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Neighborliness: Finding the Beauty of God Across Dividing Lines
Jesus' simple command to love God and neighbors can feel overwhelming when our neighbor looks and lives differently than we do. Racial and economic tensions across the country have resulted in deep dividing lines that can be intimidating to cross.
"Neighborliness" is a practical guide to bridging those dividing lines and learning to recognize and amplify the beauty of God in our communities.
We become the neighbors Jesus was talking about when we learn about the issues that have divided us and engage with people who have had different life experiences than us. With real life stories and examples of neighborliness in action, pastor and professor David Docusen aims to show how heaven on earth can be more fully realized when we do something as simple as start a conversation.
"Neighborliness" is a practical guide to bridging those dividing lines and learning to recognize and amplify the beauty of God in our communities.
We become the neighbors Jesus was talking about when we learn about the issues that have divided us and engage with people who have had different life experiences than us. With real life stories and examples of neighborliness in action, pastor and professor David Docusen aims to show how heaven on earth can be more fully realized when we do something as simple as start a conversation.
220 pages, Paperback
Published January 1, 2020
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July 18, 2020
I’ve struggled with faith in that I’ve always been passionate about social justice issues, but I’ve seen a huge hypocrisy in the church with how they handle those issues. David’s book gave me hope again. He makes it clear (biblically) where Christians should stand on issues of social justice. No politics, just research and personal experiences and the Bible. This book is also easy to read while providing so much great information and challenging questions.
December 17, 2020
A tremendous primer, particularly for Evangelical churches and Christians who have never done real work in considering the biblical call to justice. Highly recommend for small groups.
August 11, 2020
Neighborliness is a beautifully written book that is difficult to categorize in terms of genre. Part memoir, part social analysis, part plan of action, the book explores what happens when Christians reach across the dividing lines of race and economic class. In that sense, it is one man’s journey representing a potential destination for American churches.
David Docusen, the book’s author, is by turns a church planter, founder of a community development organization, and itinerant minister who wants to focus the American church’s attention on racism and economic inequality.
The book opens, as all good odysseys do, in the middle of the story. “We all look alike,” he said to himself tearfully as he surveyed his congregation gathered for worship one Sunday morning in Charlotte, North Carolina. Same race. Same economic status. Same stage of life.
Charlotte is a diverse city, however. Desiring to see that beautiful diversity reflected in the church that started in his living room, Docusen began a personal journey of building relationships across neighborhoods, which also meant across the lines of race and economic status.
Along the way, Docusen learned a lot about the way racism and income inequality have shaped our communities, separating us from one another. Out of a desire to help people holistically, he started a community development organization called Freedom Communities, whose motto is “Disrupting the cycle of intergenerational poverty one family at a time.”
The book’s greatest strengths are Docusen’s graceful way of telling stories that illuminate complex social and economic trends. This is where the book shines. Pastors who read the book can learn much from following Docusen’s example of building relationships with other pastors throughout the city, of listening to the needs of the poor from their own mouths, of realizing that no community — however poor it may be — lacks resources, and many other lessons.
There’s also a smack in the face to churches that want to send volunteers to city-center churches but who don’t first ask those churches what they actually need. There’s nothing worse than a church more concerned with a public pledge of volunteer hours than in helping others in terms that they understand as actually helping them.
One lacuna in the book, at least for this minister, was evangelism. Docusen is quite right that the gospel extends to all of life. Gospel-minded Christians thus must be concerned about race and income inequality. However, there’s a transformative power to evangelism that I am sure Docusen recognizes — he is a minister, after all — but doesn’t highlight in this book.
That aside, Neighborliness got me thinking that there are holes in the Christianity I practice related to race and income inequality. And these holes also exist in local churches throughout America. We should proclaim the gospel, and then demonstrate it through how we relate to others, especially those whose color and financial status are different than our own.
Book Review
David Docusen, Neighborliness: Finding the Beauty of God Across Dividing Lines (Austin, TX: Fedd Books, 2020).
