ARE CHRISTIANS COMMANDED TO "LOVE OURSELVES"?
Dr. Adams has written other books such as Competent to Counsel, The Christian Counselor's Manual, etc. He wrote in the Preface to this 1986 book, "During the last 15 years we have seen the rise of a powerful and influential movement within the church. You can easily identify it by observing the use of one or more of the several closely related labels with which it is intimately associated: self-image, self-esteem, self-worth, self-love. The one common denominator... is the emphasis on self... the one enemy against which they are unitedly fighting is low self-esteem... It will be our task in this book to understand and evaluate this movement in order to determine whether it is biblical or not and to determine how Christians should relate to it..."
He states, "I have asserted that the self-worth, self-esteem movement cannot be ignored. It is of importance. If it is correct, we must all change our ways---in the home, in the church, and in the school. The leaders of the movement recognize this fact and loudly call for such change. Should we heed their call?" (Pg. 17) He admits, "Certainly, everything that a psychologist has to say is not necessarily incorrect... But ... modern psychologists... have offered so many panaceas for the world's problems (Freudianism, I'm OK, You're OK thinking, and the like) which in the long run have failed to do much good and may have added to the hurts of our world that we can hardly be blamed for being wary of this latest offering with its global claims." (Pg. 28)
He summarizes Maslow's 'Hierarchy of Needs,' then critiques it: "This means... that man cannot be held responsible for obedience to the biblical commands to love God and his neighbor if he has been deprived of lower-level satisfactions that are requisite for obedience. But nowhere in the entire Bible is any such idea suggested, let alone set forth as a principle for life. We simply do not find any statements ... even hinting that Christians must have other people meet their basic needs in order to make it possible for them to obey God's commandments. Especially do we fail to find anything about a supposed 'need to love one's self' as a prerequisite for loving others. Nothing in the Scriptures even approximates this." (Pg. 43)
He rejects the interpretation of Matt 22:39 ["you shall love your neighbor as yourself"] as being a "command to love yourself": "there is no command here or elsewhere in Scripture to love yourself. Christ made it perfectly clear that he was talking about two, and only two, commandments. In verses 39 and 40 he speaks of the 'second' commandment and 'these TWO commandments.' There is no third commandment. All of Scripture can be hung on two pegs: Love God, love neighbor. Yet the self-esteem people make three commandments out of Christ's two!" (Pg. 67)
He adds, "There is no need for concern about how to love one's self, for as long as one seeks first to love God and his neighbor in a biblical fashion, all proper self-concern will appear as a by-product. That is why the Bible never commands us to love ourselves." (Pg. 73)
Those who loved Dr. Adams' earlier books will certainly love this one as well.