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Stop Checking Your Likes: Shake Off the Need for Approval and Live an Incredible Life
Your freedom’s knocking. Are you ready? Millions of us waste huge chunks of our days checking our phones and devices, looking for just one more thumbs-up or red heart. It’s the modern measurement of how accepted, wanted, or valued we seem to be. Susie Moore is going to help you shake off the need for that hollow approval and live the incredible, confident life you were meant to live. It’s time to proclaim and celebrate your talents, fend off naysayers, and live your life with magnetism and unshakable self-confidence. Here’s the A perfect life doesn’t exist. Those perfectly tanned people sailing in Ibiza have problems just like you. But what Susie Moore has learned (and will show you) is that truly successful and self-assured people have something in They are willing to experience “failure” without getting bummed out or overwhelmed. They simply build up from it. On the path to satisfying your deep, personal desires, when things go wrong or feel off (and they will), you can always ask not what’s wrong, but what’s missing, because what’s missing can be found. In fact, it’s waiting and wanting to be found. In Stop Checking Your Likes, you’ll learn how to break free of the outside “approval traps” and focus on nourishing and loving yourself. Stop checking your likes and find your purpose and your power. Fast.
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First published April 7, 2020
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April 11, 2020
Oh, this book. I loved it so! Susie is like the best friend we all should have had as teenagers, encouraging us to be ourselves and ignore the unhelpful judgments of others. Susie has such a gift for taking these heavy, difficult topics and making them seem like a piece of cake. She shares helpful exercises and ways to implement what you're learning, which is great. (I especially love her department store tip for getting comfortable hearing the word "no", totally takes the sting out of it!) Plus, it's balanced with funny stories and personal experiences — so even when she's talking about serious subjects, it doesn't feel serious. Especially in hard times like these, it's so important to be intentional about what you're reading. This book will 100% make you feel good!
March 4, 2025
This isn't a book I would typically choose, but I'm making an effort to read more self-help books each month. I came across this one at the library and thought, why not give it a try? The book presents several valid points, and I appreciate that each chapter concludes with an exercise. The author's writing style is very conversational, which makes it an easy read. While the title suggests a focus on social media, the book covers life in general, making it applicable and helpful for anyone.
*In Stop Checking Your Likes, you’ll learn how to break free of the outside “approval traps” and focus on nourishing and loving yourself.*
*In Stop Checking Your Likes, you’ll learn how to break free of the outside “approval traps” and focus on nourishing and loving yourself.*
January 4, 2021
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هذا الكتاب مفيد من ناحية تذكيرك بأنك لست مجبرا على أن تنال إعجاب الأخرين مادمت تفعل ما تُحب وما يسعدك تقديمه سواء تلقيت الثناء على العمل أو عكس ذلك يبقى القرار لك في مواصلة العمل أو التوقف عنه .
في الكتاب رؤية واقعية لما يحصل اليوم في عالمنا المتسارع وتحذير من خطورة ربط انجازاتنا بإعجاب الناس بها .
تضع الكاتبة في نهاية كل فصل تدريب وتمرين يساعدك في التحكم بهذه الرغبة التي تفسد عليك في بعض الأحيان متعتك .
الكتاب خفيف لاحظت وجود تشابه بسيط بينه وبين كتاب الهشاشة النفسية الذي نقرؤه حاليا في المبادرة .
يمكنكم الإستماع لملخص الكتاب عبر تطبيق #كتاب_صوتي ..
ماذا بعد القراءة ؟
اعترف بأننا نسقط أحيانًا رغما عنا بالثقب الأسود لليأس جراء مواقف نتعرض لها في الحياة وتجاوب نخوضها وهذا السقوط المدوي قد يترك أثره وقد يبقيك حبيس القاع مالم تنوي فعلا التخلص منه ومواصلة المسير ، فالحقيقة تقول لك أن خلف كل يأس أمل جديد ، وكما يقول الشاعر إسحاق بن بهلول القاضي :
فلا تيأس إذا أعسرت يوما ***
فقد أيسَرتَ في دهرٍ طويل
ولا تظننَّ بِرَبِّك ظنَّ سوء ***
فإنَّ الله أولى بالجميل
فإن العُسْر يتبعه يَسار ***
وقول الله أصدقُ كل قيل
#تمت_القراءة
#تمت
#أبجدية_فرح 4/5 🌸📚
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هذا الكتاب مفيد من ناحية تذكيرك بأنك لست مجبرا على أن تنال إعجاب الأخرين مادمت تفعل ما تُحب وما يسعدك تقديمه سواء تلقيت الثناء على العمل أو عكس ذلك يبقى القرار لك في مواصلة العمل أو التوقف عنه .
