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by Jen Sincero, Джен Синсеро

The new book from the #1 New York Times bestselling author of You Are a Badass and You Are a Badass at Making Money.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Personal Development, Audiobook, Psychology, Personal Growth, Business

70 pages, Kindle Edition

First published December 4, 2018

About the author

Jen Sincero is a #1 New York Times Bestselling author, speaker and success coach who has helped countless people transform their personal and professional lives via her public appearances, private sessions, coaching seminars and, most recently, her latest #1 NY Times Bestselling book, "You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life".

She’s spoken on stages all over the world and has coached full-on super heroes, helping them build their dream businesses, become NY Times Bestselling authors, navigate million dollar business deals, find their soul mates and forgive their bitchy mothers who they now realize were just doing the best they could.

Before becoming a coach, Jen played in several rock bands and eventually wrote her first book, a semi-autobiographical novel called, "Don’t Sleep With Your Drummer." When her plans to become a world-famous rockstar didn’t pan out, she decided to try being a lesbian instead, didn’t pull that off either, and wrote her second book, the National Bestseller, "The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping With Chicks." Jen currently lives in New Mexico, and can be found on the web at JenSincero.Com.

Reviews

[Diane S ☔ · Rating 3 out of 5]

Referring to the title, im not but I'd like to be, in a nice way of course. I'm not a big reader of self health books, don't make resolutions, not likely to be found staring into a mirror chanting positive affirmations. This title though called to me, so I decided to see if there is anything new in the self help world.

Honestly, not too much that I found, mostly common sense but it does give a sense of positive reinforcement. Take time for yourself, open your eyes, embrace quiet time, meditate, yada, yada. Did find one wuote I liked that I'll share.

"An excuse is simply a challenge that you've decided has power over you. If you're serious about changing your life, you'll find a way past all your obstacles; if you're kinda sorta serious about changing your life, you'll find an excuse. In other words, excuses are fake news."

So, this one I'm going to try, within reason, I like how it is worded. Would like to grab a little more of my life back despite my health challenges. Will see how it goes.

[☘Misericordia☘ ⚡ϟ⚡⛈⚡☁ ❇️❤❣ · Rating 5 out of 5]

A totally upbeat take on ... yeah, getting to be a badass! This life around, not in a couple of reincarnations. Lovely.

While most of the ideas are not new, the perspective on them, the energy, the take, the expression, the perception are unique. Which is what got me on board.

Q:
You have nothing to gain by freaking out. (c)
Q:
Success isn't static, it's not one place, you don't arrive at success, crack open a beer, and call it a day. (c)
Q:
You are an artist and the masterpiece is your life. Your world is the canvas. Your desires and ideas are the sketches. Your thoughts, words, and attitudes are the paint. Your body is the brush. Your actions are the strokes. Your beliefs are the skills you use to apply the paint. Your faith and gratitude determine how extraordinary your work of art is. (c)
Q:
Wake up in the morning and declare what it is that you’ll celebrate today. Even better, write it down. Celebrate all of it—the good, the bad, the not yet happened. (c)
Q:
If you run from your fears, they will follow you. If you run straight at your fears, they will get the hell out of your way. Fears hate it when you do that. (c)

[Carmen · Rating 3 out of 5]

I love the other you are a badass books, but this one is not quite on the same level. If you haven’t read the other two, I recommend you pick those up first.
That said, I do like this book for a particular purpose. This is a book you could keep on your desk/nightstand/coffee table, and easily flip to a page for inspiration or an exercise to help propel you forward.
I don’t, however, recommend this book for something you would just sit down and read. It’s a cute book with action items, but it’s not as specific or structured as I hoped.
I think this book would be fun to receive as a gift. I’m not thrilled that I bought it for myself after reading it.

[Amanda Duddleson · Rating 1 out of 5]

NOT Badass. A random list of bullet points about cliche’ things people need to do to “be happy”. This is that book. Sprinkle in some edgy cuss words to make it sound cool. Litter with pull yourself up by your bootstraps mentality. Superficial. This lady is the popular girl in high school who gives unsolicited advice. The people listen to her but don’t know why they should. Because she’s popular.overhyped. Lacks empathy and acknowledgement of legitimate mental illness and real life struggle.Generalized “advice” does not apply to all. Which this book implies. I can’t even finish it.

[Jenny Baker · Rating 3 out of 5]

I loved You Are A Badass. I was hoping this one would be just as inspirational, but instead it turned out to be a little disappointing. It’s incredibly short, mostly common sense, and some overlapping content from the first book. It felt like the purpose was to milk her success from the first two books. I haven’t read You Are A Badass At Making Money, but I still plan to read it this year. I have a feeling that one will be a more beneficial. If you haven’t read any of her books, save this one for last.

[Jenny Garone · Rating 4 out of 5]

Jen Sincero is the bomb. I’m going to buy a copy of the book so I can highlight the crap out of it & refer to it often as I’m building my new reality.

[Tracy · Rating 2 out of 5]

I feel like I've read this same book 3 times recently...and it's not very good. Rah Rah Rah. ..the universe is yours for the taking...so superficial and simplistic.

