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The Handbook for Bad Days: Shortcuts to Get Present When Things Aren't Perfect
Keep your head held high even on the bad days with 70 mindful self-care strategies to find happiness.
In a time when social media encourages us to constantly highlight how great we’re doing and how #Blessed life is, there seems to be little room for the inevitable truth: in every life, there are days that are NOT great.
Yet decades in the self-help world have taught Eveline Helmink—editor-in-chief of Happinez magazine and a self-titled cheerleader for failure and discomfort—that true emotional growth comes from realizing that it’s often on our worst days when we learn the most about what empowers, strengthens, and revitalizes us—and yes, brings us happiness.
In The Handbook for Bad Days, Helmink teaches you how to take advantage of bad days as moments for self-discovery and emotional understanding. Her compassionate, no-bullshit approach encourages you to detox from the social media world and rethink your coping strategies, exploring topics such as,
-The benefits of a good cry
-Why, sometimes, it’s okay to give up
-Why a fuzzy pink cardigan and some Celine Dion is just as good as a Sanskrit mantra
The Handbook for Bad Days is the ultimate guide for anyone who strives to be present, not perfect. Perfect for fans of Glennon Doyle, Elizabeth Lesser, and Krista Tippet, The Handbook for Bad Days is a call to face our worst days with courage and intentionality.
In a time when social media encourages us to constantly highlight how great we’re doing and how #Blessed life is, there seems to be little room for the inevitable truth: in every life, there are days that are NOT great.
Yet decades in the self-help world have taught Eveline Helmink—editor-in-chief of Happinez magazine and a self-titled cheerleader for failure and discomfort—that true emotional growth comes from realizing that it’s often on our worst days when we learn the most about what empowers, strengthens, and revitalizes us—and yes, brings us happiness.
In The Handbook for Bad Days, Helmink teaches you how to take advantage of bad days as moments for self-discovery and emotional understanding. Her compassionate, no-bullshit approach encourages you to detox from the social media world and rethink your coping strategies, exploring topics such as,
-The benefits of a good cry
-Why, sometimes, it’s okay to give up
-Why a fuzzy pink cardigan and some Celine Dion is just as good as a Sanskrit mantra
The Handbook for Bad Days is the ultimate guide for anyone who strives to be present, not perfect. Perfect for fans of Glennon Doyle, Elizabeth Lesser, and Krista Tippet, The Handbook for Bad Days is a call to face our worst days with courage and intentionality.
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First published April 30, 2019
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June 15, 2021
Тази книга е бижу, което може както да те накара да преосмислиш лошото си настроение, така и да ти даде зелена светлина за мрачните мисли. Все пак лошите дни не са края на света и можем да ги използваме в наша полза по пътя към така бленуваното щастие.
Изданието е изключително красиво, с твърди корици. Вътрешното оформление също е чудесно, така че книгата е идеална за подарък. В нея има трикове за по-лек живот. Някои от тях не са нещо нечувано, като например горещия душ, добрия сън, благодарността и медитацията. Но Евелине има свой поглед към тези и още над 70 други дейности. Включила е и много любопитна информация и практически упражнения - как да си направим списък с места за бягство от лошите дни, как да си дадем инжекция с окситоцин, да използваме сълзите като детокс, да си играем със синхроничността, или да се научим да съзерцаваме.
Не подхождайте към това ръководство като към нещо, което ще ви даде ключа към щастието. То ще ви даде цяла връзка с ключове и всеки трябва да открие този, който ще се впише в неговата собствена ключалка. Защото както казва Свами Вивекананда: "Твоят път е добър за теб, но не и за мен. Моят път е добър за мен, но не и за теб".
Тази книга ми хареса много заради откровеността и чувството за хумор, с които пише Хелминк. Или може би, защото възгледите ни за живота се доближават. Защото и аз като нея имам дни, в които ми минава, само ако се наплача едно хубаво, както и други, в които боря лошото настроение с Rage Against The Machine (и "F*ck you, I won't do what you tell me"). Важното е, че вече съм си научила урока и знам, че както се казва и в Библията, "и това ще мине". Всичко минава, животът продължава, нека му се наслаждаваме докато можем.
Изданието е изключително красиво, с твърди корици. Вътрешното оформление също е чудесно, така че книгата е идеална за подарък. В нея има трикове за по-лек живот. Някои от тях не са нещо нечувано, като например горещия душ, добрия сън, благодарността и медитацията. Но Евелине има свой поглед към тези и още над 70 други дейности. Включила е и много любопитна информация и практически упражнения - как да си направим списък с места за бягство от лошите дни, как да си дадем инжекция с окситоцин, да използваме сълзите като детокс, да си играем със синхроничността, или да се научим да съзерцаваме.
Не подхождайте към това ръководство като към нещо, което ще ви даде ключа към щастието. То ще ви даде цяла връзка с ключове и всеки трябва да открие този, който ще се впише в неговата собствена ключалка. Защото както казва Свами Вивекананда: "Твоят път е добър за теб, но не и за мен. Моят път е добър за мен, но не и за теб".
Тази книга ми хареса много заради откровеността и чувството за хумор, с които пише Хелминк. Или може би, защото възгледите ни за живота се доближават. Защото и аз като нея имам дни, в които ми минава, само ако се наплача едно хубаво, както и други, в които боря лошото настроение с Rage Against The Machine (и "F*ck you, I won't do what you tell me"). Важното е, че вече съм си научила урока и знам, че както се казва и в Библията, "и това ще мине". Всичко минава, животът продължава, нека му се наслаждаваме докато можем.
July 29, 2025
Te zweverig voor mij. Dit had ik niet verwacht maar toen ik erachter kwam dat de auteur tevens hoofdredacteur bij de Happinez was verklaarde dit een hoop. Verder onprettig vormgegeven en en leest het absoluut niet lekker. De illustraties zijn wel tof. Je merkt heel duidelijk dat de auteur gewend is artikelen te schrijven, waardoor het als boek een beetje als een onsamenhangend geheel over komt. Ik vind het zelf geen ‘handboek voor mindere dagen’ maar eerder een boek met allerlei (uitgekauwde) levensadviezen die het leven wel wat makkelijker kunnen maken. Maar we weten allemaal nu toch wel dat social media nep is, we niet eeuwen moeten scrollen, dat journallen helpt etc. Fijn als mensen er wel iets aan hebben maar ik vond het vrij basic.
October 9, 2021
Although there's some good advice in this book to actually help someone through bad days, a lot of the essays sound hollow. It's apparent that the author is a blog writer that isn't used to thinking in-depth about a topic or to create an overarching narrative. The book's chapters are independent essays (this might be a collection of the essays already present in the author's website) and don't build up to a whole, which I expect from a book. Since the essays are so short and were probably produced over a span of only a few days, they lack depth and it seems to me that the author has a lot of unfounded confidence. A concrete example that comes to mind is "Walking is good for you. There's a reason why immigrants have chosen to walk during migration." There's a lot of content in this book where you can tell that not a lot of thought went into the writing process. I assume this book was successful only because thr author already had an audience before it was published.