في الكتاب رؤية واقعية لما يحصل اليوم في عالمنا المتسارع وتحذير من خطورة ربط انجازاتنا بإعجاب الناس بها .
تضع الكاتبة في نهاية كل فصل تدريب وتمرين يساعدك في التحكم بهذه الرغبة التي تفسد عليك في بعض الأحيان متعتك .
الكتاب خفيف لاحظت وجود تشابه بسيط بينه وبين كتاب الهشاشة النفسية الذي نقرؤه حاليا في المبادرة .
يمكنكم الإستماع لملخص الكتاب عبر تطبيق #كتاب_صوتي ..
ماذا بعد القراءة ؟
اعترف بأننا نسقط أحيانًا رغما عنا بالثقب الأسود لليأس جراء مواقف نتعرض لها في الحياة وتجاوب نخوضها وهذا السقوط المدوي قد يترك أثره وقد يبقيك حبيس القاع مالم تنوي فعلا التخلص منه ومواصلة المسير ، فالحقيقة تقول لك أن خلف كل يأس أمل جديد ، وكما يقول الشاعر إسحاق بن بهلول القاضي :
فلا تيأس إذا أعسرت يوما ***
فقد أيسَرتَ في دهرٍ طويل
ولا تظننَّ بِرَبِّك ظنَّ سوء ***
فإنَّ الله أولى بالجميل
فإن العُسْر يتبعه يَسار ***
وقول الله أصدقُ كل قيل
#تمت_القراءة
#تمت
#أبجدية_فرح 4/5 🌸📚
#candleflame23bookreviews
#توقف_عن_التحقق_من_تسجيلات_الإعجاب
#StopCheckingYourLikes
#كتاب_صوتي
#غرد_بإقتباس
#حي_على_القراءة
#ماذا_تقرأ #ماذا_تقتبس #القراءة_حياة
#القراءة #القراءة_حياة_أخرى_نعيشها
July 8, 2020
Stop Checking Your Likes by Susie Moore is a great reminder that down deep most people are dealing with the same things: insecurities, jealousies, a need for approval, comparison to others, self sabotage. Somehow, we feel that other people have it all figured out as we try to get by each day. Susie Moore points out that we have more control than we sometimes like to admit. How we feel about a situation is influenced by our thoughts. When we recognize that a bad thing does not define who we are or how we move forward, we have exerted our control instead of falling victim to the circumstance.
Stop Checking Your Likes is written in conversational language and is easy to read. Susie Moore offers exercises at the end of each chapter so the reader can begin to put her coaching prompts into use.
Stop Checking Your Likes is written in conversational language and is easy to read. Susie Moore offers exercises at the end of each chapter so the reader can begin to put her coaching prompts into use.
August 7, 2020
This book is a great intro into core virtues - and is not millennial/social media driven as the title might suggest. For a more new age-social media influenced approach, I would further suggest Digital Minimalism by Newport.
(listened to a summarized audio copy)
(listened to a summarized audio copy)
June 6, 2024
A relief for anxiety and low self-esteem.
October 13, 2022
Great book showing how external validation is really not going to deliver ultimate happiness. This book is not just about Social Media likes.
The book also talks about forgiving your parents, and rebuilding a new personality and values. Don't just blindly live their lifestyle. Rebuild on your terms.
Also remember that other people show their highlight reel vs your own insecurities in your own mind. Say yes to things you might usually say no to.
"So what" don't spend time caring about stuff that doesn't matter. Death will come to us all so laugh and care less when it's not important. "Is that a fact?" question your negative thoughts. Listen to your intuition vs what others want you to do.
