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Coffee and Condolences
Miles Alexander had it all. A loving wife, beautiful children.
When his family is killed in a car accident, the settlement leaves him enriched beyond his wildest dreams but crippled by guilt.
After trying to commit suicide and failing miserably, he lands in the office of Dr.Susan Felt, a no nonsense psychiatrist with a knack for helping grieving patients rebuild their lives. It’s here that he’s inspired to fly to New York City and reconnect with his long estranged step-sister. His trip is simple until he wanders into a coffee shop and meets Melody, a beautiful, free spirited barista who takes her cues from the universe. But she has a secret of her own, and the reality of it just might push an already unsteady Miles over the edge.
When his family is killed in a car accident, the settlement leaves him enriched beyond his wildest dreams but crippled by guilt.
After trying to commit suicide and failing miserably, he lands in the office of Dr.Susan Felt, a no nonsense psychiatrist with a knack for helping grieving patients rebuild their lives. It’s here that he’s inspired to fly to New York City and reconnect with his long estranged step-sister. His trip is simple until he wanders into a coffee shop and meets Melody, a beautiful, free spirited barista who takes her cues from the universe. But she has a secret of her own, and the reality of it just might push an already unsteady Miles over the edge.
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270 pages, Kindle Edition
Published August 14, 2020
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Wesley Parker
3 books25 followersWesley Parker has enjoyed reading his entire life. When not writing he can either be found making a mixtape, engaging his fandom of Philadelphia sports, or hanging with his wife and three children. He can be reached on Instagram and Twitter @weswritesforfun, or on his website at www.weswritesforfun.com
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July 14, 2020
“It’s just a cup of coffee.”
For Miles, these words – especially uttered by his therapist – have immense weight to them.
Brave, raw, poignant, heartbreaking, and funny as hell, Wesley Parker’s debut novel Coffee and Condolences is cleverly divided into a series of sessions between protagonist Miles and his therapist, each of which delves into a specific aspect of his past. These sessions are interspersed with Miles’ quest to find and repair his relationship with his estranged sister.
What results is an unsurprisingly deep character study, but with a surprising amount of bittersweet humor and madcap action in a world where literally everyone wears masks, that will keep you reading until the last page arrives and leaves you wishing there was more.
Parker treads a tightrope between hilarity and pain that few authors manage:
“I can’t pinpoint the moment exactly,” begins session one, “but I know the blame was placed on my family sometime between me slipping on the toy Batmobile and my bare ass cheeks pancaking the cold tile of our master bedroom – or my master bedroom. No one has written a book on grief that successfully outlines when possession shifts to one person.”
Despite the name, Coffee and Condolences is, in large part, about the absence of these two things. About life after friends and neighbors stop dropping by with hot meals and warm words. It’s full of observations about grief and despair simultaneously so mundane and so piercingly accurate, they’ll take your breath away. Like why it’s easier (but also more dangerous) to disconnect from reality by bingewatching shows rather than movies. And observations about life – like how a Communications major feels like “one of those cooking shows where contestants are given random ingredients and told to make a dish”.
It’s about how good coffee – or at least, a good barista, or failing that, a good therapist – can make you want to spill your darkest secrets. Eventually.
It is an inescapable fact that I read this story which, is in many ways about being a father, as a woman with no children. But while that may be its surface message – and while Coffee and Condolences is a hugely important book for that very reason – at its core, I believe it is about listening and being heard. The importance of communication between family, friends, lovers, and professional help.
It is unnecessary, either to be an American to understand Miles’ story. Parker’s descriptions – for example, of Walmart – by pointedly not describing it but rather, by telling us who you might find there, set the scene far better than any book or film depiction I’ve seen. We are introduced to a neighborhood in New York as “one of those neighborhoods you see in every documentary about New York” and the reader immediately sees what Miles sees.
There are many books which attempt to focus on supposed human “universals”, like love. But I think loss is even more deserving of the term “universal”. Of the smaller category of books that attempt to deal with the more challenging topic of loss, Parker’s novel stands out for two reasons.
Firstly, it is one of only a few books that examine the loss of some family remembers, and one’s relationship to others, from a male point-of-view. This is relevant not because I believe it is particularly pertinent for men to read books by men about men or for women to read books by women about women, but because there are so few representations of everyday men dealing with emotional topics, and especially so when it comes to working with professionals. Coffee and Condolences makes reference to The Sopranos, and it struck me that it is only in examples like this – hypermasculine characters who are literally mafia dons or cutthroat CEOs – that we see men talk about their feelings, as if to balance out the supposedly femininsing effect of actually thinking and reacting to what is going on in your world. In Miles, Parker manages to construct a complex, believable, genuinely funny guy who has some demons to deal with and you want to see win, and who is, most importantly, relatable. You’ll either be this guy (at least in some respects), or you’ll know him.
Secondly, loss – of a loved one, of one’s past, or of the will to live – is more challenging to write about than love, and certainly harder to blend with humor. Yet Parker handles this with such a masterful hand, it is difficult to believe this is his first published novel.
Miles is an observant, believable protagonist, who sees what other people don’t – or refuse to. “What strikes me,” he says “is that everyone seems to know their role in society. The rich walk in lock step with the poor through the streets, each understanding where they’re allowed to go. There aren’t any signs telling people they’re not welcome – like you see in old photos from the civil rights era – and it’s not exactly implied either. But, sure enough, when the businessman enters the building, the homeless man that was matching him stride for stride stops at the door”.
Part of what makes Miles’ pain so acute is the sense that this isn’t some “perfect” life he’s lost. It is a real one. His family hasn’t been perfect. He hasn’t been perfect. But then, neither have any of us. I found far more to relate to in this beautiful, messy life than I do in most books filled with improbably competent characters or completely broken people.
We understand Miles’ loss through tiny glimpses of his past life. The scenes of him brushing his son’s teeth are so real they’re heartbreaking, and will leave you wondering whether it really is the steam from the shower that’s making it hard for Miles to breathe in the bathroom, or the crushing weight of this memory you are now experiencing, in some small part, too.
When it comes down to it in life, it is these little things that really are the biggest. The sound of someone’s key’s jingling. Of their voicemail message. The enthusiasm of a daughter pointing out her stickers. Parker describes each of these so beautifully.