March 6, 2021
This is a nice practical guide for getting through tough mental health days whether it's an isolated bad day or you're finding yourself in a bit of a funk.
Eveline Helmink may not be a Mental Health professional, but it's clear she's put a lot of work into presenting a number of multifaced approaches to getting through difficult times.
This book doesn't present a multi-step method or a one-size-fits-all approach. It lays out a number of different practical things to do to start getting momentum to seeing a better state of mind. I can see this book being useful to flip through for ideas in the moment or to lay a foundation for when the bad days do come.
Many thanks to Tiller Press and NetGalley for the advance copy.
Eveline Helmink may not be a Mental Health professional, but it's clear she's put a lot of work into presenting a number of multifaced approaches to getting through difficult times.
This book doesn't present a multi-step method or a one-size-fits-all approach. It lays out a number of different practical things to do to start getting momentum to seeing a better state of mind. I can see this book being useful to flip through for ideas in the moment or to lay a foundation for when the bad days do come.
Many thanks to Tiller Press and NetGalley for the advance copy.
April 29, 2021
Sehr ansprechend geschrieben. Darin wird auf jeden Fall noch manches markiert werden zur "schnellen Hilfe" an miesen Tagen. Gibt generell gute Gedankenanstöße.
November 27, 2024
Tipps und Tricks für den Umgang mit (vielleicht doch nicht immer ganz so) miesen Tagen
So schön der Umschlag des Buches ›Handbuch für miese Tage‹ anmutet, so unerfreulich ist oftmals dessen Thema. Manchmal steht man nicht mit dem richtigen Bein auf. An anderen hingegen schon, aber irgendjemand tritt einem trotzdem gegen das Schienbein. Oder in die Kniekehle. Oder man steht mit dem richtigen Fuß auf, die Mitmenschen sind einem wohlgesonnen, und dann startet man voller Euphorie und Energie in den Tag und rammt den kleinen Zeh Freude strahlend gegen die Bettkante. Und plötzlich ist jede Energie und gute Laune fort.
Und diese den kleinen Zeh hinterhältig angreifenden miesen Tage sollen für etwas gut sein? Und was ist mit den Tagen, an denen man sich nicht nur wünscht, man wäre nicht aufgestanden, sondern tatsächlich nicht aus dem Bett kommt? Gerade noch die neue Bluse angezogen und direkt brühend heißen Kaffee darüber gekippt?
Helminks ›Handbuch für miese Tage‹ ist eine Liebeserklärung an sie, an diese Tage, die weder zu einem Hochglanz-Leben passen, noch im Lebenslauf erwähnt werden, doch zu etwas zu gebrauchen sind. Denn was macht man nun mit ihnen, wenn miese Tage wieder uneingeladen vor der Tür stehen und sich selbst hineinbitten?
Das ›Handbuch für miese Tage‹ hat hierfür mehr als nur die eine oder andere Idee: Zahlreich sind die Shortcuts, die Helmink zusammengestellt hat, um die miesen Tage etwas besser zu überstehen, und sie vielleicht sogar zum Vorteil zu nutzen.
Diese Shortcuts treffen vor allem einen Kern des Menschlichen: Es muss nicht alles glänzen, auch nicht perfekt ist gut genug, und man ist nicht der einzige Mensch auf der Welt, der hin und wieder von seinen miesen Tagen erdrückt wird.
Mit einem Augenzwinkern und vielen Einblicken in die Tiefpunkte ihres Lebens führt die Autorin durch das ›Handbuch für miese Tage‹. Dieses ist durchzogen von ganzseitigen Abbildungen mit inspirierenden Sprüchen, die auf den Punkt bringen, womit sich die Kapitel beschäftigen.
So schön und detailverliebt der Umschlag und das Layout des Buches ›Handbuch für miese Tage‹ auch sind, so sehr hätte ich mir gewünscht, dass die Seiten weniger textlastig sind. Durch das große Seitenformat und das einspaltige Layout haben die Seiten mich manchmal etwas erschlagen. Aber das tut dem Inhalt des Buches natürlich keinen Abbruch, der das hält, was bereits das Cover verspricht: Es zeigt Möglichkeiten auf, wie die eigenen »unglamourösen Tage« betrachtet werden können und wie auf ein »Ab« ein »Auf« folgen kann.
Helminks Vorschläge sind sehr persönlich und von der Autorin bereits erprobt. Nicht jeder Shortcut muss für jeden Leser und jede Leserin der richtige sein, doch ist bei der umfangreichen Menge an Vorschlägen sicherlich für jeden etwas dabei, das zukünftig im Umgang mit den eigenen miesen Tagen erprobt werden kann.
Rezension erstmals erschienen auf Libertine Literatur
So schön der Umschlag des Buches ›Handbuch für miese Tage‹ anmutet, so unerfreulich ist oftmals dessen Thema. Manchmal steht man nicht mit dem richtigen Bein auf. An anderen hingegen schon, aber irgendjemand tritt einem trotzdem gegen das Schienbein. Oder in die Kniekehle. Oder man steht mit dem richtigen Fuß auf, die Mitmenschen sind einem wohlgesonnen, und dann startet man voller Euphorie und Energie in den Tag und rammt den kleinen Zeh Freude strahlend gegen die Bettkante. Und plötzlich ist jede Energie und gute Laune fort.
Und diese den kleinen Zeh hinterhältig angreifenden miesen Tage sollen für etwas gut sein? Und was ist mit den Tagen, an denen man sich nicht nur wünscht, man wäre nicht aufgestanden, sondern tatsächlich nicht aus dem Bett kommt? Gerade noch die neue Bluse angezogen und direkt brühend heißen Kaffee darüber gekippt?
Helminks ›Handbuch für miese Tage‹ ist eine Liebeserklärung an sie, an diese Tage, die weder zu einem Hochglanz-Leben passen, noch im Lebenslauf erwähnt werden, doch zu etwas zu gebrauchen sind. Denn was macht man nun mit ihnen, wenn miese Tage wieder uneingeladen vor der Tür stehen und sich selbst hineinbitten?
Das ›Handbuch für miese Tage‹ hat hierfür mehr als nur die eine oder andere Idee: Zahlreich sind die Shortcuts, die Helmink zusammengestellt hat, um die miesen Tage etwas besser zu überstehen, und sie vielleicht sogar zum Vorteil zu nutzen.
»Ich bin weder Coach oder Psychologin noch Dozentin – ich interessiere mich schon seit jeher für menschliche Ecken und Kanten, Unvollkommenheit und alles rund um die sogenannte Resilienz, also das, was man seelische Widerstandskraft bezeichnet. Deshalb sehe ich in mir selbst eine Art Cheerleaderin bei Rückschläge, Missmut und Ungemach.«
Diese Shortcuts treffen vor allem einen Kern des Menschlichen: Es muss nicht alles glänzen, auch nicht perfekt ist gut genug, und man ist nicht der einzige Mensch auf der Welt, der hin und wieder von seinen miesen Tagen erdrückt wird.
