December 27, 2024
Easy read post break up - it has a strong ‘breakups are good for growth’ lens, which is exactly what you want to hear when you are done being butt ass sad. Probably annoying to read if you are still in the pits and achy.
Footnotes in this book are great, especially if you are used to dense and obscure references from academic papers. This was a nice reminder that footnotes can be used to weave little quips and tidbits through writing (add a bitta spice).
Footnotes in this book are great, especially if you are used to dense and obscure references from academic papers. This was a nice reminder that footnotes can be used to weave little quips and tidbits through writing (add a bitta spice).
May 27, 2021
"The Breakup Monologues" is a humorous and considered exploration of love in its many guises and what happens when we lose it. I particularly enjoyed the playlist and film references. Through anecdotes and research, Rosie Wilby illustrates her own experience of relationships and heartbreak.
June 7, 2023
I like to read the romance with happy ending and never even think of the breakups and heartaches. This book is an eye opener that showed us even the bitter breakup has a silver lining, it makes us realize our mistakes so we won't repeat the pattern again. I like the author's candid and non nonsense description, relationship woes are universal, her book makes me appreciate the good relationships I have.
June 15, 2021
"the breakup monologues" by Rosie Wilby is an insight into Rosie's thoughts, experiences and research surrounding relationships, breakups and self development. It is evident throughout that a lot of research, conversations with friends, family and acquaintances has gone into this book and yet it still remains quite an informal, easy to digest and funny read. Sometimes when I see footnotes and quotes from professionals, I lose interest as some non-fiction is just too academic for me. However, Rosie's use of footnotes is brilliant, they contain funny anecdotes and witty comments that added to the book and the context behind some of the stories or research.
Reading about relationships and breakups from a lesbian perspective was a new and refreshing read for me. Ashamedly I've not read many fiction or non-fiction pieces from a lesbian author and/or protagonist and Rosie's perception of how this may have affected relationships past and present was definitely a new and unique take on something which is heavily covered in both fiction and non fiction writing. Sometimes when it comes to reading about "how to get over a breakup" or "how to be happy in a relationship" etc etc it can feel like the same information is given to you over and over again, but in this case it did not feel like that for me.
As somebody who went through a bad breakup and credits that and the time spent on my own before meeting my current partner, as one of the best things to happen to me; I did resonate with a lot of the points and thoughts Rosie put forward.
I have to be honest and say that I did find some of the timelines slightly confusing as it went back and forth in chronology throughout meaning I sometimes lost what was going on where.
An informal, funny and unique take on breakups and relationships that I thoroughly enjoyed reading. Thanks to Tandem Collective, Bloomsbury Publishing and of course Rosie Wilby for the gifted copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
Reading about relationships and breakups from a lesbian perspective was a new and refreshing read for me. Ashamedly I've not read many fiction or non-fiction pieces from a lesbian author and/or protagonist and Rosie's perception of how this may have affected relationships past and present was definitely a new and unique take on something which is heavily covered in both fiction and non fiction writing. Sometimes when it comes to reading about "how to get over a breakup" or "how to be happy in a relationship" etc etc it can feel like the same information is given to you over and over again, but in this case it did not feel like that for me.
As somebody who went through a bad breakup and credits that and the time spent on my own before meeting my current partner, as one of the best things to happen to me; I did resonate with a lot of the points and thoughts Rosie put forward.
I have to be honest and say that I did find some of the timelines slightly confusing as it went back and forth in chronology throughout meaning I sometimes lost what was going on where.
An informal, funny and unique take on breakups and relationships that I thoroughly enjoyed reading. Thanks to Tandem Collective, Bloomsbury Publishing and of course Rosie Wilby for the gifted copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
April 5, 2021
As this book was written by a comedian, I really expected it to be full of funny but disastrous stories about love and life, Unfortunately however it was not and I really had to push myself to keep on reading it. I wish that I had some better things to say about this book but just it wasn't for me.
Thanks to NetGalley and the publishers for an advanced digital copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
Thanks to NetGalley and the publishers for an advanced digital copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
August 21, 2022
The theme of love is a topic long since discussed but often we shy away from talking about the pain of heartbreak. Rosie Wilby, in her book The Breakup Monologues, does just that and she does it well.
Mixing pathos and humour we hear about the bad relationship experiences that Rosie Wilby has had that have led her to understand breakups and look at them with fresh eyes. What is really rather nice is that not once in the book does Wilby point blame or make her exes out to be bad people she just explains things from her perspective and how she felt during the relationships which led to the breakup. If she had become angry and showering people with blame then I feel that it would be a less enjoyable read.
Along with opinions of experts and her friends you get a multi-perspective view on what it feels like to break up with someone or be broken up with and there is comfort in knowing you aren’t alone in that feeling.
The Breakup Monologues – The Unexpected Joy of Heartbreak by Rosie Wilby is available now.
Mixing pathos and humour we hear about the bad relationship experiences that Rosie Wilby has had that have led her to understand breakups and look at them with fresh eyes. What is really rather nice is that not once in the book does Wilby point blame or make her exes out to be bad people she just explains things from her perspective and how she felt during the relationships which led to the breakup. If she had become angry and showering people with blame then I feel that it would be a less enjoyable read.
Along with opinions of experts and her friends you get a multi-perspective view on what it feels like to break up with someone or be broken up with and there is comfort in knowing you aren’t alone in that feeling.