Rejection and failure can spur you ok from the experience. Work out what to tune, but it's not always about you. It's rarely about you, and there is a power in the fact that "nobody cares" people think about your work or you much less than you think they do.
Live life on your own terms and what you like not what others think. Remove self limiting beliefs.
Listened via Headway at 1.5x speed (15 min audio).
The book also talks about forgiving your parents, and rebuilding a new personality and values. Don't just blindly live their lifestyle. Rebuild on your terms.
Also remember that other people show their highlight reel vs your own insecurities in your own mind. Say yes to things you might usually say no to.
"So what" don't spend time caring about stuff that doesn't matter. Death will come to us all so laugh and care less when it's not important. "Is that a fact?" question your negative thoughts. Listen to your intuition vs what others want you to do.
Rejection and failure can spur you ok from the experience. Work out what to tune, but it's not always about you. It's rarely about you, and there is a power in the fact that "nobody cares" people think about your work or you much less than you think they do.
Live life on your own terms and what you like not what others think. Remove self limiting beliefs.
Listened via Headway at 1.5x speed (15 min audio).
February 21, 2023
Finished the book but not sure I actually enjoyed it. The first chapter was INCREDIBLY heavy which resulted in my having to step away for the day. Chapters titles like “it’s your fault” where the author had to backtrack and actually explain, didn’t do this book any favors. Despite hardships I found a lot of the advice to be overly optimistic that “things will work out because you want them to and you can tear down any barrier/obstacle”. I might be a little to pessimistic for a book such as this but I found myself disagreeing with the delivery of advice in quite a few chapters. Might not have been my “time” to read anymore than the first chapter.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
October 28, 2022
Aggressively neurotypical book. Neurotypical people may enjoy it more than I did!
None of the content actually helped me want to "check likes" less, or build any skill to do so.
The section on small talk made me giggle about a "what fresh neurotypical hell" meme.
Some of the advice is actively harmful to people who are outside of the norm.
Her personal story is interesting, and part of the reason I read the book is because I also grew up in domestic violence.
None of the content actually helped me want to "check likes" less, or build any skill to do so.
The section on small talk made me giggle about a "what fresh neurotypical hell" meme.
Some of the advice is actively harmful to people who are outside of the norm.
Her personal story is interesting, and part of the reason I read the book is because I also grew up in domestic violence.
May 16, 2021
Don't rely on other people's ideas, you can always learn new knowledge as you go through your life. Seeking out for approval will never lead for happiness. People make mistakes, learn from them. Don't let yourself limit by other people. Count your wins and self reflect upon them when you have hard times.
August 17, 2023
Książka, która dala mi z liścia w twarz kiedy przestałam być sobą. Najlepsza książka rozwojowa, pomogła mi wrócić na właściwe tory i przypomnieć jaka jestem. Podbudowała mnie i mimo że czytałam ją dość długo to wyciągałam wnioski i obserwacje na bieżąco
Polecam wszystkim, którzy mają gorszy okres lub uważają że zgubili siebie
Polecam wszystkim, którzy mają gorszy okres lub uważają że zgubili siebie
December 2, 2023
Bardzo dobra książka rozwojowa, mam pełno znaczników i trochę mi poukładała w głowie. Polecanko! 🤍
May 1, 2025
serio spoko była 😊
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February 18, 2025Tradycyjnie tytuł nie odpowiada zawartości
May 21, 2023
Przeczytałam około 50 stron i już nie mogę dalej... Rady rodem z poradnika dla nastolatek ale co gorsza od innych nastolatek. Opowieść o tym jak autorka podczas dość trudnej młodości zazdrościła swoim znajomym z otoczenia i się wstydziła. A potem żeby się z tego wyrwać chodziła na rozmowy gdzie nie miała żadnych kwalifikacji. I że była taka optymistyczna i umie słuchać ludzi i wygrywala. Ok no może w sprzedaży, marketingu to działa. Ale to nie jest uniwersalna prawda. Nawiązuje do dyrektorów z wieloletnim doświadczeniem przerażonych swoimi codziennymi zadaniami. Wszyscy jesteśmy tylko ludźmi, ale ona wymienia skrajne przypadki ludzi. Ale czara goryczy się przelała, gdy napisała że dobrze nosić marynarki bo się wydajemy profesjonalni. Serio. W książce o tytule Nie wszyscy muszą Cie lubić padają rady żeby nosić marynarki to wtedy będą Cie lubić. Ta książka jest szkodliwa.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
January 13, 2023
Umm...let me tell you in short about this book :
This book mainly talk about external appreciation :Looking for external appreciation and guidance will cause you to start living someone else's life. You're never going to be happy or fulfilled if you're always doing what other people want you to do!