»In einer Zeit, in der wir so gerne darüber sprechen oder in den sozialen Netzwerken teilen, wie gut es uns geht, wie cool das Leben ist und wie bewusst wir das Beste aus Körper, Geist und Seele machen, scheint es nur wenig Raum für diese unausweichliche Wahrheit zu geben: Jedes menschliche Leben beinhaltet Tage, die einfach nur blöd sind.«
Mit einem Augenzwinkern und vielen Einblicken in die Tiefpunkte ihres Lebens führt die Autorin durch das ›Handbuch für miese Tage‹. Dieses ist durchzogen von ganzseitigen Abbildungen mit inspirierenden Sprüchen, die auf den Punkt bringen, womit sich die Kapitel beschäftigen.
»Mist muss nicht unbedingt Sinn ergeben.«
So schön und detailverliebt der Umschlag und das Layout des Buches ›Handbuch für miese Tage‹ auch sind, so sehr hätte ich mir gewünscht, dass die Seiten weniger textlastig sind. Durch das große Seitenformat und das einspaltige Layout haben die Seiten mich manchmal etwas erschlagen. Aber das tut dem Inhalt des Buches natürlich keinen Abbruch, der das hält, was bereits das Cover verspricht: Es zeigt Möglichkeiten auf, wie die eigenen »unglamourösen Tage« betrachtet werden können und wie auf ein »Ab« ein »Auf« folgen kann.
Helminks Vorschläge sind sehr persönlich und von der Autorin bereits erprobt. Nicht jeder Shortcut muss für jeden Leser und jede Leserin der richtige sein, doch ist bei der umfangreichen Menge an Vorschlägen sicherlich für jeden etwas dabei, das zukünftig im Umgang mit den eigenen miesen Tagen erprobt werden kann.
Rezension erstmals erschienen auf Libertine Literatur
June 14, 2019
Handboek voor mindere dagen. Shortcuts naar een lichter leven door Eveline Helmink.
Dit boek ziet er langs alle kanten als een plaatje uit; helemaal mijn goesting. Dus eerst even een applausje voor vormgeefster Annelinde Tempelman.
Daarna een groot applaus voor Eveline. Wat een prachtboek! Dit handboek is een bijbel; een boek om op je nachtkastje te leggen om het altijd dicht bij je te hebben. Mijn onderlijn-potlood heeft overuren gemaakt. Ik sleepte het boek (en het weegt best wel wat) met me mee op de fiets naar het werk, op de tram naar de dokter, in bed… Ik kon het niet naast me neerleggen.
Dit is geen klassiek, positief zelfhulpboek. Dit is een no-nonsens boek vol praktische tips, quotes en wijsheden van mensen van allerlei aard. Helmink tackelt ook een paar wijdverspreide ‘wijsheden’ zoals #regretnothing en #afscheidnemenbestaatniet. Met tips uit haar eigen leven (het roze pluisvest), tips die ze las (Pema Chödrön komt veel aan bod bijvoorbeeld) en haar jarenlange ervaring door haar werk voor Happinez magazine komt zij tot een gigantisch hoge stapel wijsheid die ze met de nodige humor, knipogen en Instagram-waardig vormgeven, voor jou en mij gebundeld heeft.
Ik heb gelachen, gehuild, gegrinnikt (checken of je likes afnemen, de Disneyfilm Coco kijken in de plaats van ingewikkelde boeken over familieopstellingen lezen,…) en super veel herkend of erkend.
Dit is een boek dat je een hart onder de riem steekt, een schop onder je kont geeft, een troostende arm om je heen legt en ondertussen zacht en lief is voor je ziel. Het lijkt echt alsof Eveline dit boek speciaal voor mij heeft geschreven. Dankzij haar talent en ervaring als bladenmaakster geldt dit ongetwijfeld ook voor jou. Dus gun jezelf dit geschenk en kruip met een dekentje op de bank en verslind dit boek van cover tot cover. Elke pagina is mooi én boeiend en vol wijsheid. Je mobiel hou je binnen handbereik om foto’s te nemen van al die prachtig geïllustreerde quotes; levert je ongetwijfeld meer likes op ;)
Eveline is nog lang niet oud genoeg om zo wijs te zijn maar ze is het toch, dat bewijst ze met haar shortcuts. Ik denk dat het haar nieuwsgierigheid, eerlijkheid, moed en beginners-mind zijn die haar tot deze wijze, inspirerende vrouw hebben gemaakt. Een vrouw die weet hoe ze een pracht van een boek moet afleveren. Dank, dank, dank.
Dit boek ziet er langs alle kanten als een plaatje uit; helemaal mijn goesting. Dus eerst even een applausje voor vormgeefster Annelinde Tempelman.
Daarna een groot applaus voor Eveline. Wat een prachtboek! Dit handboek is een bijbel; een boek om op je nachtkastje te leggen om het altijd dicht bij je te hebben. Mijn onderlijn-potlood heeft overuren gemaakt. Ik sleepte het boek (en het weegt best wel wat) met me mee op de fiets naar het werk, op de tram naar de dokter, in bed… Ik kon het niet naast me neerleggen.
Dit is geen klassiek, positief zelfhulpboek. Dit is een no-nonsens boek vol praktische tips, quotes en wijsheden van mensen van allerlei aard. Helmink tackelt ook een paar wijdverspreide ‘wijsheden’ zoals #regretnothing en #afscheidnemenbestaatniet. Met tips uit haar eigen leven (het roze pluisvest), tips die ze las (Pema Chödrön komt veel aan bod bijvoorbeeld) en haar jarenlange ervaring door haar werk voor Happinez magazine komt zij tot een gigantisch hoge stapel wijsheid die ze met de nodige humor, knipogen en Instagram-waardig vormgeven, voor jou en mij gebundeld heeft.
Ik heb gelachen, gehuild, gegrinnikt (checken of je likes afnemen, de Disneyfilm Coco kijken in de plaats van ingewikkelde boeken over familieopstellingen lezen,…) en super veel herkend of erkend.
Dit is een boek dat je een hart onder de riem steekt, een schop onder je kont geeft, een troostende arm om je heen legt en ondertussen zacht en lief is voor je ziel. Het lijkt echt alsof Eveline dit boek speciaal voor mij heeft geschreven. Dankzij haar talent en ervaring als bladenmaakster geldt dit ongetwijfeld ook voor jou. Dus gun jezelf dit geschenk en kruip met een dekentje op de bank en verslind dit boek van cover tot cover. Elke pagina is mooi én boeiend en vol wijsheid. Je mobiel hou je binnen handbereik om foto’s te nemen van al die prachtig geïllustreerde quotes; levert je ongetwijfeld meer likes op ;)
Eveline is nog lang niet oud genoeg om zo wijs te zijn maar ze is het toch, dat bewijst ze met haar shortcuts. Ik denk dat het haar nieuwsgierigheid, eerlijkheid, moed en beginners-mind zijn die haar tot deze wijze, inspirerende vrouw hebben gemaakt. Een vrouw die weet hoe ze een pracht van een boek moet afleveren. Dank, dank, dank.
