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Fighting Infertility: Finding My Inner Warrior Through Trying to Conceive, IVF, and Miscarriage

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Samantha Busch uses her voice to break the silence that surrounds the infertility community in this raw and relatable account of her journey with IVF, loss, and faith.

Samantha Busch, wife of NASCAR champion Kyle Busch, knows the thrill of the racing circuit, but she also knows the heartache and despair of infertility. She shares both in this honest and relatable account where faith, family, love, and loss intersect.

As Samantha’s and Kyle’s public lives grew more pronounced, their private life was being torn apart. The frustrations and uncertainty of their fertility problems took a toll on them as individuals and as a couple, creating a cyclone of emotions that threatened everything they had worked so hard for. Through these trials, they learned how to build a stronger relationship, foster a deeper faith, and find humor through the tears. They also discovered a passion for helping other couples gain access to fertility treatments.

In this memoir, Samantha uses her voice to break the silence and stigma that surround the infertility community. She details her battle with infertility, including her IVF experience, her miscarriage, a failed cycle, and the overwhelming grief and depression that surrounded these obstacles. By sharing practical advice as well as candid and inspiring stories of her journey, she provides support, validation, community, and education for others experiencing similar tribulations.

Fighting Infertility is an opportunity to feel understood, to gain strength through the struggle, and to ignite your inner warrior.

272 pages, Paperback

First published March 30, 2021

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41 reviews5 followers
December 10, 2020
I'm having mixed feelings about how to review this book. The fact that someone, anyone, doesn't even matter who it is, made the effort of writing a book about her infertility struggles and her experiences throughout that journey is commendable and absolutely worth of praise. I'm so happy that this is 'out there' because this topic is relatively unknown to most people even though 1 in 6 (!) couples struggle with these issues; whether they just happen to need more than one/two years to naturally conceive or they go through the full rollercoaster of IUI, IVF, miscarriages, etc.

So, it's actually very common and still hardly anyone opens up and talks about it, possibly feeling ashamed, even in the very open-minded and progressive country that I'm from and live in (which is not the US) resulting in it being a kind of taboo for many people. Which is unneccessary and causes people to give these couples very hurtful (though well-intentioned) comments and 'advice'.
Going through this kind of long and painful journey would feel much less lonely for most couples if people in general are a bit more aware of what it entails and how they can best support their friends, family and colleagues if any of them are going through it.

When I started reading this book I hadn't heard of Samantha and Kyle Busch before. They were complete strangers to me. Apparently they are 'celebrities' in the US. I didn't know this and this allowed me to read this book without any background or prejudice about these people.
Maybe because of this it came to me as a surprise that at least the first half of this book is basically Samantha giving the reader a full story of how she got to know Kyle, what her life was like back then, how their relationship progressed, how they got engaged, where they went on holidays and getaways, how they decorated their motorhome, what they ate, where they slept, how he proposed her, and every single detail about them planning the wedding, the full wedding day, etc.
It was exasperating! Omg...it went on and on and it was so sappy! Too much detail, too much of everything, and the writing style didn't help either (trying too hard with crossword puzzle words). I felt like giving up on this book.

Then finally my perseverance was rewarded when the life story arrived at the start of the couple's bewilderment when they realised that it was taking much longer than they had expected to conceive. There were a lot of things that I recognised from my own experience and I was able to empathise with them and feel comforted at the same time.
Just like with the irrelevant love story section, Samantha is very generous with details here, which I appreciated very much. To read about how she felt through all of this, how it affected her relationship with Kyle and her friends and family, how she experienced taking the IVF medication, how she dealt with the many dissapointments and with her early miscarriage, etc. I can imagine this to feel like a healing experience for other women going through it.
Please be aware though that Samantha's experience isn't everyone's. Hers is very emotional and highly dramatic. I know it doesn't have to be like that for everyone, it is very personal.

At the end of the book there is a section with presents the reader with some sound advice on what you can do to find your resilience and hope when you feel it's slipping away, which institutions and clinics she recommends (in the US), and more. I very much appreciated this section, because it felt very down to earth and it lacked the drama of the rest of the book which I sometimes found a bit much.