And this is where Parker’s novel really shines: it is at once so specific, zeroing in on the details of one man’s life, that it provides an incredibly valuable character study, and at the same time, so universal that I believe almost anyone could relate to his journey.
Miles’ journey is not just about the past – it is as much about looking forward as it is about looking back. The way in which the two storylines – Miles’ therapy and his quest – are interwoven position us in this awkward phase of his life, giving us hope that things can change, and an incredible overview of a life in the span of just one week.
Much of Coffee and Condolences is about Miles’ relationship to his own family – his mother, his sister, and of course, in another absence – his father. “It’s a sobering thought when your son is born that just by being there you know that you’re already ahead of the game” he says.
Parker’s observations are funny and witty even when they are at their most cutting. “My mother” Miles tells us “is a complicated woman. She’s capable of kindness but, as evidenced by her three marriages, she’s the kind of person to be loved from afar. Like two timezones afar, with a long rural drive after landing at the airport.”
And then there’s his sister. I loved the character of Lily, and the crazy sibling banter between the two.
Coffee and Condolences may be a novel, but it shares a deep connection to music. This is obvious in the numerous references to songs that are playing throughout the book, and in characters’ conversations (Miles and the barista, Melody, bond partly through discussing their favorite bands). But it is also present in Parker’s descriptions of the small joys of unwrapping a new album (a largely forgotten pleasure these days), and in his creation of a virtual ‘mixtape’ to accompany the read (search for ‘Coffee And Condolences’ on Spotify or iTunes).
Every so often in life, we come across a book which seems to defy categorization. Which the binds of such genre descriptors as ‘comedy’, ‘romance’ or ‘drama’ are unable to constrain. The sort of book that simply bursts forth into the world as something new and brilliant. What I call, for lack of a better term, a ‘good book’.
Coffee and Condolences is one of those rare good books. I loved it, and you will too.
For Miles, these words – especially uttered by his therapist – have immense weight to them.
Brave, raw, poignant, heartbreaking, and funny as hell, Wesley Parker’s debut novel Coffee and Condolences is cleverly divided into a series of sessions between protagonist Miles and his therapist, each of which delves into a specific aspect of his past. These sessions are interspersed with Miles’ quest to find and repair his relationship with his estranged sister.
What results is an unsurprisingly deep character study, but with a surprising amount of bittersweet humor and madcap action in a world where literally everyone wears masks, that will keep you reading until the last page arrives and leaves you wishing there was more.
Parker treads a tightrope between hilarity and pain that few authors manage:
“I can’t pinpoint the moment exactly,” begins session one, “but I know the blame was placed on my family sometime between me slipping on the toy Batmobile and my bare ass cheeks pancaking the cold tile of our master bedroom – or my master bedroom. No one has written a book on grief that successfully outlines when possession shifts to one person.”
Despite the name, Coffee and Condolences is, in large part, about the absence of these two things. About life after friends and neighbors stop dropping by with hot meals and warm words. It’s full of observations about grief and despair simultaneously so mundane and so piercingly accurate, they’ll take your breath away. Like why it’s easier (but also more dangerous) to disconnect from reality by bingewatching shows rather than movies. And observations about life – like how a Communications major feels like “one of those cooking shows where contestants are given random ingredients and told to make a dish”.
It’s about how good coffee – or at least, a good barista, or failing that, a good therapist – can make you want to spill your darkest secrets. Eventually.
It is an inescapable fact that I read this story which, is in many ways about being a father, as a woman with no children. But while that may be its surface message – and while Coffee and Condolences is a hugely important book for that very reason – at its core, I believe it is about listening and being heard. The importance of communication between family, friends, lovers, and professional help.
It is unnecessary, either to be an American to understand Miles’ story. Parker’s descriptions – for example, of Walmart – by pointedly not describing it but rather, by telling us who you might find there, set the scene far better than any book or film depiction I’ve seen. We are introduced to a neighborhood in New York as “one of those neighborhoods you see in every documentary about New York” and the reader immediately sees what Miles sees.
There are many books which attempt to focus on supposed human “universals”, like love. But I think loss is even more deserving of the term “universal”. Of the smaller category of books that attempt to deal with the more challenging topic of loss, Parker’s novel stands out for two reasons.
Firstly, it is one of only a few books that examine the loss of some family remembers, and one’s relationship to others, from a male point-of-view. This is relevant not because I believe it is particularly pertinent for men to read books by men about men or for women to read books by women about women, but because there are so few representations of everyday men dealing with emotional topics, and especially so when it comes to working with professionals. Coffee and Condolences makes reference to The Sopranos, and it struck me that it is only in examples like this – hypermasculine characters who are literally mafia dons or cutthroat CEOs – that we see men talk about their feelings, as if to balance out the supposedly femininsing effect of actually thinking and reacting to what is going on in your world. In Miles, Parker manages to construct a complex, believable, genuinely funny guy who has some demons to deal with and you want to see win, and who is, most importantly, relatable. You’ll either be this guy (at least in some respects), or you’ll know him.
Secondly, loss – of a loved one, of one’s past, or of the will to live – is more challenging to write about than love, and certainly harder to blend with humor. Yet Parker handles this with such a masterful hand, it is difficult to believe this is his first published novel.
Miles is an observant, believable protagonist, who sees what other people don’t – or refuse to. “What strikes me,” he says “is that everyone seems to know their role in society. The rich walk in lock step with the poor through the streets, each understanding where they’re allowed to go. There aren’t any signs telling people they’re not welcome – like you see in old photos from the civil rights era – and it’s not exactly implied either. But, sure enough, when the businessman enters the building, the homeless man that was matching him stride for stride stops at the door”.
Part of what makes Miles’ pain so acute is the sense that this isn’t some “perfect” life he’s lost. It is a real one. His family hasn’t been perfect. He hasn’t been perfect. But then, neither have any of us. I found far more to relate to in this beautiful, messy life than I do in most books filled with improbably competent characters or completely broken people.
We understand Miles’ loss through tiny glimpses of his past life. The scenes of him brushing his son’s teeth are so real they’re heartbreaking, and will leave you wondering whether it really is the steam from the shower that’s making it hard for Miles to breathe in the bathroom, or the crushing weight of this memory you are now experiencing, in some small part, too.