P.S. If you liked my review, please click “Helpful” on my Amazon review page.
David Docusen, the book’s author, is by turns a church planter, founder of a community development organization, and itinerant minister who wants to focus the American church’s attention on racism and economic inequality.
The book opens, as all good odysseys do, in the middle of the story. “We all look alike,” he said to himself tearfully as he surveyed his congregation gathered for worship one Sunday morning in Charlotte, North Carolina. Same race. Same economic status. Same stage of life.
Charlotte is a diverse city, however. Desiring to see that beautiful diversity reflected in the church that started in his living room, Docusen began a personal journey of building relationships across neighborhoods, which also meant across the lines of race and economic status.
Along the way, Docusen learned a lot about the way racism and income inequality have shaped our communities, separating us from one another. Out of a desire to help people holistically, he started a community development organization called Freedom Communities, whose motto is “Disrupting the cycle of intergenerational poverty one family at a time.”
The book’s greatest strengths are Docusen’s graceful way of telling stories that illuminate complex social and economic trends. This is where the book shines. Pastors who read the book can learn much from following Docusen’s example of building relationships with other pastors throughout the city, of listening to the needs of the poor from their own mouths, of realizing that no community — however poor it may be — lacks resources, and many other lessons.
There’s also a smack in the face to churches that want to send volunteers to city-center churches but who don’t first ask those churches what they actually need. There’s nothing worse than a church more concerned with a public pledge of volunteer hours than in helping others in terms that they understand as actually helping them.
One lacuna in the book, at least for this minister, was evangelism. Docusen is quite right that the gospel extends to all of life. Gospel-minded Christians thus must be concerned about race and income inequality. However, there’s a transformative power to evangelism that I am sure Docusen recognizes — he is a minister, after all — but doesn’t highlight in this book.
That aside, Neighborliness got me thinking that there are holes in the Christianity I practice related to race and income inequality. And these holes also exist in local churches throughout America. We should proclaim the gospel, and then demonstrate it through how we relate to others, especially those whose color and financial status are different than our own.
Book Review
David Docusen, Neighborliness: Finding the Beauty of God Across Dividing Lines (Austin, TX: Fedd Books, 2020).
P.S. If you liked my review, please click “Helpful” on my Amazon review page.
March 17, 2022
“If there was one thing I would leave you with after our time together, it is the charge to explore your heart and courageously look inward before you try to engage in relationships across dividing lines.” The primary message woven through each chapter of this book is to first look inward, with humility, and consider whether our hearts are postured to love our neighbors well. Docusen helps to shine light on our potential blind-spots. Are we curious? Are we willing to be wrong in our assumptions? Are we willing to take uncomfortable steps to mend broken relationships and social structures?
Docusen was my pastor for a couple years, and I was able to witness this message burn in his heart. His passion shines in this book, and I have huge respect for him and his work to bring unity and neighborliness into our communities.
Docusen was my pastor for a couple years, and I was able to witness this message burn in his heart. His passion shines in this book, and I have huge respect for him and his work to bring unity and neighborliness into our communities.
October 29, 2020
This book was recommended to me by a friend of the author, even though I left the church years ago. She’s been reading, learning, and listening, to try and be a better ally to people of color.
I may have left Christianity, but I do racial justice work and I’m intrigued by Christ-followers’ ability to be a part of racial equity work. And so, I ordered this.
To make a long story short: a lot of words are covered in yellow highlighter, and there are many a handwritten comment in the page margins.
Particular favorites of mine were: the introduction, and chapters 3, 4, and 8. It is refreshing to know that there are white men becoming humble and vulnerable enough to admit ignorance and lay out the[ir] need for growth in writing for others to see and know. It’s validating to know that what I have heard from multiple generations of elders, and what I now also say, is materializing in people’s minds.
As a bonus for people that need the book for their own growth, there are quality sets of questions for each chapter at the back of the book, as well as additional suggested reading.
I may have left Christianity, but I do racial justice work and I’m intrigued by Christ-followers’ ability to be a part of racial equity work. And so, I ordered this.
