What happens if, god forbid, Mr Darcy isn’t waiting just around the next corner like everyone always promised? What happens if, instead of meeting Mr Right, you meet Mr Cocaine, Mr Lamborghini and a string of London’s not so eligible Mr Bachelors? Isabelle Monroe has left the plentiful dating scene of the twenty-somethings far behind and now, pushing forty, is still searching. She’s a feisty, bohemian, single parent twice over, determined to find love. Make no mistake, this is no ordinary dating memoir. Pulling no punches, this is a colourful account of today's online dating world.
Natasha Charles has contributed to a wide range of publications including The Times and The Erotic review as well as Sky news and LBC radio. She worked in London in TV development, writing, producing and presenting. She has had a photographic exhibition, and created a fashion collection for London fashion week. She also enjoyed a successful London modelling career. She studied Women's studies at the University of East London and journalism at Birkbeck, and now lives in Devon with her youngest son and husband, where she indulges her life long passion for horses.
Warning: rant-review. I loved parts of it, hated other parts and am in bowled-over and judgemental a state of mind
Also: I received a copy for review from Booksirens, but am leaving this review voluntarily. All opinions are my own.
So, I haven´t taken so many notes on a book like I have done for this one in ages. This usually means it was one of two things: totally inspiring or totally aggravating. In this case, it was a bit of both.
First things first, though. I originally chose this book for its cover. Based on that, and the title, I did have slightly different expectations, and was rather dissapointed during the first few chapters. Yes, I expected horrible date stories, but I didn´t expect to hate the female protagonist so. Part of that is probably the tone set by the introductory note, that this is a work of 'auto-fiction' (which, to me is an awful term, sounds like computer-generated writings...). Anyways, the note goes on to explain that this is a fictionalised memoir based upon real life events, and names and details were altered. Which brings me to the first thing that irked me a bit: the title, and more specific the adding of 'Isabelle Monroe'. There is no need for that, because in a way the author claims these things happened to herself. I understand the fictionalizing of events, maybe (hopefully) exaggerating some, but not the need to stick a false name into the title, and your real name as author. Either own up to ot, or choose a nom-de-plume.
After a few interesting remarks in the introduction, the tone went downhill for me, and in the first few chapters, I really disliked the female protagonist (why I keep calling her that, I'll explain later). And up until about chapter 8, I tried to figure out, is this person for real, or is this all a bit tongue-in-cheek? The first indication that it's probably a bit of both, is in a remark made about her date (Mr Posh-Poor, in this case): champagne taste and lemonade money. The author knows she falls into the same category.
Chapter 8 has an interesting observation at the beginning, the protagonist contemplates what she is looking to gain from all this dating; a soul-mate, or a new hobby. Furthermore, a giant paragraph I marked, on how what men perceive as 'nagging' in a relationship, is usually the woman trying to save said relationship.
Chapter 9 is where the more honest approach starts, and the author wins a few points in her favour. Ironically, by behaving even worse that before. BUT SHE OWNS UP TO IT. Very important to me as a reader. I can accept bad characteristics in a person/persona, I dislike delussion about it. Straight from my notebook: -- Even though she is a "bad date", I like her here the best, because up till now, she is being the most real and honest towards the reader, admitting her beheviour is shoddy. Unlike previous chapters. --
The tide finally turned by Chapter 12, and I started to accept the protagonist, as she started to accept herself. And let´s face it, based on several of the stories here portrayed, she's a bit of a gold digger. Sometimes even a bit of a whore. (openly contemplating of the money is worth putting up with a certain guy, or go looking for the next rich prey. Yes, prey. quote: "I'm certainly not going to go for rhe 'in love but poor' angle again." She isn´t looking for love, despite what she claims. By then, I started to see her as a literary character, and not a real-life person, which helped in the accepting part.