When it comes down to it in life, it is these little things that really are the biggest. The sound of someone’s key’s jingling. Of their voicemail message. The enthusiasm of a daughter pointing out her stickers. Parker describes each of these so beautifully.
And this is where Parker’s novel really shines: it is at once so specific, zeroing in on the details of one man’s life, that it provides an incredibly valuable character study, and at the same time, so universal that I believe almost anyone could relate to his journey.
Miles’ journey is not just about the past – it is as much about looking forward as it is about looking back. The way in which the two storylines – Miles’ therapy and his quest – are interwoven position us in this awkward phase of his life, giving us hope that things can change, and an incredible overview of a life in the span of just one week.
Much of Coffee and Condolences is about Miles’ relationship to his own family – his mother, his sister, and of course, in another absence – his father. “It’s a sobering thought when your son is born that just by being there you know that you’re already ahead of the game” he says.
Parker’s observations are funny and witty even when they are at their most cutting. “My mother” Miles tells us “is a complicated woman. She’s capable of kindness but, as evidenced by her three marriages, she’s the kind of person to be loved from afar. Like two timezones afar, with a long rural drive after landing at the airport.”
And then there’s his sister. I loved the character of Lily, and the crazy sibling banter between the two.
Coffee and Condolences may be a novel, but it shares a deep connection to music. This is obvious in the numerous references to songs that are playing throughout the book, and in characters’ conversations (Miles and the barista, Melody, bond partly through discussing their favorite bands). But it is also present in Parker’s descriptions of the small joys of unwrapping a new album (a largely forgotten pleasure these days), and in his creation of a virtual ‘mixtape’ to accompany the read (search for ‘Coffee And Condolences’ on Spotify or iTunes).
Every so often in life, we come across a book which seems to defy categorization. Which the binds of such genre descriptors as ‘comedy’, ‘romance’ or ‘drama’ are unable to constrain. The sort of book that simply bursts forth into the world as something new and brilliant. What I call, for lack of a better term, a ‘good book’.
Coffee and Condolences is one of those rare good books. I loved it, and you will too.
July 10, 2020
When you first read the blurb of this book, you think you know exactly what you’re getting. But it’s so much more. It’s rich and deep, and at times it’s heart wrenching to read through Miles’ grieving process. But the journey is so rewarding. It’s a beautiful story written with so much whit, humor, and self deprecation that you can’t help but laugh out loud even through the tears.
I hope we get more stories from Wes.
I hope we get more stories from Wes.
July 31, 2021
Loved it, an incredible story.
The story of Miles trying to find himself and move on with his life after a very tragic accident was deeply profound, filled with love yet fun. I don't want to ruin the book for anyone reading this review, but there's a lot of heart in here.
Not only is the story compelling, but hilarious too. Every word had me gripped because it all actually mattered to the characterization of Miles, or it was funny and I didn't want to miss a thing. The way Miles is written seems real, very real, I felt every emotion he did, I felt bad for him, excited and nervous, happy and sad. I truly felt it, and that is a difficult task to pull off.
I would highly recommend this book to anyone. I can see this being a movie one day and I would definitely watch it.
The story of Miles trying to find himself and move on with his life after a very tragic accident was deeply profound, filled with love yet fun. I don't want to ruin the book for anyone reading this review, but there's a lot of heart in here.
Not only is the story compelling, but hilarious too. Every word had me gripped because it all actually mattered to the characterization of Miles, or it was funny and I didn't want to miss a thing. The way Miles is written seems real, very real, I felt every emotion he did, I felt bad for him, excited and nervous, happy and sad. I truly felt it, and that is a difficult task to pull off.
I would highly recommend this book to anyone. I can see this being a movie one day and I would definitely watch it.
July 10, 2020
Where do I start? First of all this is a brand spanking new author on the block and wow, I have no words. I’ve been sitting here for a good couple of minutes thinking how my review can do his book justice.
The feelings, the humor and the raw emotion displayed in this book make this my favorite read to date this year and that is HUGE. I literally had a lump in my throat at times and found myself on the verge of tears. it is witty and sweet and deals with some issues head-on. I don’t want to expand on the story as I want anyone reading this to experience the same. Trust me you will not regret it. Congratulations, Wesley on a brilliant book.
The feelings, the humor and the raw emotion displayed in this book make this my favorite read to date this year and that is HUGE. I literally had a lump in my throat at times and found myself on the verge of tears. it is witty and sweet and deals with some issues head-on. I don’t want to expand on the story as I want anyone reading this to experience the same. Trust me you will not regret it. Congratulations, Wesley on a brilliant book.
December 19, 2020
I was a little scared to read this, because subjects like one's kids dying (not a spoiler; it's in the book description) are generally the kind of thing that's too much for my sensitive self. But Wes's Instagram feed was so full of hilarious humor, and the reviews for this book were so positive, that I wanted to try it anyway, and I'm glad I did! When I found that the book starts with essentially a "sir, this is a Wendy's" moment, I knew I was in good hands. Parker keeps it up throughout: a remarkable feeling of honesty and realism about tough topics told with so much humor (both self-deprecating and outwardly observational) that I found myself grinning more often than feeling sad, even as my heart went out to protag Miles for all he's had to go through. It takes a good writer to pull that off!
October 7, 2020
This book was an incredible read. And that is an understatement. An emotional rollercoaster.
I laughed, and I cried, and I laughed and cried at the same time. The story of Miles Alexander is one that is raw and gut-punching. His grief, as well as how he handles it throughout the book, felt so real it was almost infectious. I wanted to mourn with him. I wanted to cry with him. I wanted to hold him when he hurt and lashed out. I wanted to simply BE there for him.
Wesley has a fantastic voice and writing style that was engaging and entertaining. He balances out the raw, honest emotion with genuine humor and sarcasm, which adds to the illusion that the characters are real.
I cannot sing enough praises, and this book deserves more than five stars. It's so well written, so well thought out. To think that this is Wesley's debut novel?! I am excited to see more of what he has to offer!
A great book. Would recommend in a heartbeat.
I laughed, and I cried, and I laughed and cried at the same time. The story of Miles Alexander is one that is raw and gut-punching. His grief, as well as how he handles it throughout the book, felt so real it was almost infectious. I wanted to mourn with him. I wanted to cry with him. I wanted to hold him when he hurt and lashed out. I wanted to simply BE there for him.
