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Thank You for Rejecting Me: Transform Pain into Purpose and Learn to Fight for Yourself.
Our stories are riddled with the sting of rejection. It's feeling like a failure or being heartbroken. It's being left out or misunderstood. It's the parent who neglected us or the person who betrayed our trust. It's even in the way we think or talk about ourselves and question our relationship with God.
Whether it happened in grade school or last week, rejection can leave deep scars that affect our relationships, our self-worth, and our identities for years to come. And while we can't control when rejection appears, we can control how we react when it does.
In Thank You for Rejecting Me , popular relationship coach and podcaster Kait Warman shows you how to turn pain into purpose and fight for yourself when rejection comes your way. With chapters that focus on some of life's biggest rejections--being betrayed, abused, misunderstood, heartbroken, sexually shamed, and many more--this book offers practical tools to heal from the past, take back your power, and walk in strength, victory, and love in the future.
Whether it happened in grade school or last week, rejection can leave deep scars that affect our relationships, our self-worth, and our identities for years to come. And while we can't control when rejection appears, we can control how we react when it does.
In Thank You for Rejecting Me , popular relationship coach and podcaster Kait Warman shows you how to turn pain into purpose and fight for yourself when rejection comes your way. With chapters that focus on some of life's biggest rejections--being betrayed, abused, misunderstood, heartbroken, sexually shamed, and many more--this book offers practical tools to heal from the past, take back your power, and walk in strength, victory, and love in the future.
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First published February 16, 2021
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August 23, 2022
I really, truly wanted to like this book. I heard about this book from Kait's podcast, Heart of Dating, which I have really enjoyed and would definitely recommend for single Christians. But this book was not at all what I thought and I almost didn't finish it because it was so cringy. I thought that this book was going to be a super deep dive into Kait's heartbreak and how God used it for good and what she learned from it. And it definitely was that, but it was only like 1-2 chapters of the whole book. This book is really a Christian self-help book with how to deal with any sort of pain or hardship. But I thought there were some super problematic things in this book.
The chapter about sex was very concerning to me as a Christian. She never explicitly talks about sex before marriage as a sin, rather she calls it a wound that needs to be heals. And that "shaming" Christians who have sex before marriage is super bad and that any type of shame is wrong. It was more about how everyone made her feel bad afterwards rather than that she had done something wrong. Idk tell me I'm wrong, but I think we need to bring back a good shaming for something that is clearly sinful. Yes, there is so much grace for that, but I believe that a healthy shame is what brings us to repentance. I was disappointed that she never called it for what it is (sin) and never talked about repenting or living for purity instead (She may have done that, but she did not say it in the book).
This book was chalk-full of very secular language like using the phrase "my truth", using the world's messed up idea of self-acceptance and literally having Brene Brown quoted in every other page as the best thing to have happened to us outside of Jesus. The way that Christians understand ourselves and process pain and heartbreak is and should be radically different than the world, and Brene Brown might have one good thing to say about it, but man, if you are settling for Brene's take on life, then idk what to tell you. You're missing out big time.
Good things about this book: Kait has definitely been through some hard things that she has a really good perspective on. I definitely actually shed some tears because I could relate to her deep heartbreak experience that she had with a boy. She talked about how she let her heartbreak be the best thing that happened to her and chose to believe that God has something better for her. That is what I hoped the whole book would have been about because it was actually so good. Maybe that's the book I'll write one day ;) Anyways, I don't really recommend, unless you just want to hear what Brene Brown would sound like with some questionable and cringy Christian theology. Go check out Kait's podcast instead.
The chapter about sex was very concerning to me as a Christian. She never explicitly talks about sex before marriage as a sin, rather she calls it a wound that needs to be heals. And that "shaming" Christians who have sex before marriage is super bad and that any type of shame is wrong. It was more about how everyone made her feel bad afterwards rather than that she had done something wrong. Idk tell me I'm wrong, but I think we need to bring back a good shaming for something that is clearly sinful. Yes, there is so much grace for that, but I believe that a healthy shame is what brings us to repentance. I was disappointed that she never called it for what it is (sin) and never talked about repenting or living for purity instead (She may have done that, but she did not say it in the book).