Only to be enraged in Chapter 13. The guy mentiones he likes 'Laboutines' shoes ("you know, with the red sole..."). At which I think, Oh, silly him, do tell him it´s Louboutin. And she doesn't. Not because she's nice, but because she doesn't know better, since it's repeatedly written that way. FOR F*CK SAKE, If you claim to be into high-life and fashion, GET THE NAME OF THE BRAND RIGHT! Same with the Steve Hagen book she mentions in conversation later on, she quotes the title wrong ("Buddhism made Simple" in lieu of "Buddhism Plain and Simple")
Now, initially (after CH 1 or 2), I wrote in my notebook --This drips with all the insincerity of those 'Millionair Matchmaker' shows. Bonus point for the author for mentioning in Chapter 30 she dresses for the date following the shows advice. At about halfway through the book, I have readjusted my expectations on this read, and actually thoroughly enjoy judging the protagonist. (I'll admit, I have my own fair share of bad dates and choices that look stupid on paper, but. come. on.)
"The standard of men is just so much better (in London)" --> nope, they just have fatter purses. Be honest writer. "We don't share the same values." is what she writes to blow a certain man off. And true, some of his views (or all) were questionable, but that didn't bother the protagonist before. This was more a case of 'he wasn't rich enough'...
As the protagonist gets older (the dates are picked from a 10-year period, when the author was in her mid-30s to mid-40s), she gets more honest about her goals in life. She even can be funny at times. (I LOVED how she flipped the script on Mr. Establisment.) In the epilogue, a few more interesting points are raised, and another light shed on the author's personality (a bit vain?... "They were pretty much the only ones not interested in me. How is that even possible?" Well, dear author, because those 2 men were normal, and nice, and you behaved a bit like a... twat.) And yes, maybe investigative journalism is, in fact, your calling.
To close it off, the author has a nice arguement on why a man should pay for the date; that it is part of the dating/mating ritual, and not some form of inequality between men and women, it just shows that the man is willing to invest. Because at this point, the woman most likely has already invested a great deal (new dress, hair, make-up, nails...)
I did enjoy this book although sometimes I hated the character.
The idea of the book is brilliant and some of the stories are SO relatable and true. I personally dislike dating, probably because all the dates I’ve been on have been bad ones.
Like I said, I did not always like the main character very much, because sometimes she acts in a way that just makes her dislikable. But she is an interesting character as well and I did enjoy reading about her experiences.
Some of the dating sites mentioned in this book really made my interest rise and I actually checked them out. I did not sign up to any, but as an experience trying out those dating sites could be interesting.
And the ending is brilliant and totally surprising. I was not expecting that to happen, not at all!
A strong voice, yet showing vulnerability, the protagonist of this book Isabella is a woman who mainly knows what she wants but uncomfortably often doesn't get it. Her relentless search inspires, giving hope to other love searchers out there. Juicy stories, with heaps of self effacing, honest and humours recounts with laugh out loud moments, sprinkled with the high and lowes of good story telling. I'm left wanting more.
The title is catchy. The description says it is non-fiction, but the character and author names are different, so that would imply fiction – which one would write for privacy reasons anyway.
I have heard that European men are well behaved, in comparison to their overseas counterparts, and this indeed seems to be the case. Most of the dates have been polite, if not successful. Where are the chauvinists, misogynists and paranoids that make standard dating fare in less polite countries?
This chick seems good at seeing through B#S#, and able to have a good time despite various dating outcomes. She also must be very attractive to get positive responses from so many guys. Actually, I'm increasing my rating to 5* because I did really enjoy the story after I stopped expecting the dates to be EXTREME.
As a recently divorced woman after a 34 year marriage, I read this book wih great interest in what the potential dating scene ight look like for an older single woman. It was insightful, frightening and inspiring.
The author went to great lengths to keep optimistic and keep trying to find the right match. Sometimes you could see that she was heading down a bad trail, even before she got to the first date.
It was a fun and fascinating read. I was excited to read this every night and I couldn't put it down, but didn't want it to end. Reading this book was like talking with a girlfriend late into the night. Natasha Charles is a talented write that paints a vivid portrait of each date -- their physical looks, mannerisms, personality, etc.
I can't wait for this author's next book where she details her relationship with her husband. I'm eager to know if it's everything she hoped for all those years.
