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Never Get Ghosted Again: 15 Reasons Why Men Lose Interest and How to Avoid Guys Who Can't Commit
If you are currently dating, at some point you’ve probably been blindsided and left utterly frustrated after a great guy suddenly lost interest in you even though he seemed so passionate in the beginning. Maybe you’ve been completely heartbroken after a long-term boyfriend suddenly started pulling away from you.
Sadly, as unfortunate as these dating situations are, when they do occur, most women tend to act in counterproductive ways that only end up pushing their guy even further away, maybe even for good.
No woman can change the reality that any man, no matter how interested or invested he may first appear, can potentially pull away and lose interest in her at some point. Although this is the reality, a woman can, in fact, change the way she deals with such situations.
While you might not be able to control a man’s behavior, you can control your own. Being in control of your emotions, especially when a man’s behavior threatens your future with him, will make it easier for you to influence his heart and make him see you as an irreplaceable, high-value woman.
But in order to effectively influence a man’s heart, a woman must possess a deep understanding of how men think – why they lose interest and what scares them away from a blossoming relationship.
The thing is, a woman can astronomically increase her chances of dating success by doing one simple understanding men. Rather than responding in desperation and frantic fretting, when a woman truly understands male dating behavior, she becomes far more confident and capable in dealing with men whenever they pull away or attempt to ghost her.
Fortunately, in this insightful little dating book for women, you’re going to get an inside look into how men think when it comes to women and relationships. You're going to learn the secret reasons why men suddenly lose interest, what causes men to fall in (and out of) love with a woman, and how to prevent that special guy from disappearing on you.
Here’s what you’re going to learn
Get started right away and discover the secret reasons why men lose interest and how to prevent great guys from disappearing on you.
Scroll to the top of the page and select the ‘buy’ button now .
Sadly, as unfortunate as these dating situations are, when they do occur, most women tend to act in counterproductive ways that only end up pushing their guy even further away, maybe even for good.
No woman can change the reality that any man, no matter how interested or invested he may first appear, can potentially pull away and lose interest in her at some point. Although this is the reality, a woman can, in fact, change the way she deals with such situations.
While you might not be able to control a man’s behavior, you can control your own. Being in control of your emotions, especially when a man’s behavior threatens your future with him, will make it easier for you to influence his heart and make him see you as an irreplaceable, high-value woman.
But in order to effectively influence a man’s heart, a woman must possess a deep understanding of how men think – why they lose interest and what scares them away from a blossoming relationship.
The thing is, a woman can astronomically increase her chances of dating success by doing one simple understanding men. Rather than responding in desperation and frantic fretting, when a woman truly understands male dating behavior, she becomes far more confident and capable in dealing with men whenever they pull away or attempt to ghost her.
Fortunately, in this insightful little dating book for women, you’re going to get an inside look into how men think when it comes to women and relationships. You're going to learn the secret reasons why men suddenly lose interest, what causes men to fall in (and out of) love with a woman, and how to prevent that special guy from disappearing on you.
Here’s what you’re going to learn
Get started right away and discover the secret reasons why men lose interest and how to prevent great guys from disappearing on you.
Scroll to the top of the page and select the ‘buy’ button now .
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167 pages, Paperback
Published April 20, 2020
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Bruce Bryans
52 books190 followersBruce Bryans writes books for men and women who want to become both irresistible and irreplaceable romantic partners to the opposite sex. This is the focus of all of his books.
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April 21, 2025
I'm married. Like, old married.
If he ghosts me it means that I've probably killed him.
I just wanted to see if the dating advice has gotten any better over the past few decades.
The short answer is no. No, it has not.
But. The ugly truth is that this advice would probably work for women who don't want to be single. As in, the main goal is to get married to a man.
And you will most certainly be able to catch and keep a man if you do what he says.
But you might do it at the expense of your dignity.
Because there's no guarantee you'll be any happier married than you will be single, so why stress yourself out trying to be the kind of woman that men find attractive and unthreatening?