To make a long story short: a lot of words are covered in yellow highlighter, and there are many a handwritten comment in the page margins.
Particular favorites of mine were: the introduction, and chapters 3, 4, and 8. It is refreshing to know that there are white men becoming humble and vulnerable enough to admit ignorance and lay out the[ir] need for growth in writing for others to see and know. It’s validating to know that what I have heard from multiple generations of elders, and what I now also say, is materializing in people’s minds.
As a bonus for people that need the book for their own growth, there are quality sets of questions for each chapter at the back of the book, as well as additional suggested reading.
August 16, 2020
I know the author of this book and was very excited about reading it. I started it at 1 pm in the afternoon and didn’t put it down until 7 pm when I finished it. Obviously, this was a book that spoke to me in so many ways. The very first line of the story is”We all look alike.” I have been struggling with this most of my life. My friends are just like me and when we live in a homogeneous bubble, it is easy not to see the inequality around us. Even though I have volunteered with many non profits I can’t say I have established any relationships with people of color. Docusen says “sustainable and meaningful change will come when genuine relationships between rich and poor begin to form.” “All too often, however, people who have experienced a measure of wealth believe that their resources and ideas are what will bring change to a community.”
His chapter on Toxic Charity tells a familiar story for many of us who go into low income neighborhoods or go on mission trips for a few days to serve. All well meaning but often times misguided because we haven’t asked the neighborhood what they wanted but instead give them what we think they need. Docusen himself relates a story of his youth ministry when he was involved with Saturday Sidewalk Sunday School. He says this was more about him and his friends than it was about those in the neighborhood. It is easy to fall into this trap of doing good to check off service hours. The main message is we need less outreach and more relationship building.
Docusen lives in Charlotte, NC which is also my hometown. He was instrumental in developing Freedom Communities in West Charlotte which is a high poverty area. This will be a holistic family centered community focusing on education, affordable housing, employment, and healthcare. Long time residents of this community are included in the planning and leadership. This is a crucial part of the success of this type of development. While our tendency is to jump in and fix what we see as a problem, Docusen says “ we are called to listen and learn from others and add our voice when we have something substantive to say.”
Our neighbors are all around us not just on our street or in our zip code. Our friendships should reflect the diversity of our city, across lines that divide our communities. A powerful story about finding your neighbors. Great discussion questions at the end for group studies.
His chapter on Toxic Charity tells a familiar story for many of us who go into low income neighborhoods or go on mission trips for a few days to serve. All well meaning but often times misguided because we haven’t asked the neighborhood what they wanted but instead give them what we think they need. Docusen himself relates a story of his youth ministry when he was involved with Saturday Sidewalk Sunday School. He says this was more about him and his friends than it was about those in the neighborhood. It is easy to fall into this trap of doing good to check off service hours. The main message is we need less outreach and more relationship building.
Docusen lives in Charlotte, NC which is also my hometown. He was instrumental in developing Freedom Communities in West Charlotte which is a high poverty area. This will be a holistic family centered community focusing on education, affordable housing, employment, and healthcare. Long time residents of this community are included in the planning and leadership. This is a crucial part of the success of this type of development. While our tendency is to jump in and fix what we see as a problem, Docusen says “ we are called to listen and learn from others and add our voice when we have something substantive to say.”
Our neighbors are all around us not just on our street or in our zip code. Our friendships should reflect the diversity of our city, across lines that divide our communities. A powerful story about finding your neighbors. Great discussion questions at the end for group studies.
September 1, 2020
Hopefully, the smarter and more eloquent readers of “Neighborliness” will leave reviews that do its message justice. All that I can say is that it is imperative for Americans, Christian and non-Christian alike, to read this book and ponder what the author, David Docusen, has to say.
Christian readers face a put-up-or-shut-up choice as Docusen lays out exactly what it means to abide by what he calls the two halves of Jesus’s greatest commandment (love God and love your neighbor as yourself).