Wesley has a fantastic voice and writing style that was engaging and entertaining. He balances out the raw, honest emotion with genuine humor and sarcasm, which adds to the illusion that the characters are real.
I cannot sing enough praises, and this book deserves more than five stars. It's so well written, so well thought out. To think that this is Wesley's debut novel?! I am excited to see more of what he has to offer!
A great book. Would recommend in a heartbeat.
December 5, 2020
Wesley Parker's debut novel is nothing short of amazing. His depiction of grieving and picking up the pieces after a tragedy is spot on.
We meet Miles in the aftermath of losing his family in an accident and subsequent suicide attempt. He travels to New York to meet with a well-respected trauma therapist and to make amends with his sister. While there, he meets a beautiful barista. He needs to come to terms with his dysfunctional family dynamic, regrets dealing with his late wife, and the new budding emotions his trip brings up.
Wesley Parker's prose is effortless and his dialogue is a joy to read. Coffee and Condolences strikes the perfect balance of humor and utter heartbreak. This book is all heart.
We meet Miles in the aftermath of losing his family in an accident and subsequent suicide attempt. He travels to New York to meet with a well-respected trauma therapist and to make amends with his sister. While there, he meets a beautiful barista. He needs to come to terms with his dysfunctional family dynamic, regrets dealing with his late wife, and the new budding emotions his trip brings up.
Wesley Parker's prose is effortless and his dialogue is a joy to read. Coffee and Condolences strikes the perfect balance of humor and utter heartbreak. This book is all heart.
July 13, 2020
You’ll laugh, you’ll cry, you’ll want to read it again.
Wesley’s debut packs an emotional punch that is tastefully punctuated by a flurry of, often sarcastic and self-deprecating, humor. The feelings are so raw and the characters are so believable, it’s as if they’re in the room with you as you’re reading.
I honestly cannot recall the last thing I read with this level of gutting, visceral emotion. Wesley has crafted a beautifully tragic tale of rising from the ashes—trust me, you do not want to miss the epic, heart-wrenching, at times gut-busting, journey of one Miles Alexander.
Wesley’s debut packs an emotional punch that is tastefully punctuated by a flurry of, often sarcastic and self-deprecating, humor. The feelings are so raw and the characters are so believable, it’s as if they’re in the room with you as you’re reading.
I honestly cannot recall the last thing I read with this level of gutting, visceral emotion. Wesley has crafted a beautifully tragic tale of rising from the ashes—trust me, you do not want to miss the epic, heart-wrenching, at times gut-busting, journey of one Miles Alexander.
August 21, 2020
No sé exactamente qué esperaba de esta historia, pero definitivamente no era encontrar tantas faltas de ortografía y gramática, una trama bastante predecible, y una narrativa absurdamente larga.
Definitivamente no fue mi tipo de libro.
Definitivamente no fue mi tipo de libro.
April 4, 2021
Contemporary fiction is not typically my genre but I really enjoyed this story. I empathized with the main character right away and was rooting for him throughout the story. The dialogue and interactions felt very real. I enjoyed the insight of the character, the humor, and overall growth throughout the story.
July 10, 2020
This book is heart-wrenching and funny, sincere and poignant. Wes' voice comes through so clearly it's like having a conversation with a good friend. It's a book about grief, love, family, and trusting yourself. I can't wait to see more from this author!
May 15, 2024
rating- 4/5
okay wow. you think you know what you're getting into once you read the blurb but respectfully you absolutely don't. Coffee and Condolences surprises you, in the best way possible. it's so specific, detailed and yet conveys such an universal message. The themes of grief & loss, family, difficult relationships and mental health really spoke to me. I loved how raw and blunt the writing was and how factually and systematically the author conveys exactly what he wants to. I also really liked the format of the book being divided into the therapy sessions of the past while simultaneously taking us on this journey of growth and progress. This helps the reader gauge how far the protagonist, Miles has come and connect with them as well.
Overall, unexpectedly wholesome and stands out from the monotony of current fiction because the author explores the vulnerable male pov (something we rarely see). Reminded me of the likes of authors like Alice oseman and Salley Rooney and I'm super glad i decided to read it.
okay wow. you think you know what you're getting into once you read the blurb but respectfully you absolutely don't. Coffee and Condolences surprises you, in the best way possible. it's so specific, detailed and yet conveys such an universal message. The themes of grief & loss, family, difficult relationships and mental health really spoke to me. I loved how raw and blunt the writing was and how factually and systematically the author conveys exactly what he wants to. I also really liked the format of the book being divided into the therapy sessions of the past while simultaneously taking us on this journey of growth and progress. This helps the reader gauge how far the protagonist, Miles has come and connect with them as well.
Overall, unexpectedly wholesome and stands out from the monotony of current fiction because the author explores the vulnerable male pov (something we rarely see). Reminded me of the likes of authors like Alice oseman and Salley Rooney and I'm super glad i decided to read it.
August 4, 2020
Condolence: an expression of sympathy. Coffee: a hot drink made from the roasted seeds of a tropical shrub. Wesley Parker’s debut novel “Coffee and Condolences” introduces a hot blend of characters simmering with unexpressed emotions — all in dire need of sympathy.
The story begins with Miles, who in one unlucky twist of fate, loses his wife and children in a car crash. Insurance money in his pocket, he can go anywhere or do anything he wants. But money can’t bring back his family or appease the lifetime of guilt he carries around with him.
Suicide almost claims his life. But a court-ordered therapist gives him the tools for muscling through what life he has left. In the process, Miles must track down his half-sister, the only one who truly understands where he’s been and who he is. But she has baggage of her own, and she doesn’t hesitate to whop him over the head with it. When is mother enters the fray, a narcissist who never let him forget he was unwanted from the start, Miles is in full defence mode.
But running from his past never got him anywhere good. And when his new homeless friend and a coffee shop barista begin to break down the carefully embedded walls protecting his heart with their stubborn sympathy, Miles has to find a new approach. He has to stick around. And listen. And feel.
Parker takes us on a journey from the peaks of Colorado to the underworld of New York City, sprinkling the path with music, poetry and soulful characters. “Coffee and Condolences” is a cautionary tale, challenging us to look at every unsavoury encounter through a sympathetic lens, including ourselves.