This book was chalk-full of very secular language like using the phrase "my truth", using the world's messed up idea of self-acceptance and literally having Brene Brown quoted in every other page as the best thing to have happened to us outside of Jesus. The way that Christians understand ourselves and process pain and heartbreak is and should be radically different than the world, and Brene Brown might have one good thing to say about it, but man, if you are settling for Brene's take on life, then idk what to tell you. You're missing out big time.
Good things about this book: Kait has definitely been through some hard things that she has a really good perspective on. I definitely actually shed some tears because I could relate to her deep heartbreak experience that she had with a boy. She talked about how she let her heartbreak be the best thing that happened to her and chose to believe that God has something better for her. That is what I hoped the whole book would have been about because it was actually so good. Maybe that's the book I'll write one day ;) Anyways, I don't really recommend, unless you just want to hear what Brene Brown would sound like with some questionable and cringy Christian theology. Go check out Kait's podcast instead.
May 25, 2021
Definitely more like a 3.5 🌟 rating!
Overall contains such a good & necessary message to not let rejection define who we are & what we’re worth, but rather to let God do that. It read like a deep conversation with a friend, but some of the chapters I felt glossed over some important things while other chapters just simply didn’t apply to me.
The chapters on betrayal, failure, fomo & feeling like God is silent were my personal favorites!
Overall contains such a good & necessary message to not let rejection define who we are & what we’re worth, but rather to let God do that. It read like a deep conversation with a friend, but some of the chapters I felt glossed over some important things while other chapters just simply didn’t apply to me.
The chapters on betrayal, failure, fomo & feeling like God is silent were my personal favorites!
February 17, 2021
“It’s therapy on wheels!” Though Kait is a dating coach, this book is for anyone who has experienced rejection no matter your relationship status. Within the first few pages, you feel like you’re hanging out with your girlfriend on a Friday night. Her stories and experience are so relatable. Each chapter has scripture, additional resources and practical applications for each type of rejection. We all experience rejection in some form. After reading this book, I feel empowered to take back my life that I’ve given to rejection.
March 3, 2021
It is rare for me these days to binge a book in one sitting due to lack of time in my daily life, but I could not help but at least give this book a few hours of my time. Those three hours were indeed well-spent.
I have been following Kait Warman for a short while and one thing I admire about her is that seems like one of the nicest and kindest people around. I listen to her Heart of Dating podcast occasionally, so when the news came that she was releasing Thank You for Rejecting Me, I took every opportunity to pre-order it so I could have it in my hands as soon as possible.
The main theme of this book is that rejection comes in all shapes and forms; it is not just about heartbreak from romantic relationships (in fact, that topic is minimal in this book), but also rejection from yourself, friends, society, and God. This is to say, that this book can be read by pretty much everyone because of the relatability of her stories.
Staying on that topic, I want to briefly talk about the tone and approachability towards the reader. From my personal experience, when an author attempts to relate to you and speaks to you with overt familiarity, I get uncomfortable because the author tends to force it without your permission and it just feels disingenuous to me. What I found refreshing from Kait's tone is that you can tell from her writing that she is genuine and down-to-earth. She is telling you her stories because she wants to help and relate with the reader through common struggles. I also want to point out that Kait asks for permission to talk to you as if you knew each other. And to that, I say, yes, you can, thank you for asking.
One of my favorite parts from one of the last chapters is the denouncing of toxic positivity. Through the lens of grief and rejection, Kait plainly says that toxic positivity is nothing more than a Band-Aid that suppresses or denies the process of hopeful healing. That is all I'm going to elaborate about this because the full chapter is much more impressive and extensive than that.
Overall, this book came to me at the right time and I would gladly reread it again given the chance. It was refreshing, resourceful, and insightful.