For those less familiar with the Christian faith, there is still plenty to glean from “Neighborliness.” The statements the author makes, as well as the paths forward that he describes, are logical and should be able to help all readers, irrespective of any religious affiliation, envision how we, as a country, can arrive at an equitable future.
The timing of the release of this book could not have been more perfect.
Christian readers face a put-up-or-shut-up choice as Docusen lays out exactly what it means to abide by what he calls the two halves of Jesus’s greatest commandment (love God and love your neighbor as yourself).
For those less familiar with the Christian faith, there is still plenty to glean from “Neighborliness.” The statements the author makes, as well as the paths forward that he describes, are logical and should be able to help all readers, irrespective of any religious affiliation, envision how we, as a country, can arrive at an equitable future.
The timing of the release of this book could not have been more perfect.
August 31, 2020
Was blessed to spend some quality time with David, the author, and received this book as a gift. Love his story and the book that resulted. This is an insightful, challenging and compelling look at the current state of racial divide in our country and (most important) how we as disciples of Christ need to respond. I appreciate so much that he speaks from first hand knowledge of his own personal growth as a young white man, as well as a pastor leading a largely white/homogeneous church to a new level of awareness and engagement in their beautifully diverse community.
June 30, 2022
Wow! Honestly, where do I even begin? This was such a beautiful memoir to read and it truly is an essential asset in today’s aspects of faith. In times of such division and exclusion, this book is sign of hope that love and restoration still exists. I simply pray that God will bless more Christians with the ability to get ahold of this book in learning how to truly be neighbors just as mentioned in scripture. ❤️
July 18, 2022
I thought this was a contemplative look at the marginalization of people and our role in being a neighbor. The whole book weaves together the reflection and call to action of living out the two halves of the greatest commandment: love God, love people. This takes self examination before execution, so this read was a good launching place to examine motives, systems, and where our hearts truly rest.
December 17, 2020
As a Lead Pastor of a church in the middle of a city this book was a great way to introduce people to the topics of systematic racism and generational poverty and the church.
David does a wonderful job of breaking down difficult truths and challenging ideas for those who’s eyes are just now opening.
David does a wonderful job of breaking down difficult truths and challenging ideas for those who’s eyes are just now opening.
March 24, 2022
It really ought to be required reading for anyone claims Christ. So many of of us are stuck in our homogenous circles and Christ wants us out of them, embracing, loving, (not judging) those around us who aren't.
The pandemic made this homogeneity even more pronounced, so we have to try that much harder.
Absolutely phenomenal read.
The pandemic made this homogeneity even more pronounced, so we have to try that much harder.
Absolutely phenomenal read.
September 14, 2020
I loved this book for the content and for the roadmap for action. I have so many thoughts swirling now about what I personally do next. Thanks to my wonderful friend, Gina, for sharing this amazing book with me.
April 19, 2021
Wow! What an amazing, powerful, & insightful look into how to bridge the gap of dividing lines. David Docusen shares his real life & deep heart with the reader & invites them on this most important journey!
Must Read Now!
Must Read Now!
September 3, 2020
Part admonition, part instruction, part personal experience; a discussion concerning building relationship with impoverished and diverse communities.
October 29, 2020
I enjoyed this book a lot, especially the focus on how to practically help areas of injustice. I also appreciated that the author demonstrated the multiple stories that lead to injustice.
February 3, 2022
Excellent book!
March 3, 2021
SUMMARY: Without many in the white evangelical church even knowing it there are usually two baked in assumptions when we try to help our poor or oppressed neighbors. One, that we have the answers and a fresh perspective to problems that have plagued communities for generations and two, that our short term volunteer work is more helpful than harmful.
"Volunteerism that is not rooted in relationship and understanding can be toxic," Pastor David Docusen writes.
Docusen weaves personal stories of learning, embarrassment and hope with the evolution of his church, Center City Church (Orlando, FL) moving from an affluent part of the city to an impoverished part. His colloquial writing style makes the book a quick read while his questions to reflect on scattered throughout various chapters make one stop and think.
