My girls claim that I can’t relate to women. I can see where they are coming from, but it is a product of my upbringing versus theirs. I went to a traditional public school, and, even though I am not athletic to say the least, I am sports crazed. In elementary school other than my foray into brownies, most of my school friends were boys because I wanted to talk to them about sports. Clothes, shoes, makeup, and traditional toys geared toward girls did not appeal to me. An ideal day is watching sports on the couch. My daughters have each other and have attended all girls schools since preschool. Girls don’t compete but encourage each other, and clothes, makeup, etc is a normal point of conversation. My girls tease me for enjoying men’s sports while they gravitate to the WNBA and gymnastics, but we are wired differently. It would come as a surprise to them that I selected a book that is dubbed as stories that explore what it is exactly to be a woman. Corie Adjmi is a Sephardic Jew who has lived in New Orleans and New York. One of my Goodreads friends recommended her second book to the Jewish Book Club as an example of people overcoming odds, and the premise of that novel appealed to me. I decided to read Adjmi’s debut story collection first to see if her writing style meshed with my tastes or if this is yet another time when I can’t relate to women.
Life and Other Shortcomings contains twelve stories of varied length. The narrator is a woman named Callie Douglas, who has been married to her husband Dylan for twelve years. Dylan runs a successful jewelry business, so the Douglas’ live in a Brooklyn brownstone with their three children. Dylan is a go getter, and from other stories it appears that Callie has been manipulated by both men and alpha females for her entire life- her father’s treatment of her mother, her friend Willow always being the one to plan their escapades, a fling with a guy named John, and later allowing her husband to choose everything they did throughout their marriage. Callie’s story arc occurs during the first six stories, so readers see her during all stages of her life. At present, her friends group is known as the Sixers, and they do everything together, not giving Callie space for personal freedom and exploration. One can’t help but feel sorry for her, as though she goes through life as a victim. Even her so called friends have more in common with Dylan than herself, and I would hope that she could learn to assert herself and explore her own interests. I know it is hard as a housewife and mother to have time for oneself, especially when her husband goes to work everyday. One day, the kids grow up. I have faith that one day Callie will do for herself, but, by being married to Dylan, she has relinquished that control, and aperhaps she will continue to submit to his needs for her entire life. One can only speculate what path her life takes.
The other stories involve people that Callie knew in New Orleans who are now living their adult lives in New York, connected by a web of who knows who. The story that I related to the most is that of Iris and Morris, living a Torah observant lifestyle in Brooklyn with their six children. Most mainstream literature portrays orthodoxy in a negative light so people don’t see the beauty of it and view it as restrictive. As a woman turning forty, Iris questions some of the rules; this is natural because life ebbs and flows over time. She wants to know about the world beyond her community but in a kosher way because she knows that her lifestyle is beautiful even if at times it can appear hard to maintain. This is called a chok- a law we do unconditionally. Going into the sabbath, Iris’ story was refreshing to read and taught me about balance, something I struggle with at times too. Perhaps, reading about the human nature of women from time to time can be a good thing for me. The other story that described life around the Jewish calendar was tale of June and Hal. After a miscarriage, which happens to too many people, June spiraled into post partum depression and became a hypochondriac. I laugh at this because my grandmother was June but the character here is more like my other grandmother who enjoyed being a patient. Having a familiar name allowed me to relate to June’s character, and I rooted for her to resolve her health problems and be there for her two daughters Ivy and Bea. I give Adjmi credit for writing about topics like the rules of Judaism from a positive perspective and about miscarriage. These are topics that are not discussed enough and I laud her for doing it.
In another story Sally and Keith travel to Madrid as a means of coping with a genetic diagnosis of their son. With these stories being character driven, I felt that Adjmi did not give readers enough of a sense of place in Madrid, and this had been a setting listing on the blurb. Looking forward to the city of Madrid as a character and a contrast to New York, I felt letdown when Adjmi did not explore the city enough aside from a foray to a Flamenco dance. Sally and Keith needed to get away to breathe and they could have gone anywhere so why Madrid. They don’t speak Spanish and Keith acted like a complacent American. He had a lot on his plate with his son’s diagnosis, and he buried his coping mechanisms deep inside; this vacation was his means of grieving. Finally, we meet Howie and Lori, who is June’s sister, who recently divorced. The split has been tough on their daughter Olivia, who appears to be a daddy’s girl but lives with her mom. Lori has moved on with her life and Howie has slumped into a depression, as apparent by the stacks of dirty dishes in his sink and his inability to quit smoking. Olivia at ten has more introspection than most adults and tells her dad that he promised to quit and is upset that he can’t or won’t. I don’t want Olivia to become another broken woman who becomes a people pleaser the way Callie has turned out. That is a full length story for another place and time, and I think Adjmi has those stories in her.
My sports crazed self in the end could not relate to the escapades of the women in these books except maybe Iris, and that is only because we live a similar lifestyle. People like Callie, Kelly, and Lorie who have been in poor marriages is something I thankfully have not had to deal with in my life. Corie Adjmi came from New Orleans to New York and developed stories about what she knew in her life. She crafted these short stories in a short span of space and the reader got to know about the characters, something that is admittedly tricky to do for any writer. Adjmi’s second book is a full length novel about an orthodox woman who may or may not be Iris, and I will be intrigued to read it. I would still rather watch men’s sports on the couch than get a manicure, and I have few friends to gab with, but I will read books by authors who craft multilayered characters, allowing readers to learn the many facets of their personalities in the span of a story or book. I might not be the best reader for this book but I did appreciate the attention to detail, and I can tell my daughters that I read a book marketed toward women. I have a feeling that these girls who would rather talk hair and makeup and watch football for celebrity sightings will be impressed at my stepping out of my comfort zone and reading about the inner workings of female emotions.
3.5 stars