While it's normal to want people to be proud of you, you should work towards making yourself proud first and foremost.
At the end of the day, you're born with yourself, and you die with yourself. You owe it to yourself to be the very best you can be, for you and you alone. Approval will not make you rich, it won't make you famous, it won't make you successful, and it certainly won't make you happy. Ultimately, you simply need to live your life in the way you want to and work on the things that bring you joy and fulfillment. By doing that, you'll be happier and more fun to be around for others!
We all make mistakes, we all suffer occasionally, and we all endure rejection from time to time, but it's how you view these events in life and how you respond to them which will set you apart. You have to believe in yourself, and the rest will simply fall into place.
Susie Moore also suggests asking yourself, “Is that a fact?” when you have a thought that causes you concern or upset. For instance, you might think, “I don't have enough money,” but ask yourself, “Is that a fact?” If you've eaten that day and you have a roof over your head, you have enough money. If you think “My body is too big,” Moore suggests saying, “Is that a fact.” Too big for what exactly? Is there a size guide we aren't aware of?
Key instincts :
• Make a list of five goals you want to achieve in the next ten years and start putting a plan into place to achieve them.
• Look back on the rejections you've endured in life — what was the eventual outcome? Was it the end of everything? Of course not!
• Challenge any self–limiting beliefs in your life; why do you believe them? Who told you these things? Have you ever tried it for yourself? By doing this, you'll see that you're probably stuck on a belief that has zero reality within it!
This book mainly talk about external appreciation :Looking for external appreciation and guidance will cause you to start living someone else's life. You're never going to be happy or fulfilled if you're always doing what other people want you to do!
While it's normal to want people to be proud of you, you should work towards making yourself proud first and foremost.
At the end of the day, you're born with yourself, and you die with yourself. You owe it to yourself to be the very best you can be, for you and you alone. Approval will not make you rich, it won't make you famous, it won't make you successful, and it certainly won't make you happy. Ultimately, you simply need to live your life in the way you want to and work on the things that bring you joy and fulfillment. By doing that, you'll be happier and more fun to be around for others!
We all make mistakes, we all suffer occasionally, and we all endure rejection from time to time, but it's how you view these events in life and how you respond to them which will set you apart. You have to believe in yourself, and the rest will simply fall into place.
Susie Moore also suggests asking yourself, “Is that a fact?” when you have a thought that causes you concern or upset. For instance, you might think, “I don't have enough money,” but ask yourself, “Is that a fact?” If you've eaten that day and you have a roof over your head, you have enough money. If you think “My body is too big,” Moore suggests saying, “Is that a fact.” Too big for what exactly? Is there a size guide we aren't aware of?
Key instincts :
• Make a list of five goals you want to achieve in the next ten years and start putting a plan into place to achieve them.
• Look back on the rejections you've endured in life — what was the eventual outcome? Was it the end of everything? Of course not!
• Challenge any self–limiting beliefs in your life; why do you believe them? Who told you these things? Have you ever tried it for yourself? By doing this, you'll see that you're probably stuck on a belief that has zero reality within it!
October 28, 2020
I have been reading this book on and off for months now--and have been going back and forth on if I actually like the book or not. There were times when I would read a chapter and feel like Susie was speaking directly to me, encouraging me. And then there were times when I would read a sentence and cringe a bit.
I have been following Susie Moore for about a year now--she taught a masterclass for an entrepreneurial program I was in, and I found her calm, supportive demeanor absolutely brilliant. I feel like this book shows a completely different side to her, one I wasn't quite expecting. So I think that might be part of my issue with why I struggled a bit with the book: It just wan't what I was expecting.