Docusen's premise is that we need to help the poor and oppressed, but not in short term mission trips or other ways that benefit the person volunteering. To make true change in a community we must first listen, learn, form relationships, be patient, and build a holistic long term plan with leaders in a community.
"A lack of patience causes many well-meaning people not to take the proper amount of time to listen, learn and holistically work with longtime residents," Docusen says.
The group discussion questions at the back of the book are excellent as are his recommended additional resources.
Some books on weighty matters can get bogged down in theology or spend a significant amount of time in the weeds making it a slog to get through - this book is not one of them. A great beginning to start a journey on what is means to love our neighbor.
KEY QUOTE: "Processing and engaging with matters relating to racial and socioeconomic inequality takes time. You may be compelled to try and to take action or use your influence to fix an issue. However, you may do more harm than good if you do not take the time to listen, learn and grow in your own heart first. Tension is accompanied by discomfort. Discomfort leads to prayer, repentance, and growth. Engage discomfort. Embrace it and learn from it. It has a lot to teach you."
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"Volunteerism that is not rooted in relationship and understanding can be toxic," Pastor David Docusen writes.
Docusen weaves personal stories of learning, embarrassment and hope with the evolution of his church, Center City Church (Orlando, FL) moving from an affluent part of the city to an impoverished part. His colloquial writing style makes the book a quick read while his questions to reflect on scattered throughout various chapters make one stop and think.
Docusen's premise is that we need to help the poor and oppressed, but not in short term mission trips or other ways that benefit the person volunteering. To make true change in a community we must first listen, learn, form relationships, be patient, and build a holistic long term plan with leaders in a community.
"A lack of patience causes many well-meaning people not to take the proper amount of time to listen, learn and holistically work with longtime residents," Docusen says.
The group discussion questions at the back of the book are excellent as are his recommended additional resources.
Some books on weighty matters can get bogged down in theology or spend a significant amount of time in the weeds making it a slog to get through - this book is not one of them. A great beginning to start a journey on what is means to love our neighbor.
KEY QUOTE: "Processing and engaging with matters relating to racial and socioeconomic inequality takes time. You may be compelled to try and to take action or use your influence to fix an issue. However, you may do more harm than good if you do not take the time to listen, learn and grow in your own heart first. Tension is accompanied by discomfort. Discomfort leads to prayer, repentance, and growth. Engage discomfort. Embrace it and learn from it. It has a lot to teach you."
MORE: Visit SundaytoSaturday.com where we curate content for the church.
May 26, 2022
I’ve recommended this book to several people, before I ever finished reading it. My basic assessment was that it is a top quality book that speaks to “love thy neighbor” in very literal ways. Theological books that touch racial reconciliation either spend the entire time justifying behaviors, or are so deep and heavy they’re too difficult to get through.
The author does a great job of story telling and giving incredibly practical things to do to open up your mind, heart, and life to people who don’t look like us.
He also does an incredible job of raising the reader’s awareness to not necessarily dive in to “fixing” a certain neighborhood of group of people. But to instead build relationships. From there, the Lord will allow for the ability for us to learn and grow in our understanding of what needs can be met.
Anyone who wants a safe, healthy book to read on the church and racial reconciliation, I wholeheartedly recommend this book. Anyone who wants a safe, healthy book to read on practical steps to take in diversifying your life, friend group, neighborhood, or work space, I wholeheartedly recommend this book.
The author does a great job of story telling and giving incredibly practical things to do to open up your mind, heart, and life to people who don’t look like us.
He also does an incredible job of raising the reader’s awareness to not necessarily dive in to “fixing” a certain neighborhood of group of people. But to instead build relationships. From there, the Lord will allow for the ability for us to learn and grow in our understanding of what needs can be met.
Anyone who wants a safe, healthy book to read on the church and racial reconciliation, I wholeheartedly recommend this book. Anyone who wants a safe, healthy book to read on practical steps to take in diversifying your life, friend group, neighborhood, or work space, I wholeheartedly recommend this book.
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