زندگی ارزش زیستن دارد

by Matthew McKay, پرویز علیزاده (Translator), فرزانه صفری (Translator)

هدف زندگی چیست؟ هدف زندگی من چیست؟ آیا من زندگی هدفمندی دارم؟
افراد به شیوه‌های مختلفی به دو سؤال اول پاسخ می‌دهند. اما سؤال سوم کاملاً متفاوت است. هیچ گریزی از پاسخ گفتن به آن وجود ندارد. شما خودتان شاهدی حی و حاضر هستید که نشان می‌دهد زندگی‌تان هدفمند بوده است یا خیر. اما برای اینکه به این سؤال پاسخ دهید، باید بدانید که برای چه چیزی زندگی می‌کنید. آیا می‌دانید در زندگی‌تان چه چیزی واقعاً بیشترین اهمیت را دارد؟ آیا هدفمند بودن در زندگی‌تان بااهمیت است؟ اگر اینگونه نیست، زمان آن فرا رسیده است که از خواب بیدار شوید.
این زندگی شما است و مهم است که زندگی خوبی داشته باشید. اینکه چگونه زندگی می‌کنید بر شما و افراد دیگری تأثیرگذار است. درک این نکته حقیقتاً بااهمیت است. رویکرد شما نسبت به زندگی می‌تواند به گونه‌ای باشد که از لحظه لحظه زندگی‌تان بهترین استفاده را ببرید.
متیو مک‌کی این بار به مقوله ارزش در زندگی پرداخته است. در این کتاب با استفاده از درمان مبتنی بر پذیرش و تعهد (اکت) و تمرینات توجه‌آگاهی یاد می‌گیرید به‌جای انتظار کشیدن برای زمانی که احساس سرزندگی می‌کنید در هر لحظه از زندگی روزمره‌تان به آنچه برایتان ارزش و اهمیت دارد بپردازید. این کتاب راهنمای شماست برای اینکه یاد بگیرید از سردرگمی ایام گذشته، ترس از شکست، خود قضاوت‌گری عبور کنید و به شور و اشتیاقی که شما را به خود واقعی‌تان پیوند می‌دهد دست یابید. شما سزاوار یک زندگی هدفمند که در راستای عمیق‌ترین ارزش‌هایتان باشد، هستید.
با این کتاب شما کشف خواهید کرد چگونه:
• شور و اشتیاق خود را دریابید و به آن عمل کنید
• در هنگام تعارض ارزش‌ها، راه خود را پیدا کنید
• بر آنچه واقعاً برای تحقق رویاهایتان اهمیت دارد تمرکز کنید
• تأثیری پایدار بر دنیا بگذارید
پس منتظر چه هستید؟ همین امروز زندگی‌تان را تغییر دهید.

Genres: Psychology, Self Help, Nonfiction

272 pages, Paperback

First published November 1, 2010

About the author

Matthew McKay, PhD, is a professor of psychology at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, and author of more than 30 professional psychology and self-help books which have sold a combined total of more than 3 million copies. He is co-founder of independent self-help publisher, New Harbinger Publications. He was the clinical director of Haight Ashbury Psychological Services in San Francisco for twenty five years. He is current director of the Berkeley CBT Clinic. An accomplished novelist and poet, his poetry has appeared in two volumes from Plum Branch Press and in more than sixty literary magazines. His most recent novel, Wawona Hotel, was
published by Boaz Press in 2008.

Reviews

[Jennifer · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is written by three doctors who have been through life-altering experiences and who wish to share the wisdom they have to help others make the decision to live their lives on purpose. Though the introduction is as deep as the writers get in terms of self-disclosure of life-lessons learned, they do offer some examples of patients they have had in terms of applying some of their suggestions. The first and most important suggestion being; Live your life according to your values. They try to help you discern what your values may be and encourage mindfulness practices for discovering cognitive, emotional and behavioral barriers. This book covers a lot in it's 209 pages. It is written for the average person, so it lays things out simply and there are insightful quotes starting each chapter. While this book introduced people to Mindfulness and Acceptance strategies, and outlines a lot of good information, it seems like only the starting block to implementing an action plan. I would encourage people who have just finished this book to move onto The Passion Test The Passion Test: The Effortless Path to Discovering Your Life Purpose , which I found to be highly motivational, enlightening and encouraging, and/or Who Are You Meant to Be? Who Are You Meant to Be?: A Groundbreaking Step-By-Step Process for Discovering and Fulfilling Your True Potential for a more personal look at how your life can be better oriented to your personality and your values.

[David · Rating 4 out of 5]

The exercises, philosophy, and pacing are clunky and variable. There’s a good effect from going through it, but unfortunately it’s also poorly organized in terms of flow and thought process, and a tad too prescriptive.

Nonetheless I recommend it because there seems to be a lack of books like this in the marketplace.

Some of us have arrived at a point in life where we realize we need some help finding direction. Not mental peace or mental health or positive thoughts or care even, but simply the will and awareness of self-advocacy through time. Some of us find that what we’ve been robbed of that no one can give us is a direction in life.

Because once we’ve freed ourselves from the yoke of old masters, we need a bit of coaching to not fall back into old patterns of misery. To learn how to choose for ourselves. This book helps with that in a way your therapist would approve of, rather than your boss, friends, lovers, family, or fellow citizens. This is different than identifying boundaries or traumas, nor is it planning things out or cheering you on. It’s the critical in-between brain lobes that for some of us are atrophied, the part that is a delicate ganglion or two that quietly whispers to us what we’d be satisfied with for all time.

Why aren’t there more books like this?

[Marziyeh · Rating 1 out of 5]

زندگی ارزش زیستن دارد اما این کتاب ارزش خواندن ندارد!

[Elnaz · Rating 1 out of 5]

کتاب خوبی نبود

[Devorah Royal · Rating 4 out of 5]

It's a very good book, especially if it's one of the first you read in this subject area. Pros: It breaks things down very well, and uses a scientific based methodological approach. Very clear and covers a lot of bases. Cons: Although the authors attempt to inspire, the overall tone is a little lacking in that department. Especially in comparison to other inspirational books on life purpose. However, those usually don't break it down and explain what's really happening, as well as they do here. Basically, it depends what you are trying to get out of this book. Decide based on above pros and cons if this is the right book for you now.

[Terry · Rating 5 out of 5]

An very inspirational book. It tells what motivates you and what is the cost you must pay. Pain is evitable, so dignify your pain.