May 23, 2019
Een eerlijk en persoonlijk boek over de mindere dagen in je leven. Je weet wel, van die dagen waarop niets lukt, je het liefst terug in bed wilt kruipen of boos bent op iedereen. Eveline Helmink (Hoofdredacteur van tijdschrift Happinez) vertelt over haar eigen mindere dagen en pleit ervoor om die dagen in je leven toe te laten. Ze zijn niet leuk, maar ze horen erbij en laten je veel leren over jezelf.
Helmink is zowel ontzettend nuchter over onderwerpen als spiritueel. Zo gaat het over piekeren en klagen, maar ook over de betekenis van dromen en de stand van de maan. Een fijne mix, vond ik persoonlijk, maar je moet wel van 'een beetje zweef' houden. Hele review volgt nog op MustMag.nl
Helmink is zowel ontzettend nuchter over onderwerpen als spiritueel. Zo gaat het over piekeren en klagen, maar ook over de betekenis van dromen en de stand van de maan. Een fijne mix, vond ik persoonlijk, maar je moet wel van 'een beetje zweef' houden. Hele review volgt nog op MustMag.nl
January 4, 2020
Vanuit eigen ervaringen deelt Eveline Helmink haar inzichten en geeft ze tips over hoe je kan meebewegen met je leven, zoals het is.
In korte hoofdstukjes beschrijft ze shortcuts naar een lichter leven met aandacht voor mind, body & soul.
Wat ik onthoud:
Het is oké om je af en toe niet oké te voelen. Mindere dagen horen er ook bij. Accepteer ze, want op die dagen leer je het meest over jezelf.
Dit vond ik ervan:
Praktisch uitvoerbare tips beschreven in een persoonlijke stijl met oog voor zelfrelativering en humor. Biedt herkenning en moedigt aan om jouw kwetsbaarheden te omarmen.
In korte hoofdstukjes beschrijft ze shortcuts naar een lichter leven met aandacht voor mind, body & soul.
Wat ik onthoud:
Het is oké om je af en toe niet oké te voelen. Mindere dagen horen er ook bij. Accepteer ze, want op die dagen leer je het meest over jezelf.
Dit vond ik ervan:
Praktisch uitvoerbare tips beschreven in een persoonlijke stijl met oog voor zelfrelativering en humor. Biedt herkenning en moedigt aan om jouw kwetsbaarheden te omarmen.
May 25, 2021
Щедра на афоризми, цитати от песни, стихове и остроумни съвети, тази книга е мощен резервоар от щастие. Спокойно можете да се запасите сега, за да черпите от него, когато му дойде времето. Досущ като катериците, които крият в хралупата си ядки и семена за зимата, ние можем да се запасяваме с щастливи мисли за черни дни, смята авторката. Отрицателните емоции ни връхлитат не за да ги поправяме, а за да вникнем в тях. Можем да превърнем периодите, подгизнали от грижи и тревоги, във водна пързалка, която да ни отведе към дълбините на себепознанието.
И наистина: ако приемем несъвършенствата на заобикалящия ни свят и тези вътре в нас като нещо естествено, лошите ни дни ще се обезценят. Нужно е единствено търпение. Не можем да подправим неприятностите, да ги изличим от паметта си светкавично или да ги заменим за други преживявания. Единствената правилна тактика е да ги приемем и да продължим напред. Да започнем да водим пълнокръвен живот, в който не липсва нищо: тъмнина и мрак, радост и пукнатини. Такъв живот е израз на усещане за свобода. Ако се случи да политнете към някоя пропаст, просто разперете криле.
„Ние смятаме, че целта е да се издържи изпитанието или да се преодолеят трудностите, но това е невъзможно. Те винаги ще идват и ще си отиват, отново и отново. Това е в реда на нещата. Изцелението идва, когато приемем мъката и облекчението, злочестието и радостта“, казва будистката монахиня Пема Чодрьон.
Ако се съпротивлявате на времето, което лети, на хората и мечтите, с които се е наложило да се простите по пътя си, най-добре да отскочите до близката цветарница. На корицата на тази книга неслучайно е изобразена роза. Розата е превъзходна метафора за самия живот: непреходен и краткотраен, прелестен и често пъти бодлив. Но ако се вгледате внимателно, ще откриете красота във всеки етап от живота на цветята. Интензивните цветове на увехналия лист, чудноватата му форма: понякога цветята са най-красиви тъкмо на ръба на живота си. Да не забравяме, че онова, което прилича на край, често е само начало.
„Вземете разбитото си сърце и го превърнете в произведение на изкуството“, призовава Кари Фишър. Изглежда, точно това е сторила Евелине Хелминк, авторката на „Ръководство за лоши дни“. Евелине е главен редактор на нидерландското издание на списание Happinez, което дава съвети за личностно израстване и пълноценен живот. Настоящото четиво не е класическа книга за самопомощ. Не е застраховка срещу несполуки, нито гаранция за рязък поврат в живота към по-добро.
Но е твърде възможно да внесе в ежедневието ви малко повече лекота, решителност и кураж, които в периоди като сегашния са по-насъщни и от хляба: „Не съм лайф коуч, нито съм психолог или учител – просто цял живот съм се интересувала от нащърбените ръбчета, от несъвършенствата, от вътрешната сила. Неудачите са част от живота и тъкмо в дните, в които нищо не върви, научаваме най-много за себе си.“
За финал ви предлагаме стихотворение на Чарлс Буковски, послужило за епилог на тази изкусително „сетивна“ книга. Навярно с цел да внуши трите простички истини на японската философия уаби-саби: Няма нищо вечно. Няма нищо завършено. Няма нищо съвършено.
СМЕЕЩОТО СЕ СЪРЦЕ
Твоят живот си е твой.
Не позволявай да го натикат в усойно примирение.
Бъди нащрек.
Има изходи.
Все някъде има светлина.
Може да не е много,
но ще надвие мрака.
Бъди нащрек,
боговете ще ти предоставят възможности.
Опознай ги.
Приеми ги.
Не можеш да надвиеш смъртта,
но можеш да надвиваш смъртта в живота… понякога.
И колкото по-често се опитваш,
толкова повече ще расте светлината.
Твоят живот си е твой.
Опознай го, докато го имаш.
Прекрасен си.
Боговете нямат търпение
да те просветлят.
И наистина: ако приемем несъвършенствата на заобикалящия ни свят и тези вътре в нас като нещо естествено, лошите ни дни ще се обезценят. Нужно е единствено търпение. Не можем да подправим неприятностите, да ги изличим от паметта си светкавично или да ги заменим за други преживявания. Единствената правилна тактика е да ги приемем и да продължим напред. Да започнем да водим пълнокръвен живот, в който не липсва нищо: тъмнина и мрак, радост и пукнатини. Такъв живот е израз на усещане за свобода. Ако се случи да политнете към някоя пропаст, просто разперете криле.
