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Happily Ever After Again: Hope, Healing & Love For Second Marriages
This book is for people who are struggling in their second marriage and wondering if they can hold on. It is written by someone who has gone through many of the struggles. This book will help you:
● Understand why second marriage is so hard
● Feel encouraged to hold on
● Learn to let go of your past
● Understand how to deal with personality differences
● Learn principles for connecting with your stepchildren
This book, unlike many of the books out there, is focused primarily on the healing of the individuals in the marriage and their marriage together, instead of primarily on the stepfamily.
Every chapter has helpful reflection questions or exercises to help you apply the principles you have just learned.
Gain hope and a new vision for your second marriage and rediscover the dreams that led you to going down the aisle in the first place!
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Sharilee Swaity has a strong academic interest in the subject of relationships. With a B.Ed. in English Education and ten years of classroom experience, Sharilee witnessed first-hand the effects of divorce and family breakdowns on children and families.
Sharilee uses her personal experiences and a series of interviews with real-life second married couples to demonstrate the issues and problems faced by people in a remarriage situation. Her book is based on research and contains interactive elements in every chapter.
Sharilee and her husband, Vern are in their second marriage and live in the woods of Central Canada. She has helped her husband raise two now-grown sons. They now share their home with three cats and occasionally witness a bear on their deck.
Endorsement
In a world where marriages come and go, and where there are caring people struggling to make a go of a second or third marriage, Sharilee’s book is a breath of fresh air and a source of hope and a future.
No remarried husband or wife or stepchild can afford to miss reading this book, reflecting on its guidance and growing through its application.”
--Alex Cross, pastor at Wayside Gospel Chapel
● Understand why second marriage is so hard
● Feel encouraged to hold on
● Learn to let go of your past
● Understand how to deal with personality differences
● Learn principles for connecting with your stepchildren
This book, unlike many of the books out there, is focused primarily on the healing of the individuals in the marriage and their marriage together, instead of primarily on the stepfamily.
Every chapter has helpful reflection questions or exercises to help you apply the principles you have just learned.
Gain hope and a new vision for your second marriage and rediscover the dreams that led you to going down the aisle in the first place!
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Sharilee Swaity has a strong academic interest in the subject of relationships. With a B.Ed. in English Education and ten years of classroom experience, Sharilee witnessed first-hand the effects of divorce and family breakdowns on children and families.
Sharilee uses her personal experiences and a series of interviews with real-life second married couples to demonstrate the issues and problems faced by people in a remarriage situation. Her book is based on research and contains interactive elements in every chapter.
Sharilee and her husband, Vern are in their second marriage and live in the woods of Central Canada. She has helped her husband raise two now-grown sons. They now share their home with three cats and occasionally witness a bear on their deck.
Endorsement
In a world where marriages come and go, and where there are caring people struggling to make a go of a second or third marriage, Sharilee’s book is a breath of fresh air and a source of hope and a future.
No remarried husband or wife or stepchild can afford to miss reading this book, reflecting on its guidance and growing through its application.”
--Alex Cross, pastor at Wayside Gospel Chapel
234 pages, Paperback
Published May 21, 2020
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August 15, 2017
I read this book via an Amazon-US KINDLE unlimited download.
As a romance author who is also a voracious book reviewer, I read a wide variety of genres for all ages; so, naturally my favorite genre to review is romance. Romance has a multitude of subgenres, and of these, second chance romances is one of my favorites.
In reading a second chance romance the characters involved have gone through a traumatic experience such as a horrendous separation or even worse a divorce, which causes them to carry a lot of baggage around afterwards. When they finally do find someone they’re fearful about history repeating itself, and it doesn’t if it’s the guy or the woman, they both shared the same apprehensions about falling in love again; although the woman feels it more. They must overcome their trepidations if they’re ever going to have the HEA they desire.
In this book, the author, Sharilee Swaity, doesn’t deal with a fictional romance; she deals with real life situations and real people. And in doing this the author analyses the reasons from why married couples have disagreements in their relationships to why their marriages fall apart.
To accomplish this the author includes real life stories and studies in addition to her own personal second marriage experiences which also includes her husband’s. I loved reading the honest advice she gives to have a second marriage not have the pitfalls the marriage might have had. There is a definite need to in knowing how to overcome conflict before it gets out of control, and to resolve any disparities which might exist between either half of a marriage to the other.
Perhaps there’s some truth in Frank Sinatra’s song “The Second Time Around”:
Love is lovelier the second time around
Just as wonderful with both feet on the ground
It's that second time you hear your love song sung
Makes you think perhaps that love, like youth, is wasted on the young
Love's more comfortable the second time you fall
Like a friendly home the second time you call
Who can say what brought us to this miracle we've found?
There are those who'll bet love comes but once, and yet
I'm oh, so glad we met the second time around
Who can say what brought us to this miracle we've found?
There are those who'll bet love comes but once, and yet
I'm oh, so glad we met the second time around
For having given her readers palatable information for the possibility of a second marriage being successful, in an empathetic manner, how can I not give Ms. Swaity the 5 STARS she deserves.