I have been following Susie Moore for about a year now--she taught a masterclass for an entrepreneurial program I was in, and I found her calm, supportive demeanor absolutely brilliant. I feel like this book shows a completely different side to her, one I wasn't quite expecting. So I think that might be part of my issue with why I struggled a bit with the book: It just wan't what I was expecting.
April 10, 2021
I like the author. I've heard her on podcasts and she has an encouraging spirit. The book is easy to read. But some of the stories were "off". There's nothing "funny" about coming home from school and interrupting your dad and his prostitute. These things are not okay. Yes, we can overcome trauma, but that is very different from refusing to acknowledge it. Laughing something off is about denial and denial doesn't bring healing or growth. Otherwise, I think the book is a good peptalk.
March 31, 2022
Wow I really appreciated this book. At first I thought it was nothing I hadn’t heard before, but Susie’s hilarious examples and thought provoking questions made this book stand out as a memorable reminder to let go of what others think of you and love your life. Unlike the title suggests, it’s not just a book about social media “likes”. It’s a much more extensive approach to re-learning how to live your life apart from the opinions and feedback of others. I recommend it.
May 31, 2024
In "Stop Checking Your Likes," Susie Moore addresses the pervasive issue of seeking validation through social media and external approval. In today’s digital age, it’s all too common to find ourselves obsessively checking our phones, craving that next notification – a like, a comment, or a share – that signals approval and acceptance from others. This relentless pursuit of validation can become a significant source of anxiety as our self-worth becomes increasingly tied to algorithmic whims. But the quest for likes and comments speaks to a larger issue: our growing dependence on others’ approval. That’s the problem at the heart of Moore’s book. Turning off notifications or taking a social media break is a good start, but the real goal is to fundamentally transform how we perceive and value ourselves. Through a series of actionable steps, this book shows readers how to cultivate a robust sense of self-worth independent of the opinions of others.
Criticism often reflects more about the critic's biases and experiences than it does about universal truths. Recognizing this can drastically reduce anxiety linked to the fear of judgment or disapproval. Realizing that criticism doesn’t have to affect us deeply unless we let it, Moore advocates for detachment and choosing not to respond to negativity as a powerful tactic. Writing out feelings without escalating situations helps process emotions healthily. Confident individuals understand that discomfort, embarrassment, or ridicule are merely temporary. Agreeing with critics or using humor can disarm and redirect interactions, maintaining inner peace and altering the dynamics of criticism. This approach builds resilience, especially important in a world where opinions and criticisms are constant and often magnified online.
Happiness isn’t a product of success; success is more likely to follow from a happy state of mind. This concept encourages embracing happiness in the present, recognizing life’s ongoing nature. By questioning negative thoughts and understanding they are often based on flawed perceptions, we can reshape our beliefs and experience a more joyful existence. For example, concerns about not having enough money or body size can often be traced back to unverified assumptions. By examining these thoughts for their validity and challenging assumptions, we gain immediate perspective and often find that many of our deepest fears and worries are based on flawed perceptions. This technique involves examining thoughts for their validity and regularly practicing this approach to break free from repetitive negative thought loops, gaining a clearer, more optimistic perspective.
Instead of dwelling on what’s wrong, consider what might be missing. The “What's missing for me?” exercise encourages self-exploration and identifying unmet needs. This reflective process can uncover latent desires, such as personal time, adventure, or new interests, guiding small actionable steps towards fulfillment. For example, a list filled with desires like traveling to exotic destinations or engaging in new hobbies indicates a yearning to break free from comfort zones and expand horizons. Addressing these needs incrementally fosters a healthy relationship with oneself, free from external expectations, and enriches life with meaningful changes. If trying something new feels daunting, it’s okay to be a beginner and enjoy the process regardless of perfection, opening up a world of possibilities where growth and happiness are within reach.
