Stronger Than You Think: The 10 Blind Spots That Undermine Your Relationship...and How to See Past Them

by Gary W. Lewandowski Jr.

Discover the ten myths sabotaging your love life, and the practical, science-backed tools you can use to reveal your relationship’s hidden strengths and build a fulfilling, long-lasting bond.Dr. Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. is a nationally recognized expert on the psychology of relationships. In his first book, he blends hot-off-the-press science, engaging writing, impactful examples, and fascinating stories to present an impressive range of refreshing and eye-opening set of insights. For instance, did you know that . . . To forecast your relationship's future, you are the worst person to ask.Men are the real romantics in heterosexual relationships, not women.The amount of sex you should have to keep your relationship going strong is lower than you think.It's okay to be selfish. Putting me before you, can help both of you.When it comes to closeness, you can have too much of a good thing.Struggles actually strengthen your relationship.In terms of partner support, what you’re not seeing is more important than what you notice.When your relationship doesn't help you become a better person, ending it does. A bold, fresh take on what it means to love and be loved, Stronger Than You Think will help you more confidently and accurately view yourself and your relationship—so that you can fully appreciate the love you have, or find the one you want and deserve.

Genres: Psychology, Relationships, Nonfiction, Self Help, Love

304 pages, Hardcover

Published February 9, 2021

Reviews

[Amanda · Rating 5 out of 5]

I appreciated that Dr Lewandowski presented his findings about relationships in an engaging and easily readable way. He backed up his writing with solid research, and did not fall into harmful stereotypes that abound.

Most interesting of all the myths he debunked for me was this: “Ultimately, believing the myth that men and women are different is an excuse. It’s a way to absolve both partners of responsibility for their actions. “It’s not me, I’m just a dude. This is how we are.” This type of “boys will be boys” and “she’s such a girly girl” mentality holds our relationships back. It’s past time to realize that we have more control over our beliefs.” I have always found John Gray’s “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus” to be outdated and harmful. Here for the first time I know is someone calling him out on it with evidence to show for it.

[Alina · Rating 4 out of 5]

Не могу сказать, что узнала что-то новое, очень взгляды схожи с содержанием книги (возможно это одна из причин, почему в этой стране не могу найти партнера пхахах), но советую к прочтению

[Jo Carol · Rating 3 out of 5]

Lots of good practical advice presented in a pleasant way. Easy to follow, with good suggestions.

[Kea4 · Rating 3 out of 5]

Title tells you what the book is going to be about. The book dedication is cute. There are some good examples of situations people find themselves in. Good tips. I like the end of the chapter recap. He might not be Dr. Claire Allen from the old tv show Cupid (1998) but it’s a good mix of science and experience.

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[Jasmine · Rating 3 out of 5]

a book that did get me thinking about my own preconceptions and I like how he ties in research and it isn’t just based on his own “life experiences” iykwis. Megan also made me slightly annoyed at the “earth shattering new-flash” manner he presented all the info like we’d be silly for believing otherwise but I think overall he did a solid job backing up his points. Would be a 4 if writing was better. rec’d by niko

[Keets · Rating 3 out of 5]

2.5 stars. The author cites lots of research but glossed over the complexity of said research for the sake of neatly tying everything up into their 10 themes. Feel like I gained more from Logan Ury’s How Not to Die Alone or Alain de Botton’s The Course of Love.

[Kara Marziali · Rating 3 out of 5]

Gary Lewandowski is a professor of psychology, a relationship specialist, and the Chief Love Scientist at LoveStrategies.com. His wisdom is valuable and can be effective when put into practive. The suggestions in this book are not just for romantic relationships but any interpersonal connections.

[Tim Ozinga · Rating 4 out of 5]

Not bad

[Emily Mellow · Rating 4 out of 5]

Useful & practical, with lots of surprising facts that I always wanted to talk about with my partner.

[Joana · Rating 3 out of 5]

Interessant om de wetenschap achter relaties te leren kennen.