„Ние смятаме, че целта е да се издържи изпитанието или да се преодолеят трудностите, но това е невъзможно. Те винаги ще идват и ще си отиват, отново и отново. Това е в реда на нещата. Изцелението идва, когато приемем мъката и облекчението, злочестието и радостта“, казва будистката монахиня Пема Чодрьон.
Ако се съпротивлявате на времето, което лети, на хората и мечтите, с които се е наложило да се простите по пътя си, най-добре да отскочите до близката цветарница. На корицата на тази книга неслучайно е изобразена роза. Розата е превъзходна метафора за самия живот: непреходен и краткотраен, прелестен и често пъти бодлив. Но ако се вгледате внимателно, ще откриете красота във всеки етап от живота на цветята. Интензивните цветове на увехналия лист, чудноватата му форма: понякога цветята са най-красиви тъкмо на ръба на живота си. Да не забравяме, че онова, което прилича на край, често е само начало.
„Вземете разбитото си сърце и го превърнете в произведение на изкуството“, призовава Кари Фишър. Изглежда, точно това е сторила Евелине Хелминк, авторката на „Ръководство за лоши дни“. Евелине е главен редактор на нидерландското издание на списание Happinez, което дава съвети за личностно израстване и пълноценен живот. Настоящото четиво не е класическа книга за самопомощ. Не е застраховка срещу несполуки, нито гаранция за рязък поврат в живота към по-добро.
Но е твърде възможно да внесе в ежедневието ви малко повече лекота, решителност и кураж, които в периоди като сегашния са по-насъщни и от хляба: „Не съм лайф коуч, нито съм психолог или учител – просто цял живот съм се интересувала от нащърбените ръбчета, от несъвършенствата, от вътрешната сила. Неудачите са част от живота и тъкмо в дните, в които нищо не върви, научаваме най-много за себе си.“
За финал ви предлагаме стихотворение на Чарлс Буковски, послужило за епилог на тази изкусително „сетивна“ книга. Навярно с цел да внуши трите простички истини на японската философия уаби-саби: Няма нищо вечно. Няма нищо завършено. Няма нищо съвършено.
СМЕЕЩОТО СЕ СЪРЦЕ
Твоят живот си е твой.
Не позволявай да го натикат в усойно примирение.
Бъди нащрек.
Има изходи.
Все някъде има светлина.
Може да не е много,
но ще надвие мрака.
Бъди нащрек,
боговете ще ти предоставят възможности.
Опознай ги.
Приеми ги.
Не можеш да надвиеш смъртта,
но можеш да надвиваш смъртта в живота… понякога.
И колкото по-често се опитваш,
толкова повече ще расте светлината.
Твоят живот си е твой.
Опознай го, докато го имаш.
Прекрасен си.
Боговете нямат търпение
да те просветлят.
January 29, 2023
This is not typically the type of book I read, but it was given to me by a friend and I was having a rough day so I opened it and it actually helped. Let me be clear none of the advice is a secret ingredient to overcoming bad days it’s more of a book about mindfulness and sitting with the bad as well as the good. The writing is just decent, but it’s just nice to read something that is down to earth and easy to read, that also explores how to be present when the days are harder. I really enjoyed it and plan to go back to it.
June 3, 2021
I received a copy of this book from a Goodreads Giveaway.
This is a helpful, useful book. There are many tips (the shortcuts as the author calls them) to deal with everyday life in times we may not be at our best. There are new suggestions for well-known remedies that help us to feel better about ourselves. More valuable to me was the philosophy behind the way Eveline Helmink deals with life. She advocated embracing the bad times as parts of ourselves and using them to grow and change. Her advice on using the senses, getting close to nature, and examining religion per se has an interesting outlook. Rather than treating this guide as a self help book (though you can) I would suggest reading it slowly and thoughtfully to ponder the philosophical aspects of the author's ideas.
I would also recommend a larger or different font to allow for easier reading of the book.
This is a helpful, useful book. There are many tips (the shortcuts as the author calls them) to deal with everyday life in times we may not be at our best. There are new suggestions for well-known remedies that help us to feel better about ourselves. More valuable to me was the philosophy behind the way Eveline Helmink deals with life. She advocated embracing the bad times as parts of ourselves and using them to grow and change. Her advice on using the senses, getting close to nature, and examining religion per se has an interesting outlook. Rather than treating this guide as a self help book (though you can) I would suggest reading it slowly and thoughtfully to ponder the philosophical aspects of the author's ideas.
I would also recommend a larger or different font to allow for easier reading of the book.
December 19, 2021
This is no selfhelp book. No shitty advice book. This book is just what I needed! It's like talking to your best friend when you're feeling down and need words of encouragement. It's a warm hug for your mind & soul!
August 3, 2022
Gehe achtsam mit dir um, wichtige Botschaft dieses Buches
*Klappentext (übernommen)*
Ohne Ab kein Auf: Wie uns die unglamourösen Tage weiterbringen
Nur allzu gerne teilen wir in den sozialen Netzwerken mit, wie gut es uns geht, wie cool unser Leben ist und wie bewusst wir das Beste aus Körper, Geist und Seele machen. Daneben scheint es nur wenig Raum für die unausweichliche Wahrheit zu geben: Im Leben eines jeden Menschen gibt es Tage, die einfach nur blöd sind. Richtig miese Tage, an denen nichts gelingt, an denen sich alles gegen einen verschworen zu haben scheint. Eveline Helmink entdeckt gerade in diesen Tagen verborgene Weisheit: Sie sind die Lehrer, die uns daran erinnern, das Leben so zu nehmen wie es ist, als ein Auf und eben auch ein Ab. »Wir sollten nicht die beste Version unserer selbst anstreben, sondern die authentischste«, sagt die Chefredakteurin der niederländischen Ausgabe der Zeitschrift Happinez. Mit viel Humor übersetzt sie die oft überfrachteten Lebensglück-Konzepte in den ganz normalen Alltag. Ihre Botschaft: Die miesen Tage machen unser Leben erst interessant. Die in ihrem Buch vorgestellten »Shortcuts« sollen uns dabei helfen, den ersten Schritt heraus aus dem Seelentief zu finden und den weniger guten Tagen tapfer und aufrecht entgegenzutreten. Denn auch wenn wir niemals vor miesen Tagen gefeit sein werden, ist es möglich, sie mit ein wenig Abstand zu betrachten und langfristig zu einer stärkeren, mutigeren und ausgeglicheneren Version unserer Selbst zu finden.
*Meine Meinung*
Schon das Cover zaubert mir ein Lächeln ins Gesicht, so schön schaut es aus.
"Handbuch für miese Tage" von Eveline Helmink ist eine Art Anleitung, wie ich mit miesen Tagen umgehen kann und ich diese vielleicht in eine positive Richtung leiten kann.