I received an advance review copy for free from Booksirens.com, and I am leaving this review voluntarily.
Charles can be the life of a party with this memoir. She's certainly lived a life I haven't, and I appreciate that. She has guts and be judgin' too! Then again, if these dates are based on real dates she had, then I'm in her corner.
As far as the protagonist's lifestyle, hobbies, and preferences goes, we're not on the same page. So, I couldn't always relate to why something was important to her. Even so, I had fun reading her bizarre, heterosexual dating life before her marriage. I could practically see her uncorking the next bottle of wine and leaning over her wine glass as the book went on. What a riot!
I liked how she'd be real about her financial situation and her moral standards. How her sexual attraction to men equate to what he did as a job or his payload. How far she would be willing to go on her quest for the one. Her endless curiosity for something that interests her is addicting; no two dates are the same. The epilogue is a swell ending with sound dating advice and hard truths.
Would've liked one or two more examples of her being a bad date to better support the equalizer educational tone she set from the start. There's maybe two or three? I guess being quick to say no could be considered rude, but that doesn't constitute a bad example. Got to find a harsher editor too. Typos and grammar errors kinda sapped the conversational energy for me when they popped up with surprising frequency.
The Extreme Dating Diaries of Isabelle Monroe is autofiction that is upfront and doesn't overstay its welcome. Pleasant break from other serious literature that I've been reading. Curious to know how she found her husband. Must have been a wonderful match!
I received an advance review copy for free, and I am leaving this review voluntarily.
This book wasn't at all what I expected when I started to read it. However it fascinated me. It's the story of a confident, outgoing person who is looking for the right person for her and the adventurous, sometimes incredible and very true to life dates she goes on. I think the main character - Isabelle, is a courageous person who shared what many people on dating sites experience every day. It's funny and makes you wonder why people keep trying to date if this is the world of dating. A great read.
I received an advance review copy for free, and I am leaving this review voluntarily.
The book seemed like an elaborative account of all dates gone wrong. Outright humorous, straightforward, practical and at times relatable observations about men and women in a relationship, the book was certainly fun to read. At times, it took the form of a relationship guide, with some real and quite relevant dating guidelines for both men and women, mostly for the first though. It could act handy for people finding it difficult to figure out what is going wrong in their relationship.
With an erotica tilt in the writing at times, at others a detective tilt, the book is filled with observations of human behavior and hilarious anecdotes. The author leaves quite an impression with her observational skills, with her random strands of thought and insights in to human relationships, seemingly acquired from quite an elaborate and varied experience.
With a bonus insight in relationships and general human behavior when looking for a partner, in a relationship or after getting out of one, the book is a quick, fun and quirky read overall.
I received an advance review copy for free and I am leaving this review voluntarily. I finished this book in less than 24 hours. This rarely ever happens. The chapters are short. It is an easy read.
I liked the book more as it progressed. In the beginning, I wanted to know more about the author. I got upset for her poor choices. Yet, I wanted to know more about what she was thinking as she was dating.
As the book progressed, she got a little stronger and set better boundaries. I accepted her more. Wanted to read more ( and grew to like her more) from her. I didn't find her writing or the book funny. At times found it sad or I had sympathy for her.
Dating is hard. The pool is not so good (thanks for affirming that for me). It's easier to hear about others experiences than using tinder or seeking arrangements yourself.
The book had a happy ending. She gave good dating advice. Yes, I would like to read another of her books.
A heavy dose of feminism, snobbiness and alcoholism, coupled with bouts of sexism, classism, promiscuity and hunting. Rounding it out with 'need a man to fix all my problems' *cough* lots of money *cough*
This book had me thinking.. Do people actually live like this?
Everything about this book is the total opposite of myself, which might be why I found it a bit of a hoot! It was a bit exciting to live in a completely different world for a day.
It's terribly shallow and I can see some people finding it problematic, but it's also a bit of fun if you don't take it too seriously.
Side note. Way too many typos for a published work.