I have been following Kait Warman for a short while and one thing I admire about her is that seems like one of the nicest and kindest people around. I listen to her Heart of Dating podcast occasionally, so when the news came that she was releasing Thank You for Rejecting Me, I took every opportunity to pre-order it so I could have it in my hands as soon as possible.
The main theme of this book is that rejection comes in all shapes and forms; it is not just about heartbreak from romantic relationships (in fact, that topic is minimal in this book), but also rejection from yourself, friends, society, and God. This is to say, that this book can be read by pretty much everyone because of the relatability of her stories.
Staying on that topic, I want to briefly talk about the tone and approachability towards the reader. From my personal experience, when an author attempts to relate to you and speaks to you with overt familiarity, I get uncomfortable because the author tends to force it without your permission and it just feels disingenuous to me. What I found refreshing from Kait's tone is that you can tell from her writing that she is genuine and down-to-earth. She is telling you her stories because she wants to help and relate with the reader through common struggles. I also want to point out that Kait asks for permission to talk to you as if you knew each other. And to that, I say, yes, you can, thank you for asking.
One of my favorite parts from one of the last chapters is the denouncing of toxic positivity. Through the lens of grief and rejection, Kait plainly says that toxic positivity is nothing more than a Band-Aid that suppresses or denies the process of hopeful healing. That is all I'm going to elaborate about this because the full chapter is much more impressive and extensive than that.
Overall, this book came to me at the right time and I would gladly reread it again given the chance. It was refreshing, resourceful, and insightful.
June 21, 2022
Personally I did not know where to rate this for a while, a few of the chapters I felt as if we were just getting to hear stories and than a quick shove at the end of the chapter on how to move past a certain type of rejection. The chapters all had a way to give this sort of emotion to God, but I felt that some lacked in lacing it in truth and felt more like the beginning steps of therapy and giving up control to God. HOWEVER I also don't think that is a bad thing, the book encourages you to work past it's pages and to wrestle through the topics on your own with God, to not just rest in her words to but wrestle through it in communication with God. Though the theme of romantic rejection is present in the book, it is very easy to apply to many different types of rejection. Personally this book was worth reading for the last couple of chapters alone.
March 14, 2021
This book is just utterly amazing. This book tackles multiple topics, and it gives you ways to help process and deal with them. It helps you to understand that it truly is okay to take your time, process your emotions, and to heal in a completely normal and healthy way. It doesn’t stamp on that toxic positivity that so often is done, but instead Kait is vulnerable and open about her struggles. She is open, honest, and vulnerable throughout the book, even admitting areas where she still struggles. She covers topics such as insecurity, rejection, silence from God, self-hatred, heartbreak, and so much more. I am so glad I got to read it, and I can’t wait to pass it on to someone else to read. Hopefully they get as much joy and healing from it as I did.
February 14, 2021
Simply put, Wow. I will say, be ready to have your heart and mind will be challenged in the way you think about rejection. From the beginning of the book till the end, Kait shares so vulnerably about rejections in her own life. From being in a toxic abusive relationship to fighting with her own inner self-worth. These stories, wisdom, and insight provide a starting ground for you to be able to heal in your own story of rejections and how amazing God is in our life. The practicals, thoughts, and questions Kait shares at the end of each chapter allow you to reflect and dive deeper into your own thoughts. If your thinking about reading this book, even as a dude, I highly recommend it. From one dude to another this book has truly helped me identify areas in my own life I am still working and growing in.
February 14, 2021
This book is clearly written by someone who understands what it means to be single as a Christian, what rejection feels like and even how we reject ourselves trying to live up to whatever standards the world throws at us. It is honest, deep, soul-searching, and healing when you dig into the questions she poses. I recommend it to men and women alike, single or dating, even married because we all face rejection but we don’t have to let it knock us down.
December 6, 2022
*3.5 stars* I can't believe I actually read a nonfiction book xD go me!