All in all, I'm happy I have read this book and appreciate Samantha for her openness. The last section of the book resulted in rating this book 3 stars instead of 2.

Thank you Netgalley for this ARC.
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77 reviews2 followers
April 18, 2021
I have been a fan of Samantha and her husband Kyle for a decade, and I was super excited to support her and read her book. I have never been pregnant or tried to become pregnant, so I definitely cannot relate to her struggles, but I have always found her interesting and wanted to see how she told her story regardless.

I don’t know what I expected from reading the life story of a multi-millionaire... but this was probably the most pretentious thing I have ever read. The only time Samantha acknowledges her privilege is when she (very) briefly mentions her IVF charity and how she wanted to help couples that couldn’t afford IVF. The rest of the book was... rough. About half of the book takes place before her and Kyle even realize they’re having problems conceiving. She goes on and on and on about the luxuries of her life, including her million dollar custom-built motorhome, multiple exotic vacations, multiple cars, and perhaps the worst of all, the multiple chapters about her wedding. I don’t think she knows that it isn’t common-place to have an entire wedding planning team, and how hard is is to pick a wedding theme. In fact, I don’t think she knows that most people cannot relate to anything she is talking about at all. How many friends she has, how big and happy her family is, how many people were at her wedding... it’s blatant bragging and hard not to roll your eyes at.

That being said... I know I’m not her target audience and I can see how this book might help someone struggling with fertility feel less alone, which is why I’m giving this 3 stars instead of 2. The chapters that actually dealt with her struggle to conceive were raw, especially when she shared how she almost lost her marriage, or when she found out she miscarried hours before the NASCAR banquet. That took true courage to share, and I’m sure it’s helped countless women. I wish she focused more on the tough things like that rather than how she custom-designed her wedding dress.

I also must add that this book was a bit more religious than I thought it would be, which I could not relate to but it surprisingly didn’t bother me much. What did bother me was the aggressive gender norms. She decided to have a son first so that he would be able to protect her daughter?? When they decided to go through with another embryo transfer after the birth of their son to try to have a daughter, Kyle said he would kill anyone that tries to date her??? It was very backwards and cringe.
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October 29, 2020
I have always appreciated how openly and honestly, Samantha Busch has shared their infertility journey through her social media influence. It can be such an incredibly isolating experience, and she has done such a wonderful job of normalizing this sometimes long and heartbreaking path to having a family. Their Bundle of Joy Foundation has helped so many families with the financial hurdle of infertility treatments, and I admire that they have made this such a big part of their public platforms.

While I have been somewhat familiar with the Busch family through our family's love of NASCAR, I was surprised by just how much I enjoyed this book. Samantha writes in such a conversational manner that this ended up being a book I read in one sitting. It felt like chatting with a friend, and as someone who appreciates talking about the real parts of life, I loved that she shared it all, both the joys and the struggles.

I always enjoy hearing about how couples met, and this was a very fun part of this book. She is open and honest about their IVF journey and the challenges, both physical and emotional, that have come along with it. Additionally, I appreciated the realistic view about long-term partnerships/marriage and the work that goes into having a healthy and long-lasting relationship.

