Reflections and lessons learned:
“Until I'm six feet under
Baby I don't need a bed
Going to live while I'm alive
I'll sleep when I'm dead” Bon Jovi
No Jon! A surreal night of sleep rest and dreams is brilliant! I have a mixed history with sleep - as a pre teen I would stress dress in the middle of the night for the next day but have no memory of why I was in my school shirt in the morning and still felt rested. As a student and twenties worker I could nap for hours at weekends and loved/lived in my bed. Currently I’m a mid forties full time worker that cares about her job, as well as a primarily being a parent to two children and thanks to lockdown I’ve never managed to grab as much sleep!
I’ve never resented not getting sleep at random times, as it usually meant that I was making the most of life - the only time that proper anger crept in for me was when exhausted with babies but that was driven more by concern for not being able to properly care for them the next day (sleep when the baby sleeps words sound lovely but if only that worked...). At that time of extreme parenting too much rest felt like the book quoted “inefficient use of time”. As also identified from this book, as the kids grow, nighttime’s for me (with a partner that can sleep for days throughout anything) are one of the only times of the day that I can get waking mind solo time - time for me firstly to be on sentry duty (mother lion instinct) with reflection time, memory shelving (Inside Out cartoon is biologically correct) analysis and judgement of people known/interacted with for a second, and a smattering of staircase wit (new phrase only just learned!) - all this may only take two minutes which means if I’ll be awake for two hours that’s dedicated time to catch up on a guilty and greedy personal act - reading! Being a natural procrastinator I’ll do the usual things first - blame the lumpy pillows, reach for the sleep mask and lavender spray, but secretly I’m excited to have the excuse to be awake for some me time that no one else can gatecrash...
I’m wittering but this is what this book has made me reflect on to make me happy about the situation. As everybody does, I sometimes have the nights of extreme stress about world situations and possible impact on myself, my family and my friends (and quite often society, the human race and all living creatures!) - for those that don’t experience these I ask how do you sleep at night?!
The principle of 8 hours to work, 8 hours to sleep, 8 hours to play made me stop and do my 8 times table a few times to believe it possible but something that I’ll be referring back to for a better analysis of life balance. Also the use of technology (which I often turn to to settle the mind) and the idea of googling “the future of sleep” - after listening to this I woke up feeling smiley and comforted - surely that’s all we can ask for the subconscious unplanned time - enjoy the book and enjoy the range of sleep in life... 💤