Giving and receiving are natural parts of life essential for personal growth and happiness. Embracing this dynamic exchange can ease anxiety and improve well-being. Practicing asking for help and viewing potential rejections as circumstantial rather than personal failures fosters a supportive societal exchange. Nature itself operates on a principle of mutual support, where every interaction involves giving and receiving. Stopping this flow can disrupt natural harmony. Embracing both giving and receiving maintains an essential balance and keeps life moving smoothly. Simplifying life's challenges by asking, “How can I let this be easier?” can reduce stress and make life more enjoyable. Actively seeking assistance and favors helps recognize worthiness and enhances self-esteem, starting a positive ripple effect in life.
Changing your mindset from a “to-do” list to a “get-to-do” list fosters gratitude and eases daily pressures. This subtle linguistic shift can dramatically alter the perception of daily tasks, transforming responsibilities into opportunities. Asking “What's essential here?” helps strip away non-essentials, focusing on what truly matters. Simplifying approaches to tasks and decisions, such as public speaking or social commitments, aligns actions with current life demands without overwhelming oneself. This perspective shift invites more opportunities and lightens the mental load, enhancing the ability to enjoy and thrive.
Life is a series of moments, and it’s crucial not to let them be clouded by dread or anxiety. Understanding that adversities don’t impact us as profoundly as anticipated allows for a lighter mental load. By focusing on what’s essential and embracing the present moment, we can reduce unnecessary stress and truly live our lives. Recognizing our worth and maintaining a balanced interaction with the world fosters resilience and positivity, leading to a more fulfilled and incredible life.
Criticism often reflects more about the critic's biases and experiences than it does about universal truths. Recognizing this can drastically reduce anxiety linked to the fear of judgment or disapproval. Realizing that criticism doesn’t have to affect us deeply unless we let it, Moore advocates for detachment and choosing not to respond to negativity as a powerful tactic. Writing out feelings without escalating situations helps process emotions healthily. Confident individuals understand that discomfort, embarrassment, or ridicule are merely temporary. Agreeing with critics or using humor can disarm and redirect interactions, maintaining inner peace and altering the dynamics of criticism. This approach builds resilience, especially important in a world where opinions and criticisms are constant and often magnified online.
Happiness isn’t a product of success; success is more likely to follow from a happy state of mind. This concept encourages embracing happiness in the present, recognizing life’s ongoing nature. By questioning negative thoughts and understanding they are often based on flawed perceptions, we can reshape our beliefs and experience a more joyful existence. For example, concerns about not having enough money or body size can often be traced back to unverified assumptions. By examining these thoughts for their validity and challenging assumptions, we gain immediate perspective and often find that many of our deepest fears and worries are based on flawed perceptions. This technique involves examining thoughts for their validity and regularly practicing this approach to break free from repetitive negative thought loops, gaining a clearer, more optimistic perspective.
Instead of dwelling on what’s wrong, consider what might be missing. The “What's missing for me?” exercise encourages self-exploration and identifying unmet needs. This reflective process can uncover latent desires, such as personal time, adventure, or new interests, guiding small actionable steps towards fulfillment. For example, a list filled with desires like traveling to exotic destinations or engaging in new hobbies indicates a yearning to break free from comfort zones and expand horizons. Addressing these needs incrementally fosters a healthy relationship with oneself, free from external expectations, and enriches life with meaningful changes. If trying something new feels daunting, it’s okay to be a beginner and enjoy the process regardless of perfection, opening up a world of possibilities where growth and happiness are within reach.
Giving and receiving are natural parts of life essential for personal growth and happiness. Embracing this dynamic exchange can ease anxiety and improve well-being. Practicing asking for help and viewing potential rejections as circumstantial rather than personal failures fosters a supportive societal exchange. Nature itself operates on a principle of mutual support, where every interaction involves giving and receiving. Stopping this flow can disrupt natural harmony. Embracing both giving and receiving maintains an essential balance and keeps life moving smoothly. Simplifying life's challenges by asking, “How can I let this be easier?” can reduce stress and make life more enjoyable. Actively seeking assistance and favors helps recognize worthiness and enhances self-esteem, starting a positive ripple effect in life.