The Breakup Monologues – The Unexpected Joy of Heartbreak by Rosie Wilby is available now.
October 12, 2025
Thank you, Rosie, for writing this book. It has helped me in so many ways the past week. It taught me so much about relationships and about myself too. Highly recommend to anyone dealing with heartache to read this.
August 5, 2021
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December 20, 2022
Such a great funny take on the transformational power of breakups ! 💛
July 20, 2023
Ugh I really did not connect with this. Felt like a string of empty anecdotes or listening to a friend talk and talk and talk about their own relationship with no real bigger picture. I could not take any life lessons from these stories. Also, I couldn't take advice from anybody who consideres giving away their own dog. No real judgment here, just not the type of person I contect to
February 17, 2025
Just what I needed to read! The book is split into two main parts: looking back on past relationships and then looling ahead to post break up life
Funny, cathartic and empathetically written, it made me feel less alone and more optimistic. Doesn't matter our background, orientation, or identity, we are all united in experiencing heartbreak
Funny, cathartic and empathetically written, it made me feel less alone and more optimistic. Doesn't matter our background, orientation, or identity, we are all united in experiencing heartbreak
July 4, 2021
‘If you really want to know about breakups…you should ask a lesbian’
British author and award-winning comedian Rosie Wilby has appeared on BBC Radio 4’s Loose Ends, Summer Nights, Four Thought, Midweek, The Human Zoo and Woman’s Hour and at festivals including Glastonbury, Secret Garden Party, Green Man, Larmer Tree and Latitude. She was a finalist at Funny Women 2006 and Leicester Mercury Comedian of the Year 2007 and she’s been touring acclaimed solo shows internationally ever since, performing in New York, Los Angeles and Sydney and building a global word-of-mouth army of fans. A 2014 Mslexia finalist and 2016 LAMBDA fellow, Rosie has had articles published in The Sunday Times, The Guardian, The Independent, New Statesman, Diva and more. Her initial book IS MONOGAMY DEAD? followed her TEDx talk of the same name, BBC Radio 4 piece A New Currency of Commitment and a trilogy of solo shows investigating love and relationships. That book shared a gripping account of her very personal quest to grapple with the science of modern relationships. Now she offers THE BREAKUP MONOLOGUES based on her monthly podcast of the same name, featuring acclaimed comedy friends telling her their breakup stories. Rosie co-hosts Radio Diva on Resonance FM (described by New York's The Village Voice as the 'best station in the world') every Tuesday and has presented for BBC Sussex and Surrey.
As we all walk through the current mélange of cellphone addicts sending selfies and texts and chatting to flirt and hopping from dating site to another for possible encounters, along comes Rosie Wilby, an hilarious and insightful comedian who has that rare gift to look at the world and the manner in which we are living and relating in it hilarious but wise terms.
Rosie opens her book with an Introduction that surveys her various Girlfriend relationship breakups – nice ex-girlfriend, secretive ex-girlfriend, agoraphobic ex-girlfriend, boozy ex-girlfriend, older ex-girlfriend, first-ever ex-girlfriend, and yes, ex-boyfriend – each described with both sensitivity and humor as is Rosie’s style. Her Prologue then sets the tone of the book – ‘We are driving to a festival in Girlfriend’s ‘mod-life’ crisis car, an electric blue BMW convertible. Although the way she drives makes me wonder is you can still describe it as a ‘mid-life’ crisis if it ends up killing us. That would be an ‘end-of-life’ crisis…and quite a crisis at that. Never mind. The sun is shining. Our life is good. We have a fancy loft conversion…etc’
Her synopsis covers the content – ‘In 2011, comedian Rosie Wilby was dumped by email... though she did feel a little better about it after correcting her ex's spelling and punctuation. Obsessing about breakups ever since, she embarked on a quest to investigate, understand and conquer the psychology of heartbreak. That quest proved to be a creatively fertile one, resulting in Rosie's acclaimed podcast 'The Breakup Monologues'. She decided to ask her colleagues on the circuit about their experiences of romantic disaster and recovery, thinking, 'if one group of people have become adept at learning from catastrophe it is comedians. The worst onstage deaths are the performances that enlighten us most about how to improve.' She wondered if comics had been able to transfer this 'fail better' logic to love.’
Few writers who address love and affairs and relationships can deliver sound information and guidance with the polished humor Rosie Wilby possesses and shares. This is a book for everyone – a jovial read and a heady dose of compassion and support for all of us who care about love. Highly Recommended.
British author and award-winning comedian Rosie Wilby has appeared on BBC Radio 4’s Loose Ends, Summer Nights, Four Thought, Midweek, The Human Zoo and Woman’s Hour and at festivals including Glastonbury, Secret Garden Party, Green Man, Larmer Tree and Latitude. She was a finalist at Funny Women 2006 and Leicester Mercury Comedian of the Year 2007 and she’s been touring acclaimed solo shows internationally ever since, performing in New York, Los Angeles and Sydney and building a global word-of-mouth army of fans. A 2014 Mslexia finalist and 2016 LAMBDA fellow, Rosie has had articles published in The Sunday Times, The Guardian, The Independent, New Statesman, Diva and more. Her initial book IS MONOGAMY DEAD? followed her TEDx talk of the same name, BBC Radio 4 piece A New Currency of Commitment and a trilogy of solo shows investigating love and relationships. That book shared a gripping account of her very personal quest to grapple with the science of modern relationships. Now she offers THE BREAKUP MONOLOGUES based on her monthly podcast of the same name, featuring acclaimed comedy friends telling her their breakup stories. Rosie co-hosts Radio Diva on Resonance FM (described by New York's The Village Voice as the 'best station in the world') every Tuesday and has presented for BBC Sussex and Surrey.