And that's basically the advice in here. Tone it down, especially if you're older and you aren't afraid to speak your mind about things. In fact, he actually says that powerful "masculine" women might want to look for guys who aren't (lol) alphas, suggesting that these women would be more comfortable with men who are meeker, as they won't have to adjust their personalities.
Successful, powerful men do not want bossy women.
Well, I hate to burst the bubble here, but no one wants to be with someone who is bossy - unless that's just your kink.
Men, according to Bryans, get set in their ways when they get older, and if you want to seem desirable to them, you should give them the space to do the things they were doing before you came along. <--I actually agree with that because I promise you that I would not rearrange my schedule or life to accommodate a man at this point in my life, either. Just not going to do it.
If my dear husband passes away, he can rest in eternal sleep knowing that I will never-no-never go out of my way to fit some other man into my day. I simply can't see having to "work on a relationship" at this point in my life. Then again, life has made most women my age a bit surly, so youngsters may need to take my attitude with a grain of salt.
And if you are my age and you're listening to this odious little turd tell you how to keep a man on the hook, I'd like to shake the shit out of you. You should know better by now.
There are wonderful men out there, and if you find one who thinks you're great, you won't have to play weird mind games with him. But you're just better off on your own than having to cater to the whims of someone who thinks you need them.
I don't know how old Bruce Bryans is, but he sounds like he may be older just going off of a bit of the more fringe things he said. I could be wrong, but he said that he "ghosted" a woman when he found out she had slept with a guy who was tangentially related to his friend group after one of his dude friends let him know that these two were sneaky links. And while they weren't close friends, it kind of grossed him out that he knew a guy that she'd had sex with. It was at that point I started picturing him as one of those old pompous guys who have always given me the ick. The ones who would refer to women as all used up, as though vaginas have a limited number of times a penis can be inserted into it.
And while you should certainly able to speak your truth about turn-offs, that one just seemed incredibly 1950s to me.
You do you, though.
I had to keep reminding myself that I needed to be fair to the author. This is a book for women who are actually trying to figure out why guys are (apparently en masse) never calling them back. And the reasons he gives are somewhat valid, even if the way he puts it makes me shudder.
For example, he says that women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of commitment.
BUT! If you're a woman reading this book, then apparently you aren't the gatekeeper of commitment in your relationships.
On the flip side, there's a lot of commitment-free sex that you can be having.
wink, wink.
And here's my free advice on that one for what it's worth - who cares? If some guy doesn't call you back, so what? He's a story in your book. If your boyfriend starts distancing himself and you feel like he's thinking of breaking up with you, let him go, and don't look back.
The vast majority of what I felt was good advice in this book, dealt with not chasing a dead end.
Or chasing period.
But Bryans's advice is not to chase men at any point in the relationship. If they're getting distant, don't chase them around and try to get more of a commitment out of them.
That's kind of fair. I wouldn't want anyone chasing me or trying to pin me down, either.
He says if you want them to come back, you just give them the space to decide that they miss you. And it pains me to say this, but if you actually want the guy that bad, the advice is solid.
But do you want the guy that bad?
Seriously? My knee-jerk reaction is to tell you that if a guy starts pulling away and stops returning your calls, you should pack up your emotional (or real) shit and go out dancing with your friends.
Then if he decides that he really does want you and comes crawling back? You tell him that you'll try to work him into your schedule, however, this cute guy you met at the bar is taking you out tonight and you're going to Vegas this weekend on a girls' trip.
But you'll text as soon as you get a free minute.
Promise.
Instead of worrying that you'll never find "the one", make your own happiness and dream fulfillment the top priority. Do what you want to do and make your life what you want it to be.
That's my advice for anyone, not just women.
If you feel lonely, take a cooking class, or art class, join a gardening group, learn how to refinish old furniture, work on cars, belly dance - whatever floats your boat.