[Matt Lillywhite · Rating 1 out of 5]

Well that book was a waste of time.

Will write a proper review in the next few days…

[Kelli · Rating 4 out of 5]

I am a self help and motivational book junkie! I love reading books like this to give me a little positivity and productivity boost.

I read this on audio and the author was the narrator and did a great job.

This was filled with great reminders on how to be your best, love your best life possible and reminders of how great you are.

Quick and easy motivation!

[Kevin · Rating 2 out of 5]

Nothing different from the original (read that one)! This felt like the author was late for a deadline.

[Tiff · Rating 4 out of 5]

A lot of really great tid bits for life. Some a little over done but still valid.

[Nadja Nastez · Rating 4 out of 5]

Книгичево е преслатко. Нема нешто многу филозофии и објаснувања, ама е добар потсетник за некои мали работи кои треба да ги имаме на ум секој ден за себеси и како да останеме мотивирани и благодарни за сѐ она што сме постигнале и сѐ она што сме. 💙

[Morgan · Rating 4 out of 5]

I don’t know about you guys, but quarantining has taken a serious toll on my motivation to do all of the things I normally love. My hopes in reading this book were to re-align my wants with my needs and find ways to keep myself motivated in doing those important things.

This book did just that. I thought it was a great way to keep me in check and some of the quotes, affirmations and exercises truly did stick with me and make me feel amazing. Not everything in it was totally relatable and I did find that I disagreed a couple times but overall I think it’s a fantastic reminder to trust ourselves and do what will make us grow, even if it’s painful at first.

Instead of dreading doing my school assignments, I chose to think of the relief id feel once I submitted my best work. Instead of doubting myself and my artistic abilities, I sat down and I painted until I fell back in love with my creations. I’m more mindful about what I put into my body and who I surround myself with.

All of these things were active choices that i made to break the cycle of “I cant” or “I need” and replaced with more positive thoughts, tools I had thanks to this book. None of what i changed were mentioned specifically in the book, but that’s the beauty of it. You take from it what you want and you set yourself up for success. Even if you don’t 100% relate to every single page, more than likely you’ll identify with similar issues you’re dealing with and want to overcome, or maybe you just need a reminder of how amazing you are.

[Readwithraisa · Rating 5 out of 5]

I found this book very motivating. It’s a “no BS, get your ass up and do what you gotta do” guide for anyone really. It’s one of those underrated books that is a must read in my opinion whether you are a badass or want to be one. I learnt a thing or two from it that I will try to remember to apply in my life. I love how the author explains - You can’t go to the gym and see results in one day, you have to keep going to the gym regularly to results. Similarly, what’s the point in being a badass on certain occasions, you have to keep working on yourself every day. Yeah, by badass she means work on yourself and be a better version of YOU.

I listened to the audiobook and the author narrated the book herself which I have never experienced before. Then again, I don’t usually listen to audiobooks but I am starting to incorporate that in my life. Life can be hard and as much as I love physical books and reading the words myself, I personally feel, self help books are easier to get through as an audiobook.

[Amy Bobryk · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is easily one of my favorite books - I definitely recommend downloading the audio version. It’s like each sentence is a gut punch to pump you up and make you feel strong. Definitely will have it on repeat for morning motivation. Very similar to “Unf*** Yourself”

[Megan · Rating 1 out of 5]

Essentially just a bullet point list of generic and/or common sense tips to improve your life. Feels like a cash grab rather than something that would actually provide any insightful information.

[Bayli · Rating 1 out of 5]

You remember when Alex Baldwin played Phoebe’s overly positive beau, Parker, on Friends? That is who you will become if you follow the advice in this book.

No one likes a Parker.

[Donna · Rating 4 out of 5]

I was at a thrift store and picked this book up for a friend of mine who loves all things "Jen Sincero". Unfortunately, he already owned this one, so I ended up keeping this one. I'm not much of a page turner but instead I am mostly an audio girl.

This sat on my night stand for a long while and it has actually taken a whole month to finish. But now I'm thinking that this is how I like my Jen Sincero books. I liked this one much more than the two others that I've read and this is why. The little snippets stayed with me for a whole month, and not just the one day it would have taken to listen the audio. So I was able to think of ways to make her suggestions applicable. And some of it actually produced good outcomes.

The whole positive affirmation thing has gained a lot of traction in the last few years or so as meditation has become such an "in" thing. The affirmations still feel like those little paper gold stars from grade school, but I can see their place in life.

The only issue I'll be mentioning is that the whole thing about pulling up you bootstaps.....she made it sound so glossy and simple...like you can just will it to be. But there are those who are completely unable to do that and they need to seek medical advice, therapy or a prescription. So anyways, this took awhile to get through but I got more out of this than I thought possible...so 4 stars.