Changing your mindset from a “to-do” list to a “get-to-do” list fosters gratitude and eases daily pressures. This subtle linguistic shift can dramatically alter the perception of daily tasks, transforming responsibilities into opportunities. Asking “What's essential here?” helps strip away non-essentials, focusing on what truly matters. Simplifying approaches to tasks and decisions, such as public speaking or social commitments, aligns actions with current life demands without overwhelming oneself. This perspective shift invites more opportunities and lightens the mental load, enhancing the ability to enjoy and thrive.
Life is a series of moments, and it’s crucial not to let them be clouded by dread or anxiety. Understanding that adversities don’t impact us as profoundly as anticipated allows for a lighter mental load. By focusing on what’s essential and embracing the present moment, we can reduce unnecessary stress and truly live our lives. Recognizing our worth and maintaining a balanced interaction with the world fosters resilience and positivity, leading to a more fulfilled and incredible life.
January 2, 2021
Love her no-nonsense style. I took notes. Every woman needs this book.
January 12, 2021
Such a great read. Focuses on living in the now and being the best you. Finding happiness and joy
January 21, 2022
Well written self help book.
October 14, 2022
Easy read with known lessons on forgiveness, being okay without a plan, live happily, trust your intuitions and learn from rejection.
January 15, 2023
so i dont think i have to explain this lawl basically a good read for a reality check thanks susie!
December 18, 2024
Im on the next level
May 20, 2025
I went into this book looking for something to help me thicken my skin. I was also secretly hoping it might calm some of my social anxiety along the way. Did it deliver? Eh... sort of? It was a solid read with some great reminders, but it didn’t break any new ground for me.
First off, let’s talk about the best part: the writing. Susie Moore’s tone is easy, confident, and engaging without being preachy. I highlighted over 40 quotes as I read, which is saying something. There’s definitely a pep-talk vibe throughout, and it mostly works. The book felt supportive and encouraging, and I appreciated the overall message: stop outsourcing your self-worth. No one’s opinion defines you, and trying to get everyone’s approval is a losing game. All things I knew, of course, but I appreciated the reminder.
That said, the execution of the overall book wasn’t quite what I’d hoped for. There’s a lot of the author in this book. A LOT. I didn’t mind the casual, girlfriend-style tone, but the constant personal stories made the book feel more like a memoir and less like a guide. I was hoping for more of a broader, people-centered perspective... maybe some client stories or examples that felt a little less curated. Instead, it often felt like “here’s what worked for me, so of course it'll work for you,” and that one-size-fits-all approach doesn't usually work for me.
I typically prefer a more scientific or structured take when it comes to personal development. Something with studies, data, and of course, actionable frameworks. This book didn’t really go there. It’s more of a casual, confidence-boosting monologue with some solid advice tucked between pep rally moments. Nothing earth-shattering or new, but still worthwhile for the reminders.
All in all, this is a decent read with a strong message. It didn’t change my life, but it gave me a few lines I copied in my journal. And honestly, sometimes that’s enough.
First off, let’s talk about the best part: the writing. Susie Moore’s tone is easy, confident, and engaging without being preachy. I highlighted over 40 quotes as I read, which is saying something. There’s definitely a pep-talk vibe throughout, and it mostly works. The book felt supportive and encouraging, and I appreciated the overall message: stop outsourcing your self-worth. No one’s opinion defines you, and trying to get everyone’s approval is a losing game. All things I knew, of course, but I appreciated the reminder.
That said, the execution of the overall book wasn’t quite what I’d hoped for. There’s a lot of the author in this book. A LOT. I didn’t mind the casual, girlfriend-style tone, but the constant personal stories made the book feel more like a memoir and less like a guide. I was hoping for more of a broader, people-centered perspective... maybe some client stories or examples that felt a little less curated. Instead, it often felt like “here’s what worked for me, so of course it'll work for you,” and that one-size-fits-all approach doesn't usually work for me.
I typically prefer a more scientific or structured take when it comes to personal development. Something with studies, data, and of course, actionable frameworks. This book didn’t really go there. It’s more of a casual, confidence-boosting monologue with some solid advice tucked between pep rally moments. Nothing earth-shattering or new, but still worthwhile for the reminders.