Sometimes “(w)e go into self-preservation mode” where there’s only one thing to do: “Shut the f*** up.” Other times, like a relay race, “we each hold our baton and run with it as long as we can, but eventually we must pass it on.” (pp. 117 and 144)
Told with gritty humour and emotional depth, “Coffee and Condolences” is a incomparable novel that sticks with you. Every twist and turn in Miles’ path provides fuel for reflection. So grab a cup of coffee and settle in for a heart-warming, soul-stirring experience.
The story begins with Miles, who in one unlucky twist of fate, loses his wife and children in a car crash. Insurance money in his pocket, he can go anywhere or do anything he wants. But money can’t bring back his family or appease the lifetime of guilt he carries around with him.
Suicide almost claims his life. But a court-ordered therapist gives him the tools for muscling through what life he has left. In the process, Miles must track down his half-sister, the only one who truly understands where he’s been and who he is. But she has baggage of her own, and she doesn’t hesitate to whop him over the head with it. When is mother enters the fray, a narcissist who never let him forget he was unwanted from the start, Miles is in full defence mode.
But running from his past never got him anywhere good. And when his new homeless friend and a coffee shop barista begin to break down the carefully embedded walls protecting his heart with their stubborn sympathy, Miles has to find a new approach. He has to stick around. And listen. And feel.
Parker takes us on a journey from the peaks of Colorado to the underworld of New York City, sprinkling the path with music, poetry and soulful characters. “Coffee and Condolences” is a cautionary tale, challenging us to look at every unsavoury encounter through a sympathetic lens, including ourselves.
Sometimes “(w)e go into self-preservation mode” where there’s only one thing to do: “Shut the f*** up.” Other times, like a relay race, “we each hold our baton and run with it as long as we can, but eventually we must pass it on.” (pp. 117 and 144)
Told with gritty humour and emotional depth, “Coffee and Condolences” is a incomparable novel that sticks with you. Every twist and turn in Miles’ path provides fuel for reflection. So grab a cup of coffee and settle in for a heart-warming, soul-stirring experience.
April 11, 2021
Compelling Story of Working Through Grief and Finding Love
For a first time novelist, Wesley Parker, really knocked this one out of the park!
This book explores the real life consequences of a nightmare scenario that every husband and father has at sometime, feared might happen — the sudden, irreversible loss of your spouse and children to an event you cannot control or do anything about.
Miles, the lead character, has already had a hard life complete with a missing father, a mother who has been more an adversary, and a sister who has severed her relationship with him — when he loses his family, too, he finds it too difficult to go on living.
Yet, he fails at taking his life, and is faced with putting the pieces of his life back together with the help of a dynamic therapist who guides him towards fixing those critical relationships in his life that remain.
This book is the story of how Miles tries, and quite often fails, to do just that...it is told in Miles’ voice, which is self-deprecating and brutally honest. And despite the dark tones of grief and loss, there is humor aplenty, and a number of tender moments that tug at your heart.
Parker does a brilliant job of weaving the therapy sessions into the ongoing narrative, and showing the growth, and failures, throughout Miles’ journey.
At one point near the end of the book, I nearly threw my phone away from me in frustration and anger at Miles, but it wasn’t long before I picked it back up and finished.
Parker is a promising author with a brilliant future ahead. His ability to wring real emotion out of his stories and the characters that inhabit them is beyond reproach!
This is a legit five star read, and I recommend it to anyone who loves deep characters and genuine, heart-wrenching storytelling!
For a first time novelist, Wesley Parker, really knocked this one out of the park!
This book explores the real life consequences of a nightmare scenario that every husband and father has at sometime, feared might happen — the sudden, irreversible loss of your spouse and children to an event you cannot control or do anything about.
Miles, the lead character, has already had a hard life complete with a missing father, a mother who has been more an adversary, and a sister who has severed her relationship with him — when he loses his family, too, he finds it too difficult to go on living.
Yet, he fails at taking his life, and is faced with putting the pieces of his life back together with the help of a dynamic therapist who guides him towards fixing those critical relationships in his life that remain.
This book is the story of how Miles tries, and quite often fails, to do just that...it is told in Miles’ voice, which is self-deprecating and brutally honest. And despite the dark tones of grief and loss, there is humor aplenty, and a number of tender moments that tug at your heart.
Parker does a brilliant job of weaving the therapy sessions into the ongoing narrative, and showing the growth, and failures, throughout Miles’ journey.
At one point near the end of the book, I nearly threw my phone away from me in frustration and anger at Miles, but it wasn’t long before I picked it back up and finished.
Parker is a promising author with a brilliant future ahead. His ability to wring real emotion out of his stories and the characters that inhabit them is beyond reproach!
This is a legit five star read, and I recommend it to anyone who loves deep characters and genuine, heart-wrenching storytelling!
August 13, 2021
I was hooked into this book from the beginning. Miles’ story is heartbreaking, but watching him find love and relationships through his darkest time was rewarding. I think if this books shows us anything, it’s that we can’t go through life without some kind of relationship, be it friends, family, love, our kids. We need each other to pull us through the thick and the thin.
I love how real Parker gets with his characters. I’ve never seen someone pull off a realistic therapist scene and it was a breath of fresh air to read about a therapist that isn’t the cliche “bad therapist who falls asleep and is only there for a paycheck” that seems to saturate some books. The dysfunctional relationships were very real. I found myself relating to the demeaning, awful arguments in which characters say things they don’t mean, only to come back later and reconcile, because that’s what unconditional love is. Characters’ dialogue was as real as it gets, and when his MC was chatting it up with the taxi driver talking about sports teams, I instantly thought of my husband and thought “this is totally him.”
Which brings me to my final thoughts on this book. This book is deep. It was hard to read some of it, personally, because I have a spouse and kids. I cannot imagine losing them. Coffee and Condolences made me a little more grateful for what I have, and whenever I start to complain about the way things are going, I can think of Miles and say I need to cherish the time I have with them now.
C&C is about repairing broken relationships, dealing with grief, and, as is so incredibly truly spoken in the book, learning to cope rather than trying to fix yourself.