[Alexandria Perone · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book is full of contradictions - the author tells us to do the thing right now, procrastination is just fear, but also make sure to meditate and stop and smell the roses all the time! She also seems like someone to avoid being friends with. She encourages you to ghost on negative (depressed) people, while also encouraging you to have empathy. She seems like someone who comes from privilege and doesn’t understand that people have actual problems that can’t just be fixed by thinking positively. This book is also incredibly repetitive. Her biggest mantra is basically fake it till you make it. She claims you can find happiness simply by saying you are happy and not worrying about the bills you need to pay or the medical issues you are experiencing etc. Be grateful for everything, she says. I’m grateful that I can toss this book in the trash! 😊

[Kathryn]

A companion to the book, You are A Badass. This version has short prompts that are good for journaling or contemplating.

[Beth Sandland (Beth’s Book Club) · Rating 2 out of 5]

I bought this in the Audible £1.99 sale, but even at a great discount, it didn’t really hit the mark. It’s a bite-size guide on manifestation and ‘raising your vibes’ from the author of the bestselling ‘You Are a Badass’ self-helps books. It felt like it had been produced to make a bit more money, rather than offer anything of real substance on top of the longer form books.

The good: there are some nuggets of wisdom and actionable ideas that are, if not groundbreaking, then at least somewhat inspiring.

The bad: there’s also a lot of repetitive fluff. I appreciate the power of practicing gratitude but “I’m so grateful I have lips to drink this coffee” might be a reach for even the most dedicated believer…

The ugly: it felt like there was a big focus on dieting/diet culture. It’s used as an example for something you may want to focus your mindset so as not to fail at throughout the book. There also feels like there’s a lot of class contempt. Words like ‘junkie’ are used and there’s literally an entire “just do it” section with the examples being “book a holiday to South Africa, buy a puppy, go shoe shopping” etc.

All that said, I wouldn’t discount reading the longer, original ‘You Are a Badass’ in a physical format so I could skim read the bits I’m less keen on.

[Анна Зубович · Rating 3 out of 5]

По факту - книгу прочитала. Навіть виконували деякі практичні письмові завдання, які наведені в книзі. Є декілька реальних інсайтів для мене - хочу їх почати застосовувати в своєму житті. Але, на мою думку, замало тексту описового, проблемного. Але багато мотивуючих фраз. Можливо, потрібно розпочати робити, і намалюю більше зірок книзі. Поки так.
«Нема нічого ризикованішого за повну відмову від ризику.»

[Leah · Rating 4 out of 5]

Short and to the point. Daily habits rituals sayings mantras to live by. Great reminders of how to have the right mindset for happiness and success.

[Sheronda H · Rating 3 out of 5]

Okay book. Wasn’t my favorite from the author. Some good reminders about showing up for yourself.

[Rachel · Rating 2 out of 5]

Short read and i would probably rate a little higher if this wasnt already my way of thinking growing up BUT this isnt very well informed by modern sensitivies.

Positive takeaways:

Drink more water, focus on you, appreciate the little things, tell people you love them, make time every day for things that will give you an amazing day, journal a lot to find your way forward.

Negatives:

This book is full of punchy advice that relies on affirmations and surrounding yourself with good people so you can manifest the life you want. I can see the benefit to surrounding yourself with people who make you feel great about yourself, but the sentiment that anyone who is a downer should be cut out of your life for being "toxic" advises that you stay away from any of your friends who are don't have a "high vibe." I guess if you have depression or aren't always happy, you're out of luck because this book advises your friends to abandon you as self-care for themselves.

The serious use of "vibes" and "manifestation" in these sort of books can be dangerous because it relies on similar logic as the Secret-- that you get what you want and deserve. By this logic, anyone who is experiencing hardship didn't "want happiness hard enough" and "attracted bad fortune" with their vibe.

There's usually very little in the self-help sphere to acknowledge that the audience of this genre largely includes people who are targeted by systems of oppression and cannot dream their way to a better future simply by wanting it harder. While I don't expect self-help books to give actual advice to self-help yourself out of poverty or oppressive systems, any acknowledgement of privilege goes a long way and I didn't see any of that in this book. It makes it a lot more uncomfortable to wholeheartedly embrace this book's cheery calls to action to Just Do It!!!!!!! They seem to be targeting an extremely privileged person who is just in a little slump but can get whatever they want with a little elbow grease. 🙂

[Lizzie · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book has a lot of useful exercises and mantras but I was disappointed at how often it focuses on weight! She even uses an example (and for many, unrealistic) goal weight!

On top of that, it’s focused at straight women only. Dream men, bad boyfriends etc.

It would not have been difficult to make this book intersectional and body positive but it fell very off the mark. Will not be reading her other titles.

[Shasha Nounou · Rating 2 out of 5]

It really felt like a bad sequel to a not-so-bad first movie. It really got on my nerves going through the book and having those white pages wasted but heck, that's just me.

[Lee Adams · Rating 1 out of 5]

I don't feel motivated to spend the energy to describe how bad this book is.

[Ben Denison · Rating 2 out of 5]

Short little book that I thought might provide a little motivation.

It didn’t.

[Rash J · Rating 2 out of 5]

All worrying will do is make you live through the misery twice. None of the ideas were new in this book. Short read for only 2 hours.