January 7, 2023
Look this book isn't that bad, I had my first doubts when God was mentioned a few times but I'm a big enough girl I can appreciate others believe in things that I don't.
There are stories within this book where we can all relate and the advice given isn't outlandish and can be followed without a huge inconvenience. Easy enough really.
The ties to the Church pop up in other areas and while toxic behaviour by others is stressed along the way, the issues caused by the Church and religion is glossed over until it comes to Satan.
Really? We're reading a book about taking accountability and working with our negative traits and how others see us, now the worst thing to happen to humanity was Satan and it's all his fault. Oh girl, no. No no no.
It's not Satan that made you be mean to those girls when you were younger and everything else the author listed as shameful behaviour in earlier chapters, that she was embarrassed of. But rather the belief the author has of a spiritual being she can punt the blame on to if she's not being her best self. That's not accepting yourself or taking accountability. It's shifting the blame while essentially rejecting the not so live laugh love persona being spoon fed to us here.
There are stories within this book where we can all relate and the advice given isn't outlandish and can be followed without a huge inconvenience. Easy enough really.
The ties to the Church pop up in other areas and while toxic behaviour by others is stressed along the way, the issues caused by the Church and religion is glossed over until it comes to Satan.
Really? We're reading a book about taking accountability and working with our negative traits and how others see us, now the worst thing to happen to humanity was Satan and it's all his fault. Oh girl, no. No no no.
It's not Satan that made you be mean to those girls when you were younger and everything else the author listed as shameful behaviour in earlier chapters, that she was embarrassed of. But rather the belief the author has of a spiritual being she can punt the blame on to if she's not being her best self. That's not accepting yourself or taking accountability. It's shifting the blame while essentially rejecting the not so live laugh love persona being spoon fed to us here.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
February 21, 2021
I’ve been following Kait for a couple years over on the Heart of Dating podcast - which I LOVE! She has so much influence in everything she talks on about Godly dating and singleness! When I found out she was releasing a book I had to purchase. I’ve struggled with rejection from job opportunities, dating men, self hatred etc. and I knew she would have so much wisdom to share and I had confidence that her book would be amazing.
This book has gone beyond my expectations, Kait is so empowering with her words and I feel as if I’m speaking with a friend as I read her book - I feel heard, seen and as if someone can understand and empathise those deep hidden emotional scars I’ve had from rejection.
I’ve learnt from this how to embrace the pain + rejection and how God has the power to transform and change the situation! ❤️ To not let rejection be the script for my life and how rejection is not the end!
No matter how old, what gender, what life story you have, relationship status this book WILL speak to you, as every person has experienced rejection in some shape and form and Kait speaks on every type of rejection!
This book has gone beyond my expectations, Kait is so empowering with her words and I feel as if I’m speaking with a friend as I read her book - I feel heard, seen and as if someone can understand and empathise those deep hidden emotional scars I’ve had from rejection.
I’ve learnt from this how to embrace the pain + rejection and how God has the power to transform and change the situation! ❤️ To not let rejection be the script for my life and how rejection is not the end!
No matter how old, what gender, what life story you have, relationship status this book WILL speak to you, as every person has experienced rejection in some shape and form and Kait speaks on every type of rejection!
February 20, 2021
I have been a big fan of Kait Warman and her Heart of Dating ministry for the last year, so I was thrilled to see her share her wisdom in a book. Not surprisingly, her authentic, vulnerable, and encouraging voice is equally as present in this book as it is on her podcast and other media! Her stories are reflective and relatable, and through each chapter, I've come to recognize and understand rejection in its many forms. The chapters on body insecurity, fitting in, failure, betrayal, and FOMO were especially relevant and powerful, but I also know I'll return to this book when I encounter other types of rejection that are inevitable. I believe anyone can find himself or herself in at least one of the chapters or have an excellent resource to share with a friend experiencing rejection. I now have a better toolkit to process each experience and value it as a learning opportunity! I absolutely love the thank you letters at the end of each chapter and find this a tremendously practical, helpful exercise to put the novel's message into practice.