As we all walk through the current mélange of cellphone addicts sending selfies and texts and chatting to flirt and hopping from dating site to another for possible encounters, along comes Rosie Wilby, an hilarious and insightful comedian who has that rare gift to look at the world and the manner in which we are living and relating in it hilarious but wise terms.
Rosie opens her book with an Introduction that surveys her various Girlfriend relationship breakups – nice ex-girlfriend, secretive ex-girlfriend, agoraphobic ex-girlfriend, boozy ex-girlfriend, older ex-girlfriend, first-ever ex-girlfriend, and yes, ex-boyfriend – each described with both sensitivity and humor as is Rosie’s style. Her Prologue then sets the tone of the book – ‘We are driving to a festival in Girlfriend’s ‘mod-life’ crisis car, an electric blue BMW convertible. Although the way she drives makes me wonder is you can still describe it as a ‘mid-life’ crisis if it ends up killing us. That would be an ‘end-of-life’ crisis…and quite a crisis at that. Never mind. The sun is shining. Our life is good. We have a fancy loft conversion…etc’
Her synopsis covers the content – ‘In 2011, comedian Rosie Wilby was dumped by email... though she did feel a little better about it after correcting her ex's spelling and punctuation. Obsessing about breakups ever since, she embarked on a quest to investigate, understand and conquer the psychology of heartbreak. That quest proved to be a creatively fertile one, resulting in Rosie's acclaimed podcast 'The Breakup Monologues'. She decided to ask her colleagues on the circuit about their experiences of romantic disaster and recovery, thinking, 'if one group of people have become adept at learning from catastrophe it is comedians. The worst onstage deaths are the performances that enlighten us most about how to improve.' She wondered if comics had been able to transfer this 'fail better' logic to love.’
Few writers who address love and affairs and relationships can deliver sound information and guidance with the polished humor Rosie Wilby possesses and shares. This is a book for everyone – a jovial read and a heady dose of compassion and support for all of us who care about love. Highly Recommended.
May 20, 2021
"The Breakup Monologues" is an examination of the impact that breakups have on our society and why they are not completely bad as the author examines her own past relationships for clues into why they ended and how to make her current one last.
General Impressions
I'm someone that doesn't usually read much non-fiction and requested this book simply because I liked the cover and title so I was surprised not only with how much the content resonated with me but with how deeply I enjoyed it (I opened it half an hour after the postman left and didn't close it until a few hours later when I finished it).
The writing itself is clearly influenced by the author's podcast and comedy backgrounds (there is a podcast with the same name) and that really worked for me. The entire book is filled with academic studies, quotes, examples of some public figures' life, friends and podcast guest's testimonies as well as the author's own experiences and thoughts. All of these different medium's were masterfully interspaced in such a way they balanced each other out without making any particular chapter too heavy while still following a narrative arc.
Rosie Wilby presents...
I once read an online post about how (as an LGBTQ+ person) you always knew when something was written by someone in the community when the stereotypes were the right ones. The author not only mentions a lot of those but examines why the lesbian community works in/is a certain way and then is also able to poke fun at herself and her own community without ever discounting the female or lesbian/queer experience.
It's not difficult for me to admit that I ended up loving this book as much as I did solely because it was written by Rosie Wilby: a forty-something woman examining her relationships through the lenses of gender and queerness, which is not the mainstream perspective into relationships let alone breakups. Added to that female gaze, I also liked that Rosie intersected her neuro-divergence and being a self-employed creative with her romantic life.
As a twenty-something reader, it was also extremely emotional for me to read about all the things that she knew would be different in her life if the world had been more accepting of her earlier.
With this being a book about breakups and its tears and joys, there are no idealized 2000's romcoms depictions of what "true love" or "the one" is, focusing instead on perfectly imperfect people that try to make it work. The way that those two (or more) people go at their relationship is different and about much more than simply love or bedroom compatibility but about the day to day of being with the same person for years and still being yourself.
Conclusions
Reading this book was truly a breeze: there was humour, scientific studies, lesbian and LGBTQ+ culture, interviews and all kinds of mentions to famous lesbians that I made a game of trying to recognize. (I did fairly well, I think).
It was obvious that a lot of research, time and love was put into this book and I liked that not only we saw numbers and statistics but at the same time, the author was sieving her own experiences through that data and reaching different conclusions with each chapter. Reading this book felt like a friendly conversation, as I'm sure her podcasts and comedy gigs feel. I'm already looking forward to the next time I come across Rosie Wilby's name.
Thank you to Bloomsbury for sending me this proof
General Impressions
I'm someone that doesn't usually read much non-fiction and requested this book simply because I liked the cover and title so I was surprised not only with how much the content resonated with me but with how deeply I enjoyed it (I opened it half an hour after the postman left and didn't close it until a few hours later when I finished it).
The writing itself is clearly influenced by the author's podcast and comedy backgrounds (there is a podcast with the same name) and that really worked for me. The entire book is filled with academic studies, quotes, examples of some public figures' life, friends and podcast guest's testimonies as well as the author's own experiences and thoughts. All of these different medium's were masterfully interspaced in such a way they balanced each other out without making any particular chapter too heavy while still following a narrative arc.