I love how real Parker gets with his characters. I’ve never seen someone pull off a realistic therapist scene and it was a breath of fresh air to read about a therapist that isn’t the cliche “bad therapist who falls asleep and is only there for a paycheck” that seems to saturate some books. The dysfunctional relationships were very real. I found myself relating to the demeaning, awful arguments in which characters say things they don’t mean, only to come back later and reconcile, because that’s what unconditional love is. Characters’ dialogue was as real as it gets, and when his MC was chatting it up with the taxi driver talking about sports teams, I instantly thought of my husband and thought “this is totally him.”
Which brings me to my final thoughts on this book. This book is deep. It was hard to read some of it, personally, because I have a spouse and kids. I cannot imagine losing them. Coffee and Condolences made me a little more grateful for what I have, and whenever I start to complain about the way things are going, I can think of Miles and say I need to cherish the time I have with them now.
C&C is about repairing broken relationships, dealing with grief, and, as is so incredibly truly spoken in the book, learning to cope rather than trying to fix yourself.
July 25, 2021
This refreshingly unique story of fresh starts and second chances may begin with wittiness and self-deprecation, but it's not long before the authenticity and heart show up, peeling back the layers and exposing a raw vulnerability. And let’s face it, finding a male who writes romance is a rare thing, but one who really gets it and knows how to deliver is like finding a unicorn in the wild. Parker is that unicorn, and his heartfelt words glitter brighter than those of any others I’ve stumbled upon.
Grab the tissues and gird your loins, because this book takes us deep into the soul and psyche of our hero, Miles Alexander, a man who questions everything about his life and his very being after a tragic loss. Parker doesn’t pull any punches as we slog through Miles' grief and desperation, yet he offers sage words of insight and wisdom as profound as some of Thoreau’s best pronouncements.
If you’re open to a romance that’s starkly distinctive yet stirs your heart and leaves a permanent mark on your soul, this is the book for you. Heart wrenching, authentic, life-changing and immensely satisfying, this unmatched, extraordinary story is one every romance reader will love.
Grab the tissues and gird your loins, because this book takes us deep into the soul and psyche of our hero, Miles Alexander, a man who questions everything about his life and his very being after a tragic loss. Parker doesn’t pull any punches as we slog through Miles' grief and desperation, yet he offers sage words of insight and wisdom as profound as some of Thoreau’s best pronouncements.
If you’re open to a romance that’s starkly distinctive yet stirs your heart and leaves a permanent mark on your soul, this is the book for you. Heart wrenching, authentic, life-changing and immensely satisfying, this unmatched, extraordinary story is one every romance reader will love.
July 16, 2020
This was such a good book!! I couldn’t put it down! I feel every up and down with Miles with the details of the story. The grieving, the devastation, the loss, the hope, the love, etc. I literally laughed and cried several times throughout.
I love how real Miles is and his constant sarcasm and sense of humor let me see a side of him that would be hard to see otherwise and I love that!!! I love the therapist! The parts with her endears Miles to me more and really shows what he’s been through. I also think the development of their relationship adds to the story. I love the evolvement in each relationship from his family, to John and Melody. The author takes on a lot of topics/issues in this story, but has a way of making it feel like it’s never too much and that’s hard to do! This is a must read!
I love how real Miles is and his constant sarcasm and sense of humor let me see a side of him that would be hard to see otherwise and I love that!!! I love the therapist! The parts with her endears Miles to me more and really shows what he’s been through. I also think the development of their relationship adds to the story. I love the evolvement in each relationship from his family, to John and Melody. The author takes on a lot of topics/issues in this story, but has a way of making it feel like it’s never too much and that’s hard to do! This is a must read!
August 20, 2020
I’ll be honest (when am I not?!) I wasn’t that keen to read this book but a friend encouraged me to. So i did. And I am glad I did.
I wouldn’t have chosen this book, it’s not my typical genre but man, I REALLY enjoyed it. There’s a subtlety to the writing that feels really mature (from a writing point of view) and the humour had a light touch but had me laughing out loud. I like when an author drops a joke and moves swiftly on without waiting for you to catch up.
Interesting story and gave me the feels. I LIKED!
I wouldn’t have chosen this book, it’s not my typical genre but man, I REALLY enjoyed it. There’s a subtlety to the writing that feels really mature (from a writing point of view) and the humour had a light touch but had me laughing out loud. I like when an author drops a joke and moves swiftly on without waiting for you to catch up.
Interesting story and gave me the feels. I LIKED!
August 11, 2021
Miles had a tough break in life and had no family to help him through life's struggles. He does find happiness in a family of his own, unfortunately the happiness doesn't last.
A therapist helps him through his grief and repairing relationships.
There are triggers in this book, but I hope that won't deter people from reading this well-written tale.
I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.
A therapist helps him through his grief and repairing relationships.
There are triggers in this book, but I hope that won't deter people from reading this well-written tale.
I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.
January 4, 2021
I can't say enough how much I LOVED this story... but I'll try. The writing is smart and insightful, keen and witty, beautiful and harsh. It deals with tragedy, repairing relationships, understanding of oneself, and realizing it's okay to move on... only when you learn HOW to move on. I can see myself re-reading this at some point because it's that relative and that worthy. Fantastic work, Wesley!
July 19, 2020
This book is a great and quick read that keeps the reader coming back for more every time they try to close it. The authors sense of humor and storytelling shine through the narrative and breathes live into the story. Do yourself a favor and pick up a copy, thank me later.
September 22, 2021
This was a great read. It touched my soul on so many levels. Wesley opened me up to the possibilities that therapy could have for me too. When I eventually get around to it, I'd love to have a therapist like Dr. Felt. Just read this book. Just do it.
June 17, 2021
Beautifully written
Every once in a while, you come across a book that you read with your soul. Sometimes it’s the words on the page. Sometimes it’s the timing. In the case of Coffee and Condolences, I believe it was both. It was one of those stories that snuck up on you, where you weren’t sure exactly which way it would go but early in you knew you were along for the entire ride.
It’s about the devastating losses that sometimes come with life, the power of the human spirit, forgiveness and understanding, love, family, and self-awareness. All wrapped up in a package containing beautifully written, yet deeply flawed characters that just feel real.
I will definitely read more by Parker.