February 15, 2021
This book is amazing! When I heard about this book, I was very interested. I joined Kait Warman's launch team and it was one of the best decisions I have made this year! Her book is very helpful in regards to identifying what one goes through with rejection and how to deal with it! She even has areas in each chapter that you can work on stuff with yourself to help you go even deeper into your feelings and issues that you have when dealing with rejection. She even writes in summaries so you can remember what you just read! I love how she says that rejection can be a positive thing and it is so true! This book is not boring it is very helpful guide. Kait Warman writes from her own experiences and tells how she overcame them. I liked this because I realized that I am not the only one who has felt these things. I would recommend this book to small groups in women church groups, book clubs, individuals, etc. I think this book is a great resource for women everywhere.
February 18, 2021
Wow.... just wow! There are so many wonderful things to be said about this book I truly don't know where to start. First off I love how personal Kait gets when she is sharing her journey to acceptance and love of her self through acknowledging and facing her rejections. We all experience rejection of all kinds, and this book shines as it leads the way to help us learn how to recover from those rejections and come out on the other side blossoming into beautiful flowers!
This book is literally for EVERYONE!! Men, women, friends and parents!! I would highly recommend this book to help guide you, and in turn it might help you to help someone else struggling through the pain of rejection. Be prepared, because this book definitely tackles some hard truths that will make you take a look at your own life and say "I have been there sister!" or "Whoa, that is painful". Best of all, "Rejection doesn't have the final word." - Kait Warman from Thank You For Rejection Me
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This book is literally for EVERYONE!! Men, women, friends and parents!! I would highly recommend this book to help guide you, and in turn it might help you to help someone else struggling through the pain of rejection. Be prepared, because this book definitely tackles some hard truths that will make you take a look at your own life and say "I have been there sister!" or "Whoa, that is painful". Best of all, "Rejection doesn't have the final word." - Kait Warman from Thank You For Rejection Me
Happy Reading!!
February 13, 2021
“Painful rejections have happened to me, and while they’ve hurt like crazy, they won’t stop me from getting back on my feet, fighting for myself, and finding purpose in the pain.”
When I first started reading this book, rejection was something that I never wanted to bring up. It was hidden. This book has definitely opened my eyes to the fact that the rejections that occurred in my life, helped transform me into who I am today. Kait is so relatable, she gives wonderful recommendations and activities to do to learn from past rejections. The book is well written to the point that you don’t have to read each chapter consecutively. I look forward to reading this book a group of women, that we can hold each other accountable and to support each other as we process through our rejections. Highly recommend reading this book.
When I first started reading this book, rejection was something that I never wanted to bring up. It was hidden. This book has definitely opened my eyes to the fact that the rejections that occurred in my life, helped transform me into who I am today. Kait is so relatable, she gives wonderful recommendations and activities to do to learn from past rejections. The book is well written to the point that you don’t have to read each chapter consecutively. I look forward to reading this book a group of women, that we can hold each other accountable and to support each other as we process through our rejections. Highly recommend reading this book.
February 17, 2021
If Taylor Swift wrote a book, or if Nicholas Sparks wrote non-fiction, Kait Warman's "Thank You For Rejecting Me" would be that book!
Kait so bravely lays it bare and shows you how the rejections she's faced have made her the strong, confident millennial woman she is today.
While Kait targets a female audience with TYFRM - and at times, she can be more girly-girl than a Julia Roberts chick flick - she does a fantastic job of making it relatable to a male audience because we guys deal with some of the same things, just from a different perspective.
Kait's writing is raw & authentic, hip, and never comes across as "holier than thou," while at the same time she makes you laugh, empathize, and think. By the end, you'll undoubtedly smile and proclaim the words "thank you for rejecting me!"
You won't regret taking this journey with Kait! 😀
Kait so bravely lays it bare and shows you how the rejections she's faced have made her the strong, confident millennial woman she is today.