Rosie Wilby presents...
I once read an online post about how (as an LGBTQ+ person) you always knew when something was written by someone in the community when the stereotypes were the right ones. The author not only mentions a lot of those but examines why the lesbian community works in/is a certain way and then is also able to poke fun at herself and her own community without ever discounting the female or lesbian/queer experience.
It's not difficult for me to admit that I ended up loving this book as much as I did solely because it was written by Rosie Wilby: a forty-something woman examining her relationships through the lenses of gender and queerness, which is not the mainstream perspective into relationships let alone breakups. Added to that female gaze, I also liked that Rosie intersected her neuro-divergence and being a self-employed creative with her romantic life.
As a twenty-something reader, it was also extremely emotional for me to read about all the things that she knew would be different in her life if the world had been more accepting of her earlier.
With this being a book about breakups and its tears and joys, there are no idealized 2000's romcoms depictions of what "true love" or "the one" is, focusing instead on perfectly imperfect people that try to make it work. The way that those two (or more) people go at their relationship is different and about much more than simply love or bedroom compatibility but about the day to day of being with the same person for years and still being yourself.
Conclusions
Reading this book was truly a breeze: there was humour, scientific studies, lesbian and LGBTQ+ culture, interviews and all kinds of mentions to famous lesbians that I made a game of trying to recognize. (I did fairly well, I think).
It was obvious that a lot of research, time and love was put into this book and I liked that not only we saw numbers and statistics but at the same time, the author was sieving her own experiences through that data and reaching different conclusions with each chapter. Reading this book felt like a friendly conversation, as I'm sure her podcasts and comedy gigs feel. I'm already looking forward to the next time I come across Rosie Wilby's name.
Thank you to Bloomsbury for sending me this proof
February 28, 2023
"…I think the key thing I took away is that whatever relationship we are in, there is something we all need to tap into: "this is who I am, this is what I have to offer, and I’m worth being treated well…"
This book was written by a lesbian comedian, funny as, and started with so much joy and phrases that helped you out with a breakup, but at the end, it turned out to be quite repetitive and out of focus. 3/5
This book was written by a lesbian comedian, funny as, and started with so much joy and phrases that helped you out with a breakup, but at the end, it turned out to be quite repetitive and out of focus. 3/5
June 19, 2021
After being horribly dumped by email in 2011, comedian Rosie Wilby embarks on a quest to investigate, understand, and conquer the psychology of heartbreak. Rosie uses her personal break ups, the knowledge of her fellow comedians, therapists and scientists to help her investigation. She analyses the specifics of modern dating; ghosting, breadcrumbing and conscious uncoupling. Her plan is to learn from her findings and wider advice to help her, a self confessed break up addict, to finally settle down.
An entertaining and thought provoking read. It was a mixture of a memoir and thesis, filled with humour and heartache. The concept was refreshing, and I loved that Rosie was open and honest about her previous break ups. This book embraces the power of a breakup as an opportunity for learning and healing. I particularly loved the line ‘we can’t know true joy without having had a little jeopardy’.
I enjoyed Rosie’s reflections on her past relationships and how they have made her the woman that she is. The added breakup stories from her friends were also insightful and made for interesting reading. The bonus content towards the end including the ‘breakup playlist’ was fab. I found the ending to be a perfect summary that really tied the book together.
An entertaining and thought provoking read. It was a mixture of a memoir and thesis, filled with humour and heartache. The concept was refreshing, and I loved that Rosie was open and honest about her previous break ups. This book embraces the power of a breakup as an opportunity for learning and healing. I particularly loved the line ‘we can’t know true joy without having had a little jeopardy’.
I enjoyed Rosie’s reflections on her past relationships and how they have made her the woman that she is. The added breakup stories from her friends were also insightful and made for interesting reading. The bonus content towards the end including the ‘breakup playlist’ was fab. I found the ending to be a perfect summary that really tied the book together.
June 11, 2021
What a an absolute gem of a book - I loved this from start to finish. Rosie Wilby is such a hilarious, authentic and engaging writer that I flew through this in no time. Her writing style is so easy and conversational, I was drawn in from the first few pages as through writing she navigates the topics of dating, sexuality, love and heartbreak. She perfectly balances comedic, relatable anecdotes on relationships from both her own experiences and those of an array of friends with informative scientific insight into the physical effects breakups have on our bodies. After putting it down I realised not only had I vastly enjoyed it, I’d also genuinely learnt so much - my boyfriend has had to deal with me telling him an array of facts like I’m a newly qualified relationship expert. Not since Dolly Alderton have I read a non-fiction book on love and relationships that has hooked me like this!
Thanks to Bloomsbury for this proof to read.
Thanks to Bloomsbury for this proof to read.
June 18, 2021
My thanks to #NetGalley and #Bloomsburypublishing for allowing me to review this book.
What a gem, not something I would normally read but this has something for everyone, regardless of your sexuality. I guarantee that unless you have lived under a rock at some point you will recognise an aspect of your own life. I laughed and cried. I truly thought it was just me who had bee dumped by my 'ex' boyfriends mother.
I loved it.
What a gem, not something I would normally read but this has something for everyone, regardless of your sexuality. I guarantee that unless you have lived under a rock at some point you will recognise an aspect of your own life. I laughed and cried. I truly thought it was just me who had bee dumped by my 'ex' boyfriends mother.