Die Autorin zeigt uns Leser, dass man diese Tage akzeptieren kann, ohne sich schlecht zu fühlen.
Diesen Ratgeber kann man in einem Rutsch lesen oder häppchenweise. Ich habe ein Ritual daraus gemacht, jeden Abend vorm Schlafengehen habe ich ein Kapitel gelesen und dann darüber nachgedacht.
Klar kenne ich viele Punkte ihrer Tipps und Tricks, trotzdem finde ich es gut, wenn mich eine außenstehende Person nochmals mit der Nase draufstupst.
Immer wenn mich ein mieser Tag besucht, holen ich das Buch hervor und versuche die Tricks und Tipps anzuwenden. Früher hat mich solch ein Tag unwahrscheinlich viel Kraft gekostet. Durch diese Anleitungen schaffe ich es, den schlechten Tag anzunehmen und vielleicht sogar Kraft zu schöpfen.
Was mir richtig gut gefällt, dass die Autorin auch immer wieder Lebensweisheiten und sogar eigene Erfahrungen mit uns Leser teilt. Da merkt man so richtig, wie wichtig ihr dieses Thema ist.
Wir sollen keine Gefühle unterdrücken und weinen ist erlaubt. Ich bin ein sehr emotionaler Mensch und weine sehr schnell, sei es aus Freude oder aus Traurigkeit. IN all den Jahren habe ich mich dafür immer geschämt, doch nun versuche ich es als Stärke zu sehen und kann damit viel besser umgehen.
Zum Schluss möchte ich noch das wunderschöne Layout erwähnen, das Cover ist einfach wunderschön, zwar dunkel gehalten, aber durch die zauberhaften Blumen für mich sehr ansprechend. Das Buch liegt gut in der Hand und ich bin froh, dass es eine gebundene Ausgabe ist.
Aber auch drinnen hat es ein schönes Layout. Auf einigen Seiten sind Sprüche und Bilder, das lockert ungemein auf. Auch die verschiedenen Schriftarten machen das Lesen abwechslungsreich und ich hatte nie das Gefühl, stur einen langweiligen Ratgeber zu lesen.
*Fazit*
Dieses Buch kann ich jedem empfehlen, der achtsam mit sich sein möchte und wissen möchte, wie man besser mit miesen Tagen umgehen kann. Ich stecke meine Nase immer wieder ins Buch.
Von mir gibt es eine klare Leseempfehlung und 5 Sterne.
Ich möchte mich beim Bloggerportal und dem Irisiana Verlag bedanken, die mir das Buch als Rezensionsexemplar zur Verfügung gestellt haben.
*Klappentext (übernommen)*
Ohne Ab kein Auf: Wie uns die unglamourösen Tage weiterbringen
Nur allzu gerne teilen wir in den sozialen Netzwerken mit, wie gut es uns geht, wie cool unser Leben ist und wie bewusst wir das Beste aus Körper, Geist und Seele machen. Daneben scheint es nur wenig Raum für die unausweichliche Wahrheit zu geben: Im Leben eines jeden Menschen gibt es Tage, die einfach nur blöd sind. Richtig miese Tage, an denen nichts gelingt, an denen sich alles gegen einen verschworen zu haben scheint. Eveline Helmink entdeckt gerade in diesen Tagen verborgene Weisheit: Sie sind die Lehrer, die uns daran erinnern, das Leben so zu nehmen wie es ist, als ein Auf und eben auch ein Ab. »Wir sollten nicht die beste Version unserer selbst anstreben, sondern die authentischste«, sagt die Chefredakteurin der niederländischen Ausgabe der Zeitschrift Happinez. Mit viel Humor übersetzt sie die oft überfrachteten Lebensglück-Konzepte in den ganz normalen Alltag. Ihre Botschaft: Die miesen Tage machen unser Leben erst interessant. Die in ihrem Buch vorgestellten »Shortcuts« sollen uns dabei helfen, den ersten Schritt heraus aus dem Seelentief zu finden und den weniger guten Tagen tapfer und aufrecht entgegenzutreten. Denn auch wenn wir niemals vor miesen Tagen gefeit sein werden, ist es möglich, sie mit ein wenig Abstand zu betrachten und langfristig zu einer stärkeren, mutigeren und ausgeglicheneren Version unserer Selbst zu finden.
*Meine Meinung*
Schon das Cover zaubert mir ein Lächeln ins Gesicht, so schön schaut es aus.
"Handbuch für miese Tage" von Eveline Helmink ist eine Art Anleitung, wie ich mit miesen Tagen umgehen kann und ich diese vielleicht in eine positive Richtung leiten kann.
Die Autorin zeigt uns Leser, dass man diese Tage akzeptieren kann, ohne sich schlecht zu fühlen.
Diesen Ratgeber kann man in einem Rutsch lesen oder häppchenweise. Ich habe ein Ritual daraus gemacht, jeden Abend vorm Schlafengehen habe ich ein Kapitel gelesen und dann darüber nachgedacht.
Klar kenne ich viele Punkte ihrer Tipps und Tricks, trotzdem finde ich es gut, wenn mich eine außenstehende Person nochmals mit der Nase draufstupst.
Immer wenn mich ein mieser Tag besucht, holen ich das Buch hervor und versuche die Tricks und Tipps anzuwenden. Früher hat mich solch ein Tag unwahrscheinlich viel Kraft gekostet. Durch diese Anleitungen schaffe ich es, den schlechten Tag anzunehmen und vielleicht sogar Kraft zu schöpfen.
Was mir richtig gut gefällt, dass die Autorin auch immer wieder Lebensweisheiten und sogar eigene Erfahrungen mit uns Leser teilt. Da merkt man so richtig, wie wichtig ihr dieses Thema ist.
Wir sollen keine Gefühle unterdrücken und weinen ist erlaubt. Ich bin ein sehr emotionaler Mensch und weine sehr schnell, sei es aus Freude oder aus Traurigkeit. IN all den Jahren habe ich mich dafür immer geschämt, doch nun versuche ich es als Stärke zu sehen und kann damit viel besser umgehen.
Zum Schluss möchte ich noch das wunderschöne Layout erwähnen, das Cover ist einfach wunderschön, zwar dunkel gehalten, aber durch die zauberhaften Blumen für mich sehr ansprechend. Das Buch liegt gut in der Hand und ich bin froh, dass es eine gebundene Ausgabe ist.
Aber auch drinnen hat es ein schönes Layout. Auf einigen Seiten sind Sprüche und Bilder, das lockert ungemein auf. Auch die verschiedenen Schriftarten machen das Lesen abwechslungsreich und ich hatte nie das Gefühl, stur einen langweiligen Ratgeber zu lesen.
*Fazit*
Dieses Buch kann ich jedem empfehlen, der achtsam mit sich sein möchte und wissen möchte, wie man besser mit miesen Tagen umgehen kann. Ich stecke meine Nase immer wieder ins Buch.
