I'm having mixed feelings about how to review this book. The fact that someone, anyone, doesn't even matter who it is, made the effort of writing a book about her infertility struggles and her experiences throughout that journey is commendable and absolutely worth of praise. I'm so happy that this is 'out there' because this topic is relatively unknown to most people even though 1 in 6 (!) couples struggle with these issues; whether they just happen to need more than one/two years to naturally conceive or they go through the full rollercoaster of IUI, IVF, miscarriages, etc.
So, it's actually very common and still hardly anyone opens up and talks about it, possibly feeling ashamed, even in the very open-minded and progressive country that I'm from and live in (which is not the US) resulting in it being a kind of taboo for many people. Which is unneccessary and causes people to give these couples very hurtful (though well-intentioned) comments and 'advice'.
Going through this kind of long and painful journey would feel much less lonely for most couples if people in general are a bit more aware of what it entails and how they can best support their friends, family and colleagues if any of them are going through it.
When I started reading this book I hadn't heard of Samantha and Kyle Busch before. They were complete strangers to me. Apparently they are 'celebrities' in the US. I didn't know this and this allowed me to read this book without any background or prejudice about these people.
Maybe because of this it came to me as a surprise that at least the first half of this book is basically Samantha giving the reader a full story of how she got to know Kyle, what her life was like back then, how their relationship progressed, how they got engaged, where they went on holidays and getaways, how they decorated their motorhome, what they ate, where they slept, how he proposed her, and every single detail about them planning the wedding, the full wedding day, etc.
It was exasperating! Omg...it went on and on and it was so sappy! Too much detail, too much of everything, and the writing style didn't help either (trying too hard with crossword puzzle words). I felt like giving up on this book.
Then finally my perseverance was rewarded when the life story arrived at the start of the couple's bewilderment when they realised that it was taking much longer than they had expected to conceive. There were a lot of things that I recognised from my own experience and I was able to empathise with them and feel comforted at the same time.
Just like with the irrelevant love story section, Samantha is very generous with details here, which I appreciated very much. To read about how she felt through all of this, how it affected her relationship with Kyle and her friends and family, how she experienced taking the IVF medication, how she dealt with the many dissapointments and with her early miscarriage, etc. I can imagine this to feel like a healing experience for other women going through it.
Please be aware though that Samantha's experience isn't everyone's. Hers is very emotional and highly dramatic. I know it doesn't have to be like that for everyone, it is very personal.
At the end of the book there is a section with presents the reader with some sound advice on what you can do to find your resilience and hope when you feel it's slipping away, which institutions and clinics she recommends (in the US), and more. I very much appreciated this section, because it felt very down to earth and it lacked the drama of the rest of the book which I sometimes found a bit much.
All in all, I'm happy I have read this book and appreciate Samantha for her openness. The last section of the book resulted in rating this book 3 stars instead of 2.
Thank you Netgalley for this ARC.