I loved it.
June 17, 2021
an absolute 5 star read in my books! it had me laughing, crying, snorting, reminiscing on past relationSHïTS, and really realising how past relationships (even with family and friends) impacts who you choose going forward!
it was also refreshing to read a book on relationships and breakups that not only talks about queer relationships and breakups, but is written by a queer author!
it was also refreshing to read a book on relationships and breakups that not only talks about queer relationships and breakups, but is written by a queer author!
December 9, 2022
My ex Kahn Johnson, reviewed this book on here shortly before everything imploded. In his review (if you search you’ll find it - pretentious twat has a picture of a seal on his account) he states: “Break-ups are, in my experience, horrible, painful, excruciating experiences that involve loud, sad music, long nights of long, dark thoughts, and a lot of alcohol.
“Why then, you might wonder, would I want to read a book all about them?” he exclaims!
Why indeed? I’m sure his long term girlfriend whom I didn’t know existed is wondering the same. Yep, he was literally living with her for years and stringing me along claiming he was single.
And none of that is covered in this book hence my rating. Although he loved it. He gave it five stars!
He’s also apparently since split up with the Girlfriend - ironically a reference Rosie uses in this book to refer to her own relationship - so you’ve got to think that losing one fabulous woman is bad, losing two really makes you look like, well, a sad loser.
Rosie does approach break ups in a very humorous uplifting way. But I really feel there should have been a chapter for cheating twat. Unfortunately being manipulated by a cheater doesn’t tick any of the boxes mentioned for the breakdown of a relationship.
He also said in his review: “As someone who firmly believes that even a negative emotional experience has a positive aspect, this book chimed with me on every page, but I suspect even the most cynical and hard-hearted amongst you will get something out of this.”
I have to admit I grudgingly agree with him here. What I got was a sense of premeditation on his part. Which of us he was planning on breaking up with first I don’t know. But that’s the thing about plans. They go awry. Especially when your father, publicly on Facebook, thanks you and the girlfriend (who I didn’t know existed) for a birthday present. And therefore I discover the Girlfriend exists!
I must admit that I’m still waiting for the positive aspect of the negative emotional experience. But I’m sure he’s managed to find it. Since he so firmly believes it. All I’ve had so far is an email saying he owed me many apologies - all of which I’m still waiting on. There has been zero positive experience from it.
Anyway, the book is very well written and very funny. But the next editions really need to address cheating twats and liars as a reason for break ups. Because that actually just comes down to male arrogance and not any of the situations mentioned within this tome.
Ironically he read Rosie’s previous tome “Is Monogamy Dead?” after this. (Clearly it is) He gave it four stars. He obviously has a running theme. I have it on order. If nothing else he’s helped sell a few books while I try to figure out what on earth was going on in his head.
Perhaps we both (me and the Girlfriend) should have just paid attention to his reading list, it’s quite telling.
“Why then, you might wonder, would I want to read a book all about them?” he exclaims!
Why indeed? I’m sure his long term girlfriend whom I didn’t know existed is wondering the same. Yep, he was literally living with her for years and stringing me along claiming he was single.
And none of that is covered in this book hence my rating. Although he loved it. He gave it five stars!
He’s also apparently since split up with the Girlfriend - ironically a reference Rosie uses in this book to refer to her own relationship - so you’ve got to think that losing one fabulous woman is bad, losing two really makes you look like, well, a sad loser.
Rosie does approach break ups in a very humorous uplifting way. But I really feel there should have been a chapter for cheating twat. Unfortunately being manipulated by a cheater doesn’t tick any of the boxes mentioned for the breakdown of a relationship.
He also said in his review: “As someone who firmly believes that even a negative emotional experience has a positive aspect, this book chimed with me on every page, but I suspect even the most cynical and hard-hearted amongst you will get something out of this.”
I have to admit I grudgingly agree with him here. What I got was a sense of premeditation on his part. Which of us he was planning on breaking up with first I don’t know. But that’s the thing about plans. They go awry. Especially when your father, publicly on Facebook, thanks you and the girlfriend (who I didn’t know existed) for a birthday present. And therefore I discover the Girlfriend exists!
I must admit that I’m still waiting for the positive aspect of the negative emotional experience. But I’m sure he’s managed to find it. Since he so firmly believes it. All I’ve had so far is an email saying he owed me many apologies - all of which I’m still waiting on. There has been zero positive experience from it.
Anyway, the book is very well written and very funny. But the next editions really need to address cheating twats and liars as a reason for break ups. Because that actually just comes down to male arrogance and not any of the situations mentioned within this tome.
Ironically he read Rosie’s previous tome “Is Monogamy Dead?” after this. (Clearly it is) He gave it four stars. He obviously has a running theme. I have it on order. If nothing else he’s helped sell a few books while I try to figure out what on earth was going on in his head.
Perhaps we both (me and the Girlfriend) should have just paid attention to his reading list, it’s quite telling.
September 2, 2021
Strangely enough, I was about to attempt this book a few months ago and then suddenly felt like it might end up making me feel quite sad, even though the description does not paint that picture my brain thought breakup and went to a sad place. So I put it aside but then recently I just suddenly felt the need to read something that wasn’t fiction and would be insightful and this book popped back into my head, and I’m so glad that it did.