I am grateful to have had the opportunity to read an egalley of this book and I know it will be comforting to many readers who have struggled with similar challenges. Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for the gifted copy. As always, all opinions are my own.
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107 reviews2 followers
March 3, 2022
We have been NASCAR fans for a few years and have always love Kyle and Samantha Busch. When I saw that she had a book coming out, I was so excited to read it. I have followed her on Instagram and had some knowledge about her struggle with Infertility.. but This book was so personal, open, raw, and quite possibly one of the best memoirs I have read. All I ask in a memoir is to be real.. and she definitely was. I hope she has a second book to talk about her journey with a surrogate and the birth of her daughter!
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3,296 reviews59 followers
October 21, 2020
Samantha and Kyle Busch are incredible people; sharing all of their joys and sorrows with us in order to benefit others. This book is a look into their lives and it is all out there, in your face. Nothing is sugar coated. I laughed out loud and cried while reading this book. I cannot imagine going through what they did to have their children. I read about a side of Kyle Busch that we never see at the track.
There is a lot of information here for couples regarding infertility and IVF. It was an incredible read.
And I absolutely love the cover
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240 reviews6 followers
March 15, 2021
In this book, you follow Samantha on her journey to become a mother. Like many other women experiencing infertility issues, Samantha experiences a roller coaster of emotions on any given day. She vividly describes her emotions in all the ways they are contorted but make sense to someone experiencing them. In reading her words, I found comfort, and my loneliness in my own feelings was tended to. There were parts of this story that made me laugh, some made me feel emotional and sad for her, and other times I felt aggravated by her. Samantha writes in a way that makes me feel like I'm going along with her to her doctor appointments, that I am sitting there grieving my own pregnancy losses with her, and this is often what draws me in and makes me really appreciate a book. Samantha is someone I would want as my ally in my fight for removing the stigma of infertility and raising its awareness, but I would have a hard time being her friend. I am not religious so I could not connect with her on that and that seemed to drive a wedge between me and my ability to connect with her writing. There was honestly, I appreciated that. I felt that the book was a relatively easy read and it didn't take a lot of brain power to try to decipher anything. Samantha used very accessible language and I didn't feel that this was a challenging read. I would recommend this book to someone who has gone through pregnancy loss but already has a living child (therefore, experienced a second or third pregnancy loss after a first successful one) or anyone who is struggling to get pregnant and would like to hear or read an uplifting success story for hopefulness. If the reader is religious, they would appreciate this book more than if the reader isn't religious (like me).

I received a free copy of this ARC from the publisher through NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
2 reviews
April 13, 2021
This is by FAR the most AMAZING book. I have never been a reader unless it was a must (like for school and even then I found short cuts) BUT this book is so raw and shows the in depth struggles of becoming pregnant for some. Kyle Busch has always and forever been my driver and watch faithfully so when I saw Samantha was publishing a book I saw her read a chapter on an Instagram story and I was hooked I couldn't wait for it to come out. This book book has heartache, laughter and hope. Every word you read is like you are there and living it (not only because I went through some of my own struggles but her words make you feel a part of there journey) I loved this so much I bought ANOTHER copy and vacuum sealed it for my daughter whom I had her and her twin brother using clomid after 6 long months so when she's old enough she can also have her own autographed copy. This book is truly amazing and I hope Samantha writes another one her words truly speak to you as you read even if you don't have the same struggles.
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1,192 reviews28 followers
July 27, 2021
Fighting Infertility: Finding My Inner Warrior Through Trying to Conceive, IVF, and Miscarriage by Samantha Busch
Publisher: Health Communications Inc
Genre: Biographies & Memoirs | Health, Mind & Body | Parenting & Families
Publication Date: March 30, 2021

Fighting Infertility: Finding My Inner Warrior Through Trying to Conceive, IVF, and Miscarriage by Samantha Busch is a memoir recounting the author's struggle with infertility. As someone who deals with this herself, I was excited to read this book.

Before reading this, I did not know who the author was. Pop culture and NASCAR are not really my thing.

At times, I struggled to read this because it was so raw and hit some of my own 'wounds'. Overall, I found this book to be uplifting and encouraging.

I'm so grateful to Samantha Busch, Health Communications Inc, and NetGalley for providing me with a free copy of this ARC ebook in exchange for my honest review.
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5,122 reviews115 followers
January 17, 2021
I’m not a NASCAR fan but I do recognize Kyle Busch’s name. Fighting Infertility, written his wife Samantha, details how they met, married, and then tried to have a family. Except it wasn’t happening. She is very graphic with all of anguish, fear, turmoil, and angst of being unable to conceive. I think women who suffer from infertility can gain some commiseration and comfort in what she writes. They had success with the birth of their son. However, successive attempts to have another child failed. I was stunned by the vicious things her husband said to her after her miscarriage. She shares a lot of intimate details about a very personal struggle. The last part is tips for going through the process and how to handle the varying nuances. Pictures were included, but they weren’t visible. Thanks to NetGalley and Health Communications for the early copy.
156 reviews
March 23, 2021
First of all thank you to Samantha for telling her story because I'm sure it was painful to relieve that journey.