Every once in a while, you come across a book that you read with your soul. Sometimes it’s the words on the page. Sometimes it’s the timing. In the case of Coffee and Condolences, I believe it was both. It was one of those stories that snuck up on you, where you weren’t sure exactly which way it would go but early in you knew you were along for the entire ride.
It’s about the devastating losses that sometimes come with life, the power of the human spirit, forgiveness and understanding, love, family, and self-awareness. All wrapped up in a package containing beautifully written, yet deeply flawed characters that just feel real.
I will definitely read more by Parker.
August 14, 2020
★ ★ ★ 1/2 (rounded up)
This originally appeared at The Irresponsible Reader.
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There's a bit from the movie Grosse Pointe Blank that has inexplicably gotten stuck in my brain, to rear its head from time to time.
This snippet of conversation came to mind a few times while reading this book, because if there's anyone who needs Shakabuku, it's Miles Alexander. The only question is: where will this kick be coming from?
WHAT'S COFFEE AND CONDOLENCES ABOUT?
Miles Alexander is a man on a mission. Following the death of his wife and children and a suicide attempt worthy of Lane Meyer*, his therapist points out that there are two women alive that he needs to repair his relationship with—his mother and sister. For pretty understandable reasons, Miles is willing to work on only one of those—so he flies to New York to track down his sister at NYU, where she's working on her Master's.
* Yeah, I did just make a second John Cusak reference, not sure where that came from.
The damage he did to their relationship was pretty bad, and Lily's not over it. But, she loves her brother and is willing to forgive. They spend some time connecting, but they largely ignore the problem. I enjoyed and appreciated watching the two of them spar and support each other.
While waiting for Lilly, Miles stops off at a coffee shop near campus and falls in deep smit at first sight with a barista, Melody. She seems to be interested in him, too (giving him her phone number unsolicited was the first clue). She knows that Miles is working through some stuff, and gives him space to do so and tell her about it in his own time—she's got her own particular kind of baggage, too. She'll share that when she's ready.
Readers will know her secret almost immediately, but that's okay, the focus isn't supposed to be on the mystery—it's about Miles working through things and when he learns it, that's the important part. As nice as the romance is, as fun (and important) as the brother/sister bond is, the book's focus is Miles and his continuing grieving and healing. In a move reminiscent of Nick Hornby's Rob coming clean to the reader about the horrible thing he did to his girlfriend*, Miles eventually tells his reader about the horrible thing he did shortly before his wife's death. It wasn't entirely unexpected, but you can't help but feel for the guy—he and his wife would've worked through it (you sense) had they been given the opportunity. Instead, it's something that Miles has to work through on his own, so he can move forward with his life. With Melody's secret and the revelation Miles gives us, the important part isn't the content—it's how Parker delivers the revelation. And he does it exactly right.
* Not a Cusak reference, I meant the book. But it's close.
Lilly gives the support and encouragement, Melody gives Miles the security to process what he needs to—and Dr. Felt helped equip him to do these things. Somewhere in there, Shakabuku.
Yes, eventually, their mother appears and Miles has to deal with her. Up until the end, the whole thing between his mother and Miles didn't click with me—it's probably a problem with me and my attention span, not with Parker's writing. But anything that took focus away from Lilly or Melody wasn't really that interesting to me. But once Miles got serious about mending fences and making amends with her, I finally bought into the relationship and thought Parker did a good job with the resolution there.
Now, sure, you might be thinking that a therapist by the name of Dr. Felt has all the subtlety of a brick flying through the air. And you'd be right. But, you know what? The name Felt actually works for her. She's a cool character, and a nice tribute to the mental health professions on Parker's part. The Miles/Dr. Felt relationship/interplay is one of my favorite parts of the book.
What can I say about the ending without any spoilers? It's sweet and gratifying. Just what the doctor ordered.
SO, WHAT DID I THINK ABOUT COFFEE AND CONDOLENCES?
It occurs to me as I write this that I've enjoyed a lot more of "Lad Lit" in the last year or so—mostly self/independently published. I dabbled in some of it years ago, and largely was annoyed and turned off by what I read. But since I read Matthew Hanover's Not Famous, I've been exposed to some really good—and really entertaining—works in this subgenre. I need to get better at talking about them, because I feel myself floundering here—and I feel bad about that. Parker deserves a little better than what I've come up with.
The plot was decent, I liked the characters (not necessarily everything they did, but them) and was engaged with most of them right away, I was invested in the outcome of most of the plotlines, I thought it was a great idea to tie in the therapy Miles received to what was going on, and I enjoyed Parker's voice and most of his choices.
Coffee and Condolences was like a medium-dark chocolate mocha. Just a hint of a bite, but a sweet treat (and I specified medium, because I wanted a little more), a very pleasant experience. I recommend it, I will be in line with cash ready for the next book Parker releases.
Disclaimer: I received this book from the author in exchange for this post and my honest opinion—I appreciate that, and apologize that it's taken me so long to get this posted, but it had no impact on what I said or how I rated the book.
This originally appeared at The Irresponsible Reader.
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There's a bit from the movie Grosse Pointe Blank that has inexplicably gotten stuck in my brain, to rear its head from time to time.
Debi: You know what you need?
Marty: What?
Debi: Shakabuku.
Marty: You wanna tell me what that means?
Debi: It's a swift, spiritual kick to the head that alters your reality forever.
Marty: Oh, that'd be good. I think.
This snippet of conversation came to mind a few times while reading this book, because if there's anyone who needs Shakabuku, it's Miles Alexander. The only question is: where will this kick be coming from?
WHAT'S COFFEE AND CONDOLENCES ABOUT?
Miles Alexander is a man on a mission. Following the death of his wife and children and a suicide attempt worthy of Lane Meyer*, his therapist points out that there are two women alive that he needs to repair his relationship with—his mother and sister. For pretty understandable reasons, Miles is willing to work on only one of those—so he flies to New York to track down his sister at NYU, where she's working on her Master's.
* Yeah, I did just make a second John Cusak reference, not sure where that came from.
The damage he did to their relationship was pretty bad, and Lily's not over it. But, she loves her brother and is willing to forgive. They spend some time connecting, but they largely ignore the problem. I enjoyed and appreciated watching the two of them spar and support each other.