While Kait targets a female audience with TYFRM - and at times, she can be more girly-girl than a Julia Roberts chick flick - she does a fantastic job of making it relatable to a male audience because we guys deal with some of the same things, just from a different perspective.
Kait's writing is raw & authentic, hip, and never comes across as "holier than thou," while at the same time she makes you laugh, empathize, and think. By the end, you'll undoubtedly smile and proclaim the words "thank you for rejecting me!"
You won't regret taking this journey with Kait! 😀
February 27, 2021
Wow! God for sure led Kait to bring these needed truths about rejection during these trying times. You can feel the passion and love that went into Kait pouring out her heart through her painful experiences. You can’t help but to empathize and relate with similar things you’ve gone through. I know I sure did. This book will help to transform how you think about rejection and show you how to get curious about the roots of your rejection and help you start the healing process as you dig deeper into how you’re feeling. Love that the book can not only be read cover to cover but if a certain chapter sticks out to you, start there and jump around. This feels like catching up with a good friend and getting a nudge from God that you got this and aren't going through rejections alone! Can’t recommend this read enough!
June 29, 2021
Kait Warman is best known for her dating podcast, but "Thank You for Rejecting Me" looks at multiple types of rejection - friendships, dating, rejecting ourselves, rejection because of our bodies, etc. Because it covered so many subjects, it didn't get too deep into any of them, but it did a good job of scratching the surface of all them. Kate's top points , questions, and to-dos at the end of each chapter were a great touch and added that much more to the book - people could read each chapter and then do some work if they needed.
I'm currently not in a season where I'm feeling a ton of rejection so while I enjoyed the book, I didn't have a ton of takeaways at the end. I think it could be very beneficial to those who are going through rejection especially with the opportunity to go to the specific chapter on the subject you're feeling rejected in.
I'm currently not in a season where I'm feeling a ton of rejection so while I enjoyed the book, I didn't have a ton of takeaways at the end. I think it could be very beneficial to those who are going through rejection especially with the opportunity to go to the specific chapter on the subject you're feeling rejected in.
December 24, 2021
This book is very well written and beautifully spoken in audiobook. Kait Warman is a lovely Christian speaker with a podcast called Heart of Dating. I've been listening to the podcast for a few years and I've definitely grown from what she has spoken about in the podcast. This book is a lovely exercise of healing and growth. I appreciate the work she is put into it and real, raw emotion she spoke with for the audiobook. I will definitely read this book again. The only thing I would have wanted to know more about is if her parents' divorce cause any rejection in her life too. This is her story of rejection in different from, from herself, from God, from friends and ex-lovers. She was physically and emotionally abused and this is her story of healing and success! She was definitely able to transform pain into purpose as she continues to heal and help others to heal too.
June 13, 2023
I want to preface this review by saying that I am a HUGE fan of Kait's ministry and the empowering truth she shares through Heart of Dating. Her podcast and social media posts are unafraid to tackle challenging issues with raw honesty and deep personal connections. That vulnerability, courage, and boldness comes through clearly as Kait tells her story, and these moments of authenticity really drew me in.
The one thing that bugged me about this book was how sometimes it lapsed into self-help tendencies more than biblically based advice. I wanted a little less Brene Brown and a little more Scripture woven in with Kait's testimony. After all, if we truly believe that the source of our greatest contentment is found in Christ, then we won't need to look inward at all, because our eyes will be turned outward toward the source of our fulfillment in Him.
The one thing that bugged me about this book was how sometimes it lapsed into self-help tendencies more than biblically based advice. I wanted a little less Brene Brown and a little more Scripture woven in with Kait's testimony. After all, if we truly believe that the source of our greatest contentment is found in Christ, then we won't need to look inward at all, because our eyes will be turned outward toward the source of our fulfillment in Him.