*Free electronic copy received in exchange for an honest review
Nice book to flick through and read each date in short easy to digest chapters. The range of dates and different individuals encountered is fantastic, and the relentless drive to find the right partner is inspiring.
There were moments where I cringed, laughed and almost cried.
Unsure if it’s a memoir or fiction, but maybe that’s the fun?
This book is such fun, and I loved reading it. I must say 'Isabelle Monroe' is a great character and quite brave having undergone such interesting, and at times daredevil exploits, on her journey to find true love! I'm really looking forward to her next adventures!
I received an advance review copy for free, and I am leaving this review voluntarily.
In fairness to Natasha Charles, I wasn't really sure what I was reading in terms of genre based on the categorization offered by the website. My initial understanding was fiction/chick lit. It wasn't until I had finished a dozen or so dates that I realized it might be more of a non-fiction/memoir? How I react as a reader really does depend on the writing intent.
While reading through the main characters journey, I was struck by several thoughts. First, I thought she did a remarkable job finding insights from several dates/men when the opportunity was low. Born from that, I also recognize her efforts to remain positive throughout her journey. At some point (maybe Date 20?) I realized I was waiting for her cynicism to bubble up, or at the very least more palpable frustration.
Ultimately, I wanted to know more about the main character. I wish there had been a more concerted effort in establishing who she was and building her connection to the reader. What pieces did come came a bit too late for me to want to invest in her or her story. Because of that, I ultimately came away from the book more on the "meh" side of things rather than the "wow".
Portrayed as a fictionalized memoir, this book was unusual and somewhat unique. Isabelle is forty-something, resides in the U.K. and comes across as a serial dater searching for "something" that even she cannot aptly describe or decide upon. A bit of humor is in these pages , but I was left a bit dizzy at the number of dating apps utilized and the amount of dates she embarked on. She dates younger, older, richer, poorer, snazzy dressers and some who haven't showered in awhile😨😬 Overall, an amusing frolic of a read for this reader. Thank you to @booksirens for the free ARC of this e-book in exchange for an honest review. 3.5⭐️ out of 5⭐️ #booksirens #bookstagrammer #theextremediariesofisabellemonroe #nataliecharles #bookreviewer #booksamdmrdarcy #goodreads #withhernosestuckinabook❤️📚
We've always come across adults in the twenties and early thirties becoming despondent because they cannot get a date. This book is a new twist to the old trope.
The protagonist (the author) is a woman in her forties, looking for a good partner. She knows all the BS, she knows how to cut off bad men right in the bud. She is aware of what she wants and she demands them of her men.
I was really tired of all the book women looking to their men to "do something". Here was a woman who was telling men what she wanted exactly.
Though the book was good, it became repetitive after a while. Plus, some of the typographical errors put me off.
At the beginning I was intrigued with the dating exploits. There were enough details to describe the date, to picture the scene....but after awhile it was too much. I appreciate the fact that it lived up to the title, "Extreme", but for a small-town girl, this was a world I am not at all familiar with and in the end, it was too out-there. I did chuckle a time or two and I was curious as to what could possibly happen next.
I received a review copy for free and I am leaving this review voluntarily.
Hmmm. There was a guy on Tinder with this book in his photos - so before deleting the app again I thought why not take the recommendation. I enjoyed perhaps half the chapters but sorry I did skip some too. There wasn't enough the life around the dates perhaps or I'm just cranky. Off to try a moon letter as the lockdown begins again.
This is an interesting premise for a book and an entertaining, quick read. Isabelle meets a variety of men from various dating websites. Some dates are disastrous, some are excruciatingly awkward, while others reveal more about Isabelle's personality than that of her dates. There is plenty of humour along the way too.
With thanks to the author and BookSirens for my ARC.
I received an advance review copy for free, and I am leaving this review voluntarily. This book wound up being not quite what I expected, but was still enjoyable. The main character was not perfect but her flaws made her relatable.
Entertaining book, found it difficult to like the character after a few chapters. The author ironically described a date as ‘champagne taste, lemonade money’, which describes the main character perfectly. Did enjoy reading it though but found the character hard to warm to.