Lenny decía que su amiga tenía la culpa de que él la hubiera golpeado. Robert lamentaba profundamente haber agredido a Carol; él mismo llamó a la policía la noche en que lo hizo. Meyer fue capaz de dominarse instantáneamente; se contuvo cuando su hijo entró en la habitación y gritó: ¡No le pegues a mamá! ¿Qué es lo que esos hombres tiene en común? ¿En qué se diferencian de los demás? ¿Qué los hizo ser como son? Donald G. Dutton -quien investigó a setecientos hombres violentos y condujo el tratamiento de varios centenares más -responde a estas preguntas y analiza la cuestión fundamental: ¿es posible curarlos? Este libro arroja luz sobre los oscuros secretos de la violencia en las relaciones íntimas; por ejemplo, las causas específicas que desencadenan la agresión de estos hombres, las razones por las cuales su ira se dirige contra las mujeres o el propósito de los insultos y las amenazas -que pueden ser más peligrosos que los puñetazos y los puntapiés-, y concluye con la descripción del tratamiento que se aplica a los golpeadores y una serie de consejos prácticos destinados a prevenir la violencia conyugal.
Dutton is perhaps the pre-eminent researcher on violent males in relationships, particularly the "cyclical batterer," a man who is perniciously dependent upon his spouse or partner, this pathological need causing him to hate what he so needs. The cyclical batterer follows a stereotypical pattern of fulminating internal tension, followed by violent assault followed by spurious remorse, the latter the flip side of his dependence. In other words, the victim is either at his feet or on a pedestal. All his actions are frantic, often enraged, attempts to keep her with him - on his terms. The book is not a comprehensive look at all batterers - this book focuses most specifically on the cyclical batterer, who essentially shows a borderline personality structure. Other books, Dutton's own included, cover some of these other types, whose patterns of abuse and violence are quite different.
I really enjoyed the way this author explains. Clear, without too much technicality. I'd like to find other books of this kind, that explore different psicological profiles. As a medical student I found it both useful and interesting.
I wish there had been more information on individual therapy tools, but overall this is a great book for understanding the broken mental state of an abuser or out of control angry person (many of my clients).
With so much focus on victims, the batterer and what contributes to his behavior is frequently overlooked. By understanding that the batterer is created from a unique combination of genetic propensity, abusive/absent father, distant/disengaged mother, and societal trends denigrating women, maybe, just maybe future generations of children with abusive potential can be identified and interventions can be made to mitigate the damage of this inter-generational victimization cycle.
Dutton has made great strides in understanding the unique circumstances which create abusive people. This book is well written and the conclusions are well supported with clincal data. The next step will be developing early interventions for children exposed to violence in the home, and assisting victimized adults to reconnect with their children.
A definitive work on the cycle-of-abuse pattern of domestic violence and its perpetrators. Dutton distilled decades of work with batterers into this presentation of the roots and internal workings of this pattern of partner abuse and what works best in trying to change it. Especially useful is his section on early warning signs that are likely to show up in the beginning stages of a relationship and can serve as red flags warning the other person to get any more deeply involved.
This was research for a novel I'm writing. It's pretty dead-on as far as my experiences go. It was interesting to see a perspective from the abuser himself.