February 17, 2021
I was most intrigued by the title and thought hmmm, this sounds interesting. Rejection is something that we all face and yet it’s something we don’t always deal with. As I read Kait’s book, I saw the ways in which I held onto rejection. I noticed that it wasn’t an instant decision, but a slow, almost forgotten decision. The chapters are fairly short and you don’t have to read the chapters in order, which allows you to read at your own leisure. Each chapter ends with a letter, an ask, and a do. This allows you to take the time to ask the hard questions, dig deep in your response, and allow healing to happen. If you’re a man woman, Christian, non Christian, young, old, single, or married, this book is for you.
February 18, 2021
This book is phenomenal and lovingly written from the depths of Kait's heart! Her courage to share the darkest, painful stages of her life is so moving! I never thought I have experienced too many rejections in life and this book has encouraged me to dive deep into those wounds and find healing. While reading, I feel like I'm talking to my bestie that I feel so so seen, heard and loved just the same. I love how Kait did not only share her God stories but provided framework and tools to practically transform pain into purpose and learn how to fight for yourself. I see now how every rejection is a redirection and that it can be celebrated! Thank you Kait for your beautiful heart. Many people are blessed to have read this! <3
February 24, 2021
If we all know one obvious thing is that rejection is hard and wish we never had to go through it! Unfortunately, life doesn't always deal us the best cards! So we as women and men are forced to put ourselves and our hearts through the pain and hurt of being rejected! Whether from jobs, relationships, family, and friends! Luckily, this book my Kait Warman is what we have all been waiting for especially this girl! After being rejected from crush after crush and always being put into the friend zone. I am so grateful that Kait put her story and heart into such an amazing book to help me and so many others who have been heartbroken by rejection! Let me healing begin to live a thriving and full life!!
February 5, 2023
I’m very impressed by Kait in this book, being vulnerable to all in order to help heal all. This is about more than heartbreak and rejection by men, but by yourself. She puts it this way in her conclusion:
“We all have notes of rejection strung along in our story—whether it’s abuse, betrayal, sexual shame, not fitting in, being uninvited, being told no, or even the brutal strings of our own self-rejections that come in the dangerous forms of self-hate and stifling insecurity. These rejections can keep us small and scared. They can destroy every ounce of goodness within us, even paralyze us from moving forward. Or they can become things we grow through, learn from, and one day claim as victory.
Which story do you want to live?”
“We all have notes of rejection strung along in our story—whether it’s abuse, betrayal, sexual shame, not fitting in, being uninvited, being told no, or even the brutal strings of our own self-rejections that come in the dangerous forms of self-hate and stifling insecurity. These rejections can keep us small and scared. They can destroy every ounce of goodness within us, even paralyze us from moving forward. Or they can become things we grow through, learn from, and one day claim as victory.
Which story do you want to live?”
November 6, 2024
2.5 stars.
-Though it does touch on God here & there, I would say it’s much more ‘me’ focused rather than ‘He’ focused.
-The previous point is not that surprising since I saw that Kait follows some openly & blatantly anti-friendly-to-Christian-morality American political figures on social media (who actively push for things very against the Bible). This support falls in line with what I would consider a fluffy form of Christianity & this book is something I would also consider somewhat fluffy overall.
-I did not enjoy all the references to celebrities. I think it was supposed to be fun & cute, but I just found it kind of annoying. (& To quote Brene Brown OF ALL PEOPLE so many times…..).
-I was also turned off by the multiple mentions of the specific place the author got therapy from (a company who do wellness workshops & retreats). It felt like a sponsorship.
-I did still have a decent number of highlights, so that should still count for something.
-Though it does touch on God here & there, I would say it’s much more ‘me’ focused rather than ‘He’ focused.
-The previous point is not that surprising since I saw that Kait follows some openly & blatantly anti-friendly-to-Christian-morality American political figures on social media (who actively push for things very against the Bible). This support falls in line with what I would consider a fluffy form of Christianity & this book is something I would also consider somewhat fluffy overall.
-I did not enjoy all the references to celebrities. I think it was supposed to be fun & cute, but I just found it kind of annoying. (& To quote Brene Brown OF ALL PEOPLE so many times…..).
