Flawsome: The journey to being whole is learning to be holey

by Georgia Murch

You are not called an accountant, or a speaker, or a writer. You are called by a name - your name. You are you. To know what that means and who you are requires work. Just like growing into a new pair of sneakers, you need to grow into who you really are. To do this, you have to accept your flaws. To make peace with your humanity you need to drop your search for perfection, to be OK with being enough - flaws and all. To ultimately find that your flaws can become your super powers. This is a fabulous place to be and so much easier to reach than you might think.


In this fascinating book, author and feedback expert, Georgia Murch, teaches you that being flawsome is not just about accepting your flaws, your inadequacies, the things you hide - it's understanding where they come from and rewriting how you see yourself, so you can live as you are. It's not just about making peace with your shortcomings and imperfections but knowing that without them you are not you. Your flaws make you, you. 
Specifically, Flawsome helps


Become more self-aware of how you impact yourself and others in the everyday moments
Identify the things that triggers you and hold you back from learning and growing
How to search for the what is really true and not get caught in rumination
How to hold the space to evolve as a person and know it's in the small moments.


This book is for those who would like to stop being good enough for others, and start being themselves. 

Genres: Mental Health

242 pages, Paperback

Published July 28, 2020

Reviews

[Synthia Salomon · Rating 4 out of 5]

Some great gems and takeaways from this today.

“To become flawsome, we need to understand that engaging in denial and blame puts us below the line, while being aware and accountable for our behavior pushes us above the line, where flawsomeness resides. The path from one point to the other isn’t straightforward. It’s a cyclical process that requires us to recognize our triggers and control our reactions to them, and to acknowledge that we can learn a lot when we accept that the truth has many sides to it. When we’re better equipped to handle our triggers and engage with the truth, we enter a state of constant growth and transformation.

Actionable advice:

See failure as an event, not your identity.

When you fail at something, you might feel shame and start to define yourself by the failure. Instead of acknowledging that you failed and that this happens to everyone now and again, you may say to yourself, I am a failure. Needless to say, this is a destructive approach. What you need to do is accept failure and mistakes as parts of life and see them as opportunities to learn.”

[Zhivko Kabaivanov · Rating 5 out of 5]

Flawsome (2020) is a guide to becoming the best version of yourself by accepting your not-so-perfect parts.

Many of us look for ways to hide our flaws, but the key to really growing into ourselves is embracing these flaws, understanding where they stem from, and learning from them.

[Bookish]

Blinkist read:
1. Your unique flaws draw people to you
2. To become flawsome, you need to get to a place of awareness
3. Recognizing your triggers gives you a chance to control the way you respond to them
4. Being open to different perspectives helps us learn
5. Transformation is an ongoing journey that requires always choosing growth

The key messages in these blinks:

To become flawsome, we need to understand that engaging in denial and blame puts us below-the-line while being aware and accountable for our behavior pushes us above the line, where flawsomeness resides. The path from one point to the other isn’t straightforward. It’s a cyclical process that requires us to recognize our triggers and control our reactions to them, and to acknowledge that we can learn a lot when we accept that the truth has many sides to it. When we’re better equipped to handle our triggers and engage with the truth, we enter a state of constant growth and transformation.

Actionable advice:

See failure as an event, not your identity.

When you fail at something, you might feel shame and start to define yourself by the failure. Instead of acknowledging that you failed and that this happens to everyone now and again, you may say to yourself, I am a failure. Needless to say, this is a destructive approach. What you need to do is accept failure and mistakes as parts of life and see them as opportunities to learn.

[Chintushig Tumenbayar · Rating 5 out of 5]

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Жишээ нь Японы Kintsukuroi art-г мэддэг залуус олон байх. Шаазанг хагалж бутарсан хэсгүүдийг алтаар зүүж нийлүүлдэг дээр өөрийн үнээсээ илүү үнэтэй болдог нь ганц алтандаа бус дахин давтагдашгүй болж байгаадаа аж. Энэ дүрэм хувь хүний жишээ нь дээр ийм гоё уран дүрслэл болно чинээ төсөөлөөгүй явлаа. Бид үйлдвэрийн юм шиг төгс байхыг хичээдэг ч үнэндээ төгс биш хирнээ олон мэдлэг, мэдрэмжийн цоморлог болсноороо илүү үнэ цэнэтэй болж байх боломжтой юм.

[Deb Kingston · Rating 5 out of 5]

Fabulous read, a blueprint for just being authentically you, flaws and all. Offers us advice to embrace our truth, self reflection, awareness and vulnerability that Leads us to wisdom and growth as a flawsome awesome human.

[Eman Saad · Rating 5 out of 5]

Amazing book..Enlightening

[G M Fahim · Rating 4 out of 5]

Beautifully expressed the value of flaws in our everyday life. This book can be really handy for anyone who is suffering from an Inferiority complex or severe depression.

[Nikita · Rating 3 out of 5]

Be like Kintsukuroi pottery, embrace your flaws that make you awesome.

[Amy Cheers · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was the wonderful wake-up call I didn’t know I needed! The focus on embracing your flaws, learning your triggers and to stop putting blame on others resonated deeply!! Well worth the read!