While waiting for Lilly, Miles stops off at a coffee shop near campus and falls in deep smit at first sight with a barista, Melody. She seems to be interested in him, too (giving him her phone number unsolicited was the first clue). She knows that Miles is working through some stuff, and gives him space to do so and tell her about it in his own time—she's got her own particular kind of baggage, too. She'll share that when she's ready.
Readers will know her secret almost immediately, but that's okay, the focus isn't supposed to be on the mystery—it's about Miles working through things and when he learns it, that's the important part. As nice as the romance is, as fun (and important) as the brother/sister bond is, the book's focus is Miles and his continuing grieving and healing. In a move reminiscent of Nick Hornby's Rob coming clean to the reader about the horrible thing he did to his girlfriend*, Miles eventually tells his reader about the horrible thing he did shortly before his wife's death. It wasn't entirely unexpected, but you can't help but feel for the guy—he and his wife would've worked through it (you sense) had they been given the opportunity. Instead, it's something that Miles has to work through on his own, so he can move forward with his life. With Melody's secret and the revelation Miles gives us, the important part isn't the content—it's how Parker delivers the revelation. And he does it exactly right.
* Not a Cusak reference, I meant the book. But it's close.
Lilly gives the support and encouragement, Melody gives Miles the security to process what he needs to—and Dr. Felt helped equip him to do these things. Somewhere in there, Shakabuku.
Yes, eventually, their mother appears and Miles has to deal with her. Up until the end, the whole thing between his mother and Miles didn't click with me—it's probably a problem with me and my attention span, not with Parker's writing. But anything that took focus away from Lilly or Melody wasn't really that interesting to me. But once Miles got serious about mending fences and making amends with her, I finally bought into the relationship and thought Parker did a good job with the resolution there.
Now, sure, you might be thinking that a therapist by the name of Dr. Felt has all the subtlety of a brick flying through the air. And you'd be right. But, you know what? The name Felt actually works for her. She's a cool character, and a nice tribute to the mental health professions on Parker's part. The Miles/Dr. Felt relationship/interplay is one of my favorite parts of the book.
What can I say about the ending without any spoilers? It's sweet and gratifying. Just what the doctor ordered.
SO, WHAT DID I THINK ABOUT COFFEE AND CONDOLENCES?
It occurs to me as I write this that I've enjoyed a lot more of "Lad Lit" in the last year or so—mostly self/independently published. I dabbled in some of it years ago, and largely was annoyed and turned off by what I read. But since I read Matthew Hanover's Not Famous, I've been exposed to some really good—and really entertaining—works in this subgenre. I need to get better at talking about them, because I feel myself floundering here—and I feel bad about that. Parker deserves a little better than what I've come up with.
The plot was decent, I liked the characters (not necessarily everything they did, but them) and was engaged with most of them right away, I was invested in the outcome of most of the plotlines, I thought it was a great idea to tie in the therapy Miles received to what was going on, and I enjoyed Parker's voice and most of his choices.
Coffee and Condolences was like a medium-dark chocolate mocha. Just a hint of a bite, but a sweet treat (and I specified medium, because I wanted a little more), a very pleasant experience. I recommend it, I will be in line with cash ready for the next book Parker releases.
Disclaimer: I received this book from the author in exchange for this post and my honest opinion—I appreciate that, and apologize that it's taken me so long to get this posted, but it had no impact on what I said or how I rated the book.
April 29, 2021
Wow. Just wow
Be prepared to have your heart ripped out of your chest and then put back together piece by piece. This story was much more than I’d anticipated and I wasn’t disappointed. Reading this story was tough for me because I have two kids about the same age as the main character’s kids and it was easy for me to feel the emotions of the main character. It took me several weeks to finish this as I had to stop to think about what I was reading and then mentally and emotionally prepare myself for what was to come. Wesley’s writing is heart felt, emotional, and gripping and I highly recommend this book to anyone, especially if you’re struggling with feeling alone or even just looking for a story about a person who is just going through one hell of a tough time, finding strength and love in unexpected places. This story is relevant and poignant, one for the ages. Thank you for writing this story, Mr. Alexander, it is a true gem.
Be prepared to have your heart ripped out of your chest and then put back together piece by piece. This story was much more than I’d anticipated and I wasn’t disappointed. Reading this story was tough for me because I have two kids about the same age as the main character’s kids and it was easy for me to feel the emotions of the main character. It took me several weeks to finish this as I had to stop to think about what I was reading and then mentally and emotionally prepare myself for what was to come. Wesley’s writing is heart felt, emotional, and gripping and I highly recommend this book to anyone, especially if you’re struggling with feeling alone or even just looking for a story about a person who is just going through one hell of a tough time, finding strength and love in unexpected places. This story is relevant and poignant, one for the ages. Thank you for writing this story, Mr. Alexander, it is a true gem.
May 11, 2021
Coffee and Condolences is an emotional dive into the pain of loss and the beauty in forgiveness. This book will make cry, it will make you laugh, and it will make you appreciate everyone you love in your life just a little bit more. Wesley is a powerhouse of emotion, his descriptions and character development suck you in, like you’ve lived this story yourself, you feel the agony, joy, love, and everything in between. I cannot recommend this book enough, it is a beautiful story that everyone must read.
September 7, 2021
What a beautiful book. I’m going through the grief journey right now too. A little differently than Miles’s journey as mine is my beloved father, but there’s so much I see of myself in him (down to the binge watching of tv box sets) that i was turning the pages eagerly. (And can we talk about a big moment of the book that just happens to coincide with my favorite show The Office!) :) I feel like somebody gets me in these pages.
This book is funny, romantic, heartbreaking, and just so darn readable. I am so excited to find a new voice. I can’t wait to read the next one, already have it downloaded.
This book is funny, romantic, heartbreaking, and just so darn readable. I am so excited to find a new voice. I can’t wait to read the next one, already have it downloaded.
July 28, 2020
This book was incredibly thought out. It took me out of reality and pulled me into other people's (people in the book) lives. It even brought me to tears at different moments. So true how the author describes a how a therapist-client relationship can often play out in reality of real life. Good read.
July 27, 2020
This book is about grief, love, family, and finding yourself after loss. Readers follow Miles after a horrific tragedy through challenging therapy sessions where he is forced to see his past in a new light. Wesley Parker has an unique voice for storytelling and I cannot wait to see what is next for this author. I will definitely be reading this again.
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