Von mir gibt es eine klare Leseempfehlung und 5 Sterne.
Ich möchte mich beim Bloggerportal und dem Irisiana Verlag bedanken, die mir das Buch als Rezensionsexemplar zur Verfügung gestellt haben.
March 5, 2021
{Thank you to Tiller Press for my gifted copy}
The Handbook for Bad Days was one of those books that caught my eye because, at the time, I was having a bad day. I was not familiar with the author Eveline Helmink, or anything about it really, but knew it was a sign and I decided to dive right in.
First off, any book synopsis that shares "Why a fuzzy pink cardigan and some Celine Dion is just as good as a Sanskrit mantra" is a book for me. I a big fan of personal development books but I also am a person with my feet paced firmly in reality and the ones that just seem a bit too far-fetched and impractical often make me roll my eyes.
There is no perfect path to life, nor is there a secret equation to perfecting it so you never have a bad day again. And Eveline Helmink gets this. Her writing is approachable, humorous, and real. I also appreciated that from the very beginning she differentiated between a bad day and reaching out if bad days become the norm.
As someone who deals with both anxiety and depression, it is an immediate red flag when an author shares advice about mental health issues being something you can just "choose" to think differently about. Accessing and utilizing support and/or medication for mental health is something I feel strongly about normalizing, and I appreciate that she didn't downplay this part.
Anyway, I could go on and on about this book because it just spoke to me so much. Her image of bad days being similar to the feeling of being in the dark woods, often drawn in almost unknowingly by an unpleasant feeling or negative thought is one of the most accurate ways I have ever heard it described.
I also appreciated her thoughts on how being in this space has its benefits when we let ourselves really feel them. Some of the most challenging times of my life, also brought me so much clarity and information about myself when I stopped fighting to "get out" and allowed myself to learn as I worked my way through them.
Written with compassion and the idea that life is indeed a learning process, I know this is a book that will stick with me for a very long time. I highly recommend this and also found that it was easy to consume as it is broken up into small sections that are easy to take in bit by bit.
Thank you to Tiller Press for my gifted copy. As always, all thoughts and opinions are my own.
The Handbook for Bad Days was one of those books that caught my eye because, at the time, I was having a bad day. I was not familiar with the author Eveline Helmink, or anything about it really, but knew it was a sign and I decided to dive right in.
First off, any book synopsis that shares "Why a fuzzy pink cardigan and some Celine Dion is just as good as a Sanskrit mantra" is a book for me. I a big fan of personal development books but I also am a person with my feet paced firmly in reality and the ones that just seem a bit too far-fetched and impractical often make me roll my eyes.
There is no perfect path to life, nor is there a secret equation to perfecting it so you never have a bad day again. And Eveline Helmink gets this. Her writing is approachable, humorous, and real. I also appreciated that from the very beginning she differentiated between a bad day and reaching out if bad days become the norm.
As someone who deals with both anxiety and depression, it is an immediate red flag when an author shares advice about mental health issues being something you can just "choose" to think differently about. Accessing and utilizing support and/or medication for mental health is something I feel strongly about normalizing, and I appreciate that she didn't downplay this part.
Anyway, I could go on and on about this book because it just spoke to me so much. Her image of bad days being similar to the feeling of being in the dark woods, often drawn in almost unknowingly by an unpleasant feeling or negative thought is one of the most accurate ways I have ever heard it described.
I also appreciated her thoughts on how being in this space has its benefits when we let ourselves really feel them. Some of the most challenging times of my life, also brought me so much clarity and information about myself when I stopped fighting to "get out" and allowed myself to learn as I worked my way through them.
Written with compassion and the idea that life is indeed a learning process, I know this is a book that will stick with me for a very long time. I highly recommend this and also found that it was easy to consume as it is broken up into small sections that are easy to take in bit by bit.
Thank you to Tiller Press for my gifted copy. As always, all thoughts and opinions are my own.
April 22, 2021
Rating: 4/5 ways to turn your bad day around
Format: Hardcover. I’d like to thank the author and Tiller Press for a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review!
To sum up:
The author, Eveline Helmink is a wellness writer and editor in chief of the media brand (and magazine) Happinez. This book is filled with short chapters on a variety of mindfulness and wellness topics with short techniques to try. The author is really knowledgeable about different aspects of dealing with emotions and sites quite a few great resources. The format is great for casual reading, and rereading when needed!
What I enjoyed:
I really enjoyed this little handbook! I’ve been getting more interested in mindfulness the past year. With the world generally (and sometimes literally) on fire, I’ve needed to learn some skills to check-in more regularly with my mental and emotional state and listen when my body and brain are telling me something. This book is a great introduction to different ways to do that. It has a lot of advice to think about, and a lot of little tricks that I am eager to try. It offers help simply and without judgment which I really appreciate. The writer writes in a very relatable way that makes these topics seem approachable and easy to learn. Just reading a few chapters in the morning the past few weeks has been a great way to start my day!
Overall, I thought this was a great intro to mindfulness and had some useful advice on how to do deal with negative emotions day-to-day. We all have bad days, but this book offers a lot of simple ways to make even the worst day a little better. I'd recommend this book to pretty much anyone who is working on improving their mental health or has been having a rough year!
Format: Hardcover. I’d like to thank the author and Tiller Press for a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review!
To sum up:
The author, Eveline Helmink is a wellness writer and editor in chief of the media brand (and magazine) Happinez. This book is filled with short chapters on a variety of mindfulness and wellness topics with short techniques to try. The author is really knowledgeable about different aspects of dealing with emotions and sites quite a few great resources. The format is great for casual reading, and rereading when needed!
What I enjoyed:
I really enjoyed this little handbook! I’ve been getting more interested in mindfulness the past year. With the world generally (and sometimes literally) on fire, I’ve needed to learn some skills to check-in more regularly with my mental and emotional state and listen when my body and brain are telling me something. This book is a great introduction to different ways to do that. It has a lot of advice to think about, and a lot of little tricks that I am eager to try. It offers help simply and without judgment which I really appreciate. The writer writes in a very relatable way that makes these topics seem approachable and easy to learn. Just reading a few chapters in the morning the past few weeks has been a great way to start my day!
Overall, I thought this was a great intro to mindfulness and had some useful advice on how to do deal with negative emotions day-to-day. We all have bad days, but this book offers a lot of simple ways to make even the worst day a little better. I'd recommend this book to pretty much anyone who is working on improving their mental health or has been having a rough year!
August 20, 2023
As, a therapist I typically read self-help books such as this one to determine if I would recommend them to my clients. Usually, with the hope that they might provide further insight into topics we discuss or issues they are dealing with. Or to see if maybe there is new information that i can offer to my clients. This book, I would not recommend to my clients or anyone who is in therapy. Not because this book is bad but because it is full of the most basic principles and ideas. I believe that anyone in therapy has probably already learned these things. While it would be good for reminders, I don't think that it teaches anything new. But everything in this book is accurate and I do agree with the suggestions made.
