From Defiance to Cooperation: Real Solutions for Transforming the Angry, Defiant, Discouraged Child

by John F. Taylor

Change your child's life by turning negative behavior into positive traits.

How do you deal with a difficult and defiant child or teenager? What can you do if your child has been diagnosed with oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) or is resentful and constantly in trouble at school? Are there constructive ways to channel such oppositional energy and determination? Dr. John F. Taylor will tell you how.

Inside, you'll find new hope and hundreds of specific, sensible, and easy-to-implement suggestions for improving life with a rebellious and argumentative child. Parents and teachers—anyone who deals with difficult children, teens, or young adults—will also learn how to tap the potential of these natural-born leaders by discovering how

·Understand why an oppositional attitude exists
·Open up new, safer avenues for children to express needs and wants
·Enhance communication, avoid common mistakes, and reduce undesirable behavior
·Teach a child conscience-based self-control
·And much more!

240 pages, Paperback

First published June 26, 2001

Reviews

[Claire Hessing · Rating 1 out of 5]

I had such high hopes for this book. The beginning really identified Luke in a way that I never quite realized -- he just really likes to debate and I have such a hard time disengaging from that, so our 'discussions' easily turn into arguments/defiance.

BUT... the solutions that John F. Taylor, PH.D tried to give me were completely impractical. Maybe he has success in a clinical setting, but in real life I would have to consult a few chapters of 5 step guides because they are too wordy to memorize. And really, with a child who loves to debate, 5 steps is really just 5 invitations to contradict me and start another argument.

[Amelia · Rating 4 out of 5]

This took a much more sensitive approach than many of the other books, considering how the child is feeling as a whole more than just trying to fix their behavior.

[Sarah · Rating 4 out of 5]

I would deifnitely recommend this book to any parents who are struggling with defiant children or to professionals who work with children and families. Taylor advocates a two-prong appraoch to reducing oppositional behavior-love and guidance. He advocates strengthening the parent-child relationship while also implementing techniques to encourage cooperation. He provides parents many tools for improving communciation and avoiding power struggles. As a therapist, I feel that this book will be helpful to me in working with families and will definitely recommend it to my clients.

[Rochelle]

There is no f#<%ing way I'm continuing with this book. The author claims that his solutions won't be "lame" then he implies that kids are oppositional because you nag or yell and parents also drive their kids to suicide with their parenting techniques. Oh, and using sarcasm is tantamount to child abuse.