This book gives an insight to a fertility that spans years, eventually it results in the couple going through IVF which gives them their son Brexton. A few years later they try IVF again to try for their daughter, sadly it ends in a miscarriage and a failed IVF cycle.
It's emotional and takes it's toll on their relationship with one another and others around them when emotions get too high.

Overall it's a raw, emotional and informative book that doesn't shy away from the physical side effects of IVF and it feels like a friend chatting to you about their life.

I received a free copy of this book via netgalley and am voluntarily leaving a review.
4 Stars
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1 review
April 16, 2021
I have kept up with Samantha and Kyle's journey for the past few years and this book just feels like it has brought a whole new light. My husband and I have been battling infertility,miscarriages, failed IUIs, etc for the past 6 years. My husband is a huge Kyle Busch fan so he is going to read the book after me. We feel like we aren't alone. We live in VA but now have to travel to UNC fertility in NC for my husband bc it is the closet male urologist for fertility available. I have cried happy and sad tears while reading this book. I hope to get to meet them both one day to tell them in person, thank you for giving my husband and I hope during this journey and how it has helped our marriage on the tips and advice during these trying times. Please read!!!! You won't regret!!!
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194 reviews1 follower
October 30, 2020
**Thanks to the publisher for an ARC**

Busch is very open with her struggles with infertility and the martial issues that is also caused. She is pretty straightforward about a lot of the physical aspects, including details about her miscarriages. Although some readers may find this difficult to read, others will find it comforting to know they are not alone. Her advice at the end of the book cites professionals and encourages therapy which is a wonderful suggestion. It would have been interesting to hear her husband's perspective as opposed to her mentioning briefly his feelings about it; however he may not have been as comfortable sharing his side.
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41 reviews16 followers
April 6, 2021
I absolutely loved this book. After years of infertility treatments and IVF the trauma is still there. Samantha walks you throw the process, the good, the bad, and the ugly. She makes light of the crazy mood swings, and makes you feel normal. She acknowledges how fortunate she and Kyle are that they're able to afford fertility treatments and they've used their platform to create The Bumdle of Joy fund to help others that are struggling to conceive. Samantha Busch is a light in the infertility community and I highly recommend reading her book if you or someone you know is going through infertility.
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46 reviews
April 11, 2021
This book was a quick read and I’m in the middle of giving it 3 stars & 5 stars.

Three stars because if you have followed Samantha over the past 10 years and read her blogs and her IG posts then there’s not much in this book that you don’t know about. Maybe a few stories here and there but all the personal stories Samantha shares have already been shared.