I think I would most recommend this book to someone who is just starting their journey to healing but for whatever reason they cannot see a therapist at this time. It provides a primer for starting points. If therapy is not an option this is a good place to get basic advice before continuing a more personalized treatment plan with a professional. This book is absolutely not a substitute for therapy but can be helpful nonetheless.
I think I would most recommend this book to someone who is just starting their journey to healing but for whatever reason they cannot see a therapist at this time. It provides a primer for starting points. If therapy is not an option this is a good place to get basic advice before continuing a more personalized treatment plan with a professional. This book is absolutely not a substitute for therapy but can be helpful nonetheless.
June 10, 2021
A book full of tips and shortcuts to help get you through your lesser days. While most of the suggestions in this book are things that I already do on my lesser days to try and make them just a little bit easier and some I do regularly, whether I'm having a bad day or not, I found it helpful to be reminded that we all suffer from bad days, and of some of the things I can do when I'm not feeling the greatest. Pick and choose what works for you and what doesn't, what is appropriate for your life and current situation, and keep this book handy for your next inevitable lesser moment or day(s). I would also like to mention that this light and easy to carry, rugged little hardcover book has the most satisfying slam ever, which alone can make me feel just a little bit better on a crappy day.
I won this book in a Goodreads giveaway!
I won this book in a Goodreads giveaway!
January 4, 2023
This was really hard for me to get through. First of all, the small text and font made it much harder for me to read it, which is a small issue and might not matter to some people but I felt like I should include it.
This book just felt like a bunch of separate essays put into a book with no overall theme. There were some parts where I questioned what it has to do with bad days. Towards the end I started skimming it, simply so I could finish it. Perhaps this type of self-help book is not my thing.
However, there were some essays that were interesting and caught my attention. Unfortunately they were few and far between.
This book just felt like a bunch of separate essays put into a book with no overall theme. There were some parts where I questioned what it has to do with bad days. Towards the end I started skimming it, simply so I could finish it. Perhaps this type of self-help book is not my thing.
However, there were some essays that were interesting and caught my attention. Unfortunately they were few and far between.
January 4, 2022
#1 of 2022. This was a gift given to me for my birthday by a relative and I really enjoyed it! It was a fast read of self-help advice that felt real, relatable and not as preachy as others I've tried. I actually dog-eared some pages for reference later (something I don't usually do) because I see myself keeping this readily accessible and actually trying some of the tips, if not actually writing them down and creating some kind of short list of new ideas to try. I plan to apply these tips to my bad days where I feel my emotions and physical symptoms of bipolar disorder especially well.
April 16, 2024
Unorganized, and what I would call short essays, contradict one another. I could see it as a book one might just pick up and open randomly on a bad day but topics are briefly touched on and most written with examples from the author’s own experiences. Some good strategies that could be explained from a behavioral science standpoint but a lot of the authors ideas are not supported by references. I won’t read it again and I wouldn’t recommend it for anyone who wants supporting evidence of effectiveness when it comes to their behavior and mental health.
October 22, 2024
Dit boek geef ik 4 sterren, omdat het me nieuwe inzichten heeft gegeven. Het lijkt of dit boek me naast mijn therapie die ik volg geholpen heeft om puzzelstukjes op hun plaats te krijgen.
Het is een zeer leerzaam boek met goede tips en helpende opdrachten. Soms werd ik wel een beetje overwelmd door alle informatie. Dan legde ik het boek weg om de informatie te verwerken. Ik raad dit ook aan om te doen en het boek niet per se in 1 zitting uit te willen lezen.
Dit boek zou ik zeker aanraden aan iedereen, ook voor mensen die denken al in balans te zijn.
Het is een zeer leerzaam boek met goede tips en helpende opdrachten. Soms werd ik wel een beetje overwelmd door alle informatie. Dan legde ik het boek weg om de informatie te verwerken. Ik raad dit ook aan om te doen en het boek niet per se in 1 zitting uit te willen lezen.
Dit boek zou ik zeker aanraden aan iedereen, ook voor mensen die denken al in balans te zijn.
March 9, 2021
More of a collection of anecdotes?
Full disclosure, I skimmed. I just never landed anywhere that didn’t feel like an expanded meme. I like memes, but not as a book. I think I yearned for conclusions.
If you haven’t encountered most of the advice before, the mini-chapters could be good jumping-off points for in-depth searches. I was looking more for insightful stopping points rather than breadcrumbs.
Full disclosure, I skimmed. I just never landed anywhere that didn’t feel like an expanded meme. I like memes, but not as a book. I think I yearned for conclusions.
If you haven’t encountered most of the advice before, the mini-chapters could be good jumping-off points for in-depth searches. I was looking more for insightful stopping points rather than breadcrumbs.
September 23, 2021
I discovered this book by pure accident/coincidence while shopping. Coincidentally, I was in a bad funk (pretty bad) and opted to take this as a sign of help from God or the universe and bought it. I wasn’t disappointed. While this book is great for specific bad days (based on the topics) I sat down and read it in one go. It made me laugh, think, cry, & more emotions than needs to be listed. It now sits on my nightstand and will be there for my bad days.
May 9, 2022
I usually prefer my self-help by way of writers like Glennon Doyle and Anne Lamott, so found this overall kind of clunky and full of not particularly inspiring platitudes--although every so often, it would offer a helpful reminder about something. I would have kept listening/reading, but somehow my download of the Audible book only included half the chapters and was not inspired enough to buy another copy, so that's why I quit reading.
February 28, 2021
A great read! Honestly, such an interesting and thoughtful book. It talks about having a bad day and discuses various methods to approach it. It offers strategies and ways to find a little bit of light when you are struggling. It’s just an all around great read for anyone having a bad day!
*Thanks Netgalley and Tiller Press for sending me an arc in exchange for an honest review*
*Thanks Netgalley and Tiller Press for sending me an arc in exchange for an honest review*
March 9, 2021
This book has some good and basic tips. Such as taking a walk, having a good cry or, just turning off social media.
It offers over 70 tips again some I found better than others.
Very nice book cover.
My only issue is the font at times made it very hard to read.
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It offers over 70 tips again some I found better than others.
Very nice book cover.
My only issue is the font at times made it very hard to read.
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May 7, 2021
I’m not a self-help book person, but life’s been tough for the past couple months. I’m super thankful for everything this book has taught me. There’s a couple tips that I’m sure we’ve heard before, but the way Helmink describes everything paints a perfect picture. It’s not anecdote-heavy and covers a lot of ground for mental health. Definitely staying in my purse for when I need it.
April 1, 2021
I really liked that the way that this book acknowledges that we can't do everything we want on bad days. That sometimes it's enough just to get through, and this books has different suggestions on how to do that. They didn't all resonate with me, but I got some ideas and enjoyed reading it.
July 19, 2021
I’m not really sure how to feel about this book. It has some good advice, but most of these things are already known I think. I also feel like she makes it a lot about herself in a bit of an arrogant way.
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