-I was also turned off by the multiple mentions of the specific place the author got therapy from (a company who do wellness workshops & retreats). It felt like a sponsorship.
-I did still have a decent number of highlights, so that should still count for something.
March 23, 2025
Full disclosure, I listened to the audiobook, so my take may be slightly different than those that read the book.
I really wanted to love this book. A few times throughout, it came across more as a Brené Brown fan piece. Additionally, if I had to listen to the author say, "hashtag [insert thing or phrase]," or "ballin'" one more time, I was liable to roll my eyes permanently into the back of my head. So, as far as writing style goes, it was a 1.5/5 stars for me.
For any readers wanting more of a secular lens on life, this book is probably a good fit.
Generally speaking, many of the messages of this book are great. I did find a few little golden nuggets and enjoyed the encouragement Kait Warman enthusiastically gives the readers.
I really wanted to love this book. A few times throughout, it came across more as a Brené Brown fan piece. Additionally, if I had to listen to the author say, "hashtag [insert thing or phrase]," or "ballin'" one more time, I was liable to roll my eyes permanently into the back of my head. So, as far as writing style goes, it was a 1.5/5 stars for me.
For any readers wanting more of a secular lens on life, this book is probably a good fit.
Generally speaking, many of the messages of this book are great. I did find a few little golden nuggets and enjoyed the encouragement Kait Warman enthusiastically gives the readers.
February 15, 2021
If you need a book to help you regroup and reset after a rough season - Look. No. Further.
Kait uses a wonderful blend of humor, humility and honesty to walk through all the rejection we face with charm and familiarity. We all face some form of rejection, whether it is in a romantic relationship, a job, family, or even the most important, but very overlooked, self-rejection. Kait willingly uses her experiences to showcase Biblical truths and useable tools to reframe rejection into blessing and opportunity. You won’t regret becoming Kait’s new bff as she joins you in your journey through the many faces of rejection in your life, and celebrates with you on the other side!
Kait uses a wonderful blend of humor, humility and honesty to walk through all the rejection we face with charm and familiarity. We all face some form of rejection, whether it is in a romantic relationship, a job, family, or even the most important, but very overlooked, self-rejection. Kait willingly uses her experiences to showcase Biblical truths and useable tools to reframe rejection into blessing and opportunity. You won’t regret becoming Kait’s new bff as she joins you in your journey through the many faces of rejection in your life, and celebrates with you on the other side!
February 18, 2021
This book is a book that I needed to read. I really struggle with self-rejection and perfectionism. They can be huge downfalls in my life. This book talked about these topics with such grace and such honesty. Kait was not afraid to share her heart and struggles to help others through these same struggles. Kait shares so much about so many different kinds of rejection and the grace, love, and hope that God showers us with through all kinds of rejection. This book is a must-read and one of my favorite books of the year. If you have gone through any rejection or are in the middle of rejection, this book is for you.
February 21, 2021
I appreciated the author's intentions with the book, but the book is wordy. Each chapter looks at a different struggle we may have with ourselves, and/or may have experienced during our life. From this, the author then discusses how each of these is a form of rejection, that either we have done to ourselves, or have experienced from others. I enjoyed reading the author's life stories, and her transparency, but overall the book fell flat. I found it long winded and scattered. It struggled to really tie all it's many parts to the central theme of learning to be okay with rejection. This book is also more self-help than Christian living. Overall, it meant well but was not well written.
March 2, 2021
It's honest, written with so much courage and vulnerability. It's written in a conversational style, almost as though you were pouring out to a friend. I'm very sure that many will relate to some if not all of the contents but either way I believe there is something for everyone. She definitely has broadened my perspective of the issue of rejection. As I listened to the audio book, I was able to appreciate the value and necessity of having an authentic undiluted relationship with God. I already know 1st hand how messy trauma healing is, in fact, healing in general is messy but if we embrace even the mess along the way, we'll get to also see the beauty that sprouts from the mess.
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