Five stars because if you are going through IVF or infertility this book has so much information and you’ll want to read it. The end of the book, where Samantha answers frequently asked questions and gives ideas on how someone can be supportive if they know someone through IVF etc is amazing.
1 review
April 13, 2021
My husband and I are huge race fans my husband and I have been trying to get pregnant again with our second I already suffer with a rare condition Tubers Sclerosis Complex and it effects 1 in 6,000 births and on top of that my daughter now has it the same gene and then we will always have a 50/50 chance each time and have PCOS as well I love reading even though Samantha is married to Kyle she has shown in this book how raw she and Kyle are and how anyone can struggle and it gives me hope of being pregnant again someday much love Samantha and Kyle
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April 13, 2021
I have followed Kyle in nascar since i was a kid. I didn’t always like kyles attitude but as i got older i started looking up more things about him and Samantha. I have followed both the past few years and their journey has been very inspiring. This book shows how a relationship grows through truth and purity but also how you can have problems or hardships but confide in each other to get over those mountains. I will be recommending this book to all of my friends that do and don’t have issues with ivf or having a family. Kyle and Samantha are two very strong inspiring people.
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4 reviews2 followers
October 23, 2022
In the small world of books related specifically to IVF and miscarriage connections, there are very few. Which is why I appreciated the later half of this book. I had no desire to read about where she came from, her engagement or the wedding planning- even as a fan. As someone going through IVF round 3 and desperate for books I could relate to, I feel there was so much more in the fertility journey we go through not mentioned. This would have strengthened my connection to this book. Hate the cover photo. Enjoyed the pictures included inside.
2 reviews
April 13, 2021
This book is for any woman out there who has ever struggled with infertility and felt like they were alone. It pulls at every Emotion from beginning to end. From
Feeling alone to wondering what is wrong with you, to being jealous of every pregnant person in the world. This book
Makes you realize you are not alone and behind every tear, scar there is light. Samantha, Kyle thank you for sharing your story and raising awareness for infertility.
1 review
April 13, 2021
First let me start by saying I am a HUGE KFB fan. Following his career is how I became a HUGE fan of Samantha. Although I do not suffer from infertility, I am saddened to see the reality of infertility and all of their struggles. This book could almost be a “one stop shop” for people wanting more info and avenues on infertility.
1 review
April 18, 2021
laughing one minute sad the next, grabs you from beginning to end. love that samantha and Kyle are so open about their journey, always wanting to help others despite their own struggles with infertility. Fan of them, having infertility issues or just want a good book through and through READ it. I read it cover to cover in two hours.
3 reviews
May 14, 2021
I recommend this book for anyone that is struggle with infertility, had a miscarriage, and is going through IVF. Samantha provided so much knowledge. She shared all her emotions not sugar coating anything. She was real and vulnerable. I am so glad I got this book. I will take the knowledge Samantha provided with me on my IVF journey.
6 reviews
October 15, 2021
The honesty and emotions in this book make you fall in love with the family. I have followed him on Nascar for years but for him to show a whole different side of himself is amazing, and Sam your strength is something I hope to achieve. Showing your insecurities and vulnerability was amazing. I fought and cried right a long side of you.
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87 reviews2 followers
April 12, 2022
My sister sent me this book as she knows I’m on my own IVF journey and I am so happy she did. Samantha’s easy writing style was great and I felt like I was listening to a friend talk about her struggles with many of the same experiences I’ve gone through. I highly recommend this book to everyone going through IVF.
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1,260 reviews11 followers
October 20, 2020
Such a heartfelt and put it all out there kinda book. The author left it all out on the table. You will laugh, cry and have hope for the family. It’s a book that any mother would understand and love to read.
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8 reviews
April 5, 2021
So so good. I appreciated the real, raw story of infertility and miscarriage. Sometimes this journey is really lonely, and reading about someone else’s struggles and successes is so helpful. Also a lot of practical medical info as well.
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1 review
April 13, 2021
I’m not very far in this book but I have already laughed and cried.
I’m currently going through the beginning stages of my IVF cycle and it’s so amazing to have someone so open and raw about the truly tough and amazing journey this is.
Thank you for an incredible book.
1 review
April 13, 2021
This book is inspiring! If you have ever known someone who is fighting infertility or if you going through it yourself this is a MUST read! Can not say enough about this book, but find out for yourself and READ IT!
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539 reviews1 follower
July 12, 2021
This book was a beautiful and raw autobiography of Samantha Bush’s journey becoming a wife and mother. I learned a lot about IVF as Samantha painted a bittersweet portrait with the crimson tears of her and Kyle’s tragedies.
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345 reviews1 follower
September 9, 2022
Deeply personal and at times humorous, this book is so relatable but gives you an honest look at Samantha and Kyle’s experiences with infertility. I recommend it for any fans of either one of them and anyone who is trying to have a baby.
855 reviews1 follower
October 11, 2023
I liked reading about the author’s infertility journey.

That said, I struggled with the all-too-common trope of American exceptionalism and triumphalism. IYKYK…

Over time, I’ve come to the conclusion that most of these folks are totally unaware of how they come across to others.
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