I highlighted SO MANY sections. Now it is time to really process all of these good thoughts!
CHAPTER 2
As long as we let fear drive our actions, those limitations are true. By allowing fear to call the shots in our lives, we validate every doubt, every insecurity, and everything that might hem us in or hold us back. But the moment we allow ourselves to feel hope - the moment we commit to following through instead of just talking about it, the moment we face our fears head-on and refuse to grant them any more power - is the moment we can change everything about our lives.
CHAPTER 3
I had to allow myself to find the freedom that comes in the present - the lightness that comes when we choose to stop living in the past and decide to meet ourselves where we are in the present moment.
When we make moving on our goal, we set ourselves up for failure because it’s not a viable goal. We can’t rewind or erase the past. Moving forward is our only real option. We rebuild our lives with our new identities, incorporating the empathy we’ve gained, the wisdom we’ve earned, and the strength we’ve discovered. We carry those lessons with us, and we become fuller, more complex people because of our experiences, not in spite of them.
CHAPTER 4
I get a choice in this. I get a choice in this.
staying true to myself even when my circumstances gave me every reason to drift - it was a reminder of where I came from and how much that anchored me in who I was choosing to become.
When we draw our identity from our own passions and core values rather than someone else’s expectations, only then are we able to fulfill our greatest potential… it’s up to each of us to turn our excuses into fuel.
CHAPTER 5
As long as I wasn’t giving up, I was still making progress.
Sometimes we have to be willing to make the hard decisions between what we want in the moment and what we desire for our future.
When we give ourselves permission to work through our emotional scars, we aren’t admitting weakness; we are finding the power to meet ourselves where we are.
The key to getting through it is to realize it’s actually not a setback at all. It doesn’t mean that anything is “wrong” with you or that you somehow didn’t “do grief right” the first time around. It just means that you are a part of everything you have experienced, and everything you have experienced is a part of you. This is just one more step on the path toward where you ultimately want to be.
CHAPTER 7
When I finally recognized my value in not only what I could offer to the world but also what I inherently possessed as a person, I was no longer plagued with worries or insecurities; day by day, I found the courage to shed old behaviors and patterns of thinking.
CHAPTER 8
We all have an inherent desire to be recognized and celebrated for everything we can do and everything we have accomplished instead of being characterized by what others may perceive as a loss. Our ability to succeed in this pursuit lies in the truth that we define our limitations; our limitations don’t define us unless we allow them to do so. When we are afraid of reliving a trauma, an embarrassment, or a hurt, we end up making decisions from a place of fear. We are afraid of the possibility of comin in last, so we never even try…. but the difference between first place and last is infinitely smaller than the difference between last place and never even having tried.
We can’t give in to our limitations, but we can’t ignore them either. Instead, we have to redefine them, which requires active effort on our part. We must invest ourselves into pushing beyond whatever perceived restrictions our bodies, brains, or backgrounds can put on our lives. We can’t wish away our circumstances or passively hope they will change on their own. It is up to each one of us to reshape, reimagine, and redefine the limitations in our lives - every single day, with every decision we make. When we redefine our limits, we redefine what is possible.
Our bodies and our brains can hold on to pain that makes it difficult to move forward; yet, if we don’t move forward, we run the risk of leading a hemmed-in life that reflects all the opportunities we didn’t take and the joy we never even tried to chase.
CHAPTER 9
How do we find the balance between stopping - stepping back to refocus so we don’t end up working against ourselves and our ultimate goals - and just plain quitting?
I began to measure victories not by the outcome, but by the investment: Did I give everything I had that day to accomplish my best?
I could choose to trust myself and Steve’s coaching to draw out the very best I could offer that day, or I could allow the doubts to flood my mind and end up racing scared. Only one path would give me the chance to accomplish what I went to Charlotte to do. So I did what I knew how to do best: I put my head down and threw every ounce of strength I had at my goal.
Our willingness to fail is, in fact, what leads us to our greatest achievements.
Failing is simply not realizing your goals. We can’t lose our focus when that happens - and it will happen. That’s just life. Being a failure, on the other hand, is not meeting your potential. It’s not leaning into the fullness of who you have the power to be. It’s not realizing goals because you never even attempted to reach them.
CHAPTER 10
Courage is not letting fear eliminate hope.
CHAPTER 11
It is so easy to get lost in comparing ourselves to where we once were or what someone else is doing, using it as a metric to justify telling ourselves we aren’t enough. The only problem is, when we do that, nothing will ever be enough. A comeback is rooted not just in challenging your body but also in changing your perspective.
My emotional scars are every bit as real as my physical ones. That doesn’t mean they control me, and they certainly don’t define me. They simply are a reminder that I’ve been through some rough times and I’ve made it through to the other side.
CHAPTER 12
There are two ways to view the future: What if? and Why not? Looking forward through a lens of What if? subconsciously places limits on our potential, anticipating failure rather than allowing ourselves to see the vastness of possibilities that lie before us. On the other hand, Why not? recognizes we have an inherent right to chase that dream, no matter the odds, and it roots our goals in a mindset where anything is possible.
Adaptability is a powerful tool…. Mental strength can carry you further than physical strength alone. And when you have nothing to prove, you also have nothing to lose.
We all face sudden moment of impact = those unforeseen, unexpected, life-altering moments that send our lives on a trajectory we would never have dreamed of. Our legacy, however, is not defined by those moments but by the choices that come after. We write our own stories through the decisions we make every single day to rise above, adapt to, or redefine whatever knocked us off one course and onto another… Your world may never return to what it was prior to your sudden moment of impact, and your life might be forever changed - but maybe, just maybe, it is this very hardship that will carry you forward beyond anything that you dared dream possible.