All in all, this is a decent read with a strong message. It didn’t change my life, but it gave me a few lines I copied in my journal. And honestly, sometimes that’s enough.
May 31, 2024
This makes 150 for the first half of 2024. I didn't need to, but since the book was available and my phone was dying, limited entertainment options were available. Side note: turning off notifications or taking a social media break is a good start. But the real goal is to fundamentally transform how you perceive and value yourself.
“Haters are confused admirers. PAULO COELHO”
Notes:
- To truly embrace self-approval, we must be willing to face and accept negative feelings without allowing them to define us.
- Confident individuals understand that discomfort, embarrassment, or ridicule are merely temporary.
- “Is this a fact or just a theory?” (Is the statement, “I don’t have enough money” a fact? Do you really not have enough money for food? Are you seriously at risk of becoming homeless? Probably not. Or take the statement, “My body is too big.” Is that a fact? Are you incapacitated? In pain? Can you make it through the door? Too big for what, precisely?)
- It’s important to practice asking for help and not to view potential rejection as a personal failure.
- Ask yourself, “How can I let this be easier?”
To action:
- One effective tool for self-exploration is the “What's missing for me?” exercise. This involves a personal audit where you list things you’ve never expressed a desire for, things you've felt sad about not receiving, or dreams you’ve never allowed yourself to pursue. The exercise encourages you to delve deep and continuously ask yourself, “What else?” This private reflection is aimed at uncovering latent desires and unmet needs.
“Haters are confused admirers. PAULO COELHO”
Notes:
- To truly embrace self-approval, we must be willing to face and accept negative feelings without allowing them to define us.
- Confident individuals understand that discomfort, embarrassment, or ridicule are merely temporary.
- “Is this a fact or just a theory?” (Is the statement, “I don’t have enough money” a fact? Do you really not have enough money for food? Are you seriously at risk of becoming homeless? Probably not. Or take the statement, “My body is too big.” Is that a fact? Are you incapacitated? In pain? Can you make it through the door? Too big for what, precisely?)
- It’s important to practice asking for help and not to view potential rejection as a personal failure.
- Ask yourself, “How can I let this be easier?”
To action:
- One effective tool for self-exploration is the “What's missing for me?” exercise. This involves a personal audit where you list things you’ve never expressed a desire for, things you've felt sad about not receiving, or dreams you’ve never allowed yourself to pursue. The exercise encourages you to delve deep and continuously ask yourself, “What else?” This private reflection is aimed at uncovering latent desires and unmet needs.
July 29, 2022
Jeden z najlepszych poradników jakie miałam przyjemność czytać! Dowcipny, pełen luzu i osobistych przemyśleń, wypełniony przykładami, cytatami, wiedzą i doświadczeniem. Wszystkie przydatne lekcje, które przekazuje Susie (każda dotycząca czego innego i wyjaśniona w bardzo obrazowy, pełen dystansu sposób) są podzielone na tematyczne rozdziały. A każdy rozdział zakończony jest ćwiczeniami pomocniczymi. Część z nich jest pisemna, część do zrealizowania w codziennym życiu, za to wszystkie są nie tylko mądre i odkrywcze, ale przede wszystkim łatwe do wprowadzenia w życie, skłaniające do myślenia i skuteczne. Poradnik otworzył mi oczy na wiele rzeczy, pozwolił zmienić część punktu widzenia, podejścia i myśli oraz skłonił mnie do pracy nad pozostałą częścią i zmotywował do pracowania nad sobą. Był niezwykle ciekawy i serdecznie polecam go wszystkim, którzy nie tylko czują, że nie radzą sobie z porażkami, perfekcjonizmem czy odmową, ale także tym, którzy mają wrażenie uzależnienia od cudzych opinii, słów, uczuć czy zachowań. W każdym z tych przypadków autorka pokazuje mechanizmy i daje narzędzia do walki z nimi. A przy tym czyta się to jak naprawdę dobrą powieść! Doceniam także tłumaczkę, która wprowadziła zarówno formy żeńskie, jak i męskie, pisząc na przykład "mogłabyś/mógłbyś".
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