You'll feel more satisfied if you are more satisfied.
And you'll be far less likely to allow someone into your life who shouldn't be there if you're already happy with what your life looks like without them. You'll also be far less likely to fall the fuck apart should they decide to go their own way.
No one can complete you. That's your job.
The best you can hope for is someone who can complement the life you already have.
If he ghosts me it means that I've probably killed him.
I just wanted to see if the dating advice has gotten any better over the past few decades.
The short answer is no. No, it has not.
But. The ugly truth is that this advice would probably work for women who don't want to be single. As in, the main goal is to get married to a man.
And you will most certainly be able to catch and keep a man if you do what he says.
But you might do it at the expense of your dignity.
Because there's no guarantee you'll be any happier married than you will be single, so why stress yourself out trying to be the kind of woman that men find attractive and unthreatening?
And that's basically the advice in here. Tone it down, especially if you're older and you aren't afraid to speak your mind about things. In fact, he actually says that powerful "masculine" women might want to look for guys who aren't (lol) alphas, suggesting that these women would be more comfortable with men who are meeker, as they won't have to adjust their personalities.
Successful, powerful men do not want bossy women.
Well, I hate to burst the bubble here, but no one wants to be with someone who is bossy - unless that's just your kink.
Men, according to Bryans, get set in their ways when they get older, and if you want to seem desirable to them, you should give them the space to do the things they were doing before you came along. <--I actually agree with that because I promise you that I would not rearrange my schedule or life to accommodate a man at this point in my life, either. Just not going to do it.
If my dear husband passes away, he can rest in eternal sleep knowing that I will never-no-never go out of my way to fit some other man into my day. I simply can't see having to "work on a relationship" at this point in my life. Then again, life has made most women my age a bit surly, so youngsters may need to take my attitude with a grain of salt.
And if you are my age and you're listening to this odious little turd tell you how to keep a man on the hook, I'd like to shake the shit out of you. You should know better by now.
There are wonderful men out there, and if you find one who thinks you're great, you won't have to play weird mind games with him. But you're just better off on your own than having to cater to the whims of someone who thinks you need them.
I don't know how old Bruce Bryans is, but he sounds like he may be older just going off of a bit of the more fringe things he said. I could be wrong, but he said that he "ghosted" a woman when he found out she had slept with a guy who was tangentially related to his friend group after one of his dude friends let him know that these two were sneaky links. And while they weren't close friends, it kind of grossed him out that he knew a guy that she'd had sex with. It was at that point I started picturing him as one of those old pompous guys who have always given me the ick. The ones who would refer to women as all used up, as though vaginas have a limited number of times a penis can be inserted into it.
And while you should certainly able to speak your truth about turn-offs, that one just seemed incredibly 1950s to me.
You do you, though.
I had to keep reminding myself that I needed to be fair to the author. This is a book for women who are actually trying to figure out why guys are (apparently en masse) never calling them back. And the reasons he gives are somewhat valid, even if the way he puts it makes me shudder.
For example, he says that women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of commitment.
BUT! If you're a woman reading this book, then apparently you aren't the gatekeeper of commitment in your relationships.
On the flip side, there's a lot of commitment-free sex that you can be having.
wink, wink.
And here's my free advice on that one for what it's worth - who cares? If some guy doesn't call you back, so what? He's a story in your book. If your boyfriend starts distancing himself and you feel like he's thinking of breaking up with you, let him go, and don't look back.
The vast majority of what I felt was good advice in this book, dealt with not chasing a dead end.
Or chasing period.
But Bryans's advice is not to chase men at any point in the relationship. If they're getting distant, don't chase them around and try to get more of a commitment out of them.
That's kind of fair. I wouldn't want anyone chasing me or trying to pin me down, either.
He says if you want them to come back, you just give them the space to decide that they miss you. And it pains me to say this, but if you actually want the guy that bad, the advice is solid.
But do you want the guy that bad?