This book isn’t strictly just about breakups, in a way it celebrates love in its different forms and how these experiences shape us as people. I think what I really liked about the message of this book is that breakups, whilst difficult, make us learn more about ourselves and can actually on reflection be beneficial to our growth. I definitely feel like I have come away from this book feeling a lot more at peace with previous breakups after thinking about what I have learned from them.
I really enjoyed the conversational style of this book, it was a bit like being part of a chat between friends rather than a kind of clinical look at the topic, it was great to explore the subject through Rosie’s lens and relationships, especially because it looked at these relationships and breakups from out with the heteronormative gaze. It was really interesting to discover the differences with breakups between different genders and sexual preferences and also that it included breakups of friendships and working relationships, it made the reading experience feel so inclusive.
There are also inserts of stories from the author’s friends about breakups that made me laugh and cringe at the same time and great recommendations for songs and movies to watch. However I think one thing that I really enjoyed above the rest were the footnotes, sometimes further research and explanation sometimes witty and hilarious comments that added that extra dose of humour and were always well-timed.
I will admit that I did not know that this book was based on a podcast and I am delighted to hear it because I am now looking forward to getting that experience as well, it’s like the gift that keeps on giving. The Breakup Monologues is a book that I think will feel relevant to a lot of people, it is a funny and engaging way to look at what can be a very sad and stressful subject and tries to find the positives in these experiences.
Originally posted on everywhere and nowhere
This book isn’t strictly just about breakups, in a way it celebrates love in its different forms and how these experiences shape us as people. I think what I really liked about the message of this book is that breakups, whilst difficult, make us learn more about ourselves and can actually on reflection be beneficial to our growth. I definitely feel like I have come away from this book feeling a lot more at peace with previous breakups after thinking about what I have learned from them.
I really enjoyed the conversational style of this book, it was a bit like being part of a chat between friends rather than a kind of clinical look at the topic, it was great to explore the subject through Rosie’s lens and relationships, especially because it looked at these relationships and breakups from out with the heteronormative gaze. It was really interesting to discover the differences with breakups between different genders and sexual preferences and also that it included breakups of friendships and working relationships, it made the reading experience feel so inclusive.
There are also inserts of stories from the author’s friends about breakups that made me laugh and cringe at the same time and great recommendations for songs and movies to watch. However I think one thing that I really enjoyed above the rest were the footnotes, sometimes further research and explanation sometimes witty and hilarious comments that added that extra dose of humour and were always well-timed.
I will admit that I did not know that this book was based on a podcast and I am delighted to hear it because I am now looking forward to getting that experience as well, it’s like the gift that keeps on giving. The Breakup Monologues is a book that I think will feel relevant to a lot of people, it is a funny and engaging way to look at what can be a very sad and stressful subject and tries to find the positives in these experiences.
Originally posted on everywhere and nowhere
October 7, 2021
I LOVE THIS BOOK!!!!!!
I laughed, I cried, then I laughed again. Pure GOLD!
If you've ever wondered what women want, this book is for you.
If you have ever had your heart broken, and need a laugh, this book is for you.
If you've ever had your heart broken and need to wallow in self-pity for a bit, this book is for you.
If you want to learn some really interesting things about relationships, this book is for you.
And, yep, if you want to have some moments being glad that you are not Rosie, this is also the book for you!
This book is about lesbian relationships but, seriously, anyone can enjoy it. Any age, any gender, any marital or relationship status. After all, heartbreak is universal.
In a nutshell, 'The Breakup Monologues' takes one of the most painful topics on the planet - breakups of lesbian relationships - adds a layer of humour, another layer of research, and yet another layer of personal experience from Rosie and her friends, and what you are left with is one heck of an awesome book.
I can say from experience that lesbian dating is a minefield. It's hard to find The One, hard to keep them, hard to break up, and hard to move on when things go pear-shaped. Dating is hard work.
This is the book I wish had been out when I first came out, because it turns out that everyone finds breakups and relationships hard, and oh boy does Rosie have some wonderful stories to tell about them.
Prepare to laugh out loud at the tale of the techno-tampon, because science is sexy. Prepare to cry when you read about Rosie and her Girlfriend's secret code for I Love You. Prepare to enjoy a healthy dose of schadenfreude when you learn about Boozy Ex-Girlfriend and the case of the burned down house; turns out love can overcome many situations, but turning all your worldly possessions into kindling is not one of them.
This book also takes some really interesting twists and turns. 'Conscious uncoupling' was a really interesting notion. Also, the section on professional breakups was very enjoyable and resonated a lot. And reading about lesbian divorce rates ... wow.
There is so much to love here, you really need to read the book to find out. Enjoy!
I laughed, I cried, then I laughed again. Pure GOLD!
If you've ever wondered what women want, this book is for you.
If you have ever had your heart broken, and need a laugh, this book is for you.
If you've ever had your heart broken and need to wallow in self-pity for a bit, this book is for you.
If you want to learn some really interesting things about relationships, this book is for you.
And, yep, if you want to have some moments being glad that you are not Rosie, this is also the book for you!
This book is about lesbian relationships but, seriously, anyone can enjoy it. Any age, any gender, any marital or relationship status. After all, heartbreak is universal.
In a nutshell, 'The Breakup Monologues' takes one of the most painful topics on the planet - breakups of lesbian relationships - adds a layer of humour, another layer of research, and yet another layer of personal experience from Rosie and her friends, and what you are left with is one heck of an awesome book.