As a romance author who is also a voracious book reviewer, I read a wide variety of genres for all ages; so, naturally my favorite genre to review is romance. Romance has a multitude of subgenres, and of these, second chance romances is one of my favorites.
In reading a second chance romance the characters involved have gone through a traumatic experience such as a horrendous separation or even worse a divorce, which causes them to carry a lot of baggage around afterwards. When they finally do find someone they’re fearful about history repeating itself, and it doesn’t if it’s the guy or the woman, they both shared the same apprehensions about falling in love again; although the woman feels it more. They must overcome their trepidations if they’re ever going to have the HEA they desire.
In this book, the author, Sharilee Swaity, doesn’t deal with a fictional romance; she deals with real life situations and real people. And in doing this the author analyses the reasons from why married couples have disagreements in their relationships to why their marriages fall apart.
To accomplish this the author includes real life stories and studies in addition to her own personal second marriage experiences which also includes her husband’s. I loved reading the honest advice she gives to have a second marriage not have the pitfalls the marriage might have had. There is a definite need to in knowing how to overcome conflict before it gets out of control, and to resolve any disparities which might exist between either half of a marriage to the other.
Perhaps there’s some truth in Frank Sinatra’s song “The Second Time Around”:
Love is lovelier the second time around
Just as wonderful with both feet on the ground
It's that second time you hear your love song sung
Makes you think perhaps that love, like youth, is wasted on the young
Love's more comfortable the second time you fall
Like a friendly home the second time you call
Who can say what brought us to this miracle we've found?
There are those who'll bet love comes but once, and yet
I'm oh, so glad we met the second time around
Who can say what brought us to this miracle we've found?
There are those who'll bet love comes but once, and yet
I'm oh, so glad we met the second time around
For having given her readers palatable information for the possibility of a second marriage being successful, in an empathetic manner, how can I not give Ms. Swaity the 5 STARS she deserves.
July 23, 2017
I loved this book on second marriages. As someone who has been married and divorced, this book spoke so much to me. The author examines everything from why our marriages broke down to why we have conflict in our marriages. I appreciated the stories, studies, and life lessons the author included. The book was positive and encouraging. It also gave genuine advice on how to navigate marriage.
She also guides you on how to ensure this second marriage is a success! Some great insights on how to resolve conflict, how to deal with personality differences and parent stepchildren.
She made second marriages sound palatable, possible and even desirable. If you’ve given up on marriage, read this book.
She also guides you on how to ensure this second marriage is a success! Some great insights on how to resolve conflict, how to deal with personality differences and parent stepchildren.
She made second marriages sound palatable, possible and even desirable. If you’ve given up on marriage, read this book.
September 30, 2017
Second marriages are complicated. You may be in love, but there’s all that history with the exes, the blending of past lives, dealing with custody issues and resentful stepchildren, and the fear that this marriage won’t work out either. In this book, Swaity offers advice and exercises to help people in their second marriages deal with the pitfalls. She shares her own experiences, plus those of several other couples, along with her research. What’s here is fine, but I wish she had delved deeper into these issues and made her exercises more challenging. Also, as one of many people who never had children because my husband already had kids and didn’t want to have any more, I wish she had addressed that situation.
April 28, 2019
Very down to earth
My husband and I have been thankfully, very happily married in both of our second marriages for almost 14 years. I enjoyed reading this book, because parts of it were very relatable. I enjoyed the honesty that the author used in writing this book and feel that people can gain a lot of insight from what she has to say.
My husband and I have been thankfully, very happily married in both of our second marriages for almost 14 years. I enjoyed reading this book, because parts of it were very relatable. I enjoyed the honesty that the author used in writing this book and feel that people can gain a lot of insight from what she has to say.
May 14, 2022
A simple book that gives tips, examples, and hope for dealing with challenges for remarried couples.
The author admits that she's not a psychologist or a psychiatrist, but writes about her own experience and personal research.
The author admits that she's not a psychologist or a psychiatrist, but writes about her own experience and personal research.
May 31, 2020
I found this book helpful in the beginning, but it quickly takes an acute turn into dealing with stepfamilies / mixed families, specifically step-parent, step-child, and step-sibling relationships, and that is not something that applies to my situation. So I wish the author and publisher had been more up-front, because I feel like I wasted some time with a book that did not fully apply to me. I kept waiting for the advice to direct back toward the couple (which it does at various points throughout the book), but it's sprinkled with a bit too much of the step-family content to *not* mention that is a main focus out the gate.
In addition, this is decidedly Christian content, so be aware. Would not recommend to readers who'd prefer to have their therapy and their faith kept separate (myself included). Though I'm giving two stars because I appreciate that this book is willing to tackle ground not visited in many books about marriage or divorce or whatever comes after.
In addition, this is decidedly Christian content, so be aware. Would not recommend to readers who'd prefer to have their therapy and their faith kept separate (myself included). Though I'm giving two stars because I appreciate that this book is willing to tackle ground not visited in many books about marriage or divorce or whatever comes after.
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