Seriously? My knee-jerk reaction is to tell you that if a guy starts pulling away and stops returning your calls, you should pack up your emotional (or real) shit and go out dancing with your friends.
Then if he decides that he really does want you and comes crawling back? You tell him that you'll try to work him into your schedule, however, this cute guy you met at the bar is taking you out tonight and you're going to Vegas this weekend on a girls' trip.
But you'll text as soon as you get a free minute.
Promise.
Instead of worrying that you'll never find "the one", make your own happiness and dream fulfillment the top priority. Do what you want to do and make your life what you want it to be.
That's my advice for anyone, not just women.
If you feel lonely, take a cooking class, or art class, join a gardening group, learn how to refinish old furniture, work on cars, belly dance - whatever floats your boat.
You'll feel more satisfied if you are more satisfied.
And you'll be far less likely to allow someone into your life who shouldn't be there if you're already happy with what your life looks like without them. You'll also be far less likely to fall the fuck apart should they decide to go their own way.
No one can complete you. That's your job.
The best you can hope for is someone who can complement the life you already have.
August 20, 2021
I chose this book because 1) it was available on audio so I picked it for my audiobook selection as part of the 2021 Reading Challenge and because 2) it had been on my list to read after getting ghosted by my last boyfriend in 2018.
All of the suggestions are things most women already do--we keep up our appearance, keep a clean home, have other interests and hobbies besides seeking a partner, we're educated and self-sufficient. So this book isn't for us. I don't want to think about the women it is aimed towards. Chances are, those are the women that usually get the guy anyway. My experience, based on my personal dating history as well as those of many friends and others I read about, is that men ghost us because they are intimiated by strong women. Men have an inherent need to be needed and/or to feel superior and because of our makeup--we can't be that for them. And I for one refuse to change. If I remain single as a result, so be it.
All of the suggestions are things most women already do--we keep up our appearance, keep a clean home, have other interests and hobbies besides seeking a partner, we're educated and self-sufficient. So this book isn't for us. I don't want to think about the women it is aimed towards. Chances are, those are the women that usually get the guy anyway. My experience, based on my personal dating history as well as those of many friends and others I read about, is that men ghost us because they are intimiated by strong women. Men have an inherent need to be needed and/or to feel superior and because of our makeup--we can't be that for them. And I for one refuse to change. If I remain single as a result, so be it.
March 27, 2021
Corny. Awful, sexist book!
February 18, 2022
Pretty good… I saw a lot of myself in this book. Learned something
August 20, 2020
I have never been ghosted.
I absolutely adore the author and have committed to listen to or read all of his books.
As always this man is on point.
I absolutely adore the author and have committed to listen to or read all of his books.
As always this man is on point.
December 27, 2020
Good advice, but not completely original from other books I have read. There was also advice that basically contradicts itself which is typical for most male understanding books written for females. For example, there was a part I believe about a man not calling for a week and how it was advise best to not say anything or lock him down into an explanation. Then later in the book, the example surfaced again and it was suggested to confront him for a week with no call with a little moxie. The ending of the book was the best part naturally. I did the audiobook so it was a breeze to get through. I plan to read/ listen to more books by this author. Title was a tad misleading though.
May 29, 2022
I found this book useful until it started talking about how women should empathize with men and how being an independent woman can negatively impact a man’s thinking. There’s no excuse for ghosting someone -it is a sign of pure immaturity, disrespect, selfishness, and lack of communication due to “fear” of wanting to be the nice guy. NEWSFLASH, a truly nice guy and real man would not ghost the woman he truly cared about.
May 21, 2022
Great gems.
September 20, 2022
Very good information. Definitely a must
January 10, 2024
A lot of helpful tips for dating from a males perspective. Definitely gave me insight in how to reflect and approach dating in the future.
May 8, 2025
I didn’t love this book. At times it felt like I was being chastised and I kept wondering what this man looks like… I’m not impressed. I’d recommended it for entertainment purposes only.
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