I can say from experience that lesbian dating is a minefield. It's hard to find The One, hard to keep them, hard to break up, and hard to move on when things go pear-shaped. Dating is hard work.
This is the book I wish had been out when I first came out, because it turns out that everyone finds breakups and relationships hard, and oh boy does Rosie have some wonderful stories to tell about them.
Prepare to laugh out loud at the tale of the techno-tampon, because science is sexy. Prepare to cry when you read about Rosie and her Girlfriend's secret code for I Love You. Prepare to enjoy a healthy dose of schadenfreude when you learn about Boozy Ex-Girlfriend and the case of the burned down house; turns out love can overcome many situations, but turning all your worldly possessions into kindling is not one of them.
This book also takes some really interesting twists and turns. 'Conscious uncoupling' was a really interesting notion. Also, the section on professional breakups was very enjoyable and resonated a lot. And reading about lesbian divorce rates ... wow.
There is so much to love here, you really need to read the book to find out. Enjoy!
July 12, 2024
It may have taken two years for this book to wind its way down my hefty TBR list but, I can happily confirm it was worth the wait.
An eclectic combination of humor, science and memoir, The Breakup Monologues is a fun and interesting book to read. Having had the pleasure of hearing the author read excerpts from her book not once, but twice – I could hear Rosie’s tongue in cheek humor throughout every chapter.
If you’re looking for a super serious or sad take on relationship breakups this isn’t the book for you. What Wilby has brought to the table is an insight into wider relationship woes and breakup angst stemming from her own experiences, interspersed with the right amount of facts and figures, and a healthy dose of light-hearted humor.
The aim of The Breakup Monologues appears to me to be a reminder that whilst breakups can be painful and confounding, they have the potential to teach us about ourselves and subsequently remind us that there are many positive things to be gained from the end of a relationship.
Therein lies the true joy of this book: it successfully takes a tough, yet universally familiar topic, applies a personal, authentic touch and gift wraps it in a layer of light heartedness, hope, and humor.
Despite delving into the depths of most people’s worst moments, this book is an easy read because of how it is structured and written. Texts that utilise facts and figures typically have academically heavy footnotes -the footnotes here are the best I’ve ever come across; informative, somewhat random (yet actually not) and witty; I enjoyed the footnotes almost as much as the book!
My greatest enjoyment however, came from knowing that the author is from within the lgbtqia community, and thus many of the conversations, memoirs, and insights contained within The Breakup Monologues are born from, and applicable to our community. How different it is to have a book in which you can so very easily see parts of your own romantic or platonic relationships reflected back to you.
An eclectic combination of humor, science and memoir, The Breakup Monologues is a fun and interesting book to read. Having had the pleasure of hearing the author read excerpts from her book not once, but twice – I could hear Rosie’s tongue in cheek humor throughout every chapter.
If you’re looking for a super serious or sad take on relationship breakups this isn’t the book for you. What Wilby has brought to the table is an insight into wider relationship woes and breakup angst stemming from her own experiences, interspersed with the right amount of facts and figures, and a healthy dose of light-hearted humor.
The aim of The Breakup Monologues appears to me to be a reminder that whilst breakups can be painful and confounding, they have the potential to teach us about ourselves and subsequently remind us that there are many positive things to be gained from the end of a relationship.
Therein lies the true joy of this book: it successfully takes a tough, yet universally familiar topic, applies a personal, authentic touch and gift wraps it in a layer of light heartedness, hope, and humor.
Despite delving into the depths of most people’s worst moments, this book is an easy read because of how it is structured and written. Texts that utilise facts and figures typically have academically heavy footnotes -the footnotes here are the best I’ve ever come across; informative, somewhat random (yet actually not) and witty; I enjoyed the footnotes almost as much as the book!
My greatest enjoyment however, came from knowing that the author is from within the lgbtqia community, and thus many of the conversations, memoirs, and insights contained within The Breakup Monologues are born from, and applicable to our community. How different it is to have a book in which you can so very easily see parts of your own romantic or platonic relationships reflected back to you.
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June 14, 2021From the chapter 3 title... “I thought I’d been ghosted but he’d just gone to prison” I knew I was going to find Rosie hilarious. A funny clever and honest memoir of Rosie’s past relationships and what I really enjoyed is that she explored the relationships we have with friends and pets too. How we can experience heartbreak from losing a friendship and how this sometimes is more hurtful than losing a lover as the friendship may have lasted a lot longer. I think this is the first book I’ve ever read that touches upon this.
Rosie also addresses break-ups with jobs (something I would never have looked at in that way before) but it actually makes so much sense. If you’re not happy in a relationship you would usually work through it or break up and applying that to jobs (I.e. if you’re not happy you should leave) is one lesson I will take away from this book; how we can grow by leaving something behind.
I also massively enjoyed seeing Rosie’s list of break up songs and films, hopefully I won’t break up with my partner but I know where to go if I do 😂 Hilarious-ness aside Rosie addresses some really difficult topics in this memoir and I’m sure we have all felt the heartbreak she refers to at some point in our lives; whether it be losing a loved one, a partner or a pet.
My only negative point would be that I found the timeline slightly confusing and the memories seemed to jump around quite a bit but nevertheless a very enjoyable read and a great book that makes you look at break-ups in a different way!
Rosie also addresses break-ups with jobs (something I would never have looked at in that way before) but it actually makes so much sense. If you’re not happy in a relationship you would usually work through it or break up and applying that to jobs (I.e. if you’re not happy you should leave) is one lesson I will take away from this book; how we can grow by leaving something behind.
I also massively enjoyed seeing Rosie’s list of break up songs and films, hopefully I won’t break up with my partner but I know where to go if I do 😂 Hilarious-ness aside Rosie addresses some really difficult topics in this memoir and I’m sure we have all felt the heartbreak she refers to at some point in our lives; whether it be losing a loved one, a partner or a pet.
My only negative point would be that I found the timeline slightly confusing and the memories seemed to jump around quite a bit but nevertheless a very enjoyable read and a great book that makes you look at break-ups in a different way!
November 26, 2023
Oh my god! There I was sitting in a green room talking to a lovely lady, and I happened to glance down and quickly realised she was the author of The Break up monologues... the one book that literally pulled me through the jaws and teeth of the most wretched breakup... "its you!" I stuttered (fangirling over this moment. Did this woman know the impact her book had on me? How it helped me see life after breakups, made me seriously laugh out loud, cry til I snotted).
This book is so relatable, wether like me, you're a 40 something, or a young fledgling. It really does take you on a journey of self discovery, and the impact all relationships have on you. I adored this book for so many reasons. I've had intense relationships and awful breakups with both men and women (man, the most painful breakup to date was with a woman i'd been with for 4 years, and she dumped me via Facebook with a new post of her kissing a younger model. I wished them early LBD throughout life), and it was interesting to see things through an LGBTQ+ perspective.
I am so grateful for this book, and the Author, well, she is incredible. I loved it, and I have no issue pushing it to everyone I know. Whatever your situation, gay, straight, single, loved up... this book is simply "un-put-downable".
This book is so relatable, wether like me, you're a 40 something, or a young fledgling. It really does take you on a journey of self discovery, and the impact all relationships have on you. I adored this book for so many reasons. I've had intense relationships and awful breakups with both men and women (man, the most painful breakup to date was with a woman i'd been with for 4 years, and she dumped me via Facebook with a new post of her kissing a younger model. I wished them early LBD throughout life), and it was interesting to see things through an LGBTQ+ perspective.
I am so grateful for this book, and the Author, well, she is incredible. I loved it, and I have no issue pushing it to everyone I know. Whatever your situation, gay, straight, single, loved up... this book is simply "un-put-downable".
February 26, 2022
Unsatisfying. As a non-fiction exploration of break-ups, it didn't present a coherent argument or follow a clear line of enquiry.
Also as Rosie Wilby reminds us on most pages, she is a lesbian comedian and seems to have a bit of a chip on her shoulder about both aspects of this at times. I rolled my eyes at, for example, her resentment of her literary agent and how she 'sits in her office with her salary, her holiday and sick pay'. Well if you're so envious of people with an office job, then go get one. Similarly, Wilby claims at another point that break ups are more complicated for gay people when it comes to who gets the friends and that 'straight women are lucky in this regard'. Apparently 'gay women don't quite have this place of safety'.
Possibly this is my bourgeois heteronormative privilege speaking but I just thought 'oh get over yourself with your the-world-is-against-me generalisations'.
Being a 'creative' as Wilby is, she mentions she also has a podcast and does stand up. I wonder if it is simply that the written word isn't her metier and she is stronger and more engaging in other expressive forms.
Also as Rosie Wilby reminds us on most pages, she is a lesbian comedian and seems to have a bit of a chip on her shoulder about both aspects of this at times. I rolled my eyes at, for example, her resentment of her literary agent and how she 'sits in her office with her salary, her holiday and sick pay'. Well if you're so envious of people with an office job, then go get one. Similarly, Wilby claims at another point that break ups are more complicated for gay people when it comes to who gets the friends and that 'straight women are lucky in this regard'. Apparently 'gay women don't quite have this place of safety'.
Possibly this is my bourgeois heteronormative privilege speaking but I just thought 'oh get over yourself with your the-world-is-against-me generalisations'.
Being a 'creative' as Wilby is, she mentions she also has a podcast and does stand up. I wonder if it is simply that the written word isn't her metier and she is stronger and more engaging in other expressive forms.
September 18, 2021
Never will you regret buying this book (or a breakup again!).
I have a confession to make. I hate books about relationships, so I was excited to read a book about the unexpected growth and joy of breakups. In a world obsessed with getting into relationships and staying in them come hell or high water - mainly hell - this book is a breath of fresh air.
And it doesn't matter you sit on the spectrum of sexuality, this book applies. Practical and humour filled, it is a blend of memoir, evidence, research and literally leaves no heartbreak unturned and turns them in what they are really are, learnings. A delightful take on relationships that beats the proverbial crap out of the gaslighting "What want" of the endless relationship clap trap books on the market. Stop throwing yourself under the proverbial relationship bus and get on the highway to post relationship happiness.
I have a confession to make. I hate books about relationships, so I was excited to read a book about the unexpected growth and joy of breakups. In a world obsessed with getting into relationships and staying in them come hell or high water - mainly hell - this book is a breath of fresh air.
And it doesn't matter you sit on the spectrum of sexuality, this book applies. Practical and humour filled, it is a blend of memoir, evidence, research and literally leaves no heartbreak unturned and turns them in what they are really are, learnings. A delightful take on relationships that beats the proverbial crap out of the gaslighting "What want" of the endless relationship clap trap books on the market. Stop throwing yourself under the proverbial relationship bus and